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Rejection at a private party

By *aeBabe OP Woman over a year ago

London

Hello,

I was wondering for both men and women that go to private parties, how do you politely decline playing with someone you aren't attracted to?

At clubs it's easier as it's a larger venue, but private parties are more intimate.

Obviously no one wants to cause a scene.

So what do you do?

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just say no thank you.

If I’m playing with some others and they try to join in I just push their hand away. If your advance is rejected once you should simply accept it. No scene needed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello,

I was wondering for both men and women that go to private parties, how do you politely decline playing with someone you aren't attracted to?

At clubs it's easier as it's a larger venue, but private parties are more intimate.

Obviously no one wants to cause a scene.

So what do you do?

Thanks"

be polite and say no thanks!

if they are respectful and known the scene they should accept this

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By *rightonCheekyMan over a year ago

Brighton

"Hello,

I was wondering for both men and women that go to private parties, how do you politely decline playing with someone you aren't attracted to?

At clubs it's easier as it's a larger venue, but private parties are more intimate.

Obviously no one wants to cause a scene.

So what do you do?

Thanks"

I've hosted a few parties at my house and have been to a few at others houses. I've never seen one yet where everybody plays with everybody else and not been aware of any awkward situations. I prefer smaller gatherings like this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't see much group play much these days in clubs Its always couples locking doors lol And shutting curtains a bit boring my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No means no. it doesn't matter where you are or what your doing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wonder about this too, as a single guy on fab I'm far more particular than I really should be and while I like the idea of going to a party I hate awkward situations and find it quite difficult turning someone down face to face.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"We're not looking to take things further"

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By *olliPineCouple over a year ago

swingers clubs

"Don't see much group play much these days in clubs Its always couples locking doors lol And shutting curtains a bit boring my opinion."

A bit off topic (was interested in the original post and still in thought about it).

I don't think the couples (or singles) who like to play in smaller groups and/or behind curtains really care if others think it's boring.

If they're enjoying the play (rest assured we are) they're not worrying about those on the outside and their opinion of someone else's play

At least behind locked doors we don't have to worry about wandering grubby hands

We're not voyeurs or exhibitionist either so we don't put on a show. Luckily we're all into different things on this site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just say no thank you. It’s to the point and not too abrupt. Although sometimes at clubs and parties some people still do not understand.

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By *carlettxWoman over a year ago

Essex

So embarrassed about this but went to a private party once and wasn’t feeling it at all so decided to leg it

To make matters worse car was blocked in so had to disturb the play for a guy to move his car

Down the stairs naked with cock ring and hardon to let me out

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By *icky-discoMan over a year ago

oxford

"So embarrassed about this but went to a private party once and wasn’t feeling it at all so decided to leg it

To make matters worse car was blocked in so had to disturb the play for a guy to move his car

Down the stairs naked with cock ring and hardon to let me out

You could of waited lol

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

We go to a regular house party and we will happily chat with everyone, but we are careful to not give off any vibes of wanting to play. If we are asked, we would just say no thank you.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"I wonder about this too, as a single guy on fab I'm far more particular than I really should be and while I like the idea of going to a party I hate awkward situations and find it quite difficult turning someone down face to face."

No, don’t ever compromise, I have great respect for men who see this as more than a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have declined people at a private party before. We wouldn't play with someone we didn't want to. Found people been accepting of our decision.

We've also left a private party early as neither of us were feeling it.

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By *carlettxWoman over a year ago

Essex

"So embarrassed about this but went to a private party once and wasn’t feeling it at all so decided to leg it

To make matters worse car was blocked in so had to disturb the play for a guy to move his car

Down the stairs naked with cock ring and hardon to let me out

You could of waited lol"

I just wanted to leave .. wasn’t my thing and felt awkward declining advances

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"We have declined people at a private party before. We wouldn't play with someone we didn't want to. Found people been accepting of our decision.

We've also left a private party early as neither of us were feeling it.

I think most people are ok with 'rejection' at a party, as it happens to us all, at some time.

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By *uicy72Woman over a year ago

North Colchester

This is a good question OP !

As a single lady going to parties I think it’s a lot harder to say no thank you !!!

And for the person or persons to really understand that is not a free for all because I’m there.

I’m a bubbly flirty fun person naturally and a lot take it as I’m up for everything!

Well I’m not .................

it does get a little awkward at times but I’ve managed it ok so far !

I get invited to lots of private parties love the atmosphere and intimacy as you can get to chat to everyone x

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"This is a good question OP !

As a single lady going to parties I think it’s a lot harder to say no thank you !!!

And for the person or persons to really understand that is not a free for all because I’m there.

I’m a bubbly flirty fun person naturally and a lot take it as I’m up for everything!

Well I’m not .................

it does get a little awkward at times but I’ve managed it ok so far !

I get invited to lots of private parties love the atmosphere and intimacy as you can get to chat to everyone x

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By *reenleavesCouple over a year ago

North Wales

I'd like think that if you've been invited to a private party then you've been around the scene long enough to know how to take a 'no' without causing a scene.

Luckily we've only really been approached in clubs by people who know how to ask in a way that leaves the door open for a painless 'no thanks'. Asking what we're looking for without just coming out with a 'do you want us?'. And our 'no thanks' has always been accepted without fuss.

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By *r C Miss CCouple over a year ago

llanelli

Lol we got invited to a private party once in swansea. We arranged a lift up there. We was reassured there was no pressure to play and we could have a lift back if we needed one. As soon as we walked through the door. We decided we didnt want to play with anyone. There was people snorting meow and other drugs. So we tried to leave. The couple that gave is a lift up refused to drive us back. Because, they said we ruined there party by not playing with anyone. so we walked to the nearest bus stop got a bus into town and got a train home.

Stick to your guns guys and gals No means No and dont leave anyone pressure you into doing anything your not comfortable doing.

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By *icky_tvLondonTV/TS over a year ago

london

"So embarrassed about this but went to a private party once and wasn’t feeling it at all so decided to leg it

To make matters worse car was blocked in so had to disturb the play for a guy to move his car

Down the stairs naked with cock ring and hardon to let me out

You could of waited lol"

*have

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By *hechairman18Man over a year ago

Salford Quays , Manchester

I host GangBangs at my home.

A couple came to one a while ago,but kept themselves to themselves.

After a while they got me to one side, and said they were leaving.

I didn't ask why, as I felt that was their prerogative.

The couple's who stayed, said they were glad the couple had left, as no one, had wanted to play with them.

So, it sometimes works both ways.

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