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Ignorance

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Even when someone messages me who I'm not really into I'd always reply and let them know but the amount of women who just read your message and delete it is highly annoying..a lot of women on here think their shit don't stink

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aww diddums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Even when someone messages me who I'm not really into I'd always reply and let them know but the amount of women who just read your message and delete it is highly annoying..a lot of women on here think their shit don't stink

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its on the faq.. no reply is a no thanks.

Now as we are a couple and not got lots of meets up.. our mesaages are manageable.. when I was on as a single female. Even without a meet up. I could get 50 to 100 messages a day... put a new photo up and that doubles... add a meet and easily 400 messages.

Trust me its not that they think they are special. Also no thanks messages are often replied with nasty messages. Like " didn't want to fuck a fat ugly slut like you anyway "

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By *loppsyWoman over a year ago

marlow

We don’t have to reply. I usually do but get sick and tired of the abuse because I say no!

I don’t fancy everyone on here and I don’t expect everyone to fancy me. But it’s up to me how i use my profile and respond to messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't look at your sent messages and move on.

Easy.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS over a year ago

West Midlands

"..a lot of women on here think their shit don't stink

Even more are fed up of the tirade of abuse they often receive if they reply negatively. Would you bother under those circumstances?

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By *a Fee VerteWoman over a year ago

Limbo

As per the site FAQs:

"It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here? "

With the best will in the world, many women simply don't have the time to reply to every message they get. It would be a physical impossibility. They also have lives - and real life stuff sometimes gets in the way of Fab admin .... it's not about them being rude, or 'up themselves' or similar. It's about logistics and their personal choice about how to spend their time

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Aww diddums "

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By *ighland gentlemanMan over a year ago

Ardgay

Oh, look over there, in the corner, it's a teddy bear!

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By *rladytoyMan over a year ago

bournemouth

Got to remeber a large percentage are a bit sad and insecure and life away from the keyboard isnt workinh out. Everytime they recieve and ignore a message they get a little feeling of power and worth. Just let them have it, bless em. I mean 'aw diddums' . Wow life must be bad to feel the need to say that

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By *sThunderThighsWoman over a year ago

Toy Land

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I usually try and respond but I regularly get messages with a header that is "..." or "x" and a message like "Hi" from a silhouette avatar profile with "I will fill in later" in the text.

If he does not want to make any effort at all why should I?

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By *a Fee VerteWoman over a year ago

Limbo

A reply which very accurately captures the title of this thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can you give me some therapy?

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Oh, look over there, in the corner, it's a teddy bear! "

White night alert.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Threads like these act as an extra filter, so at least they serve some purpose.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok so take a look at my profile op.

How many messages do you reckon I've got?

341!

You men are just desperate n tbh will shag anything.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

A reply which very accurately captures the title of this thread

You took the words out of my mouth

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Don't look at your sent messages and move on.

Easy."

Only reply you need to take heed of. As others have said. Take no reply as not interested.

And ignore the diddums woman.

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By *carlettxWoman over a year ago

Essex

its on the faq.. no reply is a no thanks.

Trust me its not that they think they are special. Also no thanks messages are often replied with nasty messages. Like " didn't want to fuck a fat ugly slut like you anyway ""

Took the words out my mouth

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ok so take a look at my profile op.

How many messages do you reckon I've got?

341!

You men are just desperate n tbh will shag anything.

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men must be desperate cause you haven't even got a picture lol...

The girl power stuff can stop now...it's boring

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By *uicy72Woman over a year ago

North Colchester

As already said even if we do reply no thanks as i do to all that have actually ready my profile !

No pic no reply!!!!!!!

We get Nasty comments like

fat bitch

You’re a C***

Stuck up bitch

Didn’t fancy you anyway

So you should understand that we are not stuck up our own arse !

just fed up with men who can’t handle rejection

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok so take a look at my profile op.

How many messages do you reckon I've got?

341!

You men are just desperate n tbh will shag anything.

men must be desperate cause you haven't even got a picture lol...

The girl power stuff can stop now...it's boring "

Exactly. Why message me in the first place with fancy a fuck or your gorgeous. When I havnt got any pics at all. It's not about girl power im a equal I don't put myself above anyone. But guys messaging a blank account unfortunately does make me feel jaded about anyone who messages me. Makes me feel worthless and just like a slab of meat. Not saying I wanna be wined n dined but the type of message that sticks out to me is one that's personalized. Doesn't need to be an essay just some thought to it.

Ex-hi witch are you really as witch, is that why you have got no pics?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all use this site for our fun and if i was expected to reply to every message or wink, i would never have time to do my job, meet or play

we all use our profiles how we see fit and if people read the Terms and conditions it says "no reply means no thanks"

maybe people should read the small print occasionally

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Ok so take a look at my profile op.

How many messages do you reckon I've got?

341!

You men are just desperate n tbh will shag anything.

men must be desperate cause you haven't even got a picture lol...

The girl power stuff can stop now...it's boring "

And that's exactly it OP and highlights exactly why women don't reply to every message - if a profile with no words or pictures can amass 341 messages from blokes desperate enough to message regardless imaging what it must be like for profiles that have more than that.

It's not "girl power" stuff either - it's common sense and logic - to take the above example if each of those 341 messages was replied to at let's say 3 minutes per message (by the time the original message has been read, profile of the sender viewed and reply written) that's over 1000 minutes just to deal with those!!

Then you get the replies to the reply and the vicious circle continues.

So far from being ignorance it's a perfectly acceptable response to not reply.

Looking at it another way - do you send a reply to every piece of junk mail you receive unrequested from the Nigerian Prince who wants to give you money, or the local pizza place etc? No? Thought not, the principle is the same here.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

"..a lot of women on here think their shit don't stink

Even more are fed up of the tirade of abuse they often receive if they reply negatively. Would you bother under those circumstances?"

This

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

The ladies get too many messages so I believe they can't reply to all , plus a lot of guys enable disrespectful behaviour from the ladies too so that's why it is the way it is, if you travel around the world you will see that ladies are different from other cultures and might treat you differently

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Aww diddums "

Yes, grow up OP. Fabswingers is not a secretarial site where everyone must dutifully respond to every item in their inbox. It’s a swingers site for peoples’ enjoyment.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Aww diddums

Yes, grow up OP. Fabswingers is not a secretarial site where everyone must dutifully respond to every item in their inbox. It’s a swingers site for peoples’ enjoyment.

yes it can be a lot of admin work if you answer every message

Try to reply to most but I certainly don't feel obliged to reply to guys that don't meet what we are looking for. Then we have a fair few repeat messengers that we haven't met and seem to disappear come a time we are available. As said above, the site is here for us all to enjoy how we wish.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

If most of the women on here think their shit don't stink,then simply leave. All this anger is not worth your mental health.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yeah I probably didn't realise the amount of messages women get...if a profile with no pics gets 341 messages then god knows how much a real one gets lol...I get it now

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If most of the women on here think their shit don't stink,then simply leave. All this anger is not worth your mental health."
zzzz

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"If most of the women on here think their shit don't stink,then simply leave. All this anger is not worth your mental health. zzzz"

There you go,moaning is making you incredibly tired. I did some moaning last night and it make me very sleepy afterwards,so I understand.

Quick power nap perhaps...

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"If most of the women on here think their shit don't stink,then simply leave. All this anger is not worth your mental health. zzzz"

Ah yes, I see now.

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By *dores blackmenWoman over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

I'm polite I answer peoples

enquiries about parties I'm going, and people wanting to meet up there,whether there for me or not,I politely answer

I do ignore lots messages from timbucktoo,hi how are you from blank profiles,copy and paste that are obviously to 50 other females and so on

Woman are not ignorant we answer what we feel applies to what we are after,so we can give our time to those people

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Ok so take a look at my profile op.

How many messages do you reckon I've got?

341!

You men are just desperate n tbh will shag anything.

men must be desperate cause you haven't even got a picture lol...

The girl power stuff can stop now...it's boring

Ex-hi witch are you really as witch, is that why you have got no pics?"

I have messaged a shadow profile in the past. I met them. The mystery and risk was exciting. I didnt open with faf mind you lol

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

OP try sitting next to some ladies who are accessing their been Fab accounts after a long day at work.....to find scores of messages from men along the lines of "wanna fuck now?" Or "are you horny?" Or even "wuu2 I'm wanking"

Ladies are often bombarded with such works of high literature and simply do not have the time to reply.

And often when she says "no thanks" she gets more messages....either "awww why not?" Or abuse "i wouldn't fuck you anyway"

Ladies are under no obligation to reply to anyone. Stop being so entitled

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

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fucking hell what's your excuse for being here then are you olso desperate and have no luck in the "real world" or does that only apply to women

.there are plenty of stunning woman on here are you saying that they are all desperate too or just the ones you don't really fancy that knock you back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wanders out of man cave...

Ignorace eh....

As in lacking education or empathy or a basic understanding or knowledge...

Perhaps I still need to evolve more..

Slips quietly back into the man cave to contemplate the meaning of words...

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"If most of the women on here think their shit don't stink,then simply leave. All this anger is not worth your mental health. zzzz

There you go,moaning is making you incredibly tired. I did some moaning last night and it make me very sleepy afterwards,so I understand.

Quick power nap perhaps..."

Will that be a "girl power" nap though?!

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By *osweet69Couple over a year ago

portsmouth

We have never had the problem of having hundreds of messages a day,but I do wonder with all the filters available on this site why the popular ladies and couples do not use them? That way they would not get all these unwanted messages and no one would get bent out of shape. Is it a case of "I think the lady/couple does protest to much"?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

A lady can filter out newbies, smokers, men under 25 and over 45 and still be bombarded.

Really. Sit next to your female Fab friends and just observe as they open their inboxes after a few hours offline.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"a lot of women on here think their shit don't stink

My shit stinks, just the same as everyone else's.

But I don't reply to alot of messages, for various proven reasons.

My recycle bin at home is overflowing with unwanted mail, shoukd I thank everyone who shoves a flyer through my letterbox, even just to tell them I don't want their services?

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By *osweet69Couple over a year ago

portsmouth

"A lady can filter out newbies, smokers, men under 25 and over 45 and still be bombarded.

Really. Sit next to your female Fab friends and just observe as they open their inboxes after a few hours offline."
Is it not the case you can block everyone if you choose to do so?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find it easy to just delete messages that aren't for me....no moaning about it

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

"A lady can filter out newbies, smokers, men under 25 and over 45 and still be bombarded.

Really. Sit next to your female Fab friends and just observe as they open their inboxes after a few hours offline.Is it not the case you can block everyone if you choose to do so? "

I am pretty sure that most users do not wish to "block everyone" and would prefer to use the site in a manner which allows suitable men to initiate contact with them.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

No, they don't. A lot of women (and couples) here get fed up with endless crass messages from guys who haven't bothered to read their profiles first. They also tend to get far more messages than guys do because there are so many more men here. Sorry but we're not going to reply to anyone who hasn't first bothered to find out if they even remotely fit what we're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why should we message you back??

Nothing in the rules to say I should message back everyone!

If and only if it's been a nice thought out message will I reply and say not for me.

Get over yourself and yes my shit smells of raspberries!!!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Why should we message you back??

Nothing in the rules to say I should message back everyone!

If and only if it's been a nice thought out message will I reply and say not for me.

Get over yourself and yes my shit smells of raspberries!!!"

Just lost my coffee over the last line

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sad and insecure. Ugly as sin too. And stoopid

I do like a damn good gang fuck though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sad and insecure. Ugly as sin too. And stoopid

I do like a damn good gang fuck though

See? Stoopid

Cant even do words in the proppa order

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why should we message you back??

Nothing in the rules to say I should message back everyone!

If and only if it's been a nice thought out message will I reply and say not for me.

Get over yourself and yes my shit smells of raspberries!!!

Just lost my coffee over the last line

Well I had a raspberry smoothie this morning

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Why should we message you back??

Nothing in the rules to say I should message back everyone!

If and only if it's been a nice thought out message will I reply and say not for me.

Get over yourself and yes my shit smells of raspberries!!!"

Haha

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

I'm sad and insecure. Ugly as sin too. And stoopid

I do like a damn good gang fuck though

See? Stoopid

Cant even do words in the proppa order"

Da proppa orda

Tsk

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sad and insecure. Ugly as sin too. And stoopid

I do like a damn good gang fuck though

See? Stoopid

Cant even do words in the proppa order

Da proppa orda

Tsk

I've got a cold

Snot is preventing me from typing my wurds

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

I'm sad and insecure. Ugly as sin too. And stoopid

I do like a damn good gang fuck though

See? Stoopid

Cant even do words in the proppa order

Da proppa orda

Tsk

I've got a cold

Snot is preventing me from typing my wurds"

That snot so good

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"Yeah I probably didn't realise the amount of messages women get...if a profile with no pics gets 341 messages then god knows how much a real one gets lol...I get it now "

Glad this has helped to see it from another angle.

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By *rightonCheekyMan over a year ago

Brighton

Sometimes I wonder if all single men should be barred from sending messages to ladies and couples.

If would stop guys being silly and starting moaning threads like these.

It would also put a stop to the ladies and couples being bombarded with messages.

Ladies and couples could message guys though.

Just a thought .......

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"Sometimes I wonder if all single men should be barred from sending messages to ladies and couples.

If would stop guys being silly and starting moaning threads like these.

It would also put a stop to the ladies and couples being bombarded with messages.

Ladies and couples could message guys though.

Just a thought ......."

Or perhaps limit guys to say three messages a day.

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By *rightonCheekyMan over a year ago

Brighton

"Sometimes I wonder if all single men should be barred from sending messages to ladies and couples.

If would stop guys being silly and starting moaning threads like these.

It would also put a stop to the ladies and couples being bombarded with messages.

Ladies and couples could message guys though.

Just a thought .......

Or perhaps limit guys to say three messages a day. "

Nah, a total ban, change the dynamics completely. After all it's a "Buyers Market"

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By *ap AdgeMan over a year ago

Wirral

"I usually try and respond but I regularly get messages with a header that is "..." or "x" and a message like "Hi" from a silhouette avatar profile with "I will fill in later" in the text.

If he does not want to make any effort at all why should I?

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Sometimes I wonder if all single men should be barred from sending messages to ladies and couples.

If would stop guys being silly and starting moaning threads like these.

It would also put a stop to the ladies and couples being bombarded with messages.

Ladies and couples could message guys though.

Just a thought .......

Or perhaps limit guys to say three messages a day. "

Ive messaged one lady about 10 times in the last hour. Talking about the upcoming social. So bog off lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on the kind of message. Sometimes it’s better to delete then engage. Especially if it’s too forward.

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By *lackMetalMan over a year ago

Centre

"Sometimes I wonder if all single men should be barred from sending messages to ladies and couples.

If would stop guys being silly and starting moaning threads like these.

It would also put a stop to the ladies and couples being bombarded with messages.

That's be throwing the baby out with the bath water. There are a lot of genuine single guys on here that are balanced, sane and normal. I will leave it to the women and couples to seek them out. But just sometimes, these people write too and their messages get lost in the sea of bullshit they receive.

Ladies and couples could message guys though.

Just a thought ......."

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By *rladytoyMan over a year ago

bournemouth

So... this morning i put my neck on the line, and conducted a little social experiment on an 'ignorance thread'. The results were very predictable. So a lady puts a negative, derogative nasty comment, and .....nothing absoloutely nothing. I (a single male) do the same....and guess what 1000s of comments having a go at me. But hey, theres no ignorance or double standards going on here. Noooo way after all us men are all the same , we all message blank profiles and say hey wanna bum? God its tiring reading through the bullshit . Anyway im off to copy and paste to a 1000 profiles......

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By *olliPineCouple over a year ago

swingers clubs

It's easy to reply to 1 or 2 messages a day. Takes up a bit more of life to reply 50.

Stop your whining and concentrate on those that do reply. Although you may want to UNLOS after this thread and start afresh.

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By *od ThrusterMan over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

I always reply to messages, but then I get so few that's easy to do.

If someone deletes my messages, so be it. If they reply then that's nice, even if it's a "no thanks". If they take they time to reply then I always reply to their reply wishing them luck (unless they've blocked me).

Manners don't cost anything, but time does and if I had 200+ messages a day I wouldn't reply to them all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So... this morning i put my neck on the line, and conducted a little social experiment on an 'ignorance thread'. The results were very predictable. So a lady puts a negative, derogative nasty comment, and .....nothing absoloutely nothing. I (a single male) do the same....and guess what 1000s of comments having a go at me. But hey, theres no ignorance or double standards going on here. Noooo way after all us men are all the same , we all message blank profiles and say hey wanna bum? God its tiring reading through the bullshit . Anyway im off to copy and paste to a 1000 profiles......"

Ooh which thread was it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Threads like these act as an extra filter, so at least they serve some purpose. "

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Wanders out of man cave...

Ignorace eh....

As in lacking education or empathy or a basic understanding or knowledge...

Perhaps I still need to evolve more..

Slips quietly back into the man cave to contemplate the meaning of words...

Drives me nuts that one....it has been misappropriated so often it has wormed it's incorrect way into the dictionary!!

Anyway, replying to every message on here would be the equivalent of writing to every single company that sends you junk mail or spam - do you do that I wonder OP? Are you 'ignorant' for not doing so?

I set out very clearly what I am looking for in my profile. If a 25 yr old passing trucker from Wales with nothing but cock pics on his profile tells me I have great tits and asks me if I'd like to visit him in Clacket lane services for a shag - guess what, it's junk mail, and I am NOT going to reply!

Have a nice day!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one has a right to respond to you. If you cant see that then you're delusional. I will say though, there is definitely a high tolerance of poor behavior on here simply in order to get laid. But it is what it is.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

I really do think you're 'hearing what you want to hear.'

Nobody seriously thinks all single guys here are the same but there are an awful lot who just mailshot females/couples without a thought then wonder why they either don't get any replies or get told to go away. Why should anyone have to reply to dozens of random messages every week just to make the senders feel better about their laziness?

We've met and chatted to some really nice guys here but I don't suppose you'll care or remember about that comment because it contradicts your claim. The thing about them is that they bothered to find out what we were looking for BEFORE they contacted us. Plain common sense really but a fair few guys here don't seem to exercise it (note how I didn't say ALL guys).

Ironically you're indulging in the sort of negative stereotyping you claim to be the victim of. It eventually becomes self-fulfilling...

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By *uzie69xTV/TS over a year ago

Maidstone

"Wow life must be bad to feel the need to say that

Yea, just what I was thinking about the OP...

(to OP) Chill pill matey...

Ere, girls, copy and paste the following to make the likes of the OP feel better.

I can't be bothered to reply to you so I've just copied and paste this reply. Just letting you know that my shit really smells of roses.

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By *rladytoyMan over a year ago

bournemouth

I really do think you're 'hearing what you want to hear.'

Ironically you're indulging in the sort of negative stereotyping you claim to be the victim of. It eventually becomes self-fulfilling...

Im not hearing nothing, i personally have never really had any of these problems, im very selective and as you can all see, very charming

just simply poi ting out that for some (not all) they are just getting off on the attention . Its just a fact .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Social experiments require control groups often double blind testing and a systematic approach to interrogation of data.

A whiny post based on self selecting respondents is no social experiment...just another whinge on another day by anothef guy on fab...

Wanders back to man cave shaking head and wondering if evolution really exists

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"OP try sitting next to some ladies who are accessing their been Fab accounts after a long day at work.....to find scores of messages from men along the lines of "wanna fuck now?" Or "are you horny?" Or even "wuu2 I'm wanking"

Ladies are often bombarded with such works of high literature and simply do not have the time to reply.

And often when she says "no thanks" she gets more messages....either "awww why not?" Or abuse "i wouldn't fuck you anyway"

Ladies are under no obligation to reply to anyone. Stop being so entitled"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've found a new way of doing things, if they don't read my profile I copy and paste it to them in a message

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

AND IGNORANCE IS NOT HAVING THE COURTESY TO READ A PROFILE BEFORE MESSAGING!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok so take a look at my profile op.

How many messages do you reckon I've got?

341!

You men are just desperate n tbh will shag anything.

I won't thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got bored after about 10 msgs of this thread. Imagine having to reply every single one telling them all why you dont fancy them.

Not gonna happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What do want OP, a truthful message saying why they don't find you attractive?

Or do you want ppl on here to take forever writing courteous 'no thank you but thanks for inquiring'

You need to think how ppl feel with upwards of 50 messages a day, as much as most will want to reply they simply can't.

Get that in your head and you'll enjoy this place that little bit more........only a bit though as it's frustratingly difficult.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got bored after about 10 msgs of this thread. Imagine having to reply every single one telling them all why you dont fancy them.

Not gonna happen."

Would you want that anyway, I'd rather they just delete the message?

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I've found a new way of doing things, if they don't read my profile I copy and paste it to them in a message

Hahaha!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got bored after about 10 msgs of this thread. Imagine having to reply every single one telling them all why you dont fancy them.

Not gonna happen.

Would you want that anyway, I'd rather they just delete the message?"

If they dont reply I take that as a no thanks. Easy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got bored after about 10 msgs of this thread. Imagine having to reply every single one telling them all why you dont fancy them.

Not gonna happen.

Would you want that anyway, I'd rather they just delete the message?

If they dont reply I take that as a no thanks. Easy."

Exactly, I block them and move on.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I've found a new way of doing things, if they don't read my profile I copy and paste it to them in a message

Hahaha!

It works a treat! Try it!!

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By *FFB69Woman over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent

"We have never had the problem of having hundreds of messages a day,but I do wonder with all the filters available on this site why the popular ladies and couples do not use them? That way they would not get all these unwanted messages and no one would get bent out of shape. Is it a case of "I think the lady/couple does protest to much"? "

Really? And how do you propose we do that? You can stop certain ages messaging. Newbies and a few other things. But you can't filter out messages that say "fancy a fuck" or guys who are arseholes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Really? And how do you propose we do that? You can stop certain ages messaging. Newbies and a few other things. But you can't filter out messages that say "fancy a fuck" or guys who are arseholes.

Arseholes would write 'fancy a fuck' tbh so I'd not separate those 2 types.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Really? And how do you propose we do that? You can stop certain ages messaging. Newbies and a few other things. But you can't filter out messages that say "fancy a fuck" or guys who are arseholes.

Arseholes would write 'fancy a fuck' tbh so I'd not separate those 2 types.

Can we have a filter for arseholes please fab?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Really? And how do you propose we do that? You can stop certain ages messaging. Newbies and a few other things. But you can't filter out messages that say "fancy a fuck" or guys who are arseholes.

Arseholes would write 'fancy a fuck' tbh so I'd not separate those 2 types.

Can we have a filter for arseholes please fab?

Ha ha, tick box on profile for arsehole too.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Really? And how do you propose we do that? You can stop certain ages messaging. Newbies and a few other things. But you can't filter out messages that say "fancy a fuck" or guys who are arseholes.

Arseholes would write 'fancy a fuck' tbh so I'd not separate those 2 types.

Can we have a filter for arseholes please fab?

Ha ha, tick box on profile for arsehole too.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

sit, relax and breathe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It amuses me how guys interpret my laziness as being stuck up and ignorant. Keep thinking that fellas and I'll continue to be lazy. I'm not changing my ways to keep strangers, that I have no intention on communicating with, on a sex site happy

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

" It amuses me how guys interpret my laziness as being stuck up and ignorant. Keep thinking that fellas and I'll continue to be lazy. I'm not changing my ways to keep strangers, that I have no intention on communicating with, on a sex site happy

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By *osweet69Couple over a year ago

portsmouth

"A lady can filter out newbies, smokers, men under 25 and over 45 and still be bombarded.

Really. Sit next to your female Fab friends and just observe as they open their inboxes after a few hours offline.Is it not the case you can block everyone if you choose to do so?

I am pretty sure that most users do not wish to "block everyone" and would prefer to use the site in a manner which allows suitable men to initiate contact with them."
Last time we looked we could not find a filter that said "suitable men only". But it sounds like a good idea.You should suggest it to admin.

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By *arciocialWoman over a year ago

Leicester

I've never had more than 200 messages and once been here for a few weeks/months they soon reduce drastically.... Amazing how filters work.

I used to reply to the majority with a polite no thanks, but it's a boring thing to do. You men mainly have to send a message a woman has to reply to several, so I understand why not everyone bothers to reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope .... but when you have 150 messages, it takes ages to reply...then you get more messages from guys asking “why am I not your type” “can you look at my profile and give me feedback” “ok can we just chat though”. So in being polite I now have to either reply again or be a bitch and block them ...can’t win. I’ve said before we need an instant “thanks but no thanks “ button which send a message and if they try to reply another instant message reminding them we’ve already said no

I’m not up myself or a rude person but fab is not my whole life and I don’t always have time to reply to everyone, don’t take it to heart it’s just the way fab is xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"AND IGNORANCE IS NOT HAVING THE COURTESY TO READ A PROFILE BEFORE MESSAGING!!!!"

Yep ... 100%

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can't win. Reply with no thanks, abuse, no reply abuse.

But this is covered in site faq's.

It's not about power or self worth. Fab is the wrong place for that. It's just like dogs, so many different breeds but we don't all want the same one.

I failed to reply immediately to someone last week and got a wtf message after 5 minutes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cool story

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But its not everyone that is nasty/rude. Me personally I like closure. Just a simple "not interested" aint long to write. I read all profiles and dont geta reply c'mon now dont I deserve a little closure for that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But its not everyone that is nasty/rude. Me personally I like closure. Just a simple "not interested" aint long to write. I read all profiles and dont geta reply c'mon now dont I deserve a little closure for that."

Why do you need to be told it's a no thanks?

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By *FFB69Woman over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent

Really? And how do you propose we do that? You can stop certain ages messaging. Newbies and a few other things. But you can't filter out messages that say "fancy a fuck" or guys who are arseholes.

Arseholes would write 'fancy a fuck' tbh so I'd not separate those 2 types.

True.

But I've had guys I've met a few times send me messages like FaF. Which I don't mind too much lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I read profiles before messaging I dont get no reply. Just as easy as eachother really.

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By *FFB69Woman over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent

Would you have time if you were getting 100 odd messages a day? No. Because then you have no time to talk to the people you are interested in.

C'mon now read the FAQs and guidelines.

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By *inglehotchickWoman over a year ago

blackpool

Let me stop you right there! I have had messages I've sent to guys read and ignored. NOT just women that can be ignorant but MEN too

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I’ve said before we need an instant “thanks but no thanks “ button which send a message and if they try to reply another instant message reminding them we’ve already said no"

Oh god why can't they just do this for us?!

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By *inglehotchickWoman over a year ago

blackpool

""I’ve said before we need an instant “thanks but no thanks “ button which send a message and if they try to reply another instant message reminding them we’ve already said no"

Oh god why can't they just do this for us?!"

This is a fantastic idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I havent read the faq guidelines but if I did I most probably wouldnt follow them. Just saying, and if I was getting a 100 msgs a day I would reply. Its not hard or long to write "im not interested" you dont have to reply to their 2nd, 3rd, 4th msg.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

""I’ve said before we need an instant “thanks but no thanks “ button which send a message and if they try to reply another instant message reminding them we’ve already said no"

Oh god why can't they just do this for us?!"

I know...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I havent read the faq guidelines but if I did I most probably wouldnt follow them. Just saying, and if I was getting a 100 msgs a day I would reply. Its not hard or long to write "im not interested" you dont have to reply to their 2nd, 3rd, 4th msg. "
perhaps you'd like to actually try it, it's boring after a while, particularly when they don't have the courtesy to read a profile, do you reply to every piece of junk mail or every unwanted text or email you get saying not interested? Perhaps you'd like to try doing so for a week or so then you'd understand!! Please do let us know how you get on with this!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lool only way for me to try this is to get bombarded with msgs but unfortunately for me I dont. So if you'd like to help in this experiment I wouldnt mind

lol. That goes for all females in this topic lool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I read profiles before messaging I dont get no reply. Just as easy as eachother really."

Does it bother you alot that you don't get a reply saying no thanks? Me personally am not to tied up who replies or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I read profiles before messaging I dont get no reply. Just as easy as eachother really.

Does it bother you alot that you don't get a reply saying no thanks? Me personally am not to tied up who replies or not.

This is a good point.... surely only be bothered about the people that reply as they may be interested.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Lool only way for me to try this is to get bombarded with msgs but unfortunately for me I dont. So if you'd like to help in this experiment I wouldnt mind

lol. That goes for all females in this topic lool"

You could try flushing your toilet then closing the lid...just saying..

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Lol I really enjoy this type of threads, it's like watching a comedy lol"

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

Lol I really enjoy this type of threads, it's like watching a comedy lol

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I havent read the faq guidelines but if I did I most probably wouldnt follow them. Just saying, and if I was getting a 100 msgs a day I would reply. Its not hard or long to write "im not interested" you dont have to reply to their 2nd, 3rd, 4th msg. perhaps you'd like to actually try it, it's boring after a while, particularly when they don't have the courtesy to read a profile, do you reply to every piece of junk mail or every unwanted text or email you get saying not interested? Perhaps you'd like to try doing so for a week or so then you'd understand!! Please do let us know how you get on with this!"
c'mon rise to the challenge for us dude x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We don't get many messages. We are filtered to the max and I deliberately made our profile hostile. This is because we didn't want to be accused of being rude by not replying, yet we were tired of the daily admin task of having to reply to messages. A hostile profile seemed to be a good compromise. I do wish single guys would be a bit more understanding on this matter though, because after 3 years on Fab replying to unwanted messages, it's starts to become a tedious daily chore. You know, go to bed each night and think 'I suppose we'd better reply to those messages'. And when a couple does that every night, surely they can be forgiven for thinking 'I don't feel like replying to messages to night - I'd rather have a cuddle and talk about something else'. But then the messages build up if a night is taken off from replying. We signed up to Fab to have fun, not do admin. But the guys that throw about accusations of rudeness, I wonder how long they would be willing to do this daily admin chore before they thought 'fuck it, I'll just delete, it's not like I know them'. Would they really be willing to do this on a daily basis year after year?

Mrs

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

"I havent read the faq guidelines but if I did I most probably wouldnt follow them. Just saying, and if I was getting a 100 msgs a day I would reply. Its not hard or long to write "im not interested" you dont have to reply to their 2nd, 3rd, 4th msg. perhaps you'd like to actually try it, it's boring after a while, particularly when they don't have the courtesy to read a profile, do you reply to every piece of junk mail or every unwanted text or email you get saying not interested? Perhaps you'd like to try doing so for a week or so then you'd understand!! Please do let us know how you get on with this!"

A hundred messages at 2-3 minutes per message. Given that you need to read theirs, check their profile and then concoct a quick reply that's about four hours per day. Might got consider for a moment that the ladies of Fab have lives?

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I ignore 99% of my messages and no I don't feel guilty, if men are such sensitive souls then they shouldn't be on a site like this, so my words of advise are: Suck it up buttercup!

I owe absolutely nothing to whomever deems to send a message to me

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

""I’ve said before we need an instant “thanks but no thanks “ button which send a message and if they try to reply another instant message reminding them we’ve already said no"

Oh god why can't they just do this for us?!"

Yeah they've got that on other site's,be good to have it on this one.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Wonder why he hasn't come back to his thread...

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I've found a new way of doing things, if they don't read my profile I copy and paste it to them in a message

Might steal that

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Faqs say no reply = no.

Women are on here for their own reasons, not to jump just because some guy sent a message.

Guys who think we owe them anything on here will not do well. And insulting the women of Fab, just because some of them don't like you, reduces the odds of success.

And then whining about it reduces the odds to zilch

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Wonder why he hasn't come back to his thread..."

We've got perfumed shit?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its on the faq.. no reply is a no thanks.

Trust me its not that they think they are special. Also no thanks messages are often replied with nasty messages. Like " didn't want to fuck a fat ugly slut like you anyway ""

So true

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry...don't sit on fab all day darlings...

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

It's ironic when people use the term ignorance incorrectly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never thought of it like that.

I’ll dedicate the hours per day needed to reply to the inane ones too.

Why I spend so much time talking to the hot interesting guys when I could be exchanging explainations as to why mr cock pic isn’t my type....

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By *FFB69Woman over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent

"Sorry...don't sit on fab all day darlings... "

Expect women too though so they can reply to every message.

Funny that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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Not even going through this thread because if u bothered to do a forum search in this u would see the amount of abuse crap and threats wemon on here go through because of disrepectal men thinking its a sex site and we have to meet your demands and insults

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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Agreed mate, best thing is you wouldn't look sideways at them in a club but here they think they're it. Always moaning about no shows though so they're not as popular as they make out.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

"Faqs say no reply = no.

Women are on here for their own reasons, not to jump just because some guy sent a message.

Guys who think we owe them anything on here will not do well. And insulting the women of Fab, just because some of them don't like you, reduces the odds of success.

And then whining about it reduces the odds to zilch

It's also worth remembering that the ladies might well talk with each other off site.

As the wife and I have been swinging a long time, we have a lot of friends in the scene. And the ladies do talk...."Oh did you get that message the other day from Person X? Oh all four of us got the exact same cut and paste! How funny!"....."Don't meet Person Y, did you see their thread on the forum?"

OP has probably slashed his chances of ever getting another meet.

Be excellent to each other, remember that nobody is under any obligation to reply to any message. We're actually trying to be helpful on this thread and just getting sarky responses back. It does not look good.

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman over a year ago

south yorkshire

But do you get hundreds of messages a week? Do you get hundreds of messages a week from people who haven't bothered reading the basic information on your profile? Do you get abuse when you say a polite no thanks and ten more messages wanting to know why not, trying to convince you they have a foot long cock so nothing else matters? Do you have about four or five hours free time everyday to reply to the messages? The more time you're online the more messages you get.

Since you didn't bother to do a forum search for your topic I doubt you read all profiles checking that someone is looking for you before you contact them. Do you really want people to reply and say sorry but I'm not attracted? When you reply some don't take the polite hint and after ten messages you have to be that blunt. You won't get any sympathy, just a lot of women blocking you. One thing guarantees I won't reply and that's profiles that moan about people not replying, particularly when they can't be bothered to read profiles first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If someone doesn't reply to you that means "no thanks" anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agreed mate, best thing is you wouldn't look sideways at them in a club but here they think they're it. Always moaning about no shows though so they're not as popular as they make out."

Well if the woman is someone the man wouldn't look sideways at in a club then presumably there is no message to be replied to and hence the argument irrelevant. I mean surely no self-respecting man would message a woman or couple who he considers to be not good enough for him or not his type?

Mrs

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

Agreed mate, best thing is you wouldn't look sideways at them in a club but here they think they're it. Always moaning about no shows though so they're not as popular as they make out."

Respect and no judgement - is this how you to it then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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I have to agree ignorance is frustrating. If I read a message I will reply back but tbh women get that many messages that it's impossible to read them all and reply. Call me ignorant if you want but I find its best not to read some that way it's not as bad as just deleting them...oh and my shit stinks as much as anyone else's.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

Agreed mate, best thing is you wouldn't look sideways at them in a club but here they think they're it. Always moaning about no shows though so they're not as popular as they make out."

Wow. Simply wow. This and your status pretty much guarantee lack of meets.

What happened to respect and treating people like......people?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Faqs say no reply = no.

Women are on here for their own reasons, not to jump just because some guy sent a message.

Guys who think we owe them anything on here will not do well. And insulting the women of Fab, just because some of them don't like you, reduces the odds of success.

And then whining about it reduces the odds to zilch

It's also worth remembering that the ladies might well talk with each other off site.

OP has probably slashed his chances of ever getting another meet.

Actually we do chat a lot off site, guys were discussed, my friend had been with s couple and told me not to bother, I did the same for her lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP I can see from clicking on your profile that you messaged me 3 months ago and I didn't reply.

I'm not arrogant, nor do I think I'm better than anyone we - the reality of the matter is that your profile just didn't appeal and your message was probably vulgar or rubbish as usually I do try and send a polite no thanks if people have made the effort to write more than one line.

Your attitude on this thread hasn't really shown you in a good light either...

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

Actually we do chat a lot off site, guys were discussed, my friend had been with s couple and told me not to bother, I did the same for her lol"

One of the more amusing anecdotes, we held a BBQ earlier this year and by chance all our friends attending were in Fab. Two of the ladies received the same unimaginative message film a guy in the area in his car at the exact same time. The third lady said, "why did he not message me? Am I not good enough for his car?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agreed mate, best thing is you wouldn't look sideways at them in a club but here they think they're it. Always moaning about no shows though so they're not as popular as they make out."

Btw there's no clique in this thread as your status suggests. It's true most people are agreeing in this particular instance, but the same people on this thread who are agreeing that it is impractical to reply to every message, often disagree on other threads.

Mrs

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By *ophleeCouple over a year ago

Fareham

There are alot of people who do just clearly ignore or delete messages and alot of the time there are good reasons, like clearly not reading profiles or the usual, fancy a fuck messages. Also single ladies and cpls also tend to get so so many messages that it's almost impossible sometimes to reply. We however always try to reply to all even if a simple no Thanks, but again we are aware that we haven't always so apologies if we haven't to yours but it's never deliberate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agreed mate, best thing is you wouldn't look sideways at them in a club but here they think they're it. Always moaning about no shows though so they're not as popular as they make out."

Hahaha. Fabicide

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lets be fair- a lot of guys think their shit dont stink either,,, just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We had a message from a guy yesterday. It seems he had messaged us a year ago and we had replied. He had a picture of his tummy and didn't send a face pic. He complimented us for our pictures and asked us if we had any fun lined up for the weekend. Judging from his profile he's very into dogging which we are not interested in. Our profile says that we only meet new people in clubs or parties and that we don't use Fab for chatting. Do we have to reply to that? We don't like being rude, but he was a random faceless stranger asking us an intrusive question. And if we are to reply, what do we say? We don't really want to answer his question because that would open up a chat with a stranger that we don't want, as well as lead him on. But I realise he's just trying to make conversation so it seems a bit attitudey to say 'thanks but no thanks' when he hasn't actually made an offer. If we have to reply to every message, that means we have to rely to all messages saying 'how are you?' 'What you up to?' Then we would be forced into a conversation we never wanted. We don't use Fab chatting, we simply don't enjoy chatting to random guys on Fab. Surely that should be respected?

Mrs

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By *atureandhornyCouple over a year ago

Liverpool

"We had a message from a guy yesterday. It seems he had messaged us a year ago and we had replied. He had a picture of his tummy and didn't send a face pic. He complimented us for our pictures and asked us if we had any fun lined up for the weekend. Judging from his profile he's very into dogging which we are not interested in. Our profile says that we only meet new people in clubs or parties and that we don't use Fab for chatting. Do we have to reply to that? We don't like being rude, but he was a random faceless stranger asking us an intrusive question. And if we are to reply, what do we say? We don't really want to answer his question because that would open up a chat with a stranger that we don't want, as well as lead him on. But I realise he's just trying to make conversation so it seems a bit attitudey to say 'thanks but no thanks' when he hasn't actually made an offer. If we have to reply to every message, that means we have to rely to all messages saying 'how are you?' 'What you up to?' Then we would be forced into a conversation we never wanted. We don't use Fab chatting, we simply don't enjoy chatting to random guys on Fab. Surely that should be respected?

Mrs"

Spot on xx

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Agreed mate, best thing is you wouldn't look sideways at them in a club but here they think they're it. Always moaning about no shows though so they're not as popular as they make out."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agreed mate, best thing is you wouldn't look sideways at them in a club but here they think they're it. Always moaning about no shows though so they're not as popular as they make out."

Meow. Don't be so bitter dude makes us men look shit

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Agreed mate, best thing is you wouldn't look sideways at them in a club but here they think they're it. Always moaning about no shows though so they're not as popular as they make out.

Meow. Don't be so bitter dude makes us men look shit

Nar it just makes him look shit

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Certainly giving firemen a bad rep.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

Our profile clearly states what we're looking for so why would we bother replying to anyone who doesn't match? It happens a hell of a lot and all it says to us is that they didn't bother to read it in which case we reserve the right not to bother replying to them. We'd never dream of contacting anyone unless we'd read their profile first and felt we'd be a good match. It's really not much to ask is it.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

The trouble is that some guys here think all they need to do is mailshot a one liner with cock shots to loads of females/cples and they'll soon be begging them for attention. When they get no replies and realise it doesn't work they get all shirty. Not all guys are like that thankfully and they'll be the ones who carefully select who they approach and actually get to meet other people. Simples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Our profile clearly states what we're looking for so why would we bother replying to anyone who doesn't match? It happens a hell of a lot and all it says to us is that they didn't bother to read it in which case we reserve the right not to bother replying to them. We'd never dream of contacting anyone unless we'd read their profile first and felt we'd be a good match. It's really not much to ask is it. "

Exactly! My profile is to the point and I have filter on messages to reduce the amount of messages I may get that are of no interest to me. If I message first, I put though and effort plus a pic. I certainly am not offended if my message gets deleted without reply and yes, it has happened

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

Possibly. Or more likely they just can't be arsed responding to everyone who sends them messages and choose to spend their fab admin time answering the messages they want to. Call it time management. Or laziness (in my case when my filters are open it's a bit of both). Either way, it makes my time on here stress free and doesn't have anything to do with my olfactory considerations of poo odour.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The trouble is that some guys here think all they need to do is mailshot a one liner with cock shots to loads of females/cples and they'll soon be begging them for attention. When they get no replies and realise it doesn't work they get all shirty. Not all guys are like that thankfully and they'll be the ones who carefully select who they approach and actually get to meet other people. Simples."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Deletions are funny as its just a quick way to say.... No chance ugly boy...

Can't take them to heart and saves wasted time

Think im nearly hitting a 1000000000000000000000000

Not bad aye

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Agreed mate, best thing is you wouldn't look sideways at them in a club but here they think they're it. Always moaning about no shows though so they're not as popular as they make out."

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Meow. Don't be so bitter dude makes us men look shit

Nar it just makes him look shit

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

These threads are getting very tiresome and all too common of late, all could be resolved by reading previous threads and the FAQ section.

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By *wo4FemCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

No reply is a not interested as the faq says.

If you turn it round and look at it from the other side, maybe the message you send is unappealing to the lady. Hence no reply.

Mr2

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Aww diddums "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Manners cost nothing.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

"Manners cost nothing. "

True but that goes both ways.

Replying to dozens of speculative and pointless messages (or pm's in chat) every week costs time. Then you still have to deal with the comeback from those who get all stroppy and post on here whining about being rejected. Of course those who reckon all couples are 'up themselves' never consider that their own assumptions and lack of effort may be largely to blame for the response they get...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Manners cost nothing. "

Yes they do, manners cost time, often a considerable amount of time. So as with all areas of ettiquette there must be a sense of reasonability as to how much time is realistic to be spent in the name of manners.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok.. perfect example

I had three messages from the same guy today one said “you so fit”

All similar messages, I read them and ignored them as I was busy and much more interested in messages that had something that caught my attention with face pics attached.

Now the guy messages again “rude” is the only word. So I replied “why?” He replies “ you always ignore”

This guy has nothing to say, lives over 60 miles away, has nothing on his profile, no photo attached, clearly hasn’t bothered to read my profile yet wants me to respond to “ you so fit”

No... if that makes me rude so be it, I have enough to do in my real life without spending half the day replying to 100s messages from guys who are too rude to read my profile ... hmmmph

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Manners cost nothing. "

In that case reply to every spam email, unsolicited mailshot through your letter box, and all the ppi phone calls for a week at least, if you consider no response as rude, please do let us know how you get on with this...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok.. perfect example

I had three messages from the same guy today one said “you so fit”

All similar messages, I read them and ignored them as I was busy and much more interested in messages that had something that caught my attention with face pics attached.

Now the guy messages again “rude” is the only word. So I replied “why?” He replies “ you always ignore”

This guy has nothing to say, lives over 60 miles away, has nothing on his profile, no photo attached, clearly hasn’t bothered to read my profile yet wants me to respond to “ you so fit”

No... if that makes me rude so be it, I have enough to do in my real life without spending half the day replying to 100s messages from guys who are too rude to read my profile ... hmmmph

Agree. I think it's rude for someone to send a total stranger a message saying 'you so fit' without the courtesy of introducing himself, or reading the profile as to whether such a message would be welcomed. The men who have decided that it's bad manners to ignore messages don't seem to consider that manners goes both way.

Mrs

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Manners cost nothing.

Mrs "

Mic drop

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