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Can online porn really cause problems in a marriage?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just looked at this one front page of a paper and I have to say it didn't wreck my relationship. Saying that however, none of us were avoid watchers..we were too fond of the real thing in our lives so it wasn't an issue. What's other people's thoughts? |
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I suppose it depends how it is watched. If a guy watches it in secret but then doesnt go near his partner - I am sure that would cause problems. Watching it together however, if done in moderation with a known aim, can enhance the sex life. Just my opinion of course. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Years ago before I got adventurous I would see porn is my ex was watching as cheating and I hated it. I then realised because at the time I wasn't highly sexed he needed the realise. Now I think porn is funny. My hubby watches but then just watches it and doesn't wank, what's all that about??? |
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Pretty much anything can cause problems in a marriage if you marry the wrong person, which in my opinion about ~60% of people do. I know one woman who used to flip out when she caught her husband looking at porn (which he did daily) but that was just the tip of the iceberg of her insecurities coming out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I suppose it depends how it is watched. If a guy watches it in secret but then doesnt go near his partner - I am sure that would cause problems. Watching it together however, if done in moderation with a known aim, can enhance the sex life. Just my opinion of course."
This. 
I probably watch as much, if not more porn than my husband. We're both very open about the fact we do, and even send each other links or photos that we've enjoyed.
We have a very healthy, exciting, fulfilling sex life, if anything being able to be so open about things like this, makes our relationship stronger.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pretty much anything can cause problems in a marriage if you marry the wrong person, which in my opinion about ~60% of people do. I know one woman who used to flip out when she caught her husband looking at porn (which he did daily) but that was just the tip of the iceberg of her insecurities coming out. "
Spot on.
I can honestly say that most of the people I know have married the wrong person!
They have settled - and are unfaithful to each other, lie to each other and feel that porn or sex that isn't the "norm" is wrong and dirty!
Then they come on here and cheat on their partners 
Boring!
I really can't be arsed with that sort of relationship and envy the couples on here that are secure enough to realise that monogomy isn't the way forward!
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
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Yes John can be editing porn for online use & spend 10-12hrs at a time doing it, its not his fault as its his job but yes online porn can cause the odd problems in a marriage lol. |
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Yes, it can. If the draw of online Porn is greater than the appeal for your partner; who might be frigid/vanilla, then your grasp of a normal sex life become unrealistic.... if you're lucky, you'll then split up and meet the swinging bi sexual woman of your dreams  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of women think watching porn is cheating.  "
they do. When I was working for relate it was one of the top reasons couples came to therapy. I had to remember not to tell them to get a grip |
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"A lot of women think watching porn is cheating. they do. When I was working for relate it was one of the top reasons couples came to therapy. I had to remember not to tell them to get a grip"
I would say the vast majority of women disapprove of porn. Hence why men watch it in secret. |
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"A lot of women think watching porn is cheating. they do. When I was working for relate it was one of the top reasons couples came to therapy. I had to remember not to tell them to get a grip
I would say the vast majority of women disapprove of porn. Hence why men watch it in secret. "
We watch porn together and separately .
It enhances our relationship , gives us new ideas and we love it  |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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Wasn’t online porn that I would argue about but the video tapes and magazines that my now ex had in the house. The time spent looking at them could’ve been time spent with me. There is a price to pay if you choose porn of any type over your partner. |
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"A lot of women think watching porn is cheating. they do. When I was working for relate it was one of the top reasons couples came to therapy. I had to remember not to tell them to get a grip
I would say the vast majority of women disapprove of porn. Hence why men watch it in secret. "
I never dated a woman who minded it and i have dated over 4 different women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we have been out for drinks and I'm going for ages due to the amount iv d*unk
and she's already finished I put porn on to help
No issues what so ever |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just looked at this one front page of a paper and I have to say it didn't wreck my relationship. Saying that however, none of us were avoid watchers..we were too fond of the real thing in our lives so it wasn't an issue. What's other people's thoughts?"
Maybe if you come across your partner in one  |
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"Just looked at this one front page of a paper and I have to say it didn't wreck my relationship. Saying that however, none of us were avoid watchers..we were too fond of the real thing in our lives so it wasn't an issue. What's other people's thoughts?"
Quite possibly if you were starting in it unbeknown to your other half
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's depends how healthy your relationship is at the time, I mean Iv never seen it as cheating but when my ex used to watch porn rather them come to bed with me I found it offensive and took it personal (it wasn't he was jut a knob) but now I'm happily married with a good man, we have a great marriage, sex life and I feel secure and confident. he can watch what he wants and so can I
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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"If someone is threatened by porn then they need to sort theselves out.
It should be a healthy part of any relationship."
My ex would stay up late watching porn so I was in bed alone. No I didn’t need to sort myself out. He should’ve been in bed with me his wife. We had young kids at the time and I felt second best I couldn’t compete with the porn.
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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"I think it's depends how healthy your relationship is at the time, I mean Iv never seen it as cheating but when my ex used to watch porn rather them come to bed with me I found it offensive and took it personal (it wasn't he was jut a knob) but now I'm happily married with a good man, we have a great marriage, sex life and I feel secure and confident. he can watch what he wants and so can I
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Totally agree. You can’t compete with porn. It is a very personal thing. Being rejected for porn does have an affect on you.
Glad you’re happy now. |
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"If someone is threatened by porn then they need to sort theselves out.
It should be a healthy part of any relationship.
My ex would stay up late watching porn so I was in bed alone. No I didn’t need to sort myself out. He should’ve been in bed with me his wife. We had young kids at the time and I felt second best I couldn’t compete with the porn.
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If you were offering him sex then yeah he shouldn't pick jacking off over pussy, but the male ejaculation is more powerful than sleeping tablets for helping one doze off, so it's understandable he wanted to blow his load. |
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"If someone is threatened by porn then they need to sort theselves out.
It should be a healthy part of any relationship.
My ex would stay up late watching porn so I was in bed alone. No I didn’t need to sort myself out. He should’ve been in bed with me his wife. We had young kids at the time and I felt second best I couldn’t compete with the porn.
If you were offering him sex then yeah he shouldn't pick jacking off over pussy, but the male ejaculation is more powerful than sleeping tablets for helping one doze off, so it's understandable he wanted to blow his load. "
Totally agree with this .
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