If they say it’s not appropriate and you feel like you want to , best bet is to find another couple to meet . We won’t meet with people who don’t kiss , way too restrictive and one can’t help wondering how secure they are if they don’t kiss . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We only kiss each other
Just our preference
Is that strange then?"
No I think it's better if the couple just kiss ,as I think it's such an intimate act that I wouldn't feel comfortable |
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Are you kissing the other fem ?
If so then personally it's only reasonable to kiss him too... But these things should be sorted way before you get down to anything..
Or just ask... And don't be offended if it's a no...
Can't beat kissing though...  |
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By *enaultMan
over a year ago
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"Are you kissing the other fem ?
If so then personally it's only reasonable to kiss him too... But these things should be sorted way before you get down to anything..
Or just ask... And don't be offended if it's a no...
Can't beat kissing though... "
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By *azsarCouple
over a year ago
bexhill |
I'm sorry but if I tell any single bloke he can come round and have his cock sucked and fuck the arse off the mrs but he can't kiss her not one would say sorry I will leave it then lol
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"I'm sorry but if I tell any single bloke he can come round and have his cock sucked and fuck the arse off the mrs but he can't kiss her not one would say sorry I will leave it then lol
A bloke is a bloke"
Yes but the OP was asking as a fem not a bloke... |
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
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"Is it appropriate to kiss a guy during a mff,I'm the single female "
We would expect that do's and don'ts would be discussed prior to playing. We would want to know what is and isn't acceptable with the lady just as she would want to know what she could and couldn't do. We'd expect everyone involved to be treated equally.
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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago
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Agree with most posts that, that should be pre play questions, for us tho kissing is a big part of the play. If we didnt want to kiss someone then we definately wouldnt want anything else either |
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We kiss, but some people don't.
If it was an mfmf I can see no kissing being able to work easier . But in an ffm, one of the biggest issues for single girls is feeling the odd one out or the 3rd person, so it might be more awkward.
Make sure you are going to feel completely part of a threesome, not a 2+1.
Just discuss it, and do what feels fun and right for you.
Have fun.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you kissing the other fem ?
If so then personally it's only reasonable to kiss him too... But these things should be sorted way before you get down to anything..
Or just ask... And don't be offended if it's a no...
Can't beat kissing though...
Absolutely bang-on response!"
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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Some couples seem to be quite precious about the kissing thing, if they didn't want it I would of thought they would mention it tbh. I wouldn't meet anyone who didn't include kissing as part of the package  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Too many rules makes a crap meet!
I have found that meeting an MF couple there are too many rules.
I can't be arsed!
Kissing is a big part of sex for me. |
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I guess it depends on the couple you're meeting, and what their preference is.
In the early days of our swinging adventures, we tried keeping kissing just between the two of us when we met other guys for a threesome, but it felt too unnatural and clinical to me, so we quickly binned that rule.
In my opinion, sex without kissing is like a bacon butty without ketchup...a bit bland! 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people use it as a power thing - perhaps because they're struggling to handle the reality of their partner being intimate with others.
We avoid them.
Having said that, I'm a shit kisser anyway  |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"I'm sorry but if I tell any single bloke he can come round and have his cock sucked and fuck the arse off the mrs but he can't kiss her not one would say sorry I will leave it then lol
A bloke is a bloke"
Haha. Probably true. Weirdly for a 1 on 1, I would be massively dissappointed with no kissing. With a couple I wouldnt be fussed either way. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"I'm sorry but if I tell any single bloke he can come round and have his cock sucked and fuck the arse off the mrs but he can't kiss her not one would say sorry I will leave it then lol
A bloke is a bloke
Yes but the OP was asking as a fem not a bloke... "
Saves starting a new thread asking the opposite question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Too many rules makes a crap meet!
I have found that meeting an MF couple there are too many rules.
I can't be arsed!
Kissing is a big part of sex for me."
Exactly this! Our rules are near on non existent and can be very difficult finding couples who don't have a massive list of do's and don'ts which we feel sucks the fun out of it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont get it...so a guy from a couple can stick his cock in any hole the fem would allow him to but he could't kiss her cos that's too intimate? Oh my days! "
no for me he can't kiss me as it spoils it for me. I dont enjoy it and makes me feel uncomfortable.... however Mr loves kissing so in a mff we would encourage it. |
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I much prefer spontaneous meets half the fun goes out the window when you write our a shopping list.
Safer sex is the only requirement then it's go with the flow..Maybe he wiil kiss you in which case you don't have to worry....
Have fun. |
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"I guess it depends on the couple you're meeting, and what their preference is.
In the early days of our swinging adventures, we tried keeping kissing just between the two of us when we met other guys for a threesome, but it felt too unnatural and clinical to me, so we quickly binned that rule.
In my opinion, sex without kissing is like a bacon butty without ketchup...a bit bland!
She likes brown sauce
V x"
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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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"Is it appropriate to kiss a guy during a mff,I'm the single female "
This is one of those things that would come up in the 'expectatons' convo yous have before the play.
We try to get through as much of the expectations as we can on our profile and state we like to kiss our playmates as some couples don't so the question does arise. |
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"Is it appropriate to kiss a guy during a mff,I'm the single female "
I always check the rules before any meet anyway
When I have played with couples I would always stick to their rules but kissing is important to me so wouldn’t meet with couples that didn’t kiss
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We're happy to kiss if the other person/ couple are but will also respect others boundaries so it's all about what everyone is comfortable with. It's all about mutual respect and enjoyment so if everyone's happy that's what really matters  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Too many rules makes a crap meet!
I have found that meeting an MF couple there are too many rules.
I can't be arsed!
Kissing is a big part of sex for me."
I'm totally with you on this.
I gave up looking for couples because of all the rules involved.
Maybe some couples need to think about wether they really want a third person?
Guess that's probably why single bi women are called unicorns? They are out there but couples ruin it for themselves. |
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"If they say it’s not appropriate and you feel like you want to , best bet is to find another couple to meet . We won’t meet with people who don’t kiss , way too restrictive and one can’t help wondering how secure they are if they don’t kiss ."
Plus it would be too hard to resist kissing you  |
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"Come and meet and play with us..... We'll both kiss you, deeply, separately then both at the same time....
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Jane & Marc"
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"We only kiss each other
Just our preference
Is that strange then?"
No it isn't. People will tell you it is and will imply that you're insecure in your relationship or are jealous. Quite why they feel able to make such massive assumptions about other people's relationships I really don't know. |
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"We only kiss each other
Just our preference
Is that strange then?
No it isn't. People will tell you it is and will imply that you're insecure in your relationship or are jealous. Quite why they feel able to make such massive assumptions about other people's relationships I really don't know."
Perhaps they speak from experience ?
We have met a fair few couples who don’t kiss , and every one of them seemed somewhat insecure . We stopped meeting such couples a few years ago as it became something we no longer enjoyed .
It truly is hard work maintaining a meaningful sexual liaison when you are constantly thinking about how you can’t kiss the person you are with .
I’ve likened it to being somewhat cold , and I genuinely struggle to understand why couples who don’t kiss others make this choice if it isn’t down to insecurity . |
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"We only kiss each other
Just our preference
Is that strange then?
No it isn't. People will tell you it is and will imply that you're insecure in your relationship or are jealous. Quite why they feel able to make such massive assumptions about other people's relationships I really don't know.
Perhaps they speak from experience ?
We have met a fair few couples who don’t kiss , and every one of them seemed somewhat insecure . We stopped meeting such couples a few years ago as it became something we no longer enjoyed .
It truly is hard work maintaining a meaningful sexual liaison when you are constantly thinking about how you can’t kiss the person you are with .
I’ve likened it to being somewhat cold , and I genuinely struggle to understand why couples who don’t kiss others make this choice if it isn’t down to insecurity ."
Possibly you don't need to understand the dynamic of other people's relationships if you aren't going to meet them.
I can't reply at length as we're celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary shortly and are busy making arrangements. |
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"We only kiss each other
Just our preference
Is that strange then?
No it isn't. People will tell you it is and will imply that you're insecure in your relationship or are jealous. Quite why they feel able to make such massive assumptions about other people's relationships I really don't know.
Perhaps they speak from experience ?
We have met a fair few couples who don’t kiss , and every one of them seemed somewhat insecure . We stopped meeting such couples a few years ago as it became something we no longer enjoyed .
It truly is hard work maintaining a meaningful sexual liaison when you are constantly thinking about how you can’t kiss the person you are with .
I’ve likened it to being somewhat cold , and I genuinely struggle to understand why couples who don’t kiss others make this choice if it isn’t down to insecurity ."
Mr loves to kiss.. I love to see him kiss for me although I've tried... kissing other men makes me feel uncomfortable and the closeness makes me feel awkward. I used to put up with it for a bit.. But now I just avoid or make it clear I dont. My lack of kissing started a long time before I met Mr. And in fact before him I didn't kiss... so there is no insecurity about kissing.. actually Mr would prefer it if I did.
I can playfully kiss if its people I know well.... and can kiss women fine. |
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"We only kiss each other
Just our preference
Is that strange then?
No it isn't. People will tell you it is and will imply that you're insecure in your relationship or are jealous. Quite why they feel able to make such massive assumptions about other people's relationships I really don't know.
Perhaps they speak from experience ?
We have met a fair few couples who don’t kiss , and every one of them seemed somewhat insecure . We stopped meeting such couples a few years ago as it became something we no longer enjoyed .
It truly is hard work maintaining a meaningful sexual liaison when you are constantly thinking about how you can’t kiss the person you are with .
I’ve likened it to being somewhat cold , and I genuinely struggle to understand why couples who don’t kiss others make this choice if it isn’t down to insecurity .
Possibly you don't need to understand the dynamic of other people's relationships if you aren't going to meet them.
I can't reply at length as we're celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary shortly and are busy making arrangements. "
Enjoy !
And congratulations |
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"We only kiss each other
Just our preference
Is that strange then?
No it isn't. People will tell you it is and will imply that you're insecure in your relationship or are jealous. Quite why they feel able to make such massive assumptions about other people's relationships I really don't know.
Perhaps they speak from experience ?
We have met a fair few couples who don’t kiss , and every one of them seemed somewhat insecure . We stopped meeting such couples a few years ago as it became something we no longer enjoyed .
It truly is hard work maintaining a meaningful sexual liaison when you are constantly thinking about how you can’t kiss the person you are with .
I’ve likened it to being somewhat cold , and I genuinely struggle to understand why couples who don’t kiss others make this choice if it isn’t down to insecurity .
Mr loves to kiss.. I love to see him kiss for me although I've tried... kissing other men makes me feel uncomfortable and the closeness makes me feel awkward. I used to put up with it for a bit.. But now I just avoid or make it clear I dont. My lack of kissing started a long time before I met Mr. And in fact before him I didn't kiss... so there is no insecurity about kissing.. actually Mr would prefer it if I did.
I can playfully kiss if its people I know well.... and can kiss women fine. "
Is it not possible that the fact that you feel uncomfortable with the closeness of kissing another man may make him feel like you may be a bit insecure ?
I’m not saying you are , but he may think this from your reaction , just as we do . I’m sure you have your own reasons for feeling this way , and they are yours alone so I’m not asking what they may be .
Would you agree that it’s difficult to establish an erotically charged play without kissing ? |
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"We only kiss each other
Just our preference
Is that strange then?
No it isn't. People will tell you it is and will imply that you're insecure in your relationship or are jealous. Quite why they feel able to make such massive assumptions about other people's relationships I really don't know.
Perhaps they speak from experience ?
We have met a fair few couples who don’t kiss , and every one of them seemed somewhat insecure . We stopped meeting such couples a few years ago as it became something we no longer enjoyed .
It truly is hard work maintaining a meaningful sexual liaison when you are constantly thinking about how you can’t kiss the person you are with .
I’ve likened it to being somewhat cold , and I genuinely struggle to understand why couples who don’t kiss others make this choice if it isn’t down to insecurity .
Possibly you don't need to understand the dynamic of other people's relationships if you aren't going to meet them.
I can't reply at length as we're celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary shortly and are busy making arrangements.
Enjoy !
And congratulations "
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"We only kiss each other
Just our preference
Is that strange then?
No it isn't. People will tell you it is and will imply that you're insecure in your relationship or are jealous. Quite why they feel able to make such massive assumptions about other people's relationships I really don't know.
Perhaps they speak from experience ?
We have met a fair few couples who don’t kiss , and every one of them seemed somewhat insecure . We stopped meeting such couples a few years ago as it became something we no longer enjoyed .
It truly is hard work maintaining a meaningful sexual liaison when you are constantly thinking about how you can’t kiss the person you are with .
I’ve likened it to being somewhat cold , and I genuinely struggle to understand why couples who don’t kiss others make this choice if it isn’t down to insecurity .
Mr loves to kiss.. I love to see him kiss for me although I've tried... kissing other men makes me feel uncomfortable and the closeness makes me feel awkward. I used to put up with it for a bit.. But now I just avoid or make it clear I dont. My lack of kissing started a long time before I met Mr. And in fact before him I didn't kiss... so there is no insecurity about kissing.. actually Mr would prefer it if I did.
I can playfully kiss if its people I know well.... and can kiss women fine.
Is it not possible that the fact that you feel uncomfortable with the closeness of kissing another man may make him feel like you may be a bit insecure ?
I’m not saying you are , but he may think this from your reaction , just as we do . I’m sure you have your own reasons for feeling this way , and they are yours alone so I’m not asking what they may be .
Would you agree that it’s difficult to establish an erotically charged play without kissing ? "
No as I didn't kiss as a single either. I've tried to kiss because I know Mr would love me to.
I dont seem to have issues with play either . In 18 years of playing ive only had to tell a guy no too kissing a handful of times .. as they just don't kiss to start with.
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No as I didn't kiss as a single either. I've tried to kiss because I know Mr would love me to.
I dont seem to have issues with play either . In 18 years of playing ive only had to tell a guy no too kissing a handful of times .. as they just don't kiss to start with.
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We've never had to tell anyone even before it was on our profile. |
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I stopped having mmf cos i was expected to be a performing seal for both m and f but with a list as lobg as ur arm about what I couldnt do with the man... usually kissing was top of that list. |
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