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Racial preference due to bad experience
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By *BC TWO OP Couple (MM)
over a year ago
Leicester / Birmingham /Bucks |
Ok so everybody on here has some kind of preference about the kind of people they meet, Which is good because you want to be physically attracted to the man who is about to stick their dick into your fanny or vice versa attracted to the woman you're about to stick your willy in.
Personally i only meet humans, No goats or donkeys  ..not my thing there done and dusted.
BUT...i don't understand people who try to bring up some weird explanations such as "i don't meet asian males after having a bad experience with one" or something along the lines off "i only meet white males after a bad experience with a black male"
Now my question is...So if you only meet white males (could be any other race this is just an example) due to a bad experience with a black male (again could be any other race) and then after a few months you had a bad experience with a white male, does this mean you'll stop swinging all together ??
Many women on here have had bad experience with men in general (because this is fab and alot of the men are idiots) but why do some people drill it down and label the whole race as bad?
Again if you have a racial preference fair enough, i do too. There has to be an attraction. But i get confused about people who have a racial preference due to a bad experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One profile I viewed wouldn't meet bald men due to a bad experience !! You're right OP. How far will some people go to whittle down the list of possibles? Having said this I don't think I'd meet a bald women.  |
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Casual racism comes into it, certainly. As a society we don't tend to identify all white people as having specific traits. But people are pretty quick to make generalizations about non-white people.
So a bad experience with a white person can be put down to the individual, but with a non-white person, that bad experience is mistaken for saying something about their race as a whole. |
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I completely understand your point of view OP. The reason why I tend to meet black men only is because that is what I'm physically attracted too, and always have been. That being said I have played with other races also because when at a party, I've started chatting and they have mentally caught my attention etc
It's all about preference but I agree that you shouldn't rule out and entire race based on one bad experience |
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By *BC TWO OP Couple (MM)
over a year ago
Leicester / Birmingham /Bucks |
"Casual racism comes into it, certainly. As a society we don't tend to identify all white people as having specific traits. But people are pretty quick to make generalizations about non-white people.
So a bad experience with a white person can be put down to the individual, but with a non-white person, that bad experience is mistaken for saying something about their race as a whole. "
wow this is spot on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok I'll put this out there and wait to get burnt at the stake (again):
I'm an equal opps fucker. I'm currently meeting a man 'of Pakistani heritage' (I've been coached on the terminology and everything), but I have had several crap experiences with pushy, presumptuous men of 'Pakistani and Indian heritage'. I am aware that I now view guys of 'PaIh' with increased suspicion. I have of course had crap experiences with white guys, but on a percentage basis, crap 'PaIh' experiences vastly outweigh those with white or black men. Sometimes it's difficult to pull away from the stereotypes when your personal experience reinforces them.
Sorry - I hate saying that in print. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
"We have met every race , colour , creed there is I think , both male and female .
We would never stereotype anyone by the colour of their skin or ethnic origin ."
100% This, it really is that simple for us.  |
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everyone stereotypes to some degree-that's simply how your mind tries to organise the world to make it easier to make quick decisions. the only difference is that open minded people are able to change their first impression of someone.
I didn't meet black guys for a while due to my ex. I got over it though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There must be cases where’s this is actually the case, but as people have said above, I also think it’s just a cover up for prejudice. I meet people based on whether I like them, I like to be uncomplicated. |
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By *BC TWO OP Couple (MM)
over a year ago
Leicester / Birmingham /Bucks |
"There must be cases where’s this is actually the case, but as people have said above, I also think it’s just a cover up for prejudice. I meet people based on whether I like them, I like to be uncomplicated. "
Ok great, but my question to those people is that if they had a bad experience with another race...and then another...does it mean they will stop swinging all together? lol |
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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
We are extremely eclectic in our tastes regarding different races. In fact it sometimes feels we are on a mission to shag every race, creed and colour lol.
However, we have found that asian males (as in arab types) have been in general surly and resentful of rejection. In clubs they seem to have no respect for a woman's choice to say no. |
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It sounds like a cop out or a convenient excuse.
However let’s not forget the severity of the “bad experience” if it’s true. Then it’s important to remember that people are in this for a good time. So reliving bad times isn’t a good idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There must be cases where’s this is actually the case, but as people have said above, I also think it’s just a cover up for prejudice. I meet people based on whether I like them, I like to be uncomplicated.
Ok great, but my question to those people is that if they had a bad experience with another race...and then another...does it mean they will stop swinging all together? lol"
I see that question now, apologies. I’m very lucky and have only had one bad experience in the five years I’ve been here. Personally, no, it wouldn’t put me off, but I’ll caveat that by saying it would depend on the severity of the encounters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a 27 year bad experience with my white husband. It didn't put me off white men.
I have found one nationality to be quite stereotypical from here. It still hasn't put me off, as it has only been 3/3 so far; I need more numbers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason for attraction - that's just the way we feel!
I'm usually attracted to white men - though I'm mixed race myself.
But then there are some beautiful black men on here - so I'm not exclusive.
The bad experiences I've had have been with arseholes - their ethnic background didn't come into it!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason for attraction - that's just the way we feel!
I'm usually attracted to white men - though I'm mixed race myself.
But then there are some beautiful black men on here - so I'm not exclusive.
The bad experiences I've had have been with arseholes - their ethnic background didn't come into it!
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Sounds like a poem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a very bad experience with a man who was a certain race, and it left me with mental scars. If I see a man who looks similar to him or has the same kind of accent, I panic and I can't control that. It's unfortunate and I feel bad, but there's nothing I can do. |
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"One profile I viewed wouldn't meet bald men due to a bad experience !! You're right OP. How far will some people go to whittle down the list of possibles? Having said this I don't think I'd meet a bald women. "
So if you have this attitude why do you expect women to want to meet the bald you?
Sally |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People are attracted to certain types/races etc. This is because we are human.
End of....."
End of 
I find darker skinned, darker haired ladies particularly attractive.
I'm married to a fair skinned, blonde  But I fancy her too
Expressing your preference is an entirely different thing than using the term 'preference' to excuse your prejudices. |
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"I retract my post. I've reread it and I hate it. I was talking bollocks. The Brain's point about numbers is a sound one."
Why? It was spot on and honest.
I think race is often used as a less complex substitute for values, which is a highly valid reason not to fuck someone you actually intend to talk with before / after. |
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