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By *an789Man
over a year ago
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Surely if you're into this lifestyle you're enjoying it and it's something you really enjoy doing. Let's be honest.. It's a great way to relax, feel free and live out fantasies that most people only dream about in vanilla world.
I think life's more fun with swinging and clubs so I'd say you should embrace that and seek a partner who gets you and allow them to be them...?
I've been totally honest with gf's over recent years as my kinky world was hidden and not shared. It's led to better relationships and me being me. I'd highly recommend it. Plus if you get it out of of the way early on.. You can embrace it or move on.
My advice... Tell them... So they'll think you either wierd or awesome... Both are true x |
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"Would you introduce your current or future spouse into swinging?
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Chatted up a girl at a rock concert last week, after a few days of text flirting, I told her what I was into, thinking she'd probably run a mile but didn't feel comfortable shagging her without her knowing how many other people I was shagging. She didn't run, she sounded intrigued. I think I've created a monster, lol |
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"Would you introduce your current or future spouse into swinging?
Chatted up a girl at a rock concert last week, after a few days of text flirting, I told her what I was into, thinking she'd probably run a mile but didn't feel comfortable shagging her without her knowing how many other people I was shagging. She didn't run, she sounded intrigued. I think I've created a monster, lol"
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Interesting divide here.
Currently single, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a girl who wasn't either into or at least interested in the concept.
The thinking is I would be rubbish at being faithful to one person.
I don't quite understand those who say they would not introduce their partners to it.
Would you stop playing all together or just do it behind their backs? |
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"Would you introduce your current or future spouse into swinging?
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Gavin here 
When Stacey and I met (8 years ago) it had never occurred to me to introduce her to swinging. Then we had the sexual past conversation and a few months later we were on here!
I’d say to singles thinking about future partners: Perhaps not ask them to do it, but be honest about your past. You never know |
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over a year ago
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"Interesting divide here.
Currently single, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a girl who wasn't either into or at least interested in the concept.
The thinking is I would be rubbish at being faithful to one person.
I don't quite understand those who say they would not introduce their partners to it.
Would you stop playing all together or just do it behind their backs?"
There's much more to life than shagging strangers. |
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For me unless they are already involved in this sort of scene I'd be already having the conversation about being trans , so random sex I'd had with strangers wouldn't get a mention.
I spent the last ten years off any sort of alternative sexual scene and was completely faithful and don't feel like I missed out
Though nowadays as I'm not looking for a relationship the women I meet are generally into some sort of kink so swinging/fet would be involved from the beginning , hence my never say never.
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100% yes It's been part of my life for years between periods of monogamy or celibacy.
I know what I like as a person and would hope to find someone with a similar outlook. LTRs are built on trust while it is possible to sepe rate part of your life from a partner I fail to see why this should be the case with swinging when starting a (new) LTR and very few reasons in an existing one although there can be very legitimate exceptions.
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"Would you introduce your current or future spouse into swinging?
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I won't be in another monogamous relationship, any future partner will know about it well before we are an item. |
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"Interesting divide here.
Currently single, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a girl who wasn't either into or at least interested in the concept.
The thinking is I would be rubbish at being faithful to one person.
I don't quite understand those who say they would not introduce their partners to it.
Would you stop playing all together or just do it behind their backs?
There's much more to life than shagging strangers. "
The very ethos of the site is shagging strangers !
It’s a perfectly pertinent question , and somewhat ironic that so many singles say they wouldn’t introduce their partner to swinging .
Clearly ( and I’m not singling you out ) , the singles who wouldn’t swing with a partner have little or no understanding of the true nature of the swinging lifestyle , or simply are here to fill a gap .
We have met so many singles who don’t get how we can possibly love each other properly as we have sex with so many others . They are only to happy to have sex with us , but don’t understand how deep our relationship is . We have also met plenty of singles who do get it , and a fair few have been open about how they are cheating on their partner . They wish their partner would join the swinging lifestyle but to no avail , and so they cheat .
Maybe some of us are wired to do this , and some aren’t ? I don’t know the answer , but the singles who wouldn't do it should ask themselves why . Do they think couples like us are wrong in some way ? A genuine question with no malice intended .
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"Interesting divide here.
Currently single, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a girl who wasn't either into or at least interested in the concept.
The thinking is I would be rubbish at being faithful to one person.
I don't quite understand those who say they would not introduce their partners to it.
Would you stop playing all together or just do it behind their backs?
There's much more to life than shagging strangers.
The very ethos of the site is shagging strangers !
It’s a perfectly pertinent question , and somewhat ironic that so many singles say they wouldn’t introduce their partner to swinging .
Clearly ( and I’m not singling you out ) , the singles who wouldn’t swing with a partner have little or no understanding of the true nature of the swinging lifestyle , or simply are here to fill a gap .
We have met so many singles who don’t get how we can possibly love each other properly as we have sex with so many others . They are only to happy to have sex with us , but don’t understand how deep our relationship is . We have also met plenty of singles who do get it , and a fair few have been open about how they are cheating on their partner . They wish their partner would join the swinging lifestyle but to no avail , and so they cheat .
Maybe some of us are wired to do this , and some aren’t ? I don’t know the answer , but the singles who wouldn't do it should ask themselves why . Do they think couples like us are wrong in some way ? A genuine question with no malice intended .
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I know it looks otherwise but I'm one of the ones that DO understand swinging. I think a couple where both are equally into it is just brilliant. Whether that's meeting couples or soft swing or socials or gangbangs or threesomes or whatever. Sharing the experience just can't be described. But I don't need to because you know.
Can you imagine doing this on your own? Either of you I mean. Without your partner there to share it with you? Like going to a rock concert all alone. Still fun but not the same.
I have had that experience with a partner and that's why I understand.
The reasons why I wouldn't do it again are personal to me. There's more to life than shagging around. I don't mean shagging is a bad thing at all. Just for me it's not my everything.
And I apologise if that sounds like I'm inferring that you- or anyone else- have nothing but sex in your life, because I'm not.
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"Interesting divide here.
Currently single, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a girl who wasn't either into or at least interested in the concept.
The thinking is I would be rubbish at being faithful to one person.
I don't quite understand those who say they would not introduce their partners to it.
Would you stop playing all together or just do it behind their backs?
There's much more to life than shagging strangers.
The very ethos of the site is shagging strangers !
It’s a perfectly pertinent question , and somewhat ironic that so many singles say they wouldn’t introduce their partner to swinging .
Clearly ( and I’m not singling you out ) , the singles who wouldn’t swing with a partner have little or no understanding of the true nature of the swinging lifestyle , or simply are here to fill a gap .
We have met so many singles who don’t get how we can possibly love each other properly as we have sex with so many others . They are only to happy to have sex with us , but don’t understand how deep our relationship is . We have also met plenty of singles who do get it , and a fair few have been open about how they are cheating on their partner . They wish their partner would join the swinging lifestyle but to no avail , and so they cheat .
Maybe some of us are wired to do this , and some aren’t ? I don’t know the answer , but the singles who wouldn't do it should ask themselves why . Do they think couples like us are wrong in some way ? A genuine question with no malice intended .
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The singles who won't do it don't need to ask themselves why. It's simply their choice. On the flip side they should appreciate you embrace swinging as a couple. |
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over a year ago
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"Interesting divide here.
Currently single, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a girl who wasn't either into or at least interested in the concept.
The thinking is I would be rubbish at being faithful to one person.
I don't quite understand those who say they would not introduce their partners to it.
Would you stop playing all together or just do it behind their backs?
There's much more to life than shagging strangers.
The very ethos of the site is shagging strangers !
It’s a perfectly pertinent question , and somewhat ironic that so many singles say they wouldn’t introduce their partner to swinging .
Clearly ( and I’m not singling you out ) , the singles who wouldn’t swing with a partner have little or no understanding of the true nature of the swinging lifestyle , or simply are here to fill a gap .
We have met so many singles who don’t get how we can possibly love each other properly as we have sex with so many others . They are only to happy to have sex with us , but don’t understand how deep our relationship is . We have also met plenty of singles who do get it , and a fair few have been open about how they are cheating on their partner . They wish their partner would join the swinging lifestyle but to no avail , and so they cheat .
Maybe some of us are wired to do this , and some aren’t ? I don’t know the answer , but the singles who wouldn't do it should ask themselves why . Do they think couples like us are wrong in some way ? A genuine question with no malice intended .
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Firstly people cheat, the swinging scene & sites like this make the facilitation of this a lot easier ~ so when some people express to you they cheat because their other halves wouldnt join in this lifestyle I'd be inclined to take that with a huge pinch of salt as I doubt they've ever asked / want them to.
I'm not a swinger, I don't play with couples I meet single men. If I was ever to be in another relationship I wouldn't be looking to bring other people into our life, that person would be enough, it wouldn't be all about the sex. It's hard to explain fully what I mean and it's not meant to be detrimental to those that are on here as a couple.
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over a year ago
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I never want another "traditional relationship". If i do end up falling for someone amd want something more it will be on the basis that we are "special friends " and i would still want to fuck others either with them or alone. And i wouldnt want to see them all the time either.
So answer to that yes/maybe  |
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Yes definitely.
I doubt I will have another traditional relationship again.
I don't want to live with anyone or be monogamous with one person.
And I certainly don't want the bullshit of pretending to be faithful.
But I want companionship - and to share my life with someone that gets me.
It's not all about shagging strangers for me - it's about being honest about wanting to |
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"There's much more to life than shagging strangers. "
There is indeed, but since it says "fabswingers" at the top of this page, we won't be discussing atomic fusion here today...
Two things. Swinging is, in my mind, something that involves a lot of sharing and can only be done by a couple that is perfectly solid.
If you are happy to meet couples, but don't think you could share your own partner, perhaps you just don't expect there to be enough trust and strength?
The second point: People are only strangers up to the point where you first meet them.
When my partner and were swinging, we built a great network of friends we could socialise, eat, drink, be merry AND have sex with.
That to me was the best bit about the lifestyle. We only ever had sex with "strangers" a handful of times over the years. |
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Depends really; I've been in a relationship when we were both into it and enjoyed swinging. And I've been in a relationship where it just wouldn't have worked.
I've been to swinging clubs where one half of the couple is clearly more into it than the other, which to my mind is unfair on the person who isn't really into it. |
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"Interesting divide here.
Currently single, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a girl who wasn't either into or at least interested in the concept.
The thinking is I would be rubbish at being faithful to one person.
I don't quite understand those who say they would not introduce their partners to it.
Would you stop playing all together or just do it behind their backs?
There's much more to life than shagging strangers.
The very ethos of the site is shagging strangers !
It’s a perfectly pertinent question , and somewhat ironic that so many singles say they wouldn’t introduce their partner to swinging .
Clearly ( and I’m not singling you out ) , the singles who wouldn’t swing with a partner have little or no understanding of the true nature of the swinging lifestyle , or simply are here to fill a gap .
We have met so many singles who don’t get how we can possibly love each other properly as we have sex with so many others . They are only to happy to have sex with us , but don’t understand how deep our relationship is . We have also met plenty of singles who do get it , and a fair few have been open about how they are cheating on their partner . They wish their partner would join the swinging lifestyle but to no avail , and so they cheat .
Maybe some of us are wired to do this , and some aren’t ? I don’t know the answer , but the singles who wouldn't do it should ask themselves why . Do they think couples like us are wrong in some way ? A genuine question with no malice intended .
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I'm not built emotionally strong enough to watch a man i love and am in a relationship with shag another woman/man. It would not turn me on at all. I would get jealous, because that's the kind of person i am. I want to satisfy the man i'm with, i want to turn him on, get him hard, get him off, experiment with him. But just him.
I am not a swinger. I'm just a single woman looking for sex until the man i want to share my heart and my feelings with walks into my life. I'm on here for sex only, as i'm highly sexed and not getting it regularly as i would in a relationship.
I'm a one man (at a time) woman. Simple as that.
If couples are happy to swing then all power to them. It's not my business, i have no issues with it and i don't judge, just as i wouldn't expect them to judge my reasons for being here.
And once i find Mr Right, i'll be off. No regrets, and no looking back. It would have been fun but that is all it is to me, fun. Not a lifestyle choice.
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"Interesting divide here.
Currently single, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a girl who wasn't either into or at least interested in the concept.
The thinking is I would be rubbish at being faithful to one person.
I don't quite understand those who say they would not introduce their partners to it.
Would you stop playing all together or just do it behind their backs?
There's much more to life than shagging strangers.
The very ethos of the site is shagging strangers !
It’s a perfectly pertinent question , and somewhat ironic that so many singles say they wouldn’t introduce their partner to swinging .
Clearly ( and I’m not singling you out ) , the singles who wouldn’t swing with a partner have little or no understanding of the true nature of the swinging lifestyle , or simply are here to fill a gap .
We have met so many singles who don’t get how we can possibly love each other properly as we have sex with so many others . They are only to happy to have sex with us , but don’t understand how deep our relationship is . We have also met plenty of singles who do get it , and a fair few have been open about how they are cheating on their partner . They wish their partner would join the swinging lifestyle but to no avail , and so they cheat .
Maybe some of us are wired to do this , and some aren’t ? I don’t know the answer , but the singles who wouldn't do it should ask themselves why . Do they think couples like us are wrong in some way ? A genuine question with no malice intended .
I'm not built emotionally strong enough to watch a man i love and am in a relationship with shag another woman/man. It would not turn me on at all. I would get jealous, because that's the kind of person i am. I want to satisfy the man i'm with, i want to turn him on, get him hard, get him off, experiment with him. But just him.
I am not a swinger. I'm just a single woman looking for sex until the man i want to share my heart and my feelings with walks into my life. I'm on here for sex only, as i'm highly sexed and not getting it regularly as i would in a relationship.
I'm a one man (at a time) woman. Simple as that.
If couples are happy to swing then all power to them. It's not my business, i have no issues with it and i don't judge, just as i wouldn't expect them to judge my reasons for being here.
And once i find Mr Right, i'll be off. No regrets, and no looking back. It would have been fun but that is all it is to me, fun. Not a lifestyle choice.
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Here’s an interesting one . We were discussing this thread and we both decided that if we weren’t together we wouldn’t swing either .
Why is this ?
Because we both feel that the relationship we have together is so special , and that we swing because we both love to see each other enjoying it . To get such a bond with someone else would be so difficult , so the chances are we would be monogamous if we weren’t with each other .
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No ,I will not introduce a future spouse into swinging because you know how ladies are, I do not want her throwing it in my face when we have an argument. If she is a matured swinger before we meet that is fine but I will not be the one to break it down to her. |
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"Interesting divide here.
Currently single, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a girl who wasn't either into or at least interested in the concept.
The thinking is I would be rubbish at being faithful to one person.
I don't quite understand those who say they would not introduce their partners to it.
Would you stop playing all together or just do it behind their backs?
There's much more to life than shagging strangers.
The very ethos of the site is shagging strangers !
It’s a perfectly pertinent question , and somewhat ironic that so many singles say they wouldn’t introduce their partner to swinging .
Clearly ( and I’m not singling you out ) , the singles who wouldn’t swing with a partner have little or no understanding of the true nature of the swinging lifestyle , or simply are here to fill a gap .
We have met so many singles who don’t get how we can possibly love each other properly as we have sex with so many others . They are only to happy to have sex with us , but don’t understand how deep our relationship is . We have also met plenty of singles who do get it , and a fair few have been open about how they are cheating on their partner . They wish their partner would join the swinging lifestyle but to no avail , and so they cheat .
Maybe some of us are wired to do this , and some aren’t ? I don’t know the answer , but the singles who wouldn't do it should ask themselves why . Do they think couples like us are wrong in some way ? A genuine question with no malice intended .
I'm not built emotionally strong enough to watch a man i love and am in a relationship with shag another woman/man. It would not turn me on at all. I would get jealous, because that's the kind of person i am. I want to satisfy the man i'm with, i want to turn him on, get him hard, get him off, experiment with him. But just him.
I am not a swinger. I'm just a single woman looking for sex until the man i want to share my heart and my feelings with walks into my life. I'm on here for sex only, as i'm highly sexed and not getting it regularly as i would in a relationship.
I'm a one man (at a time) woman. Simple as that.
If couples are happy to swing then all power to them. It's not my business, i have no issues with it and i don't judge, just as i wouldn't expect them to judge my reasons for being here.
And once i find Mr Right, i'll be off. No regrets, and no looking back. It would have been fun but that is all it is to me, fun. Not a lifestyle choice.
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It's refreshing to see a post where a singleton actually admits the reasons they wouldn't, are personal to them, rather than saying "relationships are for 2 people".
Swinging is not for everyone, most people are naturally predisposed to multiple partners but some of the population is naturally predisposed to monogamy. Personally i don't mind singles who come here for sex and wouldn't continue it in a relationship, but it's annoying when they imply monogamy is the proper way to be in a relationship. |
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"Here’s an interesting one . We were discussing this thread and we both decided that if we weren’t together we wouldn’t swing either .
Why is this ?
Because we both feel that the relationship we have together is so special , and that we swing because we both love to see each other enjoying it . To get such a bond with someone else would be so difficult , so the chances are we would be monogamous if we weren’t with each other .
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"Interesting divide here.
Currently single, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a girl who wasn't either into or at least interested in the concept.
The thinking is I would be rubbish at being faithful to one person.
I don't quite understand those who say they would not introduce their partners to it.
Would you stop playing all together or just do it behind their backs?
There's much more to life than shagging strangers.
The very ethos of the site is shagging strangers !
It’s a perfectly pertinent question , and somewhat ironic that so many singles say they wouldn’t introduce their partner to swinging .
Clearly ( and I’m not singling you out ) , the singles who wouldn’t swing with a partner have little or no understanding of the true nature of the swinging lifestyle , or simply are here to fill a gap .
We have met so many singles who don’t get how we can possibly love each other properly as we have sex with so many others . They are only to happy to have sex with us , but don’t understand how deep our relationship is . We have also met plenty of singles who do get it , and a fair few have been open about how they are cheating on their partner . They wish their partner would join the swinging lifestyle but to no avail , and so they cheat .
Maybe some of us are wired to do this , and some aren’t ? I don’t know the answer , but the singles who wouldn't do it should ask themselves why . Do they think couples like us are wrong in some way ? A genuine question with no malice intended .
I'm not built emotionally strong enough to watch a man i love and am in a relationship with shag another woman/man. It would not turn me on at all. I would get jealous, because that's the kind of person i am. I want to satisfy the man i'm with, i want to turn him on, get him hard, get him off, experiment with him. But just him.
I am not a swinger. I'm just a single woman looking for sex until the man i want to share my heart and my feelings with walks into my life. I'm on here for sex only, as i'm highly sexed and not getting it regularly as i would in a relationship.
I'm a one man (at a time) woman. Simple as that.
If couples are happy to swing then all power to them. It's not my business, i have no issues with it and i don't judge, just as i wouldn't expect them to judge my reasons for being here.
And once i find Mr Right, i'll be off. No regrets, and no looking back. It would have been fun but that is all it is to me, fun. Not a lifestyle choice.
It's refreshing to see a post where a singleton actually admits the reasons they wouldn't, are personal to them, rather than saying "relationships are for 2 people".
Swinging is not for everyone, most people are naturally predisposed to multiple partners but some of the population is naturally predisposed to monogamy. Personally i don't mind singles who come here for sex and wouldn't continue it in a relationship, but it's annoying when they imply monogamy is the proper way to be in a relationship. "
It's annoying when either swingers or the monogamy crowd claim their way is the only way. |
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"Interesting divide here.
Currently single, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a girl who wasn't either into or at least interested in the concept.
The thinking is I would be rubbish at being faithful to one person.
I don't quite understand those who say they would not introduce their partners to it.
Would you stop playing all together or just do it behind their backs?
There's much more to life than shagging strangers.
The very ethos of the site is shagging strangers !
It’s a perfectly pertinent question , and somewhat ironic that so many singles say they wouldn’t introduce their partner to swinging .
Clearly ( and I’m not singling you out ) , the singles who wouldn’t swing with a partner have little or no understanding of the true nature of the swinging lifestyle , or simply are here to fill a gap .
We have met so many singles who don’t get how we can possibly love each other properly as we have sex with so many others . They are only to happy to have sex with us , but don’t understand how deep our relationship is . We have also met plenty of singles who do get it , and a fair few have been open about how they are cheating on their partner . They wish their partner would join the swinging lifestyle but to no avail , and so they cheat .
Maybe some of us are wired to do this , and some aren’t ? I don’t know the answer , but the singles who wouldn't do it should ask themselves why . Do they think couples like us are wrong in some way ? A genuine question with no malice intended .
I'm not built emotionally strong enough to watch a man i love and am in a relationship with shag another woman/man. It would not turn me on at all. I would get jealous, because that's the kind of person i am. I want to satisfy the man i'm with, i want to turn him on, get him hard, get him off, experiment with him. But just him.
I am not a swinger. I'm just a single woman looking for sex until the man i want to share my heart and my feelings with walks into my life. I'm on here for sex only, as i'm highly sexed and not getting it regularly as i would in a relationship.
I'm a one man (at a time) woman. Simple as that.
If couples are happy to swing then all power to them. It's not my business, i have no issues with it and i don't judge, just as i wouldn't expect them to judge my reasons for being here.
And once i find Mr Right, i'll be off. No regrets, and no looking back. It would have been fun but that is all it is to me, fun. Not a lifestyle choice.
It's refreshing to see a post where a singleton actually admits the reasons they wouldn't, are personal to them, rather than saying "relationships are for 2 people".
Swinging is not for everyone, most people are naturally predisposed to multiple partners but some of the population is naturally predisposed to monogamy. Personally i don't mind singles who come here for sex and wouldn't continue it in a relationship, but it's annoying when they imply monogamy is the proper way to be in a relationship.
It's annoying when either swingers or the monogamy crowd claim their way is the only way. "
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over a year ago
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This is something I'd absolutely love, yet bringing the topic up itself would be quite difficult.
I would choose the relationship over swinging and there are risks to bringing the topic up.
I hate to pull the man card, I truly do. But I personally think that it would be far easier for a woman to bring up the topic. |
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over a year ago
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"Interesting divide here.
Currently single, I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with a girl who wasn't either into or at least interested in the concept.
The thinking is I would be rubbish at being faithful to one person.
I don't quite understand those who say they would not introduce their partners to it.
Would you stop playing all together or just do it behind their backs?
There's much more to life than shagging strangers.
The very ethos of the site is shagging strangers !
It’s a perfectly pertinent question , and somewhat ironic that so many singles say they wouldn’t introduce their partner to swinging .
Clearly ( and I’m not singling you out ) , the singles who wouldn’t swing with a partner have little or no understanding of the true nature of the swinging lifestyle , or simply are here to fill a gap .
We have met so many singles who don’t get how we can possibly love each other properly as we have sex with so many others . They are only to happy to have sex with us , but don’t understand how deep our relationship is . We have also met plenty of singles who do get it , and a fair few have been open about how they are cheating on their partner . They wish their partner would join the swinging lifestyle but to no avail , and so they cheat .
Maybe some of us are wired to do this , and some aren’t ? I don’t know the answer , but the singles who wouldn't do it should ask themselves why . Do they think couples like us are wrong in some way ? A genuine question with no malice intended .
I'm not built emotionally strong enough to watch a man i love and am in a relationship with shag another woman/man. It would not turn me on at all. I would get jealous, because that's the kind of person i am. I want to satisfy the man i'm with, i want to turn him on, get him hard, get him off, experiment with him. But just him.
I am not a swinger. I'm just a single woman looking for sex until the man i want to share my heart and my feelings with walks into my life. I'm on here for sex only, as i'm highly sexed and not getting it regularly as i would in a relationship.
I'm a one man (at a time) woman. Simple as that.
If couples are happy to swing then all power to them. It's not my business, i have no issues with it and i don't judge, just as i wouldn't expect them to judge my reasons for being here.
And once i find Mr Right, i'll be off. No regrets, and no looking back. It would have been fun but that is all it is to me, fun. Not a lifestyle choice.
It's refreshing to see a post where a singleton actually admits the reasons they wouldn't, are personal to them, rather than saying "relationships are for 2 people".
Swinging is not for everyone, most people are naturally predisposed to multiple partners but some of the population is naturally predisposed to monogamy. Personally i don't mind singles who come here for sex and wouldn't continue it in a relationship, but it's annoying when they imply monogamy is the proper way to be in a relationship.
It's annoying when either swingers or the monogamy crowd claim their way is the only way.
Good job i acknowledge that "some of the population is naturally predisposed to monogamy" then"
I wasn't disagreeing with you. Chill. |
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"Here’s an interesting one . We were discussing this thread and we both decided that if we weren’t together we wouldn’t swing either .
Why is this ?
Because we both feel that the relationship we have together is so special , and that we swing because we both love to see each other enjoying it . To get such a bond with someone else would be so difficult , so the chances are we would be monogamous if we weren’t with each other .
So now do you understand why some singles feel the same? "
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