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So what do you do next when a social meet has been a disaster?
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"Do you block
Message to say was not for you
Or simply not get back and ignore any messages you may receive?"
Wait for them to message you first. They may also think it was a disaster and not message.
If they do message just reply back politely saying you didn't think there was a spark and that you don't want to meet again. Then block. |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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It depends on the situation and the person. Normally I say there and then if I'm not interested in taking it further. My last one however was slightly different. All was going ok until the last few minutes and on reflection I decided he wasn't for me and blocked him.
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All but the most socially unaware know when it's been a disaster. The difficult ones are where you've shared a drink and a good chat but the chemistry is one sided. In those cases tactful truth is the only way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This social meet lasted 20 mins and we couldn't wait for him to go. He was the most narcissistic guy we ever met. All about himself and no interest in us. Thank God the traffic wardens we're outside the Costa! |
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"This social meet lasted 20 mins and we couldn't wait for him to go. He was the most narcissistic guy we ever met. All about himself and no interest in us. Thank God the traffic wardens we're outside the Costa!"
Did you meet the same guy we did????? |
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"This social meet lasted 20 mins and we couldn't wait for him to go. He was the most narcissistic guy we ever met. All about himself and no interest in us. Thank God the traffic wardens we're outside the Costa!
Did you meet the same guy we did?????"
You beat me to it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's fair to drop him a message to say something fairly non descript but clear about not meeting again.
Hi, thanks for meeting us for a coffee. I'm afraid you're not what we're looking for so we'll just wish you happy Fabbing. |
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"This social meet lasted 20 mins and we couldn't wait for him to go. He was the most narcissistic guy we ever met. All about himself and no interest in us. Thank God the traffic wardens we're outside the Costa!"
In which case he's probably thinking you can't wait to see him again. I wouldn't worry about hurting his feelings if that's the case, he'll only switch whatever you say around in his own head and believe you are worried you'll fall for him and it will destroy your relationship. |
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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago
Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and |
We tend to see if we get a return verification and it’s contents or message from them now. Even when things have gone really well that’s not a sign there is enough of a spark to play. Some out there are just serial socializers.
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"This social meet lasted 20 mins and we couldn't wait for him to go. He was the most narcissistic guy we ever met. All about himself and no interest in us. Thank God the traffic wardens we're outside the Costa!"
Then I would leave it to him to contact and if he does just politely say 'I'm sorry, we didn't feel there was any chemistry, but good luck...' etc etc.
I would never just block that would be rude and below my own standards of behaviour. |
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"This social meet lasted 20 mins and we couldn't wait for him to go. He was the most narcissistic guy we ever met. All about himself and no interest in us. Thank God the traffic wardens we're outside the Costa!
Then I would leave it to him to contact and if he does just politely say 'I'm sorry, we didn't feel there was any chemistry, but good luck...' etc etc.
I would never just block that would be rude and below my own standards of behaviour."
Exactly. Unless he's a complete idiot he will know you aren't interested and not contact you. |
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"Do you block
Message to say was not for you
Or simply not get back and ignore any messages you may receive?"
Fuck knows as we've never done a social .
We have however said no thanks upon meeting someone we didn't fancy on many occasions , and blocked them straight after meeting them . |
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""As much as I enjoyed getting to know you, I don't think we're as compatible as I'd need us to be to take things any further"
Boom.
This is good, can we copy! 
Go for it  "
We obviously won't use it on you, but you would be at liberty to use it on us! |
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""As much as I enjoyed getting to know you, I don't think we're as compatible as I'd need us to be to take things any further"
Boom.
This is good, can we copy!
Go for it
We obviously won't use it on you, but you would be at liberty to use it on us! "
I'd find it amazingly brilliant if you did. I think I'd hit the floor laughing
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you block
Message to say was not for you
Or simply not get back and ignore any messages you may receive?
Fuck knows as we've never done a social .
We have however said no thanks upon meeting someone we didn't fancy on many occasions , and blocked them straight after meeting them ."
Same here, social only meets are a total waste of time....  |
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"It depends on the situation and the person. Normally I say there and then if I'm not interested in taking it further. My last one however was slightly different. All was going ok until the last few minutes and on reflection I decided he wasn't for me and blocked him.
Do what you think is right "
Be careful being negative at the social. Some people can take rejection not well and without going into detail of personal experiences one can become not safe. It's best to message after and block. |
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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago
Fareham |
""As much as I enjoyed getting to know you, I don't think we're as compatible as I'd need us to be to take things any further"
Boom."
Something like this as honesty is always the best policy. |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
Henley Arden |
"This social meet lasted 20 mins and we couldn't wait for him to go. He was the most narcissistic guy we ever met. All about himself and no interest in us. Thank God the traffic wardens we're outside the Costa!"
He will know now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People come and people leave. But how they leave stays forever.
Just take a moment to be honest and say you dont feel compatible in a few kind words. You've done your bit then. |
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Had a social recently with someone been chatting with & including several very long phone calls.
Had a lovely afternoon, great company, great sense of humour, alot in common, but there was no spark.
Got home, trying to think what to say, sent a message saying thanks for the meal, really enjoyed meeting you.. Just didn't know what else to put as he was such a nice guy - I don't have a problem telling the bad ones "no thanks"
I was so relieved when he replied that he'd had a great time too, but didn't feel any chemistry!
I've saved his message, for future use lol!
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I always try and send the first message because I find it more awkward to reject if they send a 'do you want to have sex' type message. Something subtle along the lines of 'thanks for meeting me today but I didn't feel any of dem sexy vibes' If they get arsey I'd block at that point |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
Traffic land |
""As much as I enjoyed getting to know you, I don't think we're as compatible as I'd need us to be to take things any further"
Boom."
Yep, this is roughly what I say too. By the time we'd get to meet we've normally chatted for a while, I'd feel rude to just block. If they got arsey after that message I'd block them then (it's happened once so far) |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"This social meet lasted 20 mins and we couldn't wait for him to go. He was the most narcissistic guy we ever met. All about himself and no interest in us. Thank God the traffic wardens we're outside the Costa!
Did you meet the same guy we did?????
You beat me to it!"
It couldn’t have been me i havent been to Scotland or Leeds in ages lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging? |
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging? "
Sorry, but I don't have sex with people I'm not attracted too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Sorry, but I don't have sex with people I'm not attracted too. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Sorry, but I don't have sex with people I'm not attracted too. "
That's not the point we are making..... |
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Sorry, but I don't have sex with people I'm not attracted too.
That's not the point we are making....."
Of course it isn’t the point you are making , but seriously the site is getting overloaded with people looking to date rather than swing !
Even couples seem to want to establish a major connection ffs !
The dictionary will need to be re written the way things are going . |
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging? "
Some people will fuck any wet hole. Good for you.
I'd rather be precious and not meet people like you. |
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Some people will fuck any wet hole. Good for you.
I'd rather be precious and not meet people like you. "
Ooohhhh .... that’s harsh !
We are very similar to these guys , but certainly wouldn’t fuck any wet hole .
What we will do though , is recognise we are swingers , and maybe get to see how someone is in bed before judging them to be unsuitable .
There’s a big difference in our approach , people are people and as long as they are clean , attractive and friendly , we would rather fuck them than find out where they go on holiday and how the kids are |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Some people will fuck any wet hole. Good for you.
I'd rather be precious and not meet people like you.
Ooohhhh .... that’s harsh !
We are very similar to these guys , but certainly wouldn’t fuck any wet hole .
What we will do though , is recognise we are swingers , and maybe get to see how someone is in bed before judging them to be unsuitable .
There’s a big difference in our approach , people are people and as long as they are clean , attractive and friendly , we would rather fuck them than find out where they go on holiday and how the kids are "
I don't see how it's harsh. They said they just fuck without any chat. That works for some people. I don't want to know about people's kids or holidays or pets either.
Perhaps our approach is the same but more about time. You know instantly if you want to fuck them. I just need more time to figure that out. I meet for a coffee within a week of first chatting because if I chat for too long I get bored. I think you're lucky you can figure it out quickly if you like them or not. |
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We always arrange to meet in clubs. That way if there is no chemistry there is always someone else they can play with. And you don't feel so bad about. Plus we don't have time to meet social. Going for a drink etc..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Some people will fuck any wet hole. Good for you.
I'd rather be precious and not meet people like you.
Ooohhhh .... that’s harsh !
We are very similar to these guys , but certainly wouldn’t fuck any wet hole .
What we will do though , is recognise we are swingers , and maybe get to see how someone is in bed before judging them to be unsuitable .
There’s a big difference in our approach , people are people and as long as they are clean , attractive and friendly , we would rather fuck them than find out where they go on holiday and how the kids are
I don't see how it's harsh. They said they just fuck without any chat. That works for some people. I don't want to know about people's kids or holidays or pets either.
Perhaps our approach is the same but more about time. You know instantly if you want to fuck them. I just need more time to figure that out. I meet for a coffee within a week of first chatting because if I chat for too long I get bored. I think you're lucky you can figure it out quickly if you like them or not. "
At no time did we say we fuck without chat, you clearly misconstrued our post, we were making the point that it's turning into a dating site and people are using it not to swing... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I say that it was nice to meet but we are not really meant for each other ...... and then I block as I've had horrible replies to what I think is a polite message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Some people will fuck any wet hole. Good for you.
I'd rather be precious and not meet people like you.
Ooohhhh .... that’s harsh !
We are very similar to these guys , but certainly wouldn’t fuck any wet hole .
What we will do though , is recognise we are swingers , and maybe get to see how someone is in bed before judging them to be unsuitable .
There’s a big difference in our approach , people are people and as long as they are clean , attractive and friendly , we would rather fuck them than find out where they go on holiday and how the kids are
I don't see how it's harsh. They said they just fuck without any chat. That works for some people. I don't want to know about people's kids or holidays or pets either.
Perhaps our approach is the same but more about time. You know instantly if you want to fuck them. I just need more time to figure that out. I meet for a coffee within a week of first chatting because if I chat for too long I get bored. I think you're lucky you can figure it out quickly if you like them or not.
At no time did we say we fuck without chat, you clearly misconstrued our post, we were making the point that it's turning into a dating site and people are using it not to swing..."
Apologies then. I don't see how having a coffee and a chat means it's turning into a dating site. Surely swinging can mean social activity plus just fucking? I think it's just about finding compatible people. Hence why I wouldn't meet you- I'd do your head in and bore you.
So what is swinging? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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BTW we don't fuck everybody we meet, we chat and flirt and if all up for it, play, if it goes well, we play again, if not, we don't, fairly simple, we have met up and not got on and not played but that's rare as we meet people we are compatable with, having a fairly comprehensive profile helps, those that make far less effort with there profiles and end up meeting people they don't click with, who is to blame? |
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If things get as far as a social, but there's no chemistry or you decide you simply don't fancy the person enough...I think they do deserve a polite message.
I've not had to send one myself nor have I received one but I would not be at all offended if a lady or couple said something along the lines of "I don't think there's a spark there so I'd rather not take things any further".
In reality I'd probably have detected the lack of spark myself too and would not be surprised. But being blocked I'd worry that I'd said something they took as offensive or made some other grievous faux-pas.
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"If things get as far as a social, but there's no chemistry or you decide you simply don't fancy the person enough...I think they do deserve a polite message.
I've not had to send one myself nor have I received one but I would not be at all offended if a lady or couple said something along the lines of "I don't think there's a spark there so I'd rather not take things any further".
In reality I'd probably have detected the lack of spark myself too and would not be surprised. But being blocked I'd worry that I'd said something they took as offensive or made some other grievous faux-pas.
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if you get lucky they will stumble across this post I'm sure that will sort it lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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He had informed us before he never ever read the forums as didn't have time to read them. We did bear this in mind. However he has subsequently sent us a friend's invite! Which to be honest, surprises us. |
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"He had informed us before he never ever read the forums as didn't have time to read them. We did bear this in mind. However he has subsequently sent us a friend's invite! Which to be honest, surprises us. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Some people will fuck any wet hole. Good for you.
I'd rather be precious and not meet people like you.
Ooohhhh .... that’s harsh !
We are very similar to these guys , but certainly wouldn’t fuck any wet hole .
What we will do though , is recognise we are swingers , and maybe get to see how someone is in bed before judging them to be unsuitable .
There’s a big difference in our approach , people are people and as long as they are clean , attractive and friendly , we would rather fuck them than find out where they go on holiday and how the kids are "
I think it’s very different a single woman meeting someone for sex on here and a couple meeting someone.
If I’m going to meet someone whether it’s at their home or in a hotel, then I need to feel safe in their company and for me, the social meet is used to see if I feel comfortable in their company. It’s nothing to do with wanting to date them. |
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Sorry, but I don't have sex with people I'm not attracted too. "
Exactly this |
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Sorry, but I don't have sex with people I'm not attracted too.
Exactly this"
Which bit? Because if you are referring to the retort, maybe the read both the post and our replies further on, PS we don't have sex with people we are not attracted to obviously |
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Some people will fuck any wet hole. Good for you.
I'd rather be precious and not meet people like you.
Ooohhhh .... that’s harsh !
We are very similar to these guys , but certainly wouldn’t fuck any wet hole .
What we will do though , is recognise we are swingers , and maybe get to see how someone is in bed before judging them to be unsuitable .
There’s a big difference in our approach , people are people and as long as they are clean , attractive and friendly , we would rather fuck them than find out where they go on holiday and how the kids are
I think it’s very different a single woman meeting someone for sex on here and a couple meeting someone.
If I’m going to meet someone whether it’s at their home or in a hotel, then I need to feel safe in their company and for me, the social meet is used to see if I feel comfortable in their company. It’s nothing to do with wanting to date them. "
We totally understand that |
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Sorry, but I don't have sex with people I'm not attracted too.
Exactly this
Which bit? Because if you are referring to the retort, maybe the read both the post and our replies further on, PS we don't have sex with people we are not attracted to obviously "
Unfortunately , so many people think people like us will fuck anything and even when there’s no attraction . This couldn’t be farther from the truth .
The fact is that we won’t meet anyone who insists on a social only meet as our time is worth more than such a pointless venture . If we click , we play , if we don’t we don’t . Simple really . |
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Sorry, but I don't have sex with people I'm not attracted too.
Exactly this
Which bit? Because if you are referring to the retort, maybe the read both the post and our replies further on, PS we don't have sex with people we are not attracted to obviously
Unfortunately , so many people think people like us will fuck anything and even when there’s no attraction . This couldn’t be farther from the truth .
The fact is that we won’t meet anyone who insists on a social only meet as our time is worth more than such a pointless venture . If we click , we play , if we don’t we don’t . Simple really ."
I’m curious, if you went out and you didn’t fancy anyone who turned up, would you just leave feeling disappointed or would you play with someone just because you were there and it would feel a waste of time if you didn’t play? |
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Sorry, but I don't have sex with people I'm not attracted too.
Exactly this
Which bit? Because if you are referring to the retort, maybe the read both the post and our replies further on, PS we don't have sex with people we are not attracted to obviously
Unfortunately , so many people think people like us will fuck anything and even when there’s no attraction . This couldn’t be farther from the truth .
The fact is that we won’t meet anyone who insists on a social only meet as our time is worth more than such a pointless venture . If we click , we play , if we don’t we don’t . Simple really .
I’m curious, if you went out and you didn’t fancy anyone who turned up, would you just leave feeling disappointed or would you play with someone just because you were there and it would feel a waste of time if you didn’t play?"
I would never play for the sake of it...got to be some kind of attraction... I would be social.. flirt make friends and look at it as networking!!! |
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What’s wrong with being truthful and just dropping a message? In the time it took to start this thread you could’ve done the correct thing and sent them a message saying you didn’t want to meet up. |
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"Do you block
Message to say was not for you
Or simply not get back and ignore any messages you may receive?"
Does this really need a debate in a public forum?? Just message to say he's not for you, block and move on. Simple. |
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Sorry, but I don't have sex with people I'm not attracted too.
Exactly this
Which bit? Because if you are referring to the retort, maybe the read both the post and our replies further on, PS we don't have sex with people we are not attracted to obviously
Unfortunately , so many people think people like us will fuck anything and even when there’s no attraction . This couldn’t be farther from the truth .
The fact is that we won’t meet anyone who insists on a social only meet as our time is worth more than such a pointless venture . If we click , we play , if we don’t we don’t . Simple really .
I’m curious, if you went out and you didn’t fancy anyone who turned up, would you just leave feeling disappointed or would you play with someone just because you were there and it would feel a waste of time if you didn’t play?"
The beauty of being a couple is that we are never dissapointed if no one suitable turns up as we have each other . So no , we wouldn’t dream of playing for the sake of it , and we wouldn’t see it as a waste of time at all .
It’s a bit like watching your football team every week , sometimes you win , sometimes you lose , but you still go to watch them regardless |
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"This social meet lasted 20 mins and we couldn't wait for him to go. He was the most narcissistic guy we ever met. All about himself and no interest in us. Thank God the traffic wardens we're outside the Costa!"
Just send him a link to this thread |
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"Looking at most of the posts fab seems to have turned into a dating site talk of lovely person but no spark blah blah blah, how do I let him down? Gosh never realised it was such a task fucking strangers for fun, so chill, why not take a chance, forget the social only meets and just get down and dirty you never know but that person you feel you haven't got a spark with socially suddenly could surprise you and the sex could be out of this word! Or are you too precious to actually go swinging?
Sorry, but I don't have sex with people I'm not attracted too.
Exactly this
Which bit? Because if you are referring to the retort, maybe the read both the post and our replies further on, PS we don't have sex with people we are not attracted to obviously
Unfortunately , so many people think people like us will fuck anything and even when there’s no attraction . This couldn’t be farther from the truth .
The fact is that we won’t meet anyone who insists on a social only meet as our time is worth more than such a pointless venture . If we click , we play , if we don’t we don’t . Simple really .
I’m curious, if you went out and you didn’t fancy anyone who turned up, would you just leave feeling disappointed or would you play with someone just because you were there and it would feel a waste of time if you didn’t play?"
Rarely do we get in that situation as we do our homework before we go, our time is precious so we do some legwork before we go, profile, pictures and sensible, to the point, no sexual chat work for us |
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"Try waynetta slob's advice when Wayne is trying to ditch Naomi Campbell ..... Anyone remember?
What was it?"
She told him to do what all men do when they want to break up with a girl: lie . So he goes to a teary, stick thin Naomi Campbell and tells her he can't see her any more because she's too fat. You had to be there I guess ?? |
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"This social meet lasted 20 mins and we couldn't wait for him to go. He was the most narcissistic guy we ever met. All about himself and no interest in us. Thank God the traffic wardens we're outside the Costa!
Just send him a link to this thread"
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"BTW we don't fuck everybody we meet, we chat and flirt and if all up for it, play, if it goes well, we play again, if not, we don't, fairly simple, we have met up and not got on and not played but that's rare as we meet people we are compatable with, having a fairly comprehensive profile helps, those that make far less effort with there profiles and end up meeting people they don't click with, who is to blame? "
So essentially, you don't fuck people who you are not attracted to. Which is exactly what everyone is saying. Regardless of the vocabulary used, there are very few people who will just have sex with anyone. We might be swingers, but we are also still human beings. I like to be treated like one.
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"This social meet lasted 20 mins and we couldn't wait for him to go. He was the most narcissistic guy we ever met. All about himself and no interest in us. Thank God the traffic wardens we're outside the Costa!
Did you meet the same guy we did?????
You beat me to it!"
Think we might have met him recently too...  |
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"Try waynetta slob's advice when Wayne is trying to ditch Naomi Campbell ..... Anyone remember?
What was it?
She told him to do what all men do when they want to break up with a girl: lie . So he goes to a teary, stick thin Naomi Campbell and tells her he can't see her any more because she's too fat. You had to be there I guess ??"
I think you explained it well, thank you. |
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