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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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"Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ?  "
Most over 30s would tell you the same.
If you're serious about meeting, get off the Internet and get to a club, with real people who you can see and talk to |
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That shows you still have some brain maturity to finish off, it’s a normal, physiological process.
Did you not use the word “I” so the question wasn’t directly to yourself, I was asking the forum is that a generalization (do others agree with your statement) or is it just yourself that thinks that |
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"That shows you still have some brain maturity to finish off, it’s a normal, physiological process.
Did you not use the word “I” so the question wasn’t directly to yourself, I was asking the forum is that a generalization (do others agree with your statement) or is it just yourself that thinks that "
I think you're replying to two different people at once OP
If you use the reply and quote it's easier 
I answered you first and I was speaking for myself. I can only speak for myself! |
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Ok you do have somethings which aren’t helping. Firstly you single male so the odds aren’t in your favour to start with. Then you have no pictures and finally you are on the younger side. My advice is to redo your profile |
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"That shows you still have some brain maturity to finish off, it’s a normal, physiological process.
Did you not use the word “I” so the question wasn’t directly to yourself, I was asking the forum is that a generalization (do others agree with your statement) or is it just yourself that thinks that
I think you're replying to two different people at once OP
If you use the reply and quote it's easier
I answered you first and I was speaking for myself. I can only speak for myself! "
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"Ok you do have somethings which aren’t helping. Firstly you single male so the odds aren’t in your favour to start with. Then you have no pictures and finally you are on the younger side. My advice is to redo your profile "
Thank you, and advice on the redo side of things ? |
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"I don't find younger people that attractive. I like the physical and mental maturity that only age can bring. "
Age alone doesn't bring maturity. Life experience does and some experience a lot irrelevant of age. I know this as my fwb is only 22 and she's very mature for her age..even more so than some older people I've met |
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"Ok you do have somethings which aren’t helping. Firstly you single male so the odds aren’t in your favour to start with. Then you have no pictures and finally you are on the younger side. My advice is to redo your profile
Thank you, and advice on the redo side of things ? "
Lool at a thread titled help |
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"I don't find younger people that attractive. I like the physical and mental maturity that only age can bring.
Age alone doesn't bring maturity. Life experience does and some experience a lot irrelevant of age. I know this as my fwb is only 22 and she's very mature for her age..even more so than some older people I've met "
Cool but I like the physical and mental maturity that only age can bring. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Age has a slight bearing due to the fact some women have children and that affects their ability to see a young chap in a sexual manner. It's also rather crucial that you conduct yourself appropriately too. It's just a typical case of preferences and you're not always going to fall within them. Having said that, plenty of photos and frequent posts in forums can help people get a primary idea of your character but I don't feel like moaning or self pity is an attractive trait, I'd imagine that's a similar view for women too. |
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"Age has a slight bearing due to the fact some women have children and that affects their ability to see a young chap in a sexual manner. It's also rather crucial that you conduct yourself appropriately too. It's just a typical case of preferences and you're not always going to fall within them. Having said that, plenty of photos and frequent posts in forums can help people get a primary idea of your character but I don't feel like moaning or self
pity is an attractive trait, I'd imagine that's a similar view for women too. "
Good point i said I’d just ask to see what others thought, I’ll only learn from asking questions |
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Interesting to us stems from getting the feeling that we will have things in common and not just sexual preferences. Yes people can be more 'mature' than others at the same young age but if you're looking for someone you're going to get on socially with it's unlikely (as opposed to impossible) to be someone who's decades younger. For couples with adult children there can also be a natural aversion to having sex with people of a similar age to the kids. That's certainly how we feel and that's why we won't meet younger guys however mature they are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting to us stems from getting the feeling that we will have things in common and not just sexual preferences. Yes people can be more 'mature' than others at the same young age but if you're looking for someone you're going to get on socially with it's unlikely (as opposed to impossible) to be someone who's decades younger. For couples with adult children there can also be a natural aversion to having sex with people of a similar age to the kids. That's certainly how we feel and that's why we won't meet younger guys however mature they are. "
Spot on for the most part, however as for getting on socially with someone decades younger well things ranging from my music taste to general opinions and such generally mean if I go into a bar I'll end up spending most of the evening chatting to people in their mid to late thirties. Just seems to be more captivating conversation for me. |
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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago
London / Herts |
"Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ? "
That's not true - I've been having fun on here, on and off, for a few years, never had too much difficulty meeting people... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are opportunities for everyone on this site no matter what age, It's just where you choose to look for it. I always say go to clubs or socials and connect because you get a better chance to connect with people than you do sending endless messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm guessing a majority of people on here are middle aged and are not comfortable having sex with people young enough to be their son's or daughters.
If there were mostly under 30s on here, including women, old people like me would be getting shut down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer younger men but most under 30s don't accommodate and neither do I. "
That's the beauty with hotels, you needn't have to worry about all of the mess either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer younger men but most under 30s don't accommodate and neither do I.
That's the beauty with hotels, you needn't have to worry about all of the mess either "
I'm looking for regular partners, who can accommodate. Not many people would want to regularly pay for a hotel.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I prefer younger men but most under 30s don't accommodate and neither do I.
That's the beauty with hotels, you needn't have to worry about all of the mess either "
Also personally I enjoy staying in different places and seeing new things along the way so it's perfect for me. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ? "
who says you are being shut down?
I think you have to be pragmatic....
not every person is going to like people young enough to be their sons or daughters....
and not every person is going to like people old enough to be their mums and dads.....
people like to concentrate on the their that excludes them, rather than concentrate on those who embrace them....
sometimes its like being want the challenge of trying to change people who are not going to change, then complaint because they won't change.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not to mention that there are also sapiosexuals around including myself and people of all age ranges where the biggest factor is mental stimulation. You have to engage them from that initial message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I went to a place where young people hang out, and tried to pull, I would be shot down so fast in favour of younger fitter women. So I wonder why all of a sudden young guys come to Fab and take an interest in middle aged women like myself who they wouldn't look twice at when with their peers. I think the 'shooting down' goes both ways. At the end of the day I feel more comfortable with my own age group.
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"It's not your age thats the problem OP.
So what do you think is ? "
You're male
You're single
You have no profile picture
You have no public photos
Your age range goes up to 80
Your profile needs work |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I went to a place where young people hang out, and tried to pull, I would be shot down so fast in favour of younger fitter women. So I wonder why all of a sudden young guys come to Fab and take an interest in middle aged women like myself who they wouldn't look twice at when with their peers. I think the 'shooting down' goes both ways. At the end of the day I feel more comfortable with my own age group.
Mrs"
absolutely this...never seen it put better... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't think age is much of an issue on here either, as we attract quite a few people who find us being younger appealing. I think for some it's the whole mentoring idea so being younger can be beneficial. So I'd say it's more about the quality of your profile, you could put more effort into it, look at other profiles and see what they do for ideas
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would have no problem playing with a guy of your age ...if I didn't have sons in their 20s and 30s! I actually prefer younger guys than myself. I find guys over 55 more set in their ways and controlling which I don't like. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ?
Most over 30s would tell you the same.
If you're serious about meeting, get off the Internet and get to a club, with real people who you can see and talk to"
Exactly - I often play with young guys in a club where I can see and talk to them before committing to play. I've no intention of playing with anyone, young or old, who expects a free fuck for writing a three line message on fab |
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You've been here a while op and maybe seen many posts from single males of all ages who struggle to get meets. Whilst I've been to Ireland, I don't know your club options.
With regard to your age as a single guy, it's less of an issue if you target people who have stated their preference for guys who match you - forget the rest.
Your profile is your main way to sell you, to make yourself seem like the kind of person that u potentially better for the viewer than the rest here. Use that opportunity wisely.
Fab cant make a higher density of potential meets in an area than there are - some places are just more remote and are a long way from commercial venues too. Some people travel regularly to areas with more or different opportunities. There will always be huge competition from other men though and a club visit is no guarantee of any action.
If you mainly want single women then you may be better suited to meet more conventionally. It's reasonable to assume that life here for you single men is not easy - even in major cities like London. |
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"Been here a while and if you not above 30 you getting nothing much ?
Most over 30s would tell you the same.
If you're serious about meeting, get off the Internet and get to a club, with real people who you can see and talk to
Exactly - I often play with young guys in a club where I can see and talk to them before committing to play. I've no intention of playing with anyone, young or old, who expects a free fuck for writing a three line message on fab"
Oh well said!
Personally, I have to engage in conversation.
Now, like other's, age isn't a factor for me, but as other posts have so eloquently put, it may (and I stress the may) be for some.
We are all individuals after all and generalisations are, usually, unreliable.
You've had some good advice here:
1. Work on your profile. What makes you unique, stand out, different?
2. Photos... I'll be the first to admit that mine are rubbish, so will leave others with more experience and credibility to comment there.
3. Have a conversation. Get on a flight and come to the UK (assuming of course you can find one with all the Ryanair cancellations) and go to a club. I know lots of people on the island of Ireland do just that.
Try that and see how it goes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I went to a place where young people hang out, and tried to pull, I would be shot down so fast in favour of younger fitter women. So I wonder why all of a sudden young guys come to Fab and take an interest in middle aged women like myself who they wouldn't look twice at when with their peers. I think the 'shooting down' goes both ways. At the end of the day I feel more comfortable with my own age group.
Mrs"
Its because they think we are all desperate, ugly old bints, and they will get an easy lay
The reality is that we would eat them alive |
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"If I went to a place where young people hang out, and tried to pull, I would be shot down so fast in favour of younger fitter women. So I wonder why all of a sudden young guys come to Fab and take an interest in middle aged women like myself who they wouldn't look twice at when with their peers. I think the 'shooting down' goes both ways. At the end of the day I feel more comfortable with my own age group.
Mrs
absolutely this...never seen it put better..."
Yeah that's nailed that, I agree. I meant to add to my original post, that it works both ways. Doubt anyone under 25 and probably a lot older would have an interest in a woman my age. That's just life. We all have different things to offer at different ages.
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By *TrainMan
over a year ago
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"If I went to a place where young people hang out, and tried to pull, I would be shot down so fast in favour of younger fitter women. So I wonder why all of a sudden young guys come to Fab and take an interest in middle aged women like myself who they wouldn't look twice at when with their peers. I think the 'shooting down' goes both ways. At the end of the day I feel more comfortable with my own age group.
Mrs
absolutely this...never seen it put better...
Yeah that's nailed that, I agree. I meant to add to my original post, that it works both ways. Doubt anyone under 25 and probably a lot older would have an interest in a woman my age. That's just life. We all have different things to offer at different ages.
Where's my zimmer "
Women in their 40s are by far the best
They're more comfortable in themselves and really know how to have fun in meets
And you're beautiful, I'd be surprised at anyone who didn't find you attractive |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I went to a place where young people hang out, and tried to pull, I would be shot down so fast in favour of younger fitter women. So I wonder why all of a sudden young guys come to Fab and take an interest in middle aged women like myself who they wouldn't look twice at when with their peers. I think the 'shooting down' goes both ways. At the end of the day I feel more comfortable with my own age group.
Mrs
absolutely this...never seen it put better...
Yeah that's nailed that, I agree. I meant to add to my original post, that it works both ways. Doubt anyone under 25 and probably a lot older would have an interest in a woman my age. That's just life. We all have different things to offer at different ages.
Where's my zimmer "
In the back of the landy...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have met a few guys under 30 and I actually looked for younger guys too but its not just the age I look for....infact one of my favourite friends on here is in his twentys but that is by far not the only reason we get on so well! |
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To the quote about shutting down older women if younger were beside me, personally age has never been an issue for me, Iv been with more women older than me than younger, I just rather someone who know about life and knows where there going and can hold a conversation and not be so “but what does the other person think”. I find women that are down to earth and can chat are more attractive than a women with a “nice body” or “nice features” I rather having the craic and joking |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To the quote about shutting down older women if younger were beside me, personally age has never been an issue for me, Iv been with more women older than me than younger, I just rather someone who know about life and knows where there going and can hold a conversation and not be so “but what does the other person think”. I find women that are down to earth and can chat are more attractive than a women with a “nice body” or “nice features” I rather having the craic and joking "
They're* sorry to be that guy but I know that's another thing to be mindful of if searching for older ladies. There,they're and their are the usual peeves. |
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"Interesting to us stems from getting the feeling that we will have things in common and not just sexual preferences. Yes people can be more 'mature' than others at the same young age but if you're looking for someone you're going to get on socially with it's unlikely (as opposed to impossible) to be someone who's decades younger. For couples with adult children there can also be a natural aversion to having sex with people of a similar age to the kids. That's certainly how we feel and that's why we won't meet younger guys however mature they are.
Spot on for the most part, however as for getting on socially with someone decades younger well things ranging from my music taste to general opinions and such generally mean if I go into a bar I'll end up spending most of the evening chatting to people in their mid to late thirties. Just seems to be more captivating conversation for me."
But we're not in our mid to late 30's 
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"Speak for yourself. I tend to find alot of users who want to chat a and meet us under 30s  "
I'm sure there are. We don't mind chatting to younger guys, we just choose not to meet them anymore for the reasons stated in our original post. |
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In my opinion the young guys are cool and of course the young guys go through unbelievable stress with the young girls so that's why they come on fabs looking for matured ladies and when they meet the matured ladies they realise the difference is just too much , no stress to start with and another hidden truth is most of these matured ladies have not been properly fucked, they married early so their bodies are still very fresh and their pussy very tight , most of the matured ladies are trophy wives , their husbands don't fuck them daily maybe once every 3 weeks or sometimes months for the ones with husbands working abroad , so when you fuck them as a young guy you see that it is a waste of time taking all the stress from the young girls . I personally prefer the mature ladies although I will not discount a young girl who is mentally matured and ready to jump through all my hoops. |
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