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By *an789 OP Man
over a year ago
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After a while on the scene I've realized that it's mostly guys who have fetishes and tend to be more kinky.
Do you think this is true.. Or are girls less inclined to talk about it.?
Why do you think it's the case or not and what's the best wierdest thing you've experienced?.
Personally im very open to pretty much most things.. Just wish I could meet girls who lead the kink and fetish play... I love it when I'm shocked lol..
I'm a laid intrigued why we like certain kinks... How we develop them... It's so fascinating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We feel the men are more prepared to run with their kinks and explore them.
In our experience of Fab these past few months, we've found the local ladies talk a good game, but then disappear once we get talking about the interesting stuff.
One girl in particular was chatting to us on Tuesday night for quite some time, and was just about to reveal to us her particular 'taboo' fantasies... only to go completely quiet and that was that.
This hasn't been uncommon and it's very frustrating as we have so much kinky fun and equipment we could really give any kinky minded girl a good time if they had the courage to meet and/or didn't just want to waste our time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it's prinarily a 'man' thing; I have several female friends who are kinkier than me, and that's saying some! I've sent several guys running for the hills  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You sound like a lot of fun. As always for us the kink ladies that 'do' seem to live miles away!
If ever we move from the south coast, that will be a definite plus 
Also, Lola: Pity you don't meet couples! |
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By *an789 OP Man
over a year ago
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Maybe there's a gap here. Swingers are not all the sane.. Recreational sex can include kink and fetish play and your right.. You either are on here or another well knows fetish site. But those of us with kink (sometimes) don't sat too much here because it's not regarded as particularly ok.
I tend to stitch and like to explore but lots of couples can't even admit when the guy is bi here let alone mention Taboo or kinks.
I guess it's just a case a trawling through in the hope you can identify someone who might be cool with kink.
The other site is often full of people who are not looking to meet but to exchange ideas etc.. X |
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By *an789 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I don't think it's prinarily a 'man' thing; I have several female friends who are kinkier than me, and that's saying some! I've sent several guys running for the hills "
They wouldn't run if you'd tied them properly xxx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think it's prinarily a 'man' thing; I have several female friends who are kinkier than me, and that's saying some! I've sent several guys running for the hills
They wouldn't run if you'd tied them properly xxx "
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On my profile I ticked only the absolute basics. I felt weird about publishing a list of my preferences because they feel private and personal. I've gently explored the site and chatted and I've found people who are into the things I want to explore.
I suppose I didn't want a lot of messages from people saying "I'll fuck you up the arse luv" or whatever. |
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I suspect it may be a case that fewer women feel comfortable publicising their kinks and fetishes from the get go. For example, I used to list various 'interests' on my profile which I'd naiively hoped would convey an open minded and uninhibited attitude and lead to discussion but actually found so many people took that as some kind of menu they were entitled to choose from and/or they'd make completely incorrect/ridiculous assumptions about what particular terms meant, that in the end I erased it all to avoid stupid and overly crude messages. Personally I'm here for the holistic sexual experience rather than to simply satisfy a specific kink - therefore I keep my cards close to my chest and only reveal my kinks when I've built up trust and am getting similar minded vibes from the other person ... and because of that approach, there's no need for 'everyone' to know precisely how kinky I am |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I suspect it may be a case that fewer women feel comfortable publicising their kinks and fetishes from the get go. For example, I used to list various 'interests' on my profile which I'd naiively hoped would convey an open minded and uninhibited attitude and lead to discussion but actually found so many people took that as some kind of menu they were entitled to choose from and/or they'd make completely incorrect/ridiculous assumptions about what particular terms meant, that in the end I erased it all to avoid stupid and overly crude messages. Personally I'm here for the holistic sexual experience rather than to simply satisfy a specific kink - therefore I keep my cards close to my chest and only reveal my kinks when I've built up trust and am getting similar minded vibes from the other person ... and because of that approach, there's no need for 'everyone' to know precisely how kinky I am "
That pretty much sums up how I feel. I reveal my kinks as and when I feel I can trust whoever I'm talking to? |
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By *an789 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I suspect it may be a case that fewer women feel comfortable publicising their kinks and fetishes from the get go. For example, I used to list various 'interests' on my profile which I'd naiively hoped would convey an open minded and uninhibited attitude and lead to discussion but actually found so many people took that as some kind of menu they were entitled to choose from and/or they'd make completely incorrect/ridiculous assumptions about what particular terms meant, that in the end I erased it all to avoid stupid and overly crude messages. Personally I'm here for the holistic sexual experience rather than to simply satisfy a specific kink - therefore I keep my cards close to my chest and only reveal my kinks when I've built up trust and am getting similar minded vibes from the other person ... and because of that approach, there's no need for 'everyone' to know precisely how kinky I am "
Makes lots of sense. I guess I worry that things I like may not be agreeable to others so you sometimes chose not to have that convo. Nothing extreme just kinks or fetish fun. Lots of people are quite judgemental on my experience. I also would love to meet girls who push my boundaries a little.
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I'm comfortable with someone it's practically anything goes. I don't talk about it because it's then expected of me, but probably won't happen.
Now I'm going to contradict myself and talk about my fetishes.
I have a cock fetish. It involves the larger types, my hands and oil.
I also have a fetish for men's bums; the hole. I won't elaborate and I'm not offering to anyone to show them.
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By (user no longer on site)
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The problem with revealing yourself early on-or putting it on your profile - is you'll get messages from people asking for it, when you don't have any inclination to do it. |
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By *an789 OP Man
over a year ago
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"The problem with revealing yourself early on-or putting it on your profile - is you'll get messages from people asking for it, when you don't have any inclination to do it."
I get that too. I love the psychology behind kink.. its really interesting. I like lots of things.. Probably too many to mention. |
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Yes, it's the fear of creating a shopping list or being reduced to one single act.
I think you should lay your cards on the table in your profile in a non-pushy way and make yourself visible in the site (forums etc) then women who want that stuff can find you. |
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