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Giving out.your mobile number to a potential meet
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I get asked a lot for this before a.meet and after one bad experience a year ago I decided not to. However I have been accused of being a fake/not interested enough for refusing to give a contact number from a few guys. What do others tend to do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get asked a lot for this before a.meet and after one bad experience a year ago I decided not to. However I have been accused of being a fake/not interested enough for refusing to give a contact number from a few guys. What do others tend to do?"
I would never give out my number before meeting. I'd give KIK or they could message on here. I wouldn't care what they thought. People can video call on KIK to see who someone is. I'd only give my number to someone I'd met, wanted to see again and had a level of trust with. When people ask for WhatsApp I'm always surprised they expect I'd give them my phone number. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having a phone number of a potential meet is no guarantee of them turning up or being not fake, however I've found it does tend to reduce the risk and tend to ask to chat via phone before wasting my time waiting for someone that never turns up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Since we ask all new potential meets for a phone chat to prove genuine, we seem to find everyone backs off.... our loss maybe? But at least we are finding the dreamers from the genuine people this way.
Happy to give our number out to show we are a real couple, and if we get annoying calls we just block number.... simples! |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
I never give my number out anymore. I don't need messaging on Whatsapp and then messaging via text messages to tell me that they have messaged me on Whatsapp, or stupid messages or phone calls late at night. Or having to worry about settings being changed by Facebook etc.
I've had no problems meeting guys without swapping mobile numbers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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depending on the meet
if its a good rapture i will give my number to someone before a meet.
sometimes kik or messages on here surface just as well, its not like you cant check messages when out and about like old times |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never give out my number. Often your phone number will be connected to Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, email address, real address, etc without you realising.
That’s way too much personal info to allow someone to access that I haven’t even met yet.
Kik is wank too. I just tell people to talk to me on here, there’s no need for anyone to message me outside of this platform. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Used too, don't no more. Too many guys pretending to be girls, and too many people unhappy with their own shitty lives thinking one of us is going to ditch the other to improve their life.
Use kik as it allows me to block the user with no second thought, if a guy or couple want a number prior to a meet they get hubbys not mine.
Ive had a stalker from here, friends requests on my fb, been followed on Instagram - its all a tad creepy especially when ive not spoken to them in the first instance. I have a family, job and life off here and some idiots have no boundaries so I treat everyone the same and err on the side of caution these days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get asked a lot for this before a.meet and after one bad experience a year ago I decided not to. However I have been accused of being a fake/not interested enough for refusing to give a contact number from a few guys. What do others tend to do?"
I have no problem giving my number out to guys i'm chatting with. I don't have to reply to texts or answer calls and it's easy to block people. I'm perhaps lucky that i've never had any one 'stalk' me as such though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont give mine out, no interest in kik etc either...if i am planning on meeting somemeone, they can give me theirs and i'll call them with my number witheld just to confirm, have a chat. Not been a problem so far, the only people who do think its a problem are usually men who are asking for pics etc in there 1st or 2nd message anyway.. |
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I don't give out my number or use kik, all communication is done on fab as I find the messaging system more than adequate.
Only 2 guys on fab have my phone number and they are people I trust who I have met a few times and bow consider to be friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no problem giving out my number to potential meets because I have a second phone, my fab phone
I'm not daft enough now to give out my own personal number. I did when I first joined fab but soon learned quickly that was a bad choice
My second phone gets switched on in the morning and by early evening it's switched off as so no one can bother me if I'm out, with family and friends or sleeping
Only people on fab who has my person number are those who've become good friends with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Since we ask all new potential meets for a phone chat to prove genuine, we seem to find everyone backs off.... our loss maybe? But at least we are finding the dreamers from the genuine people this way.
Happy to give our number out to show we are a real couple, and if we get annoying calls we just block number.... simples! "
If gave you my number but you never ring ... lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have a cheap pay as you go phone.
We only turn it on when we're arranging a meet ect. As we find it easy to keep in touch in the final hours of a meet just incase of last minute cancellation
Anyone can ring it as often as they like and send any pics they like. But we won't get anything until it's turned on and we just delete what we're not interested in and we don't use it for any other purpose so no acidental calls messages to friends and family |
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It's absolutely essential. For a start it's the quickest way of ensuring that the person you're talking to is the person in the profile.
You can find out so much more about people simply by talking. I find messaging via this website unbelievably tedious and clumsy. 10 mins of real chat is worth a month of messages.
I understand that some people are unhappy with the idea of actually talking. Texting has become the normal method of communicating for many. I'm sorry, you're missing out.
The excuses and the perceived security/vulnerability concerns are completely unfounded however, and it's this which leads to the impression that a refusal to exchange numbers increases the potential of a 'fake'. You can simply block, ignore, or avert that they want to phone from a withheld number..
A chat on the phone puts everyone's mind at ease, let's you know whether 'you get on' and is likely to lead to a much more relaxed and therefore better meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get asked a lot for this before a.meet and after one bad experience a year ago I decided not to. However I have been accused of being a fake/not interested enough for refusing to give a contact number from a few guys. What do others tend to do?"
I wouldn't arrange a meet or chat for too long without swapping numbers as i had a few experiences were i chatted for a few weeks and then arranged a meet to be only let down then blocked... it helps prove im actually speaking to a woman or a real mf couple. Not everyones way but thats mine  |
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By *illnatMan
over a year ago
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I tend to use Kik and will only really either give my number out to people I know I can trust. But you really have to be careful as it links to your social media so I have that pretty much locked down as much as it is possible without deleting it! |
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"Its kik all the way.
It's fast and convenient, along with the ability to block or delete.
I agree."
Again totally agree. You can kik cam if they are genuinely interested. So many have asked for numbers or face pics. We have said no and when checked the following day they have left the site |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I have no problem giving my regular number to people I am planning on meeting - although will usually do so once a date has been agreed and that doesn't happen with me until I am as sure as I can be that I can trust the person(s) concerned - think there are less than five people that have (or had) my number via this profile and it's not caused a single problem.
At the end of the day we all do what's best to safeguard ourselves according to our own circumstances. |
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Kik serves the purpose well. We can group chat, video verify, camera photo verify and all without giving away any real personal information or phone number. Its the perfect tool for what we do.
It is reassuring to get a phone number and speak to someone before you go booking hotels and paying babysitters but we don't expect it.
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"I get asked a lot for this before a.meet and after one bad experience a year ago I decided not to. However I have been accused of being a fake/not interested enough for refusing to give a contact number from a few guys. What do others tend to do?"
Let them get on with it. If not get a PAYG SIM just and cheap phone just for arranging meetings etc. That way of things go wrong you can just get another SIM.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't give our numbers out anymore, it's not so much the potential calls and texts leading to wanting to block, it's that the number is potentially linked to other social media which would give away more info than we want to.
Neither of us are big fans of chatting on the phone full stop, we don't want another phone as we've got 4 between us already. We feel a bit like we're open to providing pic or other things if our chats and veris aren't enough but don't like demands like insisting on a phone call. |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
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"We don't give numbers out until we have had a meet!
If they think you a fake then it will be their loss!"
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Great question Tracey as we've been wondering about this too 
We've tended to agree with the answer above 
However we're going to a fab social soon and the question has raised it's head again lol 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Somewhat easier for a couple i know
But we only give out males number
Cos if someone wants to try and cause any aggro on that number they will find out why he is called grumpy
Other than that
Buy a cheap ass phone with a pay as you go sim and jusy give out that number
Any aggro
Throw the sim and buy a new one for a quid |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i guess you dont really need a phone number to have or arrange a meet.
as stated an option is a cheap pay as you go phone , you can buy one without giving i.d or your name , if you are asked just give any old address
a couple once told me they had phone contact all the way driving to a meet untill they knocked on a strangers front door who didnt have a clue who they were or why they were knocking .
is phone contact necessary .........no not at all i say |
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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago
Reading |
"I have a separate phone my fuck phone which is only on when I'm meeting and only after I've built trust with that person I then give out my personal number they don't cost much xx"
Have a burner phone for the munch meetup, can lose the number if necessary but not needed to yet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know a guy who gave his number out to meets. One of those people was fake and tried to then black-mail him or bombard his phone with texts
Long story, short, his phone number was then put on a gay forum as an advert, and he then got a shit load of messages, and had to change his number.
So don't assume you only need to block the one number if it goes pear shaped. |
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"I get asked a lot for this before a.meet and after one bad experience a year ago I decided not to. However I have been accused of being a fake/not interested enough for refusing to give a contact number from a few guys. What do others tend to do?"
Stick to your way,
Steve xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a separate phone my fuck phone which is only on when I'm meeting and only after I've built trust with that person I then give out my personal number they don't cost much xx"
Me too.. My naughty phone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I swap numbers whenever possible - I'm not an arsehole so it shouldn't be an issue. If you want to meet me, I'll happily swap numbers. If down the line you decide you don't want to meet me, simply say so and I'll delete your number.
Most people are trustworthy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We believe in treating potential playmates like friends, and expect the same in return. So this would include exchanging mobile numbers. We would be very reluctant to meet someone without knowing their mobile number. I understand why people do - maybe safer to keep that certain distance. Our experience of being a bit more open through is that people treat us with more loyalty, and are less likely to mess us about.
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