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I'd like the male opinion on a particular question.
I would like to know which is less attractive. Someone who is a bit fat (size 20ish) or someone who has lost weigth but will now be a bit saggy in places?
I accept neither can be attractive, just want an opinion n which is the the lesser of two evils as it were.
It's just an opinion, no right or wrong. I am interested, not going to base my decision on what is said here so don't worry about that.
The question is about those two scenarios only, NOT about BBW, fat bashing, health risks, drain on the NHS or however else someone might want to attempt to derail the thread  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whose to say either is unattractive? I personally find a more curvaceous figure hugely enticing - the loss of a few inches and the inevitable call of gravity wouldn't change the appeal - personality wins out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a very interesting question, and it has made me think. Whilst I'm full of admiration for anyone who's trying to lose weight for health reasons, in purely aesthetic terms the resultant skin can be unattractive when naked. I don't know enough about it to understand if the skin is better if weight is lost more slowly, and exercise undertaken.
Can someone help me get this splinter out of my arse please? |
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"It's a very interesting question, and it has made me think. Whilst I'm full of admiration for anyone who's trying to lose weight for health reasons, in purely aesthetic terms the resultant skin can be unattractive when naked. I don't know enough about it to understand if the skin is better if weight is lost more slowly, and exercise undertaken.
Can someone help me get this splinter out of my arse please?"
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"Whose to say either is unattractive? I personally find a more curvaceous figure hugely enticing - the loss of a few inches and the inevitable call of gravity wouldn't change the appeal - personality wins out "
No one is and personality always wins. But in the even one had to choose one of the two which might one find more attractive than the other? |
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over a year ago
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"I'd like the male opinion on a particular question.
I would like to know which is less attractive. Someone who is a bit fat (size 20ish) or someone who has lost weigth but will now be a bit saggy in places?
I accept neither can be attractive, just want an opinion n which is the the lesser of two evils as it were.
It's just an opinion, no right or wrong. I am interested, not going to base my decision on what is said here so don't worry about that.
The question is about those two scenarios only, NOT about BBW, fat bashing, health risks, drain on the NHS or however else someone might want to attempt to derail the thread "
How about if said person had a lovely personality? Who gives a fuck if someone has a bit of flab, or is a size 20... it's not always about first impressions. |
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over a year ago
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"How about if said person had a lovely personality? Who gives a fuck if someone has a bit of flab, or is a size 20... it's not always about first impressions.
So either doesn't matter?"
Correct 
I know of some very large ladies, and they have a wonderful outlook on life and a bubbly personally, they don't care a out their size... it's what's inside that counts. |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"I'd like the male opinion on a particular question.
I would like to know which is less attractive. Someone who is a bit fat (size 20ish) or someone who has lost weigth but will now be a bit saggy in places?
I accept neither can be attractive, just want an opinion n which is the the lesser of two evils as it were.
It's just an opinion, no right or wrong. I am interested, not going to base my decision on what is said here so don't worry about that.
The question is about those two scenarios only, NOT about BBW, fat bashing, health risks, drain on the NHS or however else someone might want to attempt to derail the thread "
Has she still got a nice smile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lets assume I've got an awesome personality and a beautiful face then  "
Certainly looks like you know how to handle something long and hard in your profile pics.... the nanas you dirty cow! Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whose to say either is unattractive? I personally find a more curvaceous figure hugely enticing - the loss of a few inches and the inevitable call of gravity wouldn't change the appeal - personality wins out
No one is and personality always wins. But in the even one had to choose one of the two which might one find more attractive than the other? "
Purely on aesthetics alone a sensual curve of flesh will most likely garner more appeal than drooping/sagging skin. But who really goes by aesthetics alone? Personality will always shine through xx |
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By *i1971Man
over a year ago
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You say that neither can be attractive. .. but in my opinion either can be attractive as it's the person as a whole that I'm attracted to. I have seen extreme weight loss (on TV programmes though) where huge amounts have been lost and there has been loads of excess skin hanging from the person which I didn't find attractive, but i didn't know the person. There's also the "textbook ideal weight" and the weight a person feels happy with - often a variance between the two. Personally I go with what makes me happy. |
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over a year ago
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After having my third child my stomach was stretched so much that it left a small pouch of stretch marked skin. I could never get rid of it and it hung down during doggy. |
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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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I used to be a size 20 OP.
I wanted to lose weight and did so with a change to diet and exercise.
I am happier with my body now but not happy with it IYKWIM
The only place I have saggy skin is to the abdomen. I wasn't sure about putting our latest pic up because of it but it is what it is.
I'd rather have the sag than be the size I was (that's just my opinion of myself not saying what anyone else 'should' be) even though at my slimmest the sag made me look bigger.
Anyway just my two pence worth as someone who's been there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd like the male opinion on a particular question.
I would like to know which is less attractive. Someone who is a bit fat (size 20ish) or someone who has lost weigth but will now be a bit saggy in places?
I accept neither can be attractive, just want an opinion n which is the the lesser of two evils as it were.
It's just an opinion, no right or wrong. I am interested, not going to base my decision on what is said here so don't worry about that.
The question is about those two scenarios only, NOT about BBW, fat bashing, health risks, drain on the NHS or however else someone might want to attempt to derail the thread "
either or , wouldnt bother me in theslightest |
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I don't think either option is worse than the other.Personally neither would bother me as I'm not that shallow much more to a lass and what makes her sexy than a few extra pounds or a bit of saggy skin |
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"Whose to say either is unattractive? I personally find a more curvaceous figure hugely enticing - the loss of a few inches and the inevitable call of gravity wouldn't change the appeal - personality wins out "
Personality wins |
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"Lets assume I've got an awesome personality and a beautiful face then
Certainly looks like you know how to handle something long and hard in your profile pics.... the nanas you dirty cow! Haha "
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"Purely on aesthetics alone a sensual curve of flesh will most likely garner more appeal than drooping/sagging skin. But who really goes by aesthetics alone? Personality will always shine through xx"
Personality |
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"After having my third child my stomach was stretched so much that it left a small pouch of stretch marked skin. I could never get rid of it and it hung down during doggy. "
And you still get the hot men  |
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"I used to be a size 20 OP.
I wanted to lose weight and did so with a change to diet and exercise.
I am happier with my body now but not happy with it IYKWIM
The only place I have saggy skin is to the abdomen. I wasn't sure about putting our latest pic up because of it but it is what it is.
I'd rather have the sag than be the size I was (that's just my opinion of myself not saying what anyone else 'should' be) even though at my slimmest the sag made me look bigger.
Anyway just my two pence worth as someone who's been there. "
I appreciate your view, sound like you got to point like me where it was a question of flab vs sag |
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"I don't think either option is worse than the other.Personally neither would bother me as I'm not that shallow much more to a lass and what makes her sexy than a few extra pounds or a bit of saggy skin"
Another either or |
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"either or , wouldnt bother me in theslightest
Thank you "
Male here lol
I'll be honest I've seen ladies that are large and few that have lost a lot of weight and have excess skin and honestly I haven't a prefence its how the person carries it of confidence is very sexy.
As someone that has lost nearly 5st being confident and liking yourself makes you feel attractive and if you feel that you give off that arua |
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"either or , wouldnt bother me in theslightest
Thank you
Male here lol
I'll be honest I've seen ladies that are large and few that have lost a lot of weight and have excess skin and honestly I haven't a prefence its how the person carries it of confidence is very sexy.
As someone that has lost nearly 5st being confident and liking yourself makes you feel attractive and if you feel that you give off that arua "
Thank you, anther for it's not that big a deal if you've got other qualities |
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"I'm a big girl but I'm also confident I am who I am and I would personally prefer to be large to sagging skin"
I'm not bothered about being large, just been losing weight slowly. Nearly 7 stone since 2011 so nothing crazy.
But I fear the sagginess may kick in big time soon  |
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I'd like to say, loosing weight in a healthy active way may not result in loose saggy skin.
At my biggest I was size 26,I'm now a 12/14, and apart from a small area around my CS scar I have no saggy bits |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"Honestly red and I had this conversation earlier today.
We both find personality more appealing than looks.
Red has when lost weight gained wobbly skin.
Dick
And you're both ok with it?"
Well I am can't answer for red.
I know she's not happy with either
But I'm happy.. |
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"I'd like to say, loosing weight in a healthy active way may not result in loose saggy skin.
At my biggest I was size 26,I'm now a 12/14, and apart from a small area around my CS scar I have no saggy bits "
You've done really well I already have some and fear that they're going to get worse.
On the other hand they can be surgically removed if it gets too bad I guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd like the male opinion on a particular question.
I would like to know which is less attractive. Someone who is a bit fat (size 20ish) or someone who has lost weigth but will now be a bit saggy in places?
I accept neither can be attractive, just want an opinion n which is the the lesser of two evils as it were.
It's just an opinion, no right or wrong. I am interested, not going to base my decision on what is said here so don't worry about that.
The question is about those two scenarios only, NOT about BBW, fat bashing, health risks, drain on the NHS or however else someone might want to attempt to derail the thread "
I dont get the question how can you say neither are attractive. One thing is attractive to one person but in the same place it may not be someone else's taste. I personally wouldn't be off put my a bit of saggyness as it shows they have worked hard too loose weight they didn't want anymore. And that is kind of attractive in its own way |
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"I'd like to say, loosing weight in a healthy active way may not result in loose saggy skin.
At my biggest I was size 26,I'm now a 12/14, and apart from a small area around my CS scar I have no saggy bits
You've done really well I already have some and fear that they're going to get worse.
On the other hand they can be surgically removed if it gets too bad I guess "
Thank you x
Ecercise, good balanced nutrition, additional supplements to ensure getting all vits & minerals.
I turned my weightloss into a career & have helped numerous others get the same results xxx |
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"I dont get the question how can you say neither are attractive. One thing is attractive to one person but in the same place it may not be someone else's taste. I personally wouldn't be off put my a bit of saggyness as it shows they have worked hard too loose weight they didn't want anymore. And that is kind of attractive in its own way"
I meant that if someone found neither attractive they could still say which was less attractive. I worded it wrong |
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"Thank you x
Ecercise, good balanced nutrition, additional supplements to ensure getting all vits & minerals.
I turned my weightloss into a career & have helped numerous others get the same results xxx"
That's even better if you've made a career from it
Over hw long did you lose the weight? |
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That's even better if you've made a career from it
Over hw long did you lose the weight?"
80% nutrition 20% excercise
Eating 2 600 calorie meals a day based on a 30/30/40 ratio 30% carbs 30% healthy fats 40% protein
Used protein based shakes twice a day in between. 3l water.
45 mins cardio excercise every day.
Took me 8 months to loose the weight x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How about if said person had a lovely personality? Who gives a fuck if someone has a bit of flab, or is a size 20... it's not always about first impressions.
So either doesn't matter?"
Size and age doesn't matter enjoy both if you can as I'm sure each would be a good experience. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont get the question how can you say neither are attractive. One thing is attractive to one person but in the same place it may not be someone else's taste. I personally wouldn't be off put my a bit of saggyness as it shows they have worked hard too loose weight they didn't want anymore. And that is kind of attractive in its own way
I meant that if someone found neither attractive they could still say which was less attractive. I worded it wrong "
Oh haha fair enough I'll pipe down now lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would prefer larger over saggy my girlfriend has lost 12 stone but now hides to dress or undress x she as no confidence but she was full of it when was big |
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Only going from what I've actually experienced I'd say bigger over saggier. Someone I knew was morbidly obese and was well over size 26. She had a stomach banding abroad and then got an infection and a few other problems and didn't eat properly and lost the weight extremely fast.
Her whole body was saggy skin as she dropped to a size 8 and she hated it , she was definitely happier when she was bigger.
Extreme case due to the speed the weight dropped off and such a pity because she was a massively confident woman before. |
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That's even better if you've made a career from it
Over hw long did you lose the weight?
80% nutrition 20% excercise
Eating 2 600 calorie meals a day based on a 30/30/40 ratio 30% carbs 30% healthy fats 40% protein
Used protein based shakes twice a day in between. 3l water.
45 mins cardio excercise every day.
Took me 8 months to loose the weight x "
Wow, 8 months and no saggy bits is amazing |
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"Personally, it is personality and chemistry, let's be honest no one is perfect.....certainly I'm not. I do believe the beauty really is in the eye of the beholder...something just clicks...
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Personality is 'winning' I think |
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"Only going from what I've actually experienced I'd say bigger over saggier. Someone I knew was morbidly obese and was well over size 26. She had a stomach banding abroad and then got an infection and a few other problems and didn't eat properly and lost the weight extremely fast.
Her whole body was saggy skin as she dropped to a size 8 and she hated it , she was definitely happier when she was bigger.
Extreme case due to the speed the weight dropped off and such a pity because she was a massively confident woman before."
Another sad story, hope she's recovering her confidence? |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"Sticking strictly to your 2 options and ignoring all other factors as you originally asked. I think I would find sagginess less attractive.
Thank you, you read the post well. And that's my fear "
Fear or not. You must decide based on your happiness and peace of mind. Nobody's perfect. We all have little things that we don't like about ourselves. Do it for you not for anyone else. Or stay as you are if you're happy. |
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"Thank you, you read the post well. And that's my fear
Fear or not. You must decide based on your happiness and peace of mind. Nobody's perfect. We all have little things that we don't like about ourselves. Do it for you not for anyone else. Or stay as you are if you're happy."
I shall, though it intrigued me what men might think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends entirely on personality. ....
If the person looking is shallow and superficial it will be an issue either way. ...
If they are deep enough to explore the mind and personality of their prospective partners before making a final judgment then it shouldn't be an issue either way. ..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Size 20 to me is still sexy depending on height. Much after that is not so.
Someone who has lost weight and as a result has excess skin is commendable that they are strong enough to make a big difference in themselves. The limit of when said skin becomes unattractive is just preference...  |
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Its who the person is on the inside thats attractive not the external appearance. Either body shape can be attractive as long as the person on the inside is beautiful. |
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"After having my third child my stomach was stretched so much that it left a small pouch of stretch marked skin. I could never get rid of it and it hung down during doggy. "
Mine is the same, except it hangs down a lot.
Four kids, the smallest of which was 10lbs 1oz.
My stomach is fucked! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree, you see beyond that once the personality is there.
Beauty or in this case 'looks' is in the eye of the beholder.
I think I've personality covered
Unless everyone's been lying to me  "
Not to put what you said down here but I think you should know personality is something we key to individually. There's no such thing as a good or bad personality as it's really up to you if you decide if someone is funny, confident, serious etc. Such traits are usually obvious to us immediately after spending time with someone if we like them or not. |
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Well the sad fact is neither looks great, tho a lot of guys do go for big women.
What’s more important here is your health, of Your a big girl there are health implications increased likelihood of diabetes and heart disease. As well as poor mobility and the damage it does to your joints.
That’s with out the fact you can’t find anything nice to wear.
Losing the weight can counter act most of these things, if you have some lose skin then chose lingerie that excentuates and hides the places your sensitive about. Basques and the like are great for this and look and will make you feel sexy.
So don’t use the saggy skin as an excuse not to lose weight your life will definitely improve if you do |
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"I find confidence makes a difference. If the woman is confident in her appearance that can be a big factor on the sex appeal "
I completely agree! I love all sizes and shapes and its always a nice confident lady who just oozes confidence that will make me wet anytime!
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By *icheekyMan
over a year ago
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Either is perfectly fine. And any guy shallow enough to care shouldn't get to see you in the buff anyway. And once you get to work he'll be too distracted to care much either way. Us men are simple creatures, we can't concentrate on more than one thing at a time (or perhaps thats just me) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have both! I'm bigger, but I've lost weight so I do have loose skin. I use body oils so it's definitely getting better though! "
If you dont mind me saying you are stunning! |
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"Well the sad fact is neither looks great, tho a lot of guys do go for big women.
What’s more important here is your health, of Your a big girl there are health implications increased likelihood of diabetes and heart disease. As well as poor mobility and the damage it does to your joints.
That’s with out the fact you can’t find anything nice to wear.
Losing the weight can counter act most of these things, if you have some lose skin then chose lingerie that excentuates and hides the places your sensitive about. Basques and the like are great for this and look and will make you feel sexy.
So don’t use the saggy skin as an excuse not to lose weight your life will definitely improve if you do"
And we have the first health comment! *insert party emoji* |
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"Well the sad fact is neither looks great, tho a lot of guys do go for big women.
What’s more important here is your health, of Your a big girl there are health implications increased likelihood of diabetes and heart disease. As well as poor mobility and the damage it does to your joints.
That’s with out the fact you can’t find anything nice to wear.
Losing the weight can counter act most of these things, if you have some lose skin then chose lingerie that excentuates and hides the places your sensitive about. Basques and the like are great for this and look and will make you feel sexy.
So don’t use the saggy skin as an excuse not to lose weight your life will definitely improve if you do
And we have the first health comment! *insert party emoji*"
Well I’ve seen the health of people I love be decimated because they are over weight
It is literally a fact that being over weight is bad for you.
Am I supposed to pretend this is not the case just because some people are sensitive about their weight
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"Well the sad fact is neither looks great, tho a lot of guys do go for big women.
What’s more important here is your health, of Your a big girl there are health implications increased likelihood of diabetes and heart disease. As well as poor mobility and the damage it does to your joints.
That’s with out the fact you can’t find anything nice to wear.
Losing the weight can counter act most of these things, if you have some lose skin then chose lingerie that excentuates and hides the places your sensitive about. Basques and the like are great for this and look and will make you feel sexy.
So don’t use the saggy skin as an excuse not to lose weight your life will definitely improve if you do
And we have the first health comment! *insert party emoji*
Well I’ve seen the health of people I love be decimated because they are over weight
It is literally a fact that being over weight is bad for you.
Am I supposed to pretend this is not the case just because some people are sensitive about their weight
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As long as you're also concerned for your slimmer friends who smoke/drink too much/maybe don't get enough sleep/eat badly.
Newsflash: Fat people are well aware of their health. |
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"Well the sad fact is neither looks great, tho a lot of guys do go for big women.
What’s more important here is your health, of Your a big girl there are health implications increased likelihood of diabetes and heart disease. As well as poor mobility and the damage it does to your joints.
That’s with out the fact you can’t find anything nice to wear.
Losing the weight can counter act most of these things, if you have some lose skin then chose lingerie that excentuates and hides the places your sensitive about. Basques and the like are great for this and look and will make you feel sexy.
So don’t use the saggy skin as an excuse not to lose weight your life will definitely improve if you do
And we have the first health comment! *insert party emoji*
Well I’ve seen the health of people I love be decimated because they are over weight
It is literally a fact that being over weight is bad for you.
Am I supposed to pretend this is not the case just because some people are sensitive about their weight
As long as you're also concerned for your slimmer friends who smoke/drink too much/maybe don't get enough sleep/eat badly.
Newsflash: Fat people are well aware of their health. "
This is a thread about losing weight. I am sure he will mention health on threads devoted to smoking and drinking. |
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"Well the sad fact is neither looks great, tho a lot of guys do go for big women.
What’s more important here is your health, of Your a big girl there are health implications increased likelihood of diabetes and heart disease. As well as poor mobility and the damage it does to your joints.
That’s with out the fact you can’t find anything nice to wear.
Losing the weight can counter act most of these things, if you have some lose skin then chose lingerie that excentuates and hides the places your sensitive about. Basques and the like are great for this and look and will make you feel sexy.
So don’t use the saggy skin as an excuse not to lose weight your life will definitely improve if you do
And we have the first health comment! *insert party emoji*
Well I’ve seen the health of people I love be decimated because they are over weight
It is literally a fact that being over weight is bad for you.
Am I supposed to pretend this is not the case just because some people are sensitive about their weight
As long as you're also concerned for your slimmer friends who smoke/drink too much/maybe don't get enough sleep/eat badly.
Newsflash: Fat people are well aware of their health. "
I don’t have any friends that smoke, and I certainly wouldn’t see a woman that did, i’d Certainly have issues with some one that drank too much and i’d comment on poor diet.
This isn’t about if people should lose weight they all must know nownthat they should. This is about what’s least attractive being over weight or having saggy skin after losing weight.
My answer was being over weight, having some saggy skin can be covered with sexy clothing.
You asked a question and I answered it |
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"Well the sad fact is neither looks great, tho a lot of guys do go for big women.
What’s more important here is your health, of Your a big girl there are health implications increased likelihood of diabetes and heart disease. As well as poor mobility and the damage it does to your joints.
That’s with out the fact you can’t find anything nice to wear.
Losing the weight can counter act most of these things, if you have some lose skin then chose lingerie that excentuates and hides the places your sensitive about. Basques and the like are great for this and look and will make you feel sexy.
So don’t use the saggy skin as an excuse not to lose weight your life will definitely improve if you do
And we have the first health comment! *insert party emoji*
Well I’ve seen the health of people I love be decimated because they are over weight
It is literally a fact that being over weight is bad for you.
Am I supposed to pretend this is not the case just because some people are sensitive about their weight
As long as you're also concerned for your slimmer friends who smoke/drink too much/maybe don't get enough sleep/eat badly.
Newsflash: Fat people are well aware of their health.
This is a thread about losing weight. I am sure he will mention health on threads devoted to smoking and drinking. "
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"Well the sad fact is neither looks great, tho a lot of guys do go for big women.
What’s more important here is your health, of Your a big girl there are health implications increased likelihood of diabetes and heart disease. As well as poor mobility and the damage it does to your joints.
That’s with out the fact you can’t find anything nice to wear.
Losing the weight can counter act most of these things, if you have some lose skin then chose lingerie that excentuates and hides the places your sensitive about. Basques and the like are great for this and look and will make you feel sexy.
So don’t use the saggy skin as an excuse not to lose weight your life will definitely improve if you do
And we have the first health comment! *insert party emoji*
Well I’ve seen the health of people I love be decimated because they are over weight
It is literally a fact that being over weight is bad for you.
Am I supposed to pretend this is not the case just because some people are sensitive about their weight
As long as you're also concerned for your slimmer friends who smoke/drink too much/maybe don't get enough sleep/eat badly.
Newsflash: Fat people are well aware of their health.
I don’t have any friends that smoke, and I certainly wouldn’t see a woman that did, i’d Certainly have issues with some one that drank too much and i’d comment on poor diet.
This isn’t about if people should lose weight they all must know nownthat they should. This is about what’s least attractive being over weight or having saggy skin after losing weight.
My answer was being over weight, having some saggy skin can be covered with sexy clothing.
You asked a question and I answered it "
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Hi well it surly should be all about the chemistry really,,, age,,, size shouldn't come into it,,,,, so long as you both know what it is you are seeking then it's really all about the fun to be had |
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"Well the sad fact is neither looks great, tho a lot of guys do go for big women.
What’s more important here is your health, of Your a big girl there are health implications increased likelihood of diabetes and heart disease. As well as poor mobility and the damage it does to your joints.
That’s with out the fact you can’t find anything nice to wear.
Losing the weight can counter act most of these things, if you have some lose skin then chose lingerie that excentuates and hides the places your sensitive about. Basques and the like are great for this and look and will make you feel sexy.
So don’t use the saggy skin as an excuse not to lose weight your life will definitely improve if you do
And we have the first health comment! *insert party emoji*
Well I’ve seen the health of people I love be decimated because they are over weight
It is literally a fact that being over weight is bad for you.
Am I supposed to pretend this is not the case just because some people are sensitive about their weight
As long as you're also concerned for your slimmer friends who smoke/drink too much/maybe don't get enough sleep/eat badly.
Newsflash: Fat people are well aware of their health.
I don’t have any friends that smoke, and I certainly wouldn’t see a woman that did, i’d Certainly have issues with some one that drank too much and i’d comment on poor diet.
This isn’t about if people should lose weight they all must know nownthat they should. This is about what’s least attractive being over weight or having saggy skin after losing weight.
My answer was being over weight, having some saggy skin can be covered with sexy clothing.
You asked a question and I answered it
I don't believe I asked you a question. I also don't believe the OP asked about health risks of being overweight. "
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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Captainhornpipe's post is relevant in a way. If minx's decision to stay the size she is or lose weight and take the risk of having saggy bits n bobs is very close perhaps health benefit may sway her decision. |
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"I'd like the male opinion on a particular question.
I would like to know which is less attractive. Someone who is a bit fat (size 20ish) or someone who has lost weigth but will now be a bit saggy in places?
I accept neither can be attractive, just want an opinion n which is the the lesser of two evils as it were.
It's just an opinion, no right or wrong. I am interested, not going to base my decision on what is said here so don't worry about that.
The question is about those two scenarios only, NOT about BBW, fat bashing, health risks, drain on the NHS or however else someone might want to attempt to derail the thread "
Personally it's about how I "click" with the said woman. I enjoy conversations and flirting.
There is something attractive in all women be it the way they walk, the glint in their eye, how they smile etc..
I would never dismiss on body alone, afterall, I am no Adonis... |
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"Captainhornpipe's post is relevant in a way. If minx's decision to stay the size she is or lose weight and take the risk of having saggy bits n bobs is very close perhaps health benefit may sway her decision."
Yes this exactly, I’m not being horrible just making the point she shouldn’t be put off by some saggy skin. Lose the weight and wear a basque plus possible live longer it’s all good |
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In the interests of just giving a straight answer id have to say a fuller body is better than a saggy body( for me anyway), iv often felt sorry for these people on tv after theyve lost weight because they have gone through all that probably not realising that the skin will not return totally |
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I think its a matter of self confidence . I know some larger ladies who are gorgeous but think they are hideous .
Women today are under huge pressure to be thin and i think the beauty and fashion industries are to blame .
To quote a line from the song ' sunscreen' "do not read beauty magazines , they will only make you feel ugly" |
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"A lot depends on how they carry them self, if they are confidend/up beat and how they chat. The more I click with someone the move attractive they become. We all have our physical I'm perfections."
Yes, confidence is a big thing |
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"I think it depends entirely on personality. ....
If the person looking is shallow and superficial it will be an issue either way. ...
If they are deep enough to explore the mind and personality of their prospective partners before making a final judgment then it shouldn't be an issue either way. ....."
That's a very good point |
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"Size 20 to me is still sexy depending on height. Much after that is not so.
Someone who has lost weight and as a result has excess skin is commendable that they are strong enough to make a big difference in themselves. The limit of when said skin becomes unattractive is just preference... "
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"I think I've personality covered
Unless everyone's been lying to me
Not to put what you said down here but I think you should know personality is something we key to individually. There's no such thing as a good or bad personality as it's really up to you if you decide if someone is funny, confident, serious etc. Such traits are usually obvious to us immediately after spending time with someone if we like them or not."
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"Well the sad fact is neither looks great, tho a lot of guys do go for big women.
What’s more important here is your health, of Your a big girl there are health implications increased likelihood of diabetes and heart disease. As well as poor mobility and the damage it does to your joints.
That’s with out the fact you can’t find anything nice to wear.
Losing the weight can counter act most of these things, if you have some lose skin then chose lingerie that excentuates and hides the places your sensitive about. Basques and the like are great for this and look and will make you feel sexy.
So don’t use the saggy skin as an excuse not to lose weight your life will definitely improve if you do"
You're right of course. Though my general health is good already I do agree.
I doubt I'll worry enough to go around hiding it though |
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"Either is perfectly fine. And any guy shallow enough to care shouldn't get to see you in the buff anyway. And once you get to work he'll be too distracted to care much either way. Us men are simple creatures, we can't concentrate on more than one thing at a time (or perhaps thats just me)"
I don't feel it's shallow to not like some body features but I get that men aren't as picky as one would have thought |
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"Well the sad fact is neither looks great, tho a lot of guys do go for big women.
What’s more important here is your health, of Your a big girl there are health implications increased likelihood of diabetes and heart disease. As well as poor mobility and the damage it does to your joints.
That’s with out the fact you can’t find anything nice to wear.
Losing the weight can counter act most of these things, if you have some lose skin then chose lingerie that excentuates and hides the places your sensitive about. Basques and the like are great for this and look and will make you feel sexy.
So don’t use the saggy skin as an excuse not to lose weight your life will definitely improve if you do
And we have the first health comment! *insert party emoji*
Well I’ve seen the health of people I love be decimated because they are over weight
It is literally a fact that being over weight is bad for you.
Am I supposed to pretend this is not the case just because some people are sensitive about their weight
"
Only because I said this wasn't about health issues in the opening thread, that's why it wasn't expected |
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"Hi well it surly should be all about the chemistry really,,, age,,, size shouldn't come into it,,,,, so long as you both know what it is you are seeking then it's really all about the fun to be had "
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"I would say the larger lady over the lady with the saggy skin .
I personally wouldn't find it easy to be moving folds of skin to get in .
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This is my fear, tough I don't know how bad it might get yet |
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"Captainhornpipe's post is relevant in a way. If minx's decision to stay the size she is or lose weight and take the risk of having saggy bits n bobs is very close perhaps health benefit may sway her decision."
I've been losing weight, nearly 7 stone over 6 years. I think my decision is more about how far to go.
But health benefits has been at the root of it for a long time |
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"Personally it's about how I "click" with the said woman. I enjoy conversations and flirting.
There is something attractive in all women be it the way they walk, the glint in their eye, how they smile etc..
I would never dismiss on body alone, afterall, I am no Adonis... "
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"Captainhornpipe's post is relevant in a way. If minx's decision to stay the size she is or lose weight and take the risk of having saggy bits n bobs is very close perhaps health benefit may sway her decision.
Yes this exactly, I’m not being horrible just making the point she shouldn’t be put off by some saggy skin. Lose the weight and wear a basque plus possible live longer it’s all good"
I don't think you are being horrible |
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"In the interests of just giving a straight answer id have to say a fuller body is better than a saggy body( for me anyway), iv often felt sorry for these people on tv after theyve lost weight because they have gone through all that probably not realising that the skin will not return totally"
Thank you, and yes I've seen people on YouTube and that got me thinking.. |
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"I think its a matter of self confidence . I know some larger ladies who are gorgeous but think they are hideous .
Women today are under huge pressure to be thin and i think the beauty and fashion industries are to blame .
To quote a line from the song ' sunscreen' "do not read beauty magazines , they will only make you feel ugly""
You're right and I love that song
I don't feel under pressure any more, the benefits of age maybe? |
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Too answer the question without adding other parameters such as personality I would have to say rounded over excessive loose saggy skin. But having said that....if it possibly to have that removed these days. But why not just keep the weight on. Plenty of men will still love you for it. |
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"Too answer the question without adding other parameters such as personality I would have to say rounded over excessive loose saggy skin. But having said that....if it possibly to have that removed these days. But why not just keep the weight on. Plenty of men will still love you for it."
I don't have problems meeting men for sure
I think the option to have it removed makes me want to carry on, I'd like to be a size 14/16 |
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"I'd like the male opinion on a particular question.
I would like to know which is less attractive. Someone who is a bit fat (size 20ish) or someone who has lost weigth but will now be a bit saggy in places?
I accept neither can be attractive, just want an opinion n which is the the lesser of two evils as it were.
It's just an opinion, no right or wrong. I am interested, not going to base my decision on what is said here so don't worry about that.
The question is about those two scenarios only, NOT about BBW, fat bashing, health risks, drain on the NHS or however else someone might want to attempt to derail the thread
How about if said person had a lovely personality? Who gives a fuck if someone has a bit of flab, or is a size 20... it's not always about first impressions."
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"Captainhornpipe's post is relevant in a way. If minx's decision to stay the size she is or lose weight and take the risk of having saggy bits n bobs is very close perhaps health benefit may sway her decision.
I've been losing weight, nearly 7 stone over 6 years. I think my decision is more about how far to go.
But health benefits has been at the root of it for a long time "
Good on you!!!
The thing nobody has mentioned though is how would it make you feel in either case?
There has been talk about the physical implications but the elephant in the room here (no pun intended) is mental health.
If you stop loosing weight because of the fear of saggy skin would you feel defeated?
Alternatively if you loose the weight and have saggy skin what effect would it have on your self image? How would you deal with it? If it was negative it could potentially send you into a downward spiral and cause you to gain weight again.
While captain hornpipe is correct in stating the physical effects, these are also big issues in an ever more stretched area of the health service. You think A & E is stretched to breaking on a Friday or Saturday night you want to look at the mental health care teams statistics. "Recommended targets" is often wildly unachieved every single hour of every single day.
It's why health care is now person centred on the "patient" as a whole including physically mental and to a lesser extent social health and well being.
Long and short of it is, do what is best for you in the long run, and anybody else be damned. |
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"I'd like the male opinion on a particular question.
I would like to know which is less attractive. Someone who is a bit fat (size 20ish) or someone who has lost weigth but will now be a bit saggy in places?
I accept neither can be attractive, just want an opinion n which is the the lesser of two evils as it were.
It's just an opinion, no right or wrong. I am interested, not going to base my decision on what is said here so don't worry about that.
The question is about those two scenarios only, NOT about BBW, fat bashing, health risks, drain on the NHS or however else someone might want to attempt to derail the thread "
Not everyone who loses weight has saggy bits 
Pandora x.. . Was a size 22 |
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"Good on you!!!
The thing nobody has mentioned though is how would it make you feel in either case?
There has been talk about the physical implications but the elephant in the room here (no pun intended) is mental health.
If you stop loosing weight because of the fear of saggy skin would you feel defeated?
Alternatively if you loose the weight and have saggy skin what effect would it have on your self image? How would you deal with it? If it was negative it could potentially send you into a downward spiral and cause you to gain weight again.
While captain hornpipe is correct in stating the physical effects, these are also big issues in an ever more stretched area of the health service. You think A & E is stretched to breaking on a Friday or Saturday night you want to look at the mental health care teams statistics. "Recommended targets" is often wildly unachieved every single hour of every single day.
It's why health care is now person centred on the "patient" as a whole including physically mental and to a lesser extent social health and well being.
Long and short of it is, do what is best for you in the long run, and anybody else be damned."
That is a very valid point, though I am happy to say my mental health is very good. But it could certainly be a factor for someone else.
If sagginess did have negative effect on me I guess I could pad myself out again. |
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"Not everyone who loses weight has saggy bits
Pandora x.. . Was a size 22"
This is true, but I do have some already. I had a spine op in December and one of the nurses noticed and asked how much weight I'd lost.
I'm sure I'm doomed to sagginess |
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"Not everyone who loses weight has saggy bits
Pandora x.. . Was a size 22
This is true, but I do have some already. I had a spine op in December and one of the nurses noticed and asked how much weight I'd lost.
I'm sure I'm doomed to sagginess "
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By *ieman300Man
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"Captainhornpipe's post is relevant in a way. If minx's decision to stay the size she is or lose weight and take the risk of having saggy bits n bobs is very close perhaps health benefit may sway her decision.
I've been losing weight, nearly 7 stone over 6 years. I think my decision is more about how far to go.
But health benefits has been at the root of it for a long time "
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