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Single guys - best approach

By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple over a year ago

London

It seems to us that there are two schools of thought when it comes to single guys sending messages :

1. Read profiles carefully and send carefully crafted messages to a few people.

2. Send loads of cut and paste messages to anyone who vaguely fits your criteria.

As a couple, we are more likely to respond to the former, but from a single guys point of view we can understand them playing the numbers game. - if you send out a hundred messages in thirty Mins and get five responses its a result.

So what do you do and why?

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By *rLucky777Man over a year ago

Leeds

I read the profile and try to appeal to their likes. Be complimentary, have humour and non pushy. Doesn't usually work.

What works is when I describe what I want to do to them. How I want to strip them naked, finger their g spot whilst licking their clit. Bend them over and spank them. Fuck them hard and pull their hair. Shoot hot creamy cum all over their face and tongue. Take a pic.

If you can turn them on then they want to fuck you and it will happen quickly. That's what tends to work I find.

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By *ampant Lion34Man over a year ago

East Midlands

I always read the profile. Some are ok and informative and positive but others come across up there own arses with huge lists of demands etc. Not just couples single women as well. I get there is alot of idiots out there who ruin it for us all but seems we all get tarred with same brush.

I've yet to have a meet on here for what ever reasons but I always send well though out presented messages etc and conform to anything required on there profiles. But to no avail. Most read and no reply just delete.

Maybe I am a complete munter lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have just rejoined and it is tough starting from scratch again, last time I had someone who verified me straight away.

I always read the profiles, only message those I think there is a genuine connection with, never pester (no reply get the message) and be myself.

Always happy to chat and a chuckle and I enjoy banter in the forums.

No expectation, no hassle.

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By *m3232Man over a year ago

maidenhead

My message is always fairly short as never a great typer and say what I am in to but with no dirty talk in the message.

Maybe I should do a big long message if that's what people want to read.

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By *DontExistWoman over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

i can't tell the difference between cut and paste tbh unless they make a mistake and call me a couple or i'm using both my profiles at once and they message both.

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By *r on the EdgeMan over a year ago

accrington

I tried the former at first and got no where, so tried the latter and guess what I got no where so I'm currently working on option 3

3 - going to clubs

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By *inkyLondonpair OP Couple over a year ago

London

"I always read the profile. Some are ok and informative and positive but others come across up there own arses with huge lists of demands etc. Not just couples single women as well. I get there is alot of idiots out there who ruin it for us all but seems we all get tarred with same brush.

Maybe I am a complete munter lol "

We would say only having one public pic of you in your army gear doesn't help. Some people are turned off by military connections (we aren't) and in any event the pic shows little of what you look like. Some tasteful body shots would help (but not cock pics!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never copied and pasted

Still get more deletes and ignores than replies of any sort, feel like giving up at times but then you stumble on a friendly one and faith is temporarily restored!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I've yet to have a meet on here for what ever reasons but I always send well though out presented messages etc and conform to anything required on there profiles. But to no avail. Most read and no reply just delete.

Maybe I am a complete munter lol "

I know the OP is specifically about messages, but what people should know is that very rarely will a single woman rely on just the message to decide whether to meet. Most women will check out a guys profile before they even think about replying. If the profile is crap, they won't even open the message, and it will be left or deleted unread.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

Single guys would be way better off contacting profiles who are actually looking to meet . Unsolicited messages are almost always deleted .

Check how often th e woman or couple meet too . If they haven't met for a few months then don't waste your time .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Read read again weigh up if you fit criteria message wait and if no response move on but I bet like a lot of guys I dread that fateful question pic please as that's the moment when you either see that message sorry not for me/us

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

If I am searching profiles which isn't that often. First I will set search parameters for either 20 miles within Manchester or London, and meets single guys.

This clears the people that clearly won't meet, though I know some people have they don't meet single guys but still do, it's time saving to clear everyone.

Then I look at profile, does profile pic get my attention, are there other photos that appeal to me, then I will have a read of profile and see if they go to clubs or just play at a hotel or house.

Then after this I will have a look at veris, if they have a veri with a mutual friend I may reach out and ask what they are like. If not, I will read to gain a flavour

Then I will write a message than is standard. In structure but personalised in content.

Then sometimes get a reply

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

I dont send messages with a view to meeting. I gave up on that years ago. I message my friends and i will participate in send a pic or message to so and so threads occasionally.

I used to do the craft a nice message thing. And we will leave it at that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dont send messages with a view to meeting. I gave up on that years ago. I message my friends and i will participate in send a pic or message to so and so threads occasionally.

I used to do the craft a nice message thing. And we will leave it at that

I agree. I think it's both nicer and better to strike up a conversation, albeit online firstly. I like to think it would go something like, online email chat, get to know each other, text and/or talk, meet for coffee/drink and go from there.

I'd actually like to make friends on here and not neccesarily with the view of anything else. There appears to be some really nice, genuine people. One lady in particular recently where we are chatting but, at some point would like to meet for lunch. I think striking up a friendship is also a good thing.

There does seem to be resistance to that from the vast majority, that's fine. My blocked list is enournous. If I can see a lady or couple have read an email I've sent and haven't replied, I simply block them now. At least you know the people your looking at and email potentially might be interested.

Happy fabbing Sunday y'all

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By *icegentglosMan over a year ago

Gloucester

First see if they are what I'm looking for. Second if I'm what they might be interested in. Third. Send a message but not about meeting or commenting on how sexy she is, more general chat.

Fourth, Sit back and wait for it to be deleted

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My messages are always personally crafted and specific to the person I am messaging. My first message always includes a number of face pics.

Tbh I still ain't had a great deal of luck with that. Probably because I list myself as bi, I cross dress and am seeking women or couples, also maybe my age.

But I have bad a few messages first from women and couples, hope one of these leads toy first meet on here.

I could have lied on my profile and had less lingerie pics.. but I would be lying to myself. I am who I am. And am what I am.

If people don't like that then sorry they ain't for me.

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

As a poster above said, it would be better messaging people based on them having a meet on or their status indicating wanting a meet.

The chances of justbsrumbling across someone and standing out are slim.

Lots of people might only meet once a month or so, unlikely they'll be sifting all the messages daily.

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

"I read the profile and try to appeal to their likes. Be complimentary, have humour and non pushy. Doesn't usually work.

If you can turn them on then they want to fuck you and it will happen quickly. That's what tends to work I find. "

Funny isn't it? I wouldn't read past the first line of that!!

For me the profile matters more than the message! Some effort involved rather than 'fill in later' or 'here for fun' and some decent pics. In the message I just expect a clear face pic and something along the lines of 'get in touch if you're interested' will do just fine!

If I'm not interested in the pictures then the works of Shakespeare, Chaucer and Austin combined wouldn't induce me to meet someone - I'd just feel bad that they made so much effort to no avail!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am also very aware that many of the people who visit swinger's clubs are also on here.

I prefer women, not men (although I admit I can bi bi, in the right situation).

I ain't in bad shape and hopefully don't look like I have fallen off the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down. I can hold a conversation and am extremely polite and respectful.

However as my tattoos are very distinctive, even if I was wearing a towel and nothing else. I would be most likely be avoided since I would be recognised as that bi guy who likes to wear Lingerie.

Hey ho. Not desperate, so I will stand by who I am and wait patiently for the right opportunity to come my way. Sometimes the best things are worth waiting for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I read the profile and try to appeal to their likes. Be complimentary, have humour and non pushy. Doesn't usually work.

If you can turn them on then they want to fuck you and it will happen quickly. That's what tends to work I find. "

We got tons of messages like that, straight delete. We'd rather give you the chance to explain yourself first, who you are etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A bird in the hand is worth much much more than two in the bush. Be true to yourself first.. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think its been touched upon above, at the end of the day women (just like most of the men) are drawn to the pictures/image of what they hopefully be attracted to in a real meet, and the initial message and profile content are largely irrelevant..begs the question as to why bothering to send a well crafted opening message...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I read the profile and try to appeal to their likes. Be complimentary, have humour and non pushy. Doesn't usually work.

If you can turn them on then they want to fuck you and it will happen quickly. That's what tends to work I find. "

So so sooo wrong on every level.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I read the profile and try to appeal to their likes. Be complimentary, have humour and non pushy. Doesn't usually work.

If you can turn them on then they want to fuck you and it will happen quickly. That's what tends to work I find. "

I think poster of this has been watching too much of "The Inbetweeners"

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By *a72Man over a year ago

london

"I think its been touched upon above, at the end of the day women (just like most of the men) are drawn to the pictures/image of what they hopefully be attracted to in a real meet, and the initial message and profile content are largely irrelevant..begs the question as to why bothering to send a well crafted opening message... "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always try to cater to the profile. Doesn't get many results and seems many don't acknowledge the effort that does go into it. But I stick by it.

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By *kyblue1878Couple over a year ago

Southport

"I read the profile and try to appeal to their likes. Be complimentary, have humour and non pushy. Doesn't usually work.

If you can turn them on then they want to fuck you and it will happen quickly. That's what tends to work I find. "

You have forgotten one major point that most single guys systematically do.....

You seem to forget that you're addressing a COUPLE whereas your words are directed at the lady! Seeing as 90% of couples profiles are generally managed by the husband you are making a huge faux pas.

Nothing more off putting!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I read the profile and try to appeal to their likes. Be complimentary, have humour and non pushy. Doesn't usually work.

If you can turn them on then they want to fuck you and it will happen quickly. That's what tends to work I find.

You have forgotten one major point that most single guys systematically do.....

You seem to forget that you're addressing a COUPLE whereas your words are directed at the lady! Seeing as 90% of couples profiles are generally managed by the husband you are making a huge faux pas.

Nothing more off putting!!!"

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