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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suppose it depends on how despatate you are to have sex. But yes there needs to be a spark of attraction both physically & emotionally between those involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are some guys are I absolutely love fucking. It's hot, they know how to hit the spot, they say the right things. But I don't actually fancy them. So know I don't have to fancy someone ( that emotion is rare), but I have to want to fuck them.
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By *horltzMan
over a year ago
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them...."
sometimes I fancy the mind more than the look , and for me that's better than fancying the body and not the mind .......... If that makes sense |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"I do, but mainly need to fancy the mind and the personality. Many men it seems just want fresh flesh."
Yep, this is me too. Doesn't matter how gorgeous they are, if they have the personality of a wet mop, I'm not going to be attracted to them |
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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago
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yes i do, i don't have to know a lot about them to fancy them either, just physical looks will do.
on the other hand i think it's why some of us go off guys who seem to want to fuck anything, it looks like they have no standards at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes.Im so fussy.I do find people attractive but it has to be more than that.They have to have that thing about them that makes my heart race and makes me desire them and if that isn't there then I'm not sharing my body with them x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well...judging by the amount of messages I get back, saying 'not my type' 'not for me' or indeed a delete of my messages. I would say yes... people feel they have to fancy a person to shag them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them...."
yes very much so
otherwise why would 1 do it for? Numbers, taking 1 for the team? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So.
Many say yes..
So what is with all the photos on here of Mrs being fucked by 3 or more men with beer guts, man boobs and flabby hairy arses?
Frig me.. if that is attractive to women, then i am going to ditch wearing Lingerie and start eating pies and drinking 10 pints a night... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them...."
100% yes, that's why every rejection on here hurts as it makes me feel ugly. |
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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago
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I only meet couples and been in the game long enough to know I'm only there to indulge thier fantasies which also happen to be mine so no don't think you have to fancy them its just sex.in fact I think if you start fancing another guys wife it could blur the lines a mutual attraction is a must though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only meet couples and been in the game long enough to know I'm only there to indulge thier fantasies which also happen to be mine so no don't think you have to fancy them its just sex.in fact I think if you start fancing another guys wife it could blur the lines a mutual attraction is a must though."
my dick works on attraction, I don't fancy them, he doesn't get hard. |
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"So.
Many say yes..
So what is with all the photos on here of Mrs being fucked by 3 or more men with beer guts, man boobs and flabby hairy arses?
Frig me.. if that is attractive to women, then i am going to ditch wearing Lingerie and start eating pies and drinking 10 pints a night..."
Yep , agree with this .
It totally depends on the scenario for us .
Once in action so to speak , there doesn't need to be an attraction as such , as it's the scenario and not necessarily the people .
Fior a one on one , then it's a yes , we have to fancy them . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (Yasmin) haven't fancied many of the meets we have had ,makes no difference to me it's just sex ... I fancy my partner and we use fab to fulfil our fantasies , our sex life is amazing and fab just adds to that .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them...."
I've fucked people I've not even seen... So no. However if im going to be more intimate ( like when we meet couples) then yes I do.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had sex with people I don't fancy and it's been very torrid... sometimes it's been a one off, sometimes on-going dependent on how good the experience was.
I've had sex with people I fancied just based on their looks and then got totally turned off during sex with them.
I prefer the sex you have with someone you fall in love with, because everything they do is just bloody amazing and I love that feeling lol... It makes my libido purr 24/7 lol.
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By *ntnCleoCouple
over a year ago
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Absolutely.
Cleo is very picky - she has rose-tinted glasses when it comes to me and says she won't shag anyone unless they are as hot as (she sees) me. She says why would she bother when she can have me anytime?
Which I get I suppose, from her perspective. But I do tell her "that's fine, but you don't want roast lamb and veg every night! Some days you can have a curry or stir fry or even take away!" |
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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago
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"I only meet couples and been in the game long enough to know I'm only there to indulge thier fantasies which also happen to be mine so no don't think you have to fancy them its just sex.in fact I think if you start fancing another guys wife it could blur the lines a mutual attraction is a must though.
my dick works on attraction, I don't fancy them, he doesn't get hard."
mine works on the mind guess we are different. |
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Yes there has to be a spark. Just something about that person that you like and hopefully they feel it too otherwise it's mechanical.
A good kiss is usually an indication for me. If that leaves you cold then there's no point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them...."
Yes, without any shadow of doubt.
How could you have sex with someone you're not attracted to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So.
Many say yes..
So what is with all the photos on here of Mrs being fucked by 3 or more men with beer guts, man boobs and flabby hairy arses?
Frig me.. if that is attractive to women, then i am going to ditch wearing Lingerie and start eating pies and drinking 10 pints a night..."
I'd much rather shag someone with moobs, a flabby hairy arse and a lovely personality than some guy that thinks the sun shines out of his own arse. |
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100%. The worry issue is people have sex with people they don't find attractive. How and why does that happen? I don't understand how this phenomenon occurs? Would rather stick my knob in a blender than have sex with someone I don't fancy. |
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them....
Yes, without any shadow of doubt.
How could you have sex with someone you're not attracted to?"
Very easily in a group scenario |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them...."
Yes totally. Couldnt fuck someone i dont find sexual attractive n id hope they felt the same |
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"So.
Many say yes..
So what is with all the photos on here of Mrs being fucked by 3 or more men with beer guts, man boobs and flabby hairy arses?
Frig me.. if that is attractive to women, then i am going to ditch wearing Lingerie and start eating pies and drinking 10 pints a night...
I'd much rather shag someone with moobs, a flabby hairy arse and a lovely personality than some guy that thinks the sun shines out of his own arse. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So.
Many say yes..
So what is with all the photos on here of Mrs being fucked by 3 or more men with beer guts, man boobs and flabby hairy arses?
Frig me.. if that is attractive to women, then i am going to ditch wearing Lingerie and start eating pies and drinking 10 pints a night...
I'd much rather shag someone with moobs, a flabby hairy arse and a lovely personality than some guy that thinks the sun shines out of his own arse. "
Do you know what ...that last paragraph is sooooo 100% right - absolutely  |
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"So.
Many say yes..
So what is with all the photos on here of Mrs being fucked by 3 or more men with beer guts, man boobs and flabby hairy arses?
Frig me.. if that is attractive to women, then i am going to ditch wearing Lingerie and start eating pies and drinking 10 pints a night...
I'd much rather shag someone with moobs, a flabby hairy arse and a lovely personality than some guy that thinks the sun shines out of his own arse. "
Me too |
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Yes, but the term 'fancy' is pretty broad for us, and interchangeable. Sometimes it'll be about looks, but other times it'll be someone's tone, or vibe - or just what type of meet we fancy that night. So not a simple answer for us. Whoops! xx |
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"100%. The worry issue is people have sex with people they don't find attractive. How and why does that happen? I don't understand how this phenomenon occurs? Would rather stick my knob in a blender than have sex with someone I don't fancy."
This can happen with couples meets if one half of the couple doesn't find their prospective partner attractive and that's where socials are essential. But if that's not practical there is always the possibility of somebody having to take one for the team. It's not always easy to walk away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"100%. The worry issue is people have sex with people they don't find attractive. How and why does that happen? I don't understand how this phenomenon occurs? Would rather stick my knob in a blender than have sex with someone I don't fancy.
This can happen with couples meets if one half of the couple doesn't find their prospective partner attractive and that's where socials are essential. But if that's not practical there is always the possibility of somebody having to take one for the team. It's not always easy to walk away."
Its easy to walk away.. we would never dream of "taking one for the team" there should never be a situation where sex is forced upon someone just because!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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100% YES - the reason I was stalked in January was simply because I turned up at a met, but refused to have sex with the MF couple, because the guy was horrid looking and very dirty with it - so yes you must fancy or at the very least like the person your about to have sex with  |
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them...."
I dont think so, if its casual and you bit know what you want. Because if your acting out a fantasy its whatever you want |
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them...."
What a ridiculous question. And I thought it was just some men on here who'd fuck anything that breathes on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them....
What a ridiculous question. And I thought it was just some men on here who'd fuck anything that breathes on here."
No it's not |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm fussy and need a few factors that make me want to play .Being attracted to the person is number 1 ,then I like polite and nicely spoken with a edge about him and height .  |
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them....
What a ridiculous question. And I thought it was just some men on here who'd fuck anything that breathes on here.
No it's not "
Of course it is, what sort of male or female slag would shag someone they didn't at all fancy? Talk about sad and desperate. |
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them....
What a ridiculous question. And I thought it was just some men on here who'd fuck anything that breathes on here.
No it's not
Of course it is, what sort of male or female slag would shag someone they didn't at all fancy? Talk about sad and desperate."
We aren't sad or desperate at all but in the right scenario it doesn't matter who's involved. As long as they are clean and respectful it's all good . And it's an attitude more than looks that are important too . So terminology like slag isn't gonna cut it
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them....
What a ridiculous question. And I thought it was just some men on here who'd fuck anything that breathes on here.
No it's not
Of course it is, what sort of male or female slag would shag someone they didn't at all fancy? Talk about sad and desperate."
Ooh ouch. I guess that makes me a slag! Though I will insist that I'm certainly not desperate, as I have my fair share of offers most of which I reject. But I have fucked men i don't fancy. Why do I fuck them? Various reasons. They might say something to excite me, they might look hot, I might have a gut feeling that they would give me an amazing time sexually. In fact one of the best regular fucks I've had is with a guy I did not fancy, but the sexual connection and chemistry was incredible. Yet I've had bland sex with men I do fancy.
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's a yes from us . Not just anyone will do and hope our playmates have that view and don't just shag me ( jilly) cos it's a shag . Would like to think there attraction for them to  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them....
Yes, without any shadow of doubt.
How could you have sex with someone you're not attracted to?
Very easily in a group scenario "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them...."
Would have thought it was obvious that fancying someone would be absolutely essential if you were even going to consider playing with someone.
But that's just me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So.
Many say yes..
So what is with all the photos on here of Mrs being fucked by 3 or more men with beer guts, man boobs and flabby hairy arses?
Frig me.. if that is attractive to women, then i am going to ditch wearing Lingerie and start eating pies and drinking 10 pints a night..."
I'd agree and say that's a very good point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A major part of the problem with Fab, is that people don't tend to want to communicate, they go by a photo and then dismiss without getting to know the personality behind the picture.
I have had more success on a very well known social site, simply because its all about getting to know the person. On here its all about the looks... very shallow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ok, so in orgies, gang bangs, dogging scenarios, and general group fun at parties are most people saying the 'fancy' emotion is always in existence? Seriously? Do people actually fancy the stranger they fuck in a club? or do they just find them hot and a good fuck? Or do I have a different definition of the word 'fancy'?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A major part of the problem with Fab, is that people don't tend to want to communicate, they go by a photo and then dismiss without getting to know the personality behind the picture.
I have had more success on a very well known social site, simply because its all about getting to know the person. On here its all about the looks... very shallow. "
Very true. Mind you there are a few decent people on here. You've just got to wade through all the shallow minded people to find them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A major part of the problem with Fab, is that people don't tend to want to communicate, they go by a photo and then dismiss without getting to know the personality behind the picture.
I have had more success on a very well known social site, simply because its all about getting to know the person. On here its all about the looks... very shallow. "
I agree, I want to see if there is a spark of "something" before starting to play, anything less becomes more of a posh wank. I'm wary because I've come across too many people who enjoy being in / creating drama and I don't enjoy complications. A spark of attractiveness, respect and trust goes a long, long way xx |
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"Ok, so in orgies, gang bangs, dogging scenarios, and general group fun at parties are most people saying the 'fancy' emotion is always in existence? Seriously? Do people actually fancy the stranger they fuck in a club? or do they just find them hot and a good fuck? Or do I have a different definition of the word 'fancy'?
Mrs"
Not just you |
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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago
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"I (Yasmin) haven't fancied many of the meets we have had ,makes no difference to me it's just sex ... I fancy my partner and we use fab to fulfil our fantasies , our sex life is amazing and fab just adds to that .. "
Exactly, it's different for couples in that you might have to 'take one for the team' on occasions but things equal out, usually. |
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"I (Yasmin) haven't fancied many of the meets we have had ,makes no difference to me it's just sex ... I fancy my partner and we use fab to fulfil our fantasies , our sex life is amazing and fab just adds to that ..
Exactly, it's different for couples in that you might have to 'take one for the team' on occasions but things equal out, usually."
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By (user no longer on site)
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I actually think that since trying to make sure I'm sexually attracted to sexual partners ive found its rare I play....
I used to just go with the moment. Now I stop to think do i find them attractive.... And as such rarely play.  |
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"100%. The worry issue is people have sex with people they don't find attractive. How and why does that happen? I don't understand how this phenomenon occurs? Would rather stick my knob in a blender than have sex with someone I don't fancy.
This can happen with couples meets if one half of the couple doesn't find their prospective partner attractive and that's where socials are essential. But if that's not practical there is always the possibility of somebody having to take one for the team. It's not always easy to walk away."
We never take one for the team that might makes us fussy but that's our decision |
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"I actually think that since trying to make sure I'm sexually attracted to sexual partners ive found its rare I play....
I used to just go with the moment. Now I stop to think do i find them attractive.... And as such rarely play. "
And I would guess that totally sucks ? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yes, I do have to fancy someone. I actually checked the definition to make sure I wasn't going to post something silly - I think what fancying means can vary a lot.
Even in group play, I still want to feel that desire for someone. Otherwise I can't bring myself to play with them and switch off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them....
What a ridiculous question. And I thought it was just some men on here who'd fuck anything that breathes on here.
No it's not
Of course it is, what sort of male or female slag would shag someone they didn't at all fancy? Talk about sad and desperate.
Ooh ouch. I guess that makes me a slag! Though I will insist that I'm certainly not desperate, as I have my fair share of offers most of which I reject. But I have fucked men i don't fancy. Why do I fuck them? Various reasons. They might say something to excite me, they might look hot, I might have a gut feeling that they would give me an amazing time sexually. In fact one of the best regular fucks I've had is with a guy I did not fancy, but the sexual connection and chemistry was incredible. Yet I've had bland sex with men I do fancy.
Mrs"
Completely agree with this. At a club, I've had group fun which has included men I haven't fancied but the sex has been great.
To call people slags is pretty immature and childish and not very respectful |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I actually think that since trying to make sure I'm sexually attracted to sexual partners ive found its rare I play....
I used to just go with the moment. Now I stop to think do i find them attractive.... And as such rarely play.
And I would guess that totally sucks ?"
Yeah that would suck with us, we would have missed out on too much hot sexy fun if we stopped to worry about whether we fancied the person. An example. I briefly got talking to a guy at a club because we had mutual friends on the scene. I was not interested. Long story but many moons later he attended our house party. I was playing to 2 guys who I usually play with and he joined in. And we had the most amazing sex. To this day I would love to have a repeat with him. Do I fancy him? I think I might have started to fancy after he'd given me such an amazing time, but I certainly didn't fancy before. He didn't fancy me because he showed no interest afterwards in meeting again. But it doesn't matter if we fancied each other, because sexually we had a great time for one night. So the question my husband and I ask out selves is not 'do we fancy them?' but 'will we enjoy it? do we want it?' And it's question that is only relevant for that moment in time.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them....
What a ridiculous question. And I thought it was just some men on here who'd fuck anything that breathes on here.
No it's not
Of course it is, what sort of male or female slag would shag someone they didn't at all fancy? Talk about sad and desperate.
Ooh ouch. I guess that makes me a slag! Though I will insist that I'm certainly not desperate, as I have my fair share of offers most of which I reject. But I have fucked men i don't fancy. Why do I fuck them? Various reasons. They might say something to excite me, they might look hot, I might have a gut feeling that they would give me an amazing time sexually. In fact one of the best regular fucks I've had is with a guy I did not fancy, but the sexual connection and chemistry was incredible. Yet I've had bland sex with men I do fancy.
Mrs
Completely agree with this. At a club, I've had group fun which has included men I haven't fancied but the sex has been great.
To call people slags is pretty immature and childish and not very respectful "
The guy who suggested people who do that are slags, has 'gang bangs' and 'dogging' on his list of interests, both activities that doesn't tend to involve much of the 'fancy' emotion. He's either being incredibly naiive or downright hypocritical. |
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"I actually think that since trying to make sure I'm sexually attracted to sexual partners ive found its rare I play....
I used to just go with the moment. Now I stop to think do i find them attractive.... And as such rarely play.
And I would guess that totally sucks ?
Yeah that would suck with us, we would have missed out on too much hot sexy fun if we stopped to worry about whether we fancied the person. An example. I briefly got talking to a guy at a club because we had mutual friends on the scene. I was not interested. Long story but many moons later he attended our house party. I was playing to 2 guys who I usually play with and he joined in. And we had the most amazing sex. To this day I would love to have a repeat with him. Do I fancy him? I think I might have started to fancy after he'd given me such an amazing time, but I certainly didn't fancy before. He didn't fancy me because he showed no interest afterwards in meeting again. But it doesn't matter if we fancied each other, because sexually we had a great time for one night. So the question my husband and I ask out selves is not 'do we fancy them?' but 'will we enjoy it? do we want it?' And it's question that is only relevant for that moment in time.
Mrs"
This sums it up perfectly and is exactly why we feel the same way . The process involved when one looks for a playmate on here is entirely different to the play at a party or in a club . We call it going with the flow , and sometimes you find playmates you would never choose normally , but they prove to be amazing in these scenarios .
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"I actually think that since trying to make sure I'm sexually attracted to sexual partners ive found its rare I play....
I used to just go with the moment. Now I stop to think do i find them attractive.... And as such rarely play.
And I would guess that totally sucks ?
Yeah that would suck with us, we would have missed out on too much hot sexy fun if we stopped to worry about whether we fancied the person. An example. I briefly got talking to a guy at a club because we had mutual friends on the scene. I was not interested. Long story but many moons later he attended our house party. I was playing to 2 guys who I usually play with and he joined in. And we had the most amazing sex. To this day I would love to have a repeat with him. Do I fancy him? I think I might have started to fancy after he'd given me such an amazing time, but I certainly didn't fancy before. He didn't fancy me because he showed no interest afterwards in meeting again. But it doesn't matter if we fancied each other, because sexually we had a great time for one night. So the question my husband and I ask out selves is not 'do we fancy them?' but 'will we enjoy it? do we want it?' And it's question that is only relevant for that moment in time.
Mrs
This sums it up perfectly and is exactly why we feel the same way . The process involved when one looks for a playmate on here is entirely different to the play at a party or in a club . We call it going with the flow , and sometimes you find playmates you would never choose normally , but they prove to be amazing in these scenarios .
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This is exactly how I feel. On a one to one meet, where I like to have a conversation with someone as well as sex, then I do have to fancy them. But at a club, I just go with the flow and as long as they are polite and respectful, then the fancying part isn't important and the sex has been great.
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"I actually think that since trying to make sure I'm sexually attracted to sexual partners ive found its rare I play....
I used to just go with the moment. Now I stop to think do i find them attractive.... And as such rarely play.
And I would guess that totally sucks ?
Yeah that would suck with us, we would have missed out on too much hot sexy fun if we stopped to worry about whether we fancied the person. An example. I briefly got talking to a guy at a club because we had mutual friends on the scene. I was not interested. Long story but many moons later he attended our house party. I was playing to 2 guys who I usually play with and he joined in. And we had the most amazing sex. To this day I would love to have a repeat with him. Do I fancy him? I think I might have started to fancy after he'd given me such an amazing time, but I certainly didn't fancy before. He didn't fancy me because he showed no interest afterwards in meeting again. But it doesn't matter if we fancied each other, because sexually we had a great time for one night. So the question my husband and I ask out selves is not 'do we fancy them?' but 'will we enjoy it? do we want it?' And it's question that is only relevant for that moment in time.
Mrs"
I had something similar. Had a meet with a guy that I didn't fancy. Still met him even though my partner couldn't make it.
He was amazing and lovely and very interesting. We had a great time. |
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"So heres a new one do people think you need to fancy the person your meeting to shag them....
What a ridiculous question. And I thought it was just some men on here who'd fuck anything that breathes on here.
No it's not
Of course it is, what sort of male or female slag would shag someone they didn't at all fancy? Talk about sad and desperate.
Ooh ouch. I guess that makes me a slag! Though I will insist that I'm certainly not desperate, as I have my fair share of offers most of which I reject. But I have fucked men i don't fancy. Why do I fuck them? Various reasons. They might say something to excite me, they might look hot, I might have a gut feeling that they would give me an amazing time sexually. In fact one of the best regular fucks I've had is with a guy I did not fancy, but the sexual connection and chemistry was incredible. Yet I've had bland sex with men I do fancy.
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Completely agree with this. At a club, I've had group fun which has included men I haven't fancied but the sex has been great.
To call people slags is pretty immature and childish and not very respectful
The guy who suggested people who do that are slags, has 'gang bangs' and 'dogging' on his list of interests, both activities that doesn't tend to involve much of the 'fancy' emotion. He's either being incredibly naiive or downright hypocritical. "
Lol I love delusion that's funny as fk!! |
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"I actually think that since trying to make sure I'm sexually attracted to sexual partners ive found its rare I play....
I used to just go with the moment. Now I stop to think do i find them attractive.... And as such rarely play.
And I would guess that totally sucks ?
Yeah that would suck with us, we would have missed out on too much hot sexy fun if we stopped to worry about whether we fancied the person. An example. I briefly got talking to a guy at a club because we had mutual friends on the scene. I was not interested. Long story but many moons later he attended our house party. I was playing to 2 guys who I usually play with and he joined in. And we had the most amazing sex. To this day I would love to have a repeat with him. Do I fancy him? I think I might have started to fancy after he'd given me such an amazing time, but I certainly didn't fancy before. He didn't fancy me because he showed no interest afterwards in meeting again. But it doesn't matter if we fancied each other, because sexually we had a great time for one night. So the question my husband and I ask out selves is not 'do we fancy them?' but 'will we enjoy it? do we want it?' And it's question that is only relevant for that moment in time.
Mrs"
Well said and articulated exactly our viewpoint |
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"I actually think that since trying to make sure I'm sexually attracted to sexual partners ive found its rare I play....
I used to just go with the moment. Now I stop to think do i find them attractive.... And as such rarely play.
And I would guess that totally sucks ?
Yeah that would suck with us, we would have missed out on too much hot sexy fun if we stopped to worry about whether we fancied the person. An example. I briefly got talking to a guy at a club because we had mutual friends on the scene. I was not interested. Long story but many moons later he attended our house party. I was playing to 2 guys who I usually play with and he joined in. And we had the most amazing sex. To this day I would love to have a repeat with him. Do I fancy him? I think I might have started to fancy after he'd given me such an amazing time, but I certainly didn't fancy before. He didn't fancy me because he showed no interest afterwards in meeting again. But it doesn't matter if we fancied each other, because sexually we had a great time for one night. So the question my husband and I ask out selves is not 'do we fancy them?' but 'will we enjoy it? do we want it?' And it's question that is only relevant for that moment in time.
Mrs
This sums it up perfectly and is exactly why we feel the same way . The process involved when one looks for a playmate on here is entirely different to the play at a party or in a club . We call it going with the flow , and sometimes you find playmates you would never choose normally , but they prove to be amazing in these scenarios .
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Yup. 100% agree with this. We have played with people in a club that I know had they messaged us via fab we would have on their profile or oh2otos said not for us x yet had great times. X |
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Entirely different when it's an organised social meet with sex, from a club environment, in my opinion.
For a meet yes I'd have to fancy them, but not only that... I'd have to find them interesting and intelligent and conversational.
In a dark room in a club I really don't care what they look like. I go with the flow. |
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