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How do people arrange meets when they have new borns. We certainly wouldnt want a child left unatended or crying whilst we were in another room having a meet. But then on the otherhand is it any different to having sex together with a baby in the other room. How do people both feel about this and how do you arrange meets? |
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Just my thoughts, but I wouldn't be wanting to have a meet whilst my kid is in the same house, regardless of age. I would prefer grandparents to take them for the evening. Is that a possibility for you? |
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"Just my thoughts, but I wouldn't be wanting to have a meet whilst my kid is in the same house, regardless of age. I would prefer grandparents to take them for the evening. Is that a possibility for you? "
Surely that's only for a first meet if you're not sure you can trust them yet? If the meet is with someone you can trust, I don't see how it's any different to having normal sex with children in the house. You wouldn't expect a "normal" couple to send the kids off to their grandparents just so they can have sex, would you? |
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"We would never have met anyone at home while our children were in the house. Parents are often groomed as a way of getting to the children. It's not a risk worth taking in my opinion."
Completely agree 
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I have never met at my home with a fab meet whether the kids are home or not. This is their home and a place they should feel safe and I couldn't guarantee that if a relative stranger knew my address. I have had a few weirdos stalk me down on fb etc but I can lock down that, as well as a few that have even tried to find out where I live to come tell my children I'm a swinger !! Wtf that about !
I know there are lots that entertain from home and yes there are some that do whilst the children are there but it's not for me.
Clubs / hotels less personal and I'm happy with that
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My daughter is 20 and still at home so unless she's out...no meets at home.
And from the other point of view....we've been to a couples house whilst the young child is crying upstairs needless to say it stayed just a social and things never moved on. |
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"Just my thoughts, but I wouldn't be wanting to have a meet whilst my kid is in the same house, regardless of age. I would prefer grandparents to take them for the evening. Is that a possibility for you?
Surely that's only for a first meet if you're not sure you can trust them yet? If the meet is with someone you can trust, I don't see how it's any different to having normal sex with children in the house. You wouldn't expect a "normal" couple to send the kids off to their grandparents just so they can have sex, would you?"
Well said! I have nothing more to add sorry hehe |
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"Just my thoughts, but I wouldn't be wanting to have a meet whilst my kid is in the same house, regardless of age. I would prefer grandparents to take them for the evening. Is that a possibility for you?
Surely that's only for a first meet if you're not sure you can trust them yet? If the meet is with someone you can trust, I don't see how it's any different to having normal sex with children in the house. You wouldn't expect a "normal" couple to send the kids off to their grandparents just so they can have sex, would you?
Well said! I have nothing more to add sorry hehe"
As you're not just talking of babies here, what about the possibility of the child waking up and walking in... Just not right.
I wouldn't be willing to meet anyone that thought it was acceptable for me to go round whilst their child was there. I'm not someone that will be permanently in their life or there for some period of time, and that's what I believe children need, not someone they'll possibly see now and again leaving them asking questions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The only person I have had sex with in my house when my daughter with special needs is in bed, was my former FWB. I had been seeing him for 2 and a half years before I asked him to stay overnight. Before that he came in the day when nobody was home. My daughter sleeps downstairs. I don't host at all anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Never with kids around its just wrong
we only plan meets if grandparents ask to have the children for weekends..the odd occasion with plenty of notice of a good party with friends we have them looked after, our family life governs our play time not vice versa |
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I've removed threads.
Just a reminder discussing any kind of sexual activity under the age of 18 is against forum rules.
However if anyone tries to discuss things like that with you privately always, always report.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Never, ever, ever would I host with anyone else in the house. Let alone my kids!! I've been a single parent and I just meet socially then met at theirs. I would ALSO NEVER have a first meet at my house. There are some great people on here but some very very sick ones too sadly |
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we once spent a wasted sunday afternoon where for some reason, all the people we were talking to wanted us to come to theirs after 9.30 after their kids were in bed...apart from it being a massive no from us anyway, 9.30 o a sunday night is just really inconvenient...
we also had someone who wanted a first social in a park while they took their kids there...just no |
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We agreed from the outset that our home life would be kept entirely separate from swinging so we choose not to accommodate, we stick to club meets for a number of reasons so don't expect other couples to accommodate either.
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"I have never met at my home with a fab meet whether the kids are home or not. This is their home and a place they should feel safe and I couldn't guarantee that if a relative stranger knew my address. I have had a few weirdos stalk me down on fb etc but I can lock down that, as well as a few that have even tried to find out where I live to come tell my children I'm a swinger !! Wtf that about !
I know there are lots that entertain from home and yes there are some that do whilst the children are there but it's not for me.
Clubs / hotels less personal and I'm happy with that
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I totally agree I'm a single dad and this is my daughters home you can't guarantee some nutjob isn't going to come back when she's here alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We would never have met anyone at home while our children were in the house. Parents are often groomed as a way of getting to the children. It's not a risk worth taking in my opinion."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do people arrange meets when they have new borns. We certainly wouldnt want a child left unatended or crying whilst we were in another room having a meet. But then on the otherhand is it any different to having sex together with a baby in the other room. How do people both feel about this and how do you arrange meets?"
We won't meet at home. it's not fair on the kids, likewise we won't meet at somebodies house. |
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