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Fab is just not quite cutting it
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Has fab just made sex too accessable that it eventually gets boring. I have offers from vastly different playmates offering vastly different meets and I keep finding myself saying "nah".
As my profile says im really not a swinger but even in my dating life atm I just cant be arsed.
Not depressed and I have a sex drive.... meh I think I must have broke a brain fuse somewhere.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has fab just made sex too accessable that it eventually gets boring. I have offers from vastly different playmates offering vastly different meets and I keep finding myself saying "nah".
As my profile says im really not a swinger but even in my dating life atm I just cant be arsed.
Not depressed and I have a sex drive.... meh I think I must have broke a brain fuse somewhere.
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I think most people can relate to this at some point. Maybe you need a break from Fab and dating so you can reflect on what it is you want?
I went through something similar over a year ago and only came back on a few weeks back. The break has been good for me. |
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Has fab just made sex too accessable that it eventually gets boring. I have offers from vastly different playmates offering vastly different meets and I keep finding myself saying "nah".
As my profile says im really not a swinger but even in my dating life atm I just cant be arsed.
Not depressed and I have a sex drive.... meh I think I must have broke a brain fuse somewhere.
I think most people can relate to this at some point. Maybe you need a break from Fab and dating so you can reflect on what it is you want?
I went through something similar over a year ago and only came back on a few weeks back. The break has been good for me."
Ooh that's exactly what I was just about to type! Loving my return..   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Has fab just made sex too accessable that it eventually gets boring. I have offers from vastly different playmates offering vastly different meets and I keep finding myself saying "nah".
As my profile says im really not a swinger but even in my dating life atm I just cant be arsed.
Not depressed and I have a sex drive.... meh I think I must have broke a brain fuse somewhere.
I think most people can relate to this at some point. Maybe you need a break from Fab and dating so you can reflect on what it is you want?
I went through something similar over a year ago and only came back on a few weeks back. The break has been good for me.
Ooh that's exactly what I was just about to type! Loving my return.. "
Ive done that before but even that isnt cutting it - it really is a very weird place I am mentally atm. Working hard, should be playing hard and instead Im waiting for Tom Hardy and a bottle of baby oil to walk into my life  |
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Has fab just made sex too accessable that it eventually gets boring. I have offers from vastly different playmates offering vastly different meets and I keep finding myself saying "nah".
As my profile says im really not a swinger but even in my dating life atm I just cant be arsed.
Not depressed and I have a sex drive.... meh I think I must have broke a brain fuse somewhere.
I think most people can relate to this at some point. Maybe you need a break from Fab and dating so you can reflect on what it is you want?
I went through something similar over a year ago and only came back on a few weeks back. The break has been good for me.
Ooh that's exactly what I was just about to type! Loving my return..
Ive done that before but even that isnt cutting it - it really is a very weird place I am mentally atm. Working hard, should be playing hard and instead Im waiting for Tom Hardy and a bottle of baby oil to walk into my life "
Ohh if that happens. Please let me join in! |
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See this is the thing. Women get inundated with offers. But it is still hard to sift through and find the right matches.
Men get inundated with knock backs / have to spend a lot of time chatting and coaxing.
So it's hard to get a match (or a willing participant) at all.
Sex isn't really a hard activity. So why is it so hard to find great regular sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has fab just made sex too accessable that it eventually gets boring. I have offers from vastly different playmates offering vastly different meets and I keep finding myself saying "nah"."
Sounds like battle of the sexes. If a guy was to claim that he'd be laughed off the site for lying through his ass  |
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I took most of last year out. My profile was still here but I wasn't on here much at all. I wasn't feeling it. This year I'm feeling it very much. I guess what I'm saying is we all go through phases. I'm still looking for my FWB but as it says on my profile I'm up for meets until she comes along. I figured I won't find her by not meeting if that makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think part of the problem is that I'm not mentally stimulated. 100s of messages all along the lines of fancy a fuck.
The disparity in numbers here of men v women means I get messages from men who wouldn't give me time of day in the real world. That bothers me a lot. And if i hear someone say that fat girls are desperate for sex so will sleep with anyone i may just lamp them with a 14 inch dong!!!
A re eval is what i need. But Id miss the chat roon patter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Delete your account, go cold turkey with fab. It sounds like you need a break, and it takes 2 minutes to create a new account. Unless you can hide your account and actually never check it etc.
If you're looking for something outside of swinging and you're getting offers from men who wouldn't look at you in the real world, fab probably won't help you in the long run.
Good luck in your search, you'll find a sex hungry guy who wants monogamy - just be sure to cut out things that waste your time if that's what you truly want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've stoped looking for anything on fab. The energy searching is wasted energy that can be spent in someone who actually wants/wanted it.
Good luck rebooting your sex drive. A break does work, I had that proven to myself.  |
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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago
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"I think part of the problem is that I'm not mentally stimulated. 100s of messages all along the lines of fancy a fuck.
The disparity in numbers here of men v women means I get messages from men who wouldn't give me time of day in the real world. That bothers me a lot. And if i hear someone say that fat girls are desperate for sex so will sleep with anyone i may just lamp them with a 14 inch dong!!!
A re eval is what i need. But Id miss the chat roon patter"
maybe just do what i did and block all men from messaging? i cba with most guys coz they also don't stimulate me mentally and i know most of them will put in the initial effort then fuck off until next time they want servicing so i just got rid of them altogether. the guys who use these sites don't do it for me. |
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Has fab just made sex too accessable that it eventually gets boring. I have offers from vastly different playmates offering vastly different meets and I keep finding myself saying "nah".
As my profile says im really not a swinger but even in my dating life atm I just cant be arsed.
Not depressed and I have a sex drive.... meh I think I must have broke a brain fuse somewhere.
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Well if you can't be arsed,surely you've lost your mojo?. Happened to me about 2 months ago. So stopped coming on here so much and hooked up with one of the first people i'd met. The rest is history. |
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I agree with the message "not mental simulated".
We get hundreds of one liner messages, clearly by people who haven't read our profile - mail obviously directed at me (fem) and apart from seeing Willy's of different shades of colour and sizes and shapes, nothing interesting is ever said.
Most guys think "fancy a shag" will make me want to meet them.
No attempt to hold a conversation or anything.
Can't jump to base 4 without going through 1,2 and 3 first...! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't be the first bloke to say that sex via fab is too accessible. I joined fab after visiting clubs, which I still enjoy from time to time. However for a bloke meeting a woman or a couple off this site is pretty damn difficult which will predominantly be down to the ratio of men to women registered . You lucky women have lots of choices on here so don't complain! |
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"Should try being a bloke on Yuh. You'll soon find out it's not that easily accessible. "
Is the truth! The day that guys come on Fab, and say that there is too much sex on offer, and that it is too accessible, will be more important that any religious Second Coming! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well if you can't be arsed,surely you've lost your mojo?. Happened to me about 2 months ago. So stopped coming on here so much and hooked up with one of the first people i'd met. The rest is history."
No I have my mojo and a very healthy relationship with several vibrators and toys. Just no one is offering me anything more exciting or mentally stimulating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has fab just made sex too accessable that it eventually gets boring. I have offers from vastly different playmates offering vastly different meets and I keep finding myself saying "nah".
As my profile says im really not a swinger but even in my dating life atm I just cant be arsed.
You aren't alone.
Not depressed and I have a sex drive.... meh I think I must have broke a brain fuse somewhere.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well if you can't be arsed,surely you've lost your mojo?. Happened to me about 2 months ago. So stopped coming on here so much and hooked up with one of the first people i'd met. The rest is history.
No I have my mojo and a very healthy relationship with several vibrators and toys. Just no one is offering me anything more exciting or mentally stimulating."
I very rarely if ever read any of the first messages that come through, as you say they are all exactly the same. Have a good flirt and read on the forums and hunt out men you think you would get on with, then message them . Sending out the first message is fairly terrifying/exciting, but gives a different dimension to being here.  |
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Well if you can't be arsed,surely you've lost your mojo?. Happened to me about 2 months ago. So stopped coming on here so much and hooked up with one of the first people i'd met. The rest is history.
No I have my mojo and a very healthy relationship with several vibrators and toys. Just no one is offering me anything more exciting or mentally stimulating."
Do they know what you're looking for though? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Im the same. I just want a regular playmate. Its impossible to find"
Unfortunately most will put looking for regular/FB/fwb etc on their profile but don't mean it, my experience is that they meet, you hear nothing as they think they will be inundated after getting a verification from you, when this doesn't happen, they come back to you. My answer to guys like that would be no not interested anymore, I'm not a booty call cos you can't get anyone else! |
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By *ontanMan
over a year ago
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Ive msg'd loads of women and couples on here very politley doing my damdest to be respectfull and start a regular convo, and still the majority just dont reply...
Trying to meet anyone new on here is very hard for a single male. Not denying ive had success, but so few and far between.
Ive found the best places to meet folk are at clubs and parties.
On this site men and women live in polar opposite worlds :/ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ive msg'd loads of women and couples on here very politley doing my damdest to be respectfull and start a regular convo, and still the majority just dont reply...
Trying to meet anyone new on here is very hard for a single male. Not denying ive had success, but so few and far between.
Ive found the best places to meet folk are at clubs and parties.
On this site men and women live in polar opposite worlds :/ "
Yup it cant be easy for a single guy which might be part of the problem. Messages become quantity or quality to try and get a response. The number of obvious copy and paste messages are on the rise. If i was a bloke id get disheartened sending 100s of messages. I certainly wouldnt be offering a quality service or making an effort to make a mental connection with anyone.
Attraction isnt just the physical... it is also the mental |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive msg'd loads of women and couples on here very politley doing my damdest to be respectfull and start a regular convo, and still the majority just dont reply...
Trying to meet anyone new on here is very hard for a single male. Not denying ive had success, but so few and far between.
Ive found the best places to meet folk are at clubs and parties.
On this site men and women live in polar opposite worlds :/
Yup it cant be easy for a single guy which might be part of the problem. Messages become quantity or quality to try and get a response. The number of obvious copy and paste messages are on the rise. If i was a bloke id get disheartened sending 100s of messages. I certainly wouldnt be offering a quality service or making an effort to make a mental connection with anyone.
Attraction isnt just the physical... it is also the mental"
Maybe guys sending 100s messages are part of the problem. If guys took the time to understand the recipient of their message they'd send something worthy of a reply? Sounds harsh but the brutal reality is that most guys on here assume it's going to be easy so they don't try. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Maybe guys sending 100s messages are part of the problem. If guys took the time to understand the recipient of their message they'd send something worthy of a reply? Sounds harsh but the brutal reality is that most guys on here assume it's going to be easy so they don't try. "
Esp cos I am a fatty. Many is the time Ive have dogs abuse for saying no.
My favourite was something like... I wouldn't fuck u anyway. I have more respect for me cock.
Id seen his veris.... he didn't!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Maybe guys sending 100s messages are part of the problem. If guys took the time to understand the recipient of their message they'd send something worthy of a reply? Sounds harsh but the brutal reality is that most guys on here assume it's going to be easy so they don't try.
Esp cos I am a fatty. Many is the time Ive have dogs abuse for saying no.
My favourite was something like... I wouldn't fuck u anyway. I have more respect for me cock.
Id seen his veris.... he didn't!!! "
Sour grapes annoy the f*** out of me. Why don't people have the dignity to accept polite rejections?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not stalking you OP. Honest! Lol
As others have said, a break is best idea. I've only just returned from a couple of years away and I've been on and off fab for a decade now. When it becomes a source of frustration or you can't be arsed with it all then it's time to step back. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not stalking you OP. Honest! Lol
As others have said, a break is best idea. I've only just returned from a couple of years away and I've been on and off fab for a decade now. When it becomes a source of frustration or you can't be arsed with it all then it's time to step back. "
Lol I know u arent stalking.....much
I like the forums and the chat too much to delete x |
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By *ntnCleoCouple
over a year ago
Dortmund (Germany) might travel! |
I (or we) don't think sexy successful meets are that easy. So hard to find the right person.
But when you do then you have one more experience to remember and look back on and, when you're old and crotchety, think "we definitely lived our life together!"
Don't give up. But don't rely on it too much. It's an adjunct to your life. A sexy sideline. Nothing more. |
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