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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do, but that's because I think the forums show someones personality a lot more than a bio.
I've also noticed by the amount of forumites that have blocked me, they also judge based on my replies, It's almost as if they don't like my opinions  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol you can't stop people judging there wouldn't be any interpersonal issues, bigotry, arrogance, ego inflation?!!... All the wars would dry up, people would be happy all the time and the structure of society and Capitalism would implode!!!!! lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do, but that's because I think the forums show someones personality a lot more than a bio.
I've also noticed by the amount of forumites that have blocked me, they also judge based on my replies, It's almost as if they don't like my opinions "
Interesting...It certainly can show someone's desire or enthusiasm for kink anyway! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have to judge people on their post and their reactions!! I always like the smart witty remarks from some people!! Especially if it's a question that's been asked a million times and it's posted by an idiot!! |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
Think you can see if people have values that align to yours off the forums, don't know if that is a type of judgment or not.
My view is that everyone is doing the. best they can or they wouldn't be doing it..., |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes and not just in a negative way.
It's human nature to judge others, we all do it, whether some admit to it or not.
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I judge in sex performance only!! Lol |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Yes and not just in a negative way.
It's human nature to judge others, we all do it, whether some admit to it or not.
I judge in sex performance only!! Lol"
Do you hold up scorecards after? |
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Wouldn't say I judge a person by their posts.
The outspoken ones I think 'good for you' for speaking out and I like those that post the 'tongue in cheek' comments.
Can't see the point in blocking a profile for their views, unless they happen to contact me directly, then I might  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m
Pretty good at reading people.
Sometimes it comes out in their forum posts, but I try to see past the forum posts as everything can not be quite as it seems underneath the surface. |
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Yes, because if they have that attitude on the forums then they'll probably have it in person too. Same goes for the chat rooms, there are some complete dicks on there and people I choose to avoid if I see them out, not people I want to be associated with. But then there have been a few that are more keyboard warriors and wouldn't dare say it in person, but they allowed their ways online to put me off. |
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I very much do. Someone can write a friendly, polite, well thought out message but be an absolute rocket.
On the forum people are reacting and that's when you see the true personality. If someone is bubbly, happy and positive then I'm drawn to them and will check them out. If they're a miserable sod with nothing nice to say about anyone or anything, then I think they must be a rather tiresome individual, so I would avoid.
I have blocked a couple of miserable sods by the way they have behaved on the forum. |
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No, never as it's only an opinion..
I have had sex with right wing homophobes cos I fancied them despite their views.
However, a number of people have blocked me and I can only assume it's the 'bi'thing etc.Makes life a bit easier sometimes,saves you wasting time messaging etc.. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"I very much do. Someone can write a friendly, polite, well thought out message but be an absolute rocket.
On the forum people are reacting and that's when you see the true personality. If someone is bubbly, happy and positive then I'm drawn to them and will check them out. If they're a miserable sod with nothing nice to say about anyone or anything, then I think they must be a rather tiresome individual, so I would avoid.
I have blocked a couple of miserable sods by the way they have behaved on the forum."
Checked
Not blocked
Phew! |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I think most people do to some extent or other. I'm sure it's human nature.
I have blocked two people purely based on their comments but that was because they sounded like they hated women and it shocked me. |
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"BENDAROOS said:
Yes and not just in a negative way.
It's human nature to judge others, we all do it, whether some admit to it or not."
Agreed.
Evidently the term 'judge' is misappropriated at least as often if not more so than the term 'racism'.
Simply put, it suits the rationalisations of some.
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them"
A difficult conundrum ... I think we all must do in one way of another - otherwise why would people you message respond even if its a no thanks?
Of is it just me? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lots of differing views but I have had.meeta.with guys off the forums who have been reticent in their replies and a tad negative perhaps but have met me and had a lovely time together. I find that the written word can frequently be taken the wrong way! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Haters are going to hate regardless, majority are keyboard warrior's that wouldn't stand face to face and debate.
I'm still sussing out the forum but notice a few that just light the touch paper and wait for the fireworks to begin |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"Haters are going to hate regardless, majority are keyboard warrior's that wouldn't stand face to face and debate.
I'm still sussing out the forum but notice a few that just light the touch paper and wait for the fireworks to begin "
So true  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't.., judge... meeeee
She says all dramatically whilst covering her brow with the back of her hand.
Are you getting this image?
I'm struggling a bit here.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them"
Wow! I remember a certain incident on the Scotland forum where you, OP, quoted me and took me to task for "in your eyes" berating the poster of the thread. I pointed out to you that you had misread my post and you subsequently, albeit grudgingly, conceded and apologised. I then discovered you had blocked me which is fair enough but I'm assuming it was on the strength of your misapprehension.
So, YOU do judge. As we all do from time to time. Often what we think to be strong opinions are, if we are truly honest, just ways of expressing our belief that we are right and others are wrong.
Count me in with the fair number! I readily admit I form judgements from the comments of others.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them
Wow! I remember a certain incident on the Scotland forum where you, OP, quoted me and took me to task for "in your eyes" berating the poster of the thread. I pointed out to you that you had misread my post and you subsequently, albeit grudgingly, conceded and apologised. I then discovered you had blocked me which is fair enough but I'm assuming it was on the strength of your misapprehension.
So, YOU do judge. As we all do from time to time. Often what we think to be strong opinions are, if we are truly honest, just ways of expressing our belief that we are right and others are wrong.
Count me in with the fair number! I readily admit I form judgements from the comments of others. "
I genuinely cannot recall this sorry and as I can't pm you I thought I would answer on here. I am not guilty of such a thing and I certainly would not have.blocked you for this reason. I am not shallow. I have.blocked some members like we all have but for.very different reasons. And I am not a judgemental person either by.nature. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them
Wow! I remember a certain incident on the Scotland forum where you, OP, quoted me and took me to task for "in your eyes" berating the poster of the thread. I pointed out to you that you had misread my post and you subsequently, albeit grudgingly, conceded and apologised. I then discovered you had blocked me which is fair enough but I'm assuming it was on the strength of your misapprehension.
So, YOU do judge. As we all do from time to time. Often what we think to be strong opinions are, if we are truly honest, just ways of expressing our belief that we are right and others are wrong.
Count me in with the fair number! I readily admit I form judgements from the comments of others.
I genuinely cannot recall this sorry and as I can't pm you I thought I would answer on here. I am not guilty of such a thing and I certainly would not have.blocked you for this reason. I am not shallow. I have.blocked some members like we all have but for.very different reasons. And I am not a judgemental person either by.nature."
We all have different views which I respect and I seldom take anyone to task either. However you do have me wondering why on earth I blocked you. May have been accidental -in this case I do apologise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them
Wow! I remember a certain incident on the Scotland forum where you, OP, quoted me and took me to task for "in your eyes" berating the poster of the thread. I pointed out to you that you had misread my post and you subsequently, albeit grudgingly, conceded and apologised. I then discovered you had blocked me which is fair enough but I'm assuming it was on the strength of your misapprehension.
So, YOU do judge. As we all do from time to time. Often what we think to be strong opinions are, if we are truly honest, just ways of expressing our belief that we are right and others are wrong.
Count me in with the fair number! I readily admit I form judgements from the comments of others.
I genuinely cannot recall this sorry and as I can't pm you I thought I would answer on here. I am not guilty of such a thing and I certainly would not have.blocked you for this reason. I am not shallow. I have.blocked some members like we all have but for.very different reasons. And I am not a judgemental person either by.nature."
Well...it's all recorded on the forum. Others remember also so although I'm in my dotage I haven't imagined it!
Of course you're not judgemental! You just have strong opinions. We've heard. Apparently a "fair few" of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone judges everyone else and we use a myriad of things to do so. Some people will just use for replies, others will judge by combining profile wording, pics, veris etc..
The danger of text is that there's no tone to it. As most people can be pessimistic or wary, they can read text as being a rant, stern etc.. but there was no such intention. That's why forums get heated between people. |
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I agree, I get judged all the time based on my forum personality but am really very sweet on the face to face , the forum is a debating ground some people take it too personally,once there is a different opinion people don't want to accept that , the differences of opinion and debates is what makes the forum interesting to me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them
Wow! I remember a certain incident on the Scotland forum where you, OP, quoted me and took me to task for "in your eyes" berating the poster of the thread. I pointed out to you that you had misread my post and you subsequently, albeit grudgingly, conceded and apologised. I then discovered you had blocked me which is fair enough but I'm assuming it was on the strength of your misapprehension.
So, YOU do judge. As we all do from time to time. Often what we think to be strong opinions are, if we are truly honest, just ways of expressing our belief that we are right and others are wrong.
Count me in with the fair number! I readily admit I form judgements from the comments of others.
I genuinely cannot recall this sorry and as I can't pm you I thought I would answer on here. I am not guilty of such a thing and I certainly would not have.blocked you for this reason. I am not shallow. I have.blocked some members like we all have but for.very different reasons. And I am not a judgemental person either by.nature.
Well...it's all recorded on the forum. Others remember also so although I'm in my dotage I haven't imagined it!
Of course you're not judgemental! You just have strong opinions. We've heard. Apparently a "fair few" of us. "
Oh dear, let's not resort to sarcasm Jinty. Totally unnecessary. You have never met me after all. Yes I have strong opinions but.lets not get personal and sarky now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them"
I haven't judged you OP but I have judged a few people but it's mainly people too far away for meeting anyway. I think I,'ve probably been judged by a few people as my replies are sometimes not what people want to hear. I am guessing I am on a few block lists! Lol
But it doesn't worry me, I try not to be rude but sometimes replies can be taken the wrong way XXX |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Strong opinions are better than no opinion, in my humble opinion."
I agree. Thank you guys. But the trick is not to resort to snide remarks and make it personal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a couple message me once who I liked the look of and had a great profiles. Then I read their recent thread on here. 
I think people show their true colours a lot more here but it's a great filter for me |
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You get a clearer picture of someone by there posts, could be called judging.
It has put me off people before. Especially if I strongly disagree,
if they are just being a big twat
Or if they are bullying.
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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I'd say I get and idea of their personality and if they ate someone I could sit and have a conversation with or whether they are don't understand or appear to dislike mine or my views, I've been blocked by many formites who don't share the shame opinions. Or at least that's my assumption of why they have blocked me. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"I'd say I get and idea of their personality and if they ate someone I could sit and have a conversation with or whether they are don't understand or appear to dislike mine or my views, I've been blocked by many formites who don't share the shame opinions. Or at least that's my assumption of why they have blocked me."
Are not ate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" most that comment just wanna troll so it doesn't matter anyway "
You called me a troll very recently. The thread in question subsequently disappeared, and it became apparent that it was a fake profile
I will challenge anyone who displays a sexist, racist or homophobic view. Or those who display a shitty attitude towards women. I would do the same in real life.
If that gets me judged, then so be it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We start to judge by the user name then it just goes down hill lol xx "
And you are spot on. This has fairly.brightened up an otherwise rather mediocre afternoon -given my golf was unexciting! |
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Thinking about it, I can really understand why some people might worry about debates on the forum, especially if you have been in a negative relationship where a partner tried to put you down emotionally and mentally.
The forum is not a face to face situation, it is just a debate on opinions using facts, the forum will not be interesting if people just agree with the ladies all the time, for me it is a learning place where I like to see different opinions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes and not just in a negative way.
It's human nature to judge others, we all do it, whether some admit to it or not.
I judge in sex performance only!! Lol
Do you hold up scorecards after? "
YES!!... I play fake cheers or boos too just to drive the point home if they think they did well lol  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes and not just in a negative way.
It's human nature to judge others, we all do it, whether some admit to it or not.
I judge in sex performance only!! Lol"
Thats a shame as you probably wouldn't like Mr Snoozles then ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Can definitely get a feel for a person's character on here more so than just reading a profile. I don't judge as such but it helps work out who Id like to talk too |
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I agree with most on here that reading the forums give you more of a clue to people's personality and I like the fact that there are lots of different opinions and outlooks.
Life would be boring if we were all the same.
Some of you are hilarious and quick witted and quite often have me spitting my tea across my desk at work when I am having a sneaky read.
Keep up the good work |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them
Wow! I remember a certain incident on the Scotland forum where you, OP, quoted me and took me to task for "in your eyes" berating the poster of the thread. I pointed out to you that you had misread my post and you subsequently, albeit grudgingly, conceded and apologised. I then discovered you had blocked me which is fair enough but I'm assuming it was on the strength of your misapprehension.
So, YOU do judge. As we all do from time to time. Often what we think to be strong opinions are, if we are truly honest, just ways of expressing our belief that we are right and others are wrong.
Count me in with the fair number! I readily admit I form judgements from the comments of others.
I genuinely cannot recall this sorry and as I can't pm you I thought I would answer on here. I am not guilty of such a thing and I certainly would not have.blocked you for this reason. I am not shallow. I have.blocked some members like we all have but for.very different reasons. And I am not a judgemental person either by.nature.
Well...it's all recorded on the forum. Others remember also so although I'm in my dotage I haven't imagined it!
Of course you're not judgemental! You just have strong opinions. We've heard. Apparently a "fair few" of us.
Oh dear, let's not resort to sarcasm Jinty. Totally unnecessary. You have never met me after all. Yes I have strong opinions but.lets not get personal and sarky now."
I'm sorry if you feel that Tracey as it was not intended. I was merely recounting an occasion when as you yourself have said "the written word can be misinterpreted".
From my own point of view, I was surprised to be blocked for an opinion, especially one which was misunderstood, but I fully realise I have done the same myself. Such is the ebb and flow on the fora. All judgements are not bad after all...we are all at liberty to make positive judgements from time to time. Just.....not too often or it's not entertaining. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes and not just in a negative way.
It's human nature to judge others, we all do it, whether some admit to it or not.
I judge in sex performance only!! Lol
Thats a shame as you probably wouldn't like Mr Snoozles then !"
No one likes me when I'm sexually frustrated lol... I become very mean spirited temporarily lol... One can only accept ones bad qualities if they want to over come them lol x x...
If Mr Snoozles massages me whilst I try to stop being angry with all the bad sex givers I am sure we'd become very, very good friends !! Lol xx |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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I wouldn't particularly judge someone, but may form an opinion of them, rightly or wrongly. There are some great forumites on here, who I enjoy having a banter with and there are others who are negative and confrontational, who I avoid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Think of it this way.. Think of someone you really really like or even love. Now imagine that person has an account and comments on the forum but neither of you know who the other is. Is it possible that you will disagree with each other, perhaps argue, or let your alter egos and internet personalities run amok? If the answer is yes then...make of it what you will. I'm intelligent enough to know that the people I've had disagreements with her also have great qualities and a lot of you would probably be my best pals offline. We all just enjoy being a little assholesque from time to time. Kiss and make up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think of it this way.. Think of someone you really really like or even love. Now imagine that person has an account and comments on the forum but neither of you know who the other is. Is it possible that you will disagree with each other, perhaps argue, or let your alter egos and internet personalities run amok? If the answer is yes then...make of it what you will. I'm intelligent enough to know that the people I've had disagreements with her also have great qualities and a lot of you would probably be my best pals offline. We all just enjoy being a little assholesque from time to time. Kiss and make up "
Digital bitch slapping is such a great way to break the ice tho imo lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think of it this way.. Think of someone you really really like or even love. Now imagine that person has an account and comments on the forum but neither of you know who the other is. Is it possible that you will disagree with each other, perhaps argue, or let your alter egos and internet personalities run amok? If the answer is yes then...make of it what you will. I'm intelligent enough to know that the people I've had disagreements with her also have great qualities and a lot of you would probably be my best pals offline. We all just enjoy being a little assholesque from time to time. Kiss and make up
Digital bitch slapping is such a great way to break the ice tho imo lol "
Lol, it sure is... This is very much a playground of sorts and personalities change depending on the type of thread and other dynamics. I've experienced a deep attraction to people who have been really nasty on one post and then sweet as ever on another post. I've had a mudslinging and bitchslapping session with someone whom I met up with later and made passionate love...totally opposite personality to what I thought. Oh, and why don't you just shut on up? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them
Wow! I remember a certain incident on the Scotland forum where you, OP, quoted me and took me to task for "in your eyes" berating the poster of the thread. I pointed out to you that you had misread my post and you subsequently, albeit grudgingly, conceded and apologised. I then discovered you had blocked me which is fair enough but I'm assuming it was on the strength of your misapprehension.
So, YOU do judge. As we all do from time to time. Often what we think to be strong opinions are, if we are truly honest, just ways of expressing our belief that we are right and others are wrong.
Count me in with the fair number! I readily admit I form judgements from the comments of others.
I genuinely cannot recall this sorry and as I can't pm you I thought I would answer on here. I am not guilty of such a thing and I certainly would not have.blocked you for this reason. I am not shallow. I have.blocked some members like we all have but for.very different reasons. And I am not a judgemental person either by.nature.
Well...it's all recorded on the forum. Others remember also so although I'm in my dotage I haven't imagined it!
Of course you're not judgemental! You just have strong opinions. We've heard. Apparently a "fair few" of us.
Oh dear, let's not resort to sarcasm Jinty. Totally unnecessary. You have never met me after all. Yes I have strong opinions but.lets not get personal and sarky now.
I'm sorry if you feel that Tracey as it was not intended. I was merely recounting an occasion when as you yourself have said "the written word can be misinterpreted".
From my own point of view, I was surprised to be blocked for an opinion, especially one which was misunderstood, but I fully realise I have done the same myself. Such is the ebb and flow on the fora. All judgements are not bad after all...we are all at liberty to make positive judgements from time to time. Just.....not too often or it's not entertaining. "
True and no hard feelings on both sides I hope. Life is too short and our paths may well cross at a club or social in which case I will be more than happy to have a wee blether! |
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I form an imaginary opinion of something ne from their forum posts , and possibly now and again may judge them too . I've never blocked anyone for this though , although I've been blocked by a few . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think of it this way.. Think of someone you really really like or even love. Now imagine that person has an account and comments on the forum but neither of you know who the other is. Is it possible that you will disagree with each other, perhaps argue, or let your alter egos and internet personalities run amok? If the answer is yes then...make of it what you will. I'm intelligent enough to know that the people I've had disagreements with her also have great qualities and a lot of you would probably be my best pals offline. We all just enjoy being a little assholesque from time to time. Kiss and make up
Digital bitch slapping is such a great way to break the ice tho imo lol
Lol, it sure is... This is very much a playground of sorts and personalities change depending on the type of thread and other dynamics. I've experienced a deep attraction to people who have been really nasty on one post and then sweet as ever on another post. I've had a mudslinging and bitchslapping session with someone whom I met up with later and made passionate love...totally opposite personality to what I thought. Oh, and why don't you just shut on up? "
Lol "shutting on up" isn't my forte... I don't know whether you've noticed??? Lol |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them"
thats a fib.... because everyone judges...
you may not realise, but you do!
for example (extreme) another fabber in a thread the other day said they would "slap the shit out of women"....
so are you really saying you wouldn't judge that person? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To judge: "form an opinion or conclusion about" If anyone DOESN'T do this I'll eat my crocs!
I think the world has gone mad with this whole "don't judge me" crap. Everyone forms an opinion on everything they interact with.
Does it really matter if someone thinks I'm X, Y or Z? Does it fucking hell. |
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"I do, but that's because I think the forums show someones personality a lot more than a bio.
I've also noticed by the amount of forumites that have blocked me, they also judge based on my replies, It's almost as if they don't like my opinions "
I'm blocked by a few forum users ... in the four years I've been on here I've only ever blocked a handful of people more so thro personal reasons
I like the different personalities on the forums and love a different opinion to mine and can't understand why anyone would even block ? Then again I'm not scared of them personally messsging me Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Out of interest. If you block someone. Can you still see their forum posts and chat within the chat rooms? Always wondered."
You can still see forum posts. You can reply to each other's posts.
Don't know about chat rooms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I try not to judge people based on who are they are, but I will certainly take someone's forum personality into account if there is a chance of meeting them.
Or not, if they seem like dicks "
I'm doomed |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"To judge: "form an opinion or conclusion about" If anyone DOESN'T do this I'll eat my crocs!
I think the world has gone mad with this whole "don't judge me" crap. Everyone forms an opinion on everything they interact with.
Does it really matter if someone thinks I'm X, Y or Z? Does it fucking hell. "
Crocs! You wear/own crocs?
I'm changing my judgement about you. |
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them"
Personally I don't care what people put in the forum, everyone has an opinion. I don't have to like all of them, or agree with them. So no I don't judge people at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yeah. It's in my nature to assign characteristics to folk based on their words and opinions. I've labelled a lot of desperados, bores and crazies here. Once I meet them in person then this can change completely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think of it this way.. Think of someone you really really like or even love. Now imagine that person has an account and comments on the forum but neither of you know who the other is. Is it possible that you will disagree with each other, perhaps argue, or let your alter egos and internet personalities run amok? If the answer is yes then...make of it what you will. I'm intelligent enough to know that the people I've had disagreements with her also have great qualities and a lot of you would probably be my best pals offline. We all just enjoy being a little assholesque from time to time. Kiss and make up
Digital bitch slapping is such a great way to break the ice tho imo lol
Lol, it sure is... This is very much a playground of sorts and personalities change depending on the type of thread and other dynamics. I've experienced a deep attraction to people who have been really nasty on one post and then sweet as ever on another post. I've had a mudslinging and bitchslapping session with someone whom I met up with later and made passionate love...totally opposite personality to what I thought. Oh, and why don't you just shut on up?
Lol "shutting on up" isn't my forte... I don't know whether you've noticed??? Lol "
Oh I have certainly noticed every blessed crevice and mound of your forte Do continue to spit that carnal knowledge this way |
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"I do, but that's because I think the forums show someones personality a lot more than a bio.
I've also noticed by the amount of forumites that have blocked me, they also judge based on my replies, It's almost as if they don't like my opinions "
Not sure why you would think this way. I don't suppose you would discuss some of the issues that are raised in threads with a possible playmate on exchange of messages. Some of the threads on here can be quite emotive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them
thats a fib.... because everyone judges...
you may not realise, but you do!
for example (extreme) another fabber in a thread the other day said they would "slap the shit out of women"....
so are you really saying you wouldn't judge that person?"
When people say things like that it prompts me to ask myself questions as to why they would do that or if they really would. Making judgements is about collecting and using evidence to form an opinion. I can't form an opinion with very little evidence; especially as people often change tac on subjects (myself included). People can assume a personality in my head, that may not be anything like they are in real life.
In real life I'm a nincompoop who talks crap and doesn't shut up. A bit of a flirty idiot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No,we don't but plenty do. Sense of humour seems to be lacking in many  "
But humour comes in many guises. We find different things funny, and express humour differently. |
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"Out of interest. If you block someone. Can you still see their forum posts and chat within the chat rooms? Always wondered.
You can still see forum posts. You can reply to each other's posts.
Don't know about chat rooms."
You can't see each other in the chat rooms |
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"I try not to judge people based on who are they are, but I will certainly take someone's forum personality into account if there is a chance of meeting them.
Or not, if they seem like dicks
I'm doomed "
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By *aelawMan
over a year ago
Paisley |
"Out of interest. If you block someone. Can you still see their forum posts and chat within the chat rooms? Always wondered.
You can still see forum posts. You can reply to each other's posts.
Don't know about chat rooms.
You can't see each other in the chat rooms "
Awesome! Thanks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" "shutting on up" isn't my forte... I don't know whether you've noticed??? Lol
Is that another way of saying you like the last word?
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It might appear that way Srabble but tbh I'm totally fine with others having the last word... As in I often do restrain myself.... Even if I always have something more to say lol... So you see I know I'm not saying stuff just to one up anyone, I say stuff because it makes me laugh... If it makes anyone else chuckle too then that's a bonus imo lol x |
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"Think of it this way.. Think of someone you really really like or even love. Now imagine that person has an account and comments on the forum but neither of you know who the other is. Is it possible that you will disagree with each other, perhaps argue, or let your alter egos and internet personalities run amok? If the answer is yes then...make of it what you will. I'm intelligent enough to know that the people I've had disagreements with her also have great qualities and a lot of you would probably be my best pals offline. We all just enjoy being a little assholesque from time to time. Kiss and make up
Digital bitch slapping is such a great way to break the ice tho imo lol
Lol, it sure is... This is very much a playground of sorts and personalities change depending on the type of thread and other dynamics. I've experienced a deep attraction to people who have been really nasty on one post and then sweet as ever on another post. I've had a mudslinging and bitchslapping session with someone whom I met up with later and made passionate love...totally opposite personality to what I thought. Oh, and why don't you just shut on up?
Lol "shutting on up" isn't my forte... I don't know whether you've noticed??? Lol
Oh I have certainly noticed every blessed crevice and mound of your forte Do continue to spit that carnal knowledge this way "
Lol! well I say!... Kinda lost for words for once! x |
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I suppose I do. There are definitely some I don't like on the forums and try to avoid them and may possibly ignore them if I saw them in real life.
There are also some I think id get on really well with, were I to meet them in real life.
We can't all be liked. I've gone on a profile from the forums, only to see I've been blocked, yet remember no communication with them. It's human nature to judge, be it positively or negatively |
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"You would think not but I have had a fair number who seem to judge me -possibly because I sometimes have a strong opinion about some topic?
I don't judge OR make assumptions about any fellow fabber on the other hand until I meet them"
I disagree with some things people say but I value someone who is able to formulate an opinion and has the balls to say it even if it goes against the trends. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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I've blocked based on responses and opinions on forums. I've also blocked friends due to their status.
If they state they won't meet a female just because she's been with a bi guy then it's bye bye from me.
I enjoy a healthy debate since you can't have one on your own. |
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over a year ago
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"I've blocked based on responses and opinions on forums. I've also blocked friends due to their status.
If they state they won't meet a female just because she's been with a bi guy then it's bye bye from me.
I enjoy a healthy debate since you can't have one on your own. "
I frequently have debates with the voices in my head. I tried blocking them, but they beat me to it. |
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I think we all judge others based on lots of things, pics profile forum posts if they are on the forums and our own hopes fears dreams or preferences.
I know at least one forum member who blocked me for something I said...something I regret but cannot change...
no doubt there are others who may have done so.
I cannot change what others think of me that's for them to decide...
But sometimes I just wonder if this site and the internet make us judge others more harshly than we would do in the "real world".
It's easy to hide behind a screen and judge others, sometimes harshly, much less so if our connection is more face to face or human driven than txt ever allows us to be...
And once we make that judgement far harder to change our minds and look at someone anew...
Maybe we should rush to judgement less and accept that we all get it wrong sometimes...its what makes us human flawed interesting exciting and worth taking the time to connect with...
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By (user no longer on site)
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I will challenge anyone who displays a sexist, racist or homophobic view.
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sounds ok....
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Or those who display a shitty attitude towards women. I would do the same in real life.
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and literally next sentence displays a sexist attitude.
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If that gets me judged, then so be it
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not so much a judgement but the fact youre a hypocrite is self evident |
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"I've blocked based on responses and opinions on forums. I've also blocked friends due to their status.
If they state they won't meet a female just because she's been with a bi guy then it's bye bye from me.
I enjoy a healthy debate since you can't have one on your own. "
as a bi guy and a biker* they seems a bizzare stance to take.
sleeping with bi men has its issues, such as not being able to give blood for 12 months.
*as a group we're probbaly quite likley to need blood, but more likley to donate a few organs :p |
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We all make judgements about people, situations, everything all the time. Whether we vocalise or react to those judgements makes us judgemental. I try to reserve judgement until I've met them in person and can form a honest judgement of them and their views.
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"I suppose I do. There are definitely some I don't like on the forums and try to avoid them and may possibly ignore them if I saw them in real life.
There are also some I think id get on really well with, were I to meet them in real life.
We can't all be liked. I've gone on a profile from the forums, only to see I've been blocked, yet remember no communication with them. It's human nature to judge, be it positively or negatively "
True. It's human nature to judge but I think is human behaviour how with judge or. positively/negatively
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yes, I unashamedly do. I've actually been put off by someone's viewpoints before and general attitude on here. Some I can tell I would really like when/if we meet and I generally do. There are others who I can tell I wouldn't be best buddies with any time soon due to their twatishness.
I do try and remember though that this is a forum - just because someone disagrees with a point you've made, it doesn't mean you're sworn enemies. |
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Like most have said already yes sometime do judge depending on the reply & context of the discussion. It's human nature but I let things pass easily its just Fab after all can't be too serious |
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By *usicMan
over a year ago
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"Lol you can't stop people judging there wouldn't be any interpersonal issues, bigotry, arrogance, ego inflation?!!... All the wars would dry up, people would be happy all the time and the structure of society and Capitalism would implode!!!!! lol xx"
And this is a bad thing?? |
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I'd struggle to remember who I have talked to in the forums. I have agreed and disagreed with the same people on different topics.
Throw in the complication of us being a couple and that adds a different dynamic. |
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"I'd struggle to remember who I have talked to in the forums. I have agreed and disagreed with the same people on different topics.
Throw in the complication of us being a couple and that adds a different dynamic. "
You may notice the people who you have disagreed with will block you..... |
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"I'd struggle to remember who I have talked to in the forums. I have agreed and disagreed with the same people on different topics.
Throw in the complication of us being a couple and that adds a different dynamic.
You may notice the people who you have disagreed with will block you....."
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"I'd struggle to remember who I have talked to in the forums. I have agreed and disagreed with the same people on different topics.
Throw in the complication of us being a couple and that adds a different dynamic.
You may notice the people who you have disagreed with will block you....."
But I'd have to view their profile. To find out |
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"Lol you can't stop people judging there wouldn't be any interpersonal issues, bigotry, arrogance, ego inflation?!!... All the wars would dry up, people would be happy all the time and the structure of society and Capitalism would implode!!!!! lol xx
And this is a bad thing?? "
Well as we're all addicted to drama I think the boredom of world peace might just bore us all to tears?!! Lol just a theory mind x |
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"To judge: "form an opinion or conclusion about" If anyone DOESN'T do this I'll eat my crocs!
I think the world has gone mad with this whole "don't judge me" crap. Everyone forms an opinion on everything they interact with.
Does it really matter if someone thinks I'm X, Y or Z? Does it fucking hell.
Crocs! You wear/own crocs?
I'm changing my judgement about you. "
So you like me now you know I'm fashionable huh?  |
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"Yes, I unashamedly do. I've actually been put off by someone's viewpoints before and general attitude on here. Some I can tell I would really like when/if we meet and I generally do. There are others who I can tell I wouldn't be best buddies with any time soon due to their twatishness.
I do try and remember though that this is a forum - just because someone disagrees with a point you've made, it doesn't mean you're sworn enemies. "
I very much agree with your last point.
I disagree with people on some subjects but it doesn't mean I hate them. I like debate and different opinions. |
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