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So having been single for almost 18 months now I've recently been thinking about dating again. I've been swinging for over 5 years with my ex and also as a single. Only last night I told a guy about some of my sexual experiences without fab being mentioned and he seemed shocked by it.(Not even all the details were shared or anywhere near!!) Do you think a sexually liberated woman intimidates guys and am I better not to mention my previous experiences going forward? |
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"So having been single for almost 18 months now I've recently been thinking about dating again. I've been swinging for over 5 years with my ex and also as a single. Only last night I told a guy about some of my sexual experiences without fab being mentioned and he seemed shocked by it.(Not even all the details were shared or anywhere near!!) Do you think a sexually liberated woman intimidates guys and am I better not to mention my previous experiences going forward? "
Thats a $64,000 dollar question and one that is totally hypocritical. As a sexual partner he would want all the fun you can give to him ... as a prospective early partner he may have wanted a little more reserved experience.
Is he intimidated with your apparent experience and his lack of worldly skills?  |
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I have no issue with someone's experience. Being on here for a few years myself I'm aware that they more than likely would have met others and had some interesting experiences.
I find a sexually liberated woman attractive. They usually have a confidence and are comfortable in themselves. |
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By *eppoMan
over a year ago
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"So having been single for almost 18 months now I've recently been thinking about dating again. I've been swinging for over 5 years with my ex and also as a single. Only last night I told a guy about some of my sexual experiences without fab being mentioned and he seemed shocked by it.(Not even all the details were shared or anywhere near!!) Do you think a sexually liberated woman intimidates guys and am I better not to mention my previous experiences going forward? "
Yes definitely
I myself have been chatting to a girl recently that has vast experience with meets etc and although I have had a few in the last year or so and built my self esteem / experience / confidence etc .. A little "Am I up to meeting this girl ?" Definitely came into my thinking |
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Thats a $64,000 dollar question and one that is totally hypocritical. As a sexual partner he would want all the fun you can give to him ... as a prospective early partner he may have wanted a little more reserved experience.
Is he intimidated with your apparent experience and his lack of worldly skills? "
The guy last night is someone I'd had a few meets with before I relocated and he started a relationship. This was before I came back swinging as a single. We are good friends and felt I could tell him as he is in no way lacking in the bedroom. Maybe it's a confidence thing. |
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Yes definitely. Not all men by any means, but some, even some i've met off here. I think they're just not used to women not only being experienced, but knowing what they like and want. Personally for me though, I struggle to fancy someone who's intimidated by my sex life, so i still wouldn't hold back as it's part of who i am. |
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"So having been single for almost 18 months now I've recently been thinking about dating again. I've been swinging for over 5 years with my ex and also as a single. Only last night I told a guy about some of my sexual experiences without fab being mentioned and he seemed shocked by it.(Not even all the details were shared or anywhere near!!) Do you think a sexually liberated woman intimidates guys and am I better not to mention my previous experiences going forward? "
It will bother some others will be positively attracted to it.
I suppose it depends what you are looking for. If it's just a date then I would not worry about disclosing everything.
If you are looking for a potential life partner then surely you want them to accept you for the good the bad the Ugly and the sexy.
My wife literally knows everything about me good and bad and loves me all the same. But whilst we were fairly honest early on it was by steps.
I did not declare on first meeting, how about a 3 some with your best friend.
(Saved that for week 2)
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I think it boils down to an inferiority complex, being worried about living up to their past experiences, but just because a girl has slept with lots of men it doesn't mean that every one of those men were a good shag. |
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"I think it boils down to an inferiority complex, being worried about living up to their past experiences, but just because a girl has slept with lots of men it doesn't mean that every one of those men were a good shag. "
Good to get a guys perspective on it as this is what I'm thinking too. The guy last night has been brilliant any time we've met and he has nothing to worry about. Told him as much so might be a waiting game |
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"So having been single for almost 18 months now I've recently been thinking about dating again. I've been swinging for over 5 years with my ex and also as a single. Only last night I told a guy about some of my sexual experiences without fab being mentioned and he seemed shocked by it.(Not even all the details were shared or anywhere near!!) Do you think a sexually liberated woman intimidates guys and am I better not to mention my previous experiences going forward? "
It wouldnt worry me my ex was honest over her sexual encounters over course of 1 year she met and shagged 36 guys safely of course but she wanted to be honest from start xx |
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"So having been single for almost 18 months now I've recently been thinking about dating again. I've been swinging for over 5 years with my ex and also as a single. Only last night I told a guy about some of my sexual experiences without fab being mentioned and he seemed shocked by it.(Not even all the details were shared or anywhere near!!) Do you think a sexually liberated woman intimidates guys and am I better not to mention my previous experiences going forward?
It wouldnt worry me my ex was honest over her sexual encounters over course of 1 year she met and shagged 36 guys safely of course but she wanted to be honest from start xx "
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I was actually introduced to fab by a older lady I was having fun with, she told me about this place and what she'd experienced I just thought she was confident and outgoing sexually but soon realised it was about so much more I actually found it very intriguing and we would cam on here together at her place at that was how my life on fab started. I can imagine some guys will find it intimidating but for some it might be a massive turn on |
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I was actually introduced to fab by a older lady I was having fun with, she told me about this place and what she'd experienced I just thought she was confident and outgoing sexually but soon realised it was about so much more I actually found it very intriguing and we would cam on here together at her place at that was how my life on fab started. I can imagine some guys will find it intimidating but for some it might be a massive turn on |
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"I was actually introduced to fab by a older lady I was having fun with, she told me about this place and what she'd experienced I just thought she was confident and outgoing sexually but soon realised it was about so much more I actually found it very intriguing and we would cam on here together at her place at that was how my life on fab started. I can imagine some guys will find it intimidating but for some it might be a massive turn on "
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"I think it boils down to an inferiority complex, being worried about living up to their past experiences, but just because a girl has slept with lots of men it doesn't mean that every one of those men were a good shag.
Good to get a guys perspective on it as this is what I'm thinking too. The guy last night has been brilliant any time we've met and he has nothing to worry about. Told him as much so might be a waiting game "
Just tell him he's the best you've ever had, that'll boost his ego no end |
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Anyone intimidated by it isn't a match for you.
It shouldn't matter what you have done in the past, it makes you who you are. If they have a problem with that, they know where the door is.
I know for certain I'd like to know early on, rather than 2 years in when a lie were to trip you up. Honesty is key.
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"Anyone intimidated by it isn't a match for you.
It shouldn't matter what you have done in the past, it makes you who you are. If they have a problem with that, they know where the door is.
I know for certain I'd like to know early on, rather than 2 years in when a lie were to trip you up. Honesty is key.
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A lot of men seem intimidated by past experience. It is however impossible to erase the past so unless you are going to lie forever you need to find a chance to explain before the relationship gets serious. |
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Honestly. No. Don't think that's what they are thinking at all...
I love sexually experienced women especially hearing the details. HOWEVER...
Most guys just don't want a women with lots of "experience". People, will fluff it up and agree but rightly or wrongly the real reason is obvious... and it isn't being intimidated... |
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I'm turned off by people with lots of partners if they give me the sense they're sleeping with all these people to validate themselves in some way, boost their self-esteem or because they are desperate for attention.
I'm turned off because I feel they're sleeping with me for a negative reason.
If a person is just enjoying themselves, is confident and is having sex because they know what they want and they're randy as hell, then I'm all over that.
I don't want for someone to look back at our encounter and know they met me for the wrong reasons.
Numbers mean very little to me.
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"Honestly. No. Don't think that's what they are thinking at all...
I love sexually experienced women especially hearing the details. HOWEVER...
Most guys just don't want a women with lots of "experience". People, will fluff it up and agree but rightly or wrongly the real reason is obvious... and it isn't being intimidated..."
I just had to check your age, I expected you to be older with a view like that because it's really old fashioned. Of course there are men still who don't like their wife/girlfriend to have had many sexual partners or experience, but in this day and age it really isn't as common any more. To say "most guys don't want women with lots of experience" is just an assumption on your part, short of having conducted a survey you've no way of knowing. In my experience it's split - some are turned on by it, some are put off, some are intimidated and the rest couldn't care less. |
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"So having been single for almost 18 months now I've recently been thinking about dating again. I've been swinging for over 5 years with my ex and also as a single. Only last night I told a guy about some of my sexual experiences without fab being mentioned and he seemed shocked by it.(Not even all the details were shared or anywhere near!!) Do you think a sexually liberated woman intimidates guys and am I better not to mention my previous experiences going forward? "
no it's not going to "intimidate" the average bloke.
but the average non swinging bloke is probbaly going to look down on you as a slag if you have a large sexual history.
so horses for courses depending on if youre looking for a relationship, swinging partner , one off etc.
if you want to tell a vanilla bloke abour all your weird experences you get a lot further if instead of it being 20 random blokes off the internet all those acts happened with 1 long term parter.
people like freaky sex they dont like large amou t's of partners |
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"Honestly. No. Don't think that's what they are thinking at all...
I love sexually experienced women especially hearing the details. HOWEVER...
Most guys just don't want a women with lots of "experience". People, will fluff it up and agree but rightly or wrongly the real reason is obvious... and it isn't being intimidated..."
What an awful thing to say. But I suppose it's alright for the bloke to have lots of partners !!
I'd love it if I met my kindred spirit on here and hopefully she's a naughty as me and wants to share the journey and fun together |
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"Honestly. No. Don't think that's what they are thinking at all...
I love sexually experienced women especially hearing the details. HOWEVER...
Most guys just don't want a women with lots of "experience". People, will fluff it up and agree but rightly or wrongly the real reason is obvious... and it isn't being intimidated..."
Yeah, the real reason is that double standards are still rife. Even in 2017
Its fine for men, but not for us girls
And yes, ive had first hand experience prejudice and sexism. On here, in the outside world and in clubs.
I usually just laugh at them and send them home to their sticky remote controls |
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"Honestly. No. Don't think that's what they are thinking at all...
I love sexually experienced women especially hearing the details. HOWEVER...
Most guys just don't want a women with lots of "experience". People, will fluff it up and agree but rightly or wrongly the real reason is obvious... and it isn't being intimidated...
Yeah, the real reason is that double standards are still rife. Even in 2017
Its fine for men, but not for us girls
And yes, ive had first hand experience prejudice and sexism. On here, in the outside world and in clubs.
I usually just laugh at them and send them home to their sticky remote controls"
it's not really doubble standards at all most women dont want a guy with a triple didgit back story either.
the "doubble standard" impression comes from the fact that men celebrate other men for large numbers of sexual partner.
women look down other women for large numbers of sexual partners.
and both sexes look down on the other for large number of sexual partners.
this does mean women get hated on by both men and women while men really only get hated on by women for being promiscuous |
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"Honestly. No. Don't think that's what they are thinking at all...
I love sexually experienced women especially hearing the details. HOWEVER...
Most guys just don't want a women with lots of "experience". People, will fluff it up and agree but rightly or wrongly the real reason is obvious... and it isn't being intimidated...
Yeah, the real reason is that double standards are still rife. Even in 2017
Its fine for men, but not for us girls
And yes, ive had first hand experience prejudice and sexism. On here, in the outside world and in clubs.
I usually just laugh at them and send them home to their sticky remote controls
it's not really doubble standards at all most women dont want a guy with a triple didgit back story either.
the "doubble standard" impression comes from the fact that men celebrate other men for large numbers of sexual partner.
women look down other women for large numbers of sexual partners.
and both sexes look down on the other for large number of sexual partners.
this does mean women get hated on by both men and women while men really only get hated on by women for being promiscuous "
Hmmmm. I'd take a man with alot of sexual experience any day.
Most are clueless. Even on here
I call them " the fumblers" cos its like going back to being with a fumbling teenager |
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