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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How do you interpret the situation where you meet, you thought it was fun, you verify them but you don't get one back?
Especially if they don't show your veri? To me it clearly didn't go as well as I thought and all association will end (except in the case they still stayed in touch on kik)
Thoughts?
(Ps I know it's a shrug and move on situation - and I am, I just want to see how others would / have see this) |
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It's not compulsory to leave a verification.
We have more than enough to prove we are genuine.
We don't expect one and don't ask for them.
Problem is if someone veris you the general assumption is that it's the done thing to reciprocate.
Best bet is to ask for another meet if she says no then maybe move on.
Possibly she has been busy and not gotten round to it and forgot.
Either way it's her choice she shouldn't feel pressured into doing it. |
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Many possible interpretations. It's best to stick to the one you feel most appropriate.
If you feel able to ask, do. However you might not get a response you like or even a response at all. If it was us we would just leave it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This happened to me when I verified a newbie I met, he didn't verify me back. Some people don't do veries and others don't verify as they want to keep the person for themselves and not encourage others to meet them. Or maybe the person hasn't got round to it yet. I wouldn't worry about it too much OP. XXX
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Some people may not want to advertise who they've met and what they did. For single women especially, it can lead to 'but you met that guy so why won't you meet me' messages.
OP, did you have any contact with them after the meet? We usually message to thank them for a fun evening and to check if they got back home ok. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've opted out of the whole veri thing, on my previous profile I found I didn't care for graphic descriptive one or sickly sweet ones. I now tell meets not to bother and unless they are particularly desiring of one i don't send one either. I do alright for repeat visits!
You send one and they don't display it? Either too graphic, they have something to hide or they don't want anyone to know they banged your fugly ass! |
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Does it really matter if you don't get verified in return? Is it denting your ego that maybe they didn't enjoy it as much as you? You obviously have other veris so don't lose any sleep over what is, after all, personal choice.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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had a few like that - some are good friends we played with a few times and they never left a veri - we were both verified and there was no need to prove we had met to the rest of the fab world |
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I think the less verifications you have the more important they are to you.
The purpose of the verification system in my mind is that they hopefully provide some reassurance that the person in the profile is the one that turns up. And does it where and when they say they will.
It seems common practise to use the system as some sort method of documenting the meet and what occurred, and by extension is regarded by many as some sort of rating system.
I certainly don't ask for any verification of my attendance at meets, I think it's already clear from my profile I'm not going to dick people about. And only once have I once been specifically asked to verify another profile (in this instance it was an extremely 'well-verified' stunning you_g couple). I explained to them that reason I had not done so immediately was to spare them the hundreds of messages from other single males.
The display of verifications is optional anyway, nobody is likely to show a 'bad' one. Process is overrated in general. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have been in touch on kik - it was last week that we met
Guess I was just wondering what other people though to get perspective as I had figured no return meant no enjoyment and I didn't want to pester anyone if they weren't interested in a repeat meet. Especially since they have verified and been verified by others from a week before.
I can see that it's different for everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd be annoyed OP, it's hard enough for single guys to get meets so displaying a decent veri shows the Fab population that you are an ok kind of guy, I'm proud of mine  |
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