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Politely saying no to a second fumble
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Never easy
Met couples before and it's just not ... well you know
Played and it's been not great
Often just let it drift ... and they disappear
We have culled before and had no issue
Had two or 3 ask why and I ( male ) will politely but honestly say we wish them well in future but not for us
If I message now I just block afterwards
Feels harsh but draws a line
We have had messages and said after social or play not again but it's never bothered us
People do take it way to seriously.. |
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We simply say that the excitement and buzz is rarely achieved in the same way with second meets . Our preference is to meet people just the once .
This always works and no one is left feeling awkward . |
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We would never feel obligated to meet someone again just because We'd had a previous meet with them. By the same token the other party shouldn't assume it's a sure thing that we'll meet them again.
Personal choice regarding who you meet and how many times should always be respected by all parties. Presumptuousnes should never come into it. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it would be rude to ignore someone asking for a second meet without an explanation
What if the explanation was they were crap?
Minefield."
exactly.
i don't think you need to explain why, saying no is enough and is polite coz you let them know where they stand. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We would never feel obligated to meet someone again just because We'd had a previous meet with them. By the same token the other party shouldn't assume it's a sure thing that we'll meet them again.
Personal choice regarding who you meet and how many times should always be respected by all parties. Presumptuousnes should never come into it."
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"We simply say that the excitement and buzz is rarely achieved in the same way with second meets . Our preference is to meet people just the once .
This always works and no one is left feeling awkward ."
I see this as a case of hitchcock's bomb. If you met for a social you could meet for another more naughty social or some soft play. If you met for some soft play you can meet up for different types of soft play or a full swap. If you meet for a full swap it's kind of the end of the road... the bomb has gone off and all the erotic tension is gone. The only way to pursue it further is to meet separately or maybe be even naughtier and cheat. I'm not advocating that... merely explaining that beyond the crescendo to a full swap there's little crescendo left unless you want to start really going against the rules... and this, I suspect, is why swingers do this |
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"We simply say that the excitement and buzz is rarely achieved in the same way with second meets . Our preference is to meet people just the once .
This always works and no one is left feeling awkward .
I see this as a case of hitchcock's bomb. If you met for a social you could meet for another more naughty social or some soft play. If you met for some soft play you can meet up for different types of soft play or a full swap. If you meet for a full swap it's kind of the end of the road... the bomb has gone off and all the erotic tension is gone. The only way to pursue it further is to meet separately or maybe be even naughtier and cheat. I'm not advocating that... merely explaining that beyond the crescendo to a full swap there's little crescendo left unless you want to start really going against the rules... and this, I suspect, is why swingers do this "
This is why our ideal meet would involve about 10 socials, 3 soft plays, a full swap, and then maybe 1 or 2 separate plays, a few more socials, and then friendship for a period until some kind of erotic scenario developed again |
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"We simply say that the excitement and buzz is rarely achieved in the same way with second meets . Our preference is to meet people just the once .
This always works and no one is left feeling awkward ."
haha yea that's actually the best way to go about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We simply say that the excitement and buzz is rarely achieved in the same way with second meets . Our preference is to meet people just the once .
This always works and no one is left feeling awkward ."
I'm nicking that, thanks! |
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"We simply say that the excitement and buzz is rarely achieved in the same way with second meets . Our preference is to meet people just the once .
This always works and no one is left feeling awkward .
I see this as a case of hitchcock's bomb. If you met for a social you could meet for another more naughty social or some soft play. If you met for some soft play you can meet up for different types of soft play or a full swap. If you meet for a full swap it's kind of the end of the road... the bomb has gone off and all the erotic tension is gone. The only way to pursue it further is to meet separately or maybe be even naughtier and cheat. I'm not advocating that... merely explaining that beyond the crescendo to a full swap there's little crescendo left unless you want to start really going against the rules... and this, I suspect, is why swingers do this
This is why our ideal meet would involve about 10 socials, 3 soft plays, a full swap, and then maybe 1 or 2 separate plays, a few more socials, and then friendship for a period until some kind of erotic scenario developed again "
By which time we will have met and had the erotic and sexually charged meet with 16 more new people   |
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