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Do winks work
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I send some out occationaly and when there's a Wink post in the form for fun but from what I gather some do respond but I think most don't other looking at them, I might be wrong though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They don't work for me because I never look at them
The only time I know when someone's looked at my profile is when I check out there profile and it says on there profile that they winked at me 4 months ago |
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"Didn't work for us tonight. Winked a hot guy, he winked back but then nothing more."
Why didn't you email when he winked back? I think that's how it's supposed to work. Anyway, it's still tonight. No rush. He may also have other things on. |
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If someone winks at us, we will look at them... If they're of interest then we will respond.
So from our point of view, yes winks can work. BUT! A message is always better and WE will always respond to a message.
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"They don't work for me because I never look at them
The only time I know when someone's looked at my profile is when I check out there profile and it says on there profile that they winked at me 4 months ago"
Yep, me too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Didn't work for us tonight. Winked a hot guy, he winked back but then nothing more.
Why didn't you email when he winked back? I think that's how it's supposed to work. Anyway, it's still tonight. No rush. He may also have other things on. "
Well, we messaged him first after we spotted him browsing our profile and also winked. He read and deleted it, but then winked back. So perhaps the idea behind winking is confusing for some.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They're not lazy. Its the online way of letting people know that you're checking them out.
In the real world if a subtle check-out is reciprocated, or met with a smile, then you would go over and talk. Or in our Fab case, message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is smiling at someone in a club or pub lazy? Should you just go up and talk straight away?
Why attribute a negative conotation to something that is perfectly acceptable? It may not be how you guys like to operate but it's not lazy - just different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We use them for couples to say hello initially. Then if we get a wink back we message. And vice versa.
However we prefer messages from single guys to introduce themselves. We put this on the profile, so if a guy winks at us,he hasn't read our profile so is generally ignored! If can't be bothered to read about us we wouldn't meet.
As everything on this site, each to their own. If winking isn't working, try messaging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wink if someone catches my eye. Boys can't message me so if they wink back I'll message
If I receive a wink I'll check the profile and wink back if I'm interested x |
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"They're not lazy. Its the online way of letting people know that you're checking them out.
In the real world if a subtle check-out is reciprocated, or met with a smile, then you would go over and talk. Or in our Fab case, message. "
Exactly. It's like the real world (a little). Many of our connections begin with winks, in both directions. |
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"Didn't work for us tonight. Winked a hot guy, he winked back but then nothing more.
Why didn't you email when he winked back? I think that's how it's supposed to work. Anyway, it's still tonight. No rush. He may also have other things on.
Well, we messaged him first after we spotted him browsing our profile and also winked. He read and deleted it, but then winked back. So perhaps the idea behind winking is confusing for some. "
Yes, I think you're right. |
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People wink at us we wink back and then nothing ..or we send a message thanking them for the wink and message gets deleted and nothing more that way either si definetly doesnt work for us x Storm x |
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I thinks winks were designed to be a bit like a forerunner to tinder swipe right. See a profile you like send a wink and if they wink back you know there is some mutual interest and that's the prompt to send a message, thus wasting nobodies time.
The flaw with that is that many are inundated with messages, many of which are unwanted, so there's no time or inclination to check winks as well.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They don't work for me because I never look at them
The only time I know when someone's looked at my profile is when I check out there profile and it says on there profile that they winked at me 4 months ago
Yep, me too."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Didn't work for us tonight. Winked a hot guy, he winked back but then nothing more.
Why didn't you email when he winked back? I think that's how it's supposed to work. Anyway, it's still tonight. No rush. He may also have other things on. "
I thought that was how it worked too. You get a wink, so wink back, then nothing!
Also get a wink then wink back and send a message, then nothing back, it's very confusing!  |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"I sent out loads but no luck lol
They do for some and not for others, personally If someone winks at me and I wink back then that's an invitation for them to message me if they like "
That's how I see them working too.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a shame women don't check them. I have written some really nice and personalised messages just to see them never read. At least a wink is a quick way to show interest.
It must be hard with the amount of messages and winks some people must get |
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"Shows I have 565 winks that haven't been looked out ..."
I've just had a look and gad that was tedious. Checking profiles to see if I want to message them showed that it's an exercise in laziness for most of the winkers as not one on the first page meets my preferences that are on my profile and in fact most are so far away from it, it's obvious all they've done is looked at a pic and winked. Lazy lazy lazy.
I've been here many years and that's the first and last time I'll be doing it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Shows I have 565 winks that haven't been looked out ...
I've just had a look and gad that was tedious. Checking profiles to see if I want to message them showed that it's an exercise in laziness for most of the winkers as not one on the first page meets my preferences that are on my profile and in fact most are so far away from it, it's obvious all they've done is looked at a pic and winked. Lazy lazy lazy.
I've been here many years and that's the first and last time I'll be doing it."
I've not even looked at whose winked at me ..no point ...its only something more I have to be doing ..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We see them as an expression of interest and if reciprocated a nice ice breaker whether they are received or sent."
That's how we treat them. Works for/with some and not others. |
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"Shows I have 565 winks that haven't been looked out ...
I've just had a look and gad that was tedious. Checking profiles to see if I want to message them showed that it's an exercise in laziness for most of the winkers as not one on the first page meets my preferences that are on my profile and in fact most are so far away from it, it's obvious all they've done is looked at a pic and winked. Lazy lazy lazy.
I've been here many years and that's the first and last time I'll be doing it.
I've not even looked at whose winked at me ..no point ...its only something more I have to be doing ....."
Yep! Once only and I'm never doing it again. I'll carry on searching myself and messaging. |
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Excuse my ignorance here
When you receive mail, you get a small envelope top left corner, under your home bar.
Are you not supposed to get a wink signal there if you receive a wink.
Appears have to go to wink section to see if a wink received. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the rare occasion I get a wink, I wink back and will sometimes send a simple message thanking the person for the wink.
As it doesn't happen that often, it is easy to manage!
I would imagine that it is a different story for the ladies |
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"Excuse my ignorance here
When you receive mail, you get a small envelope top left corner, under your home bar.
Are you not supposed to get a wink signal there if you receive a wink.
Appears have to go to wink section to see if a wink received."
I'm glad you said this because I just checked and had a load of winks I wouldn't have known about. I never look at them because it never says I have any!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't even bother looking at winks.If there to idol to introduce thereselfs in a message then there going to be to idiol and one track minded to show passion for anything else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the beginning, if I got a wink I would send a message back, which in the majority of cases was never replied to. So now I just ignore them when they come in. I treat them in the same way as an unprovoked friend request. |
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