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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My husband asked me to go out meet a guy if I fancy him take him to hotel and fuck him.then when he has gone husband will return to room then I have to tell him all the details. I have had sex with other guys while husband is there watching and or joining in .but I feel I would be cheating on him if he wasn't there but it is his wish and I would love to do it for him.cheating or not what do you think????? |
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over a year ago
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Not cheating at all...I love the idea of my hubby taking a woman showing her a great time and then filling me in with all the details! The problem is finding a lady willing to play with a married man!  xx |
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"My husband asked me to go out meet a guy if I fancy him take him to hotel and fuck him.then when he has gone husband will return to room then I have to tell him all the details. I have had sex with other guys while husband is there watching and or joining in .but I feel I would be cheating on him if he wasn't there but it is his wish and I would love to do it for him.cheating or not what do you think?????"
What a fantastic scenario, I stay in hotels every week and would love to meet a woman at the bar, leading to great sex and maybe knowing this role play is happening.
Or would you not tell the guy about your reasons and that hubby knows ? |
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By *lappyMan
over a year ago
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"Not at all cheating! We do it all the time  "
I agree completely with Elcee and surely it's only if your husband isn't aware of what your upto and it's the lies and deceit associated with it |
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I think you should do it if you both want to but I don't think you should do it if you're not comfortable with it. We all want to please our partners but our opinion isn't worth a light its what the two of you agree on that counts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, I personally wouldn't see that scenario as cheating.
However, I'm sure he wouldn't wish you to do anything you weren't 100% comfortable with, regardless of consent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, I personally wouldn't see that scenario as cheating.
However, I'm sure he wouldn't wish you to do anything you weren't 100% comfortable with, regardless of consent. "
This 
MrP and I play separately sometimes and we really enjoy telling each other and then having our own wonderful sex session
We haven't always done this it is a decent development x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My husband asked me to go out meet a guy if I fancy him take him to hotel and fuck him.then when he has gone husband will return to room then I have to tell him all the details. I have had sex with other guys while husband is there watching and or joining in .but I feel I would be cheating on him if he wasn't there but it is his wish and I would love to do it for him.cheating or not what do you think?????"
Not really classed as cheating because he knows what is going to happen where and when, My wife and I meet others separately with full knowledge of who we are with and even a few times ive spoken with the guy she is meeting on the phone while she has been giving him a bj which is very surreal lol |
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"My husband asked me to go out meet a guy if I fancy him take him to hotel and fuck him.then when he has gone husband will return to room then I have to tell him all the details. I have had sex with other guys while husband is there watching and or joining in .but I feel I would be cheating on him if he wasn't there but it is his wish and I would love to do it for him.cheating or not what do you think?????"
It's only cheating if you are doing it behind his back. As you would be doing it with his consent I say it is not cheating. |
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"My husband asked me to go out meet a guy if I fancy him take him to hotel and fuck him.then when he has gone husband will return to room then I have to tell him all the details. I have had sex with other guys while husband is there watching and or joining in .but I feel I would be cheating on him if he wasn't there but it is his wish and I would love to do it for him.cheating or not what do you think?????"
Just a pity you didn't stay in glasgow xx |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"My husband asked me to go out meet a guy if I fancy him take him to hotel and fuck him.then when he has gone husband will return to room then I have to tell him all the details. I have had sex with other guys while husband is there watching and or joining in .but I feel I would be cheating on him if he wasn't there but it is his wish and I would love to do it for him.cheating or not what do you think?????"
100% not cheating. He wants you to do it and you want to do it for him. Do you want to do it for yourself? If yes, crack on and have a great time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been apart of this scene once it was very horny knowing the husband was gonna get off knowing what we had done as she described step by step .....mmmmmmm memorys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been apart of this scene once it was very horny knowing the husband was gonna get off knowing what we had done as she described step by step .....mmmmmmm memorys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have done this once, and to be honest I Ryan didn't enjoy it, despite been in contact all the way through, including pictures i just felt sick all night until I knew she was on her own again, 1 fantasy that wasn't anywhere near in reality |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not cheating at all. Linda meets her regular FB at our house while I am at work. It is such a turn on going home to hear what they did and re enact. Very horny for the both of us and the FB has no complaints....win...win...win situation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you should do it if you both want to but I don't think you should do it if you're not comfortable with it. We all want to please our partners but our opinion isn't worth a light its what the two of you agree on that counts."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that you've answered your own question -
Regardless of anything else, if somewhere inside you instinctively feel that it's cheating - then it is, and you are knowingly taking a step that could eventually break your marriage.
Don't let sex rule your heart - stick to your standards and don't do it unless or until you are sure in your own mind that it is something that you really want to do for your own reasons.
Experience talking......!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it wouldnt be considered cheating in the main by the community here but our opinion doesnt matter. If you don't feel you want to do something, and are doing something to please someone else that is going to make you uncomfortable, then you really need to have further discussion. I've seen too many couples in this game where one is being pressured into doing something by their partner. It's an unhappy scenario... |
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We play seperately and together, not cheating at all.
To us cheating would be taking a partner then not telling. My OH has promised to have a meet with a guy one day and then message me out of the blue with pics while I am at work and wants me to do the same.
I somehow think she will be the first one to manage it lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go for it.
I used to have my own personal cd/sub/slave to come to my house and so my ironing whilst my partner was at work. Partner loved to know the details. He even came up when my partner was sleeping from Nightshift! So so exciting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Go for it.
I used to have my own personal cd/sub/slave to come to my house and so my ironing whilst my partner was at work. Partner loved to know the details. He even came up when my partner was sleeping from Nightshift! So so exciting!"
Do my ironing and other tasks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think that you've answered your own question -
Regardless of anything else, if somewhere inside you instinctively feel that it's cheating - then it is, and you are knowingly taking a step that could eventually break your marriage.
Don't let sex rule your heart - stick to your standards and don't do it unless or until you are sure in your own mind that it is something that you really want to do for your own reasons.
Experience talking......!
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The most sensible post in this thread in my view. When we're horny all of these ideas can seem exciting, but everyone should think about this carefully |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not cheating at all.
My wife has played with fellas while I have been working the late shift at work.
Loads of text messages from her and pics starting with what she was wearing for the meeting etc.
It's a very horny experience, she's always home by the time I finish work and then I ravish her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not cheating, my partner would love me to do this too, however I have reservations as for me swinging is something we do together, I have no desire to fuck a random bloke on my own without D.
So I would say, if you're happy, go for it, if you're not, dont!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As mentioned he suggested it so its not cheating.
I met a woman in the same position i booked the hotel room and he even dropped her off and picked her up, she just took some pics and text him occasionaly to tell him what we were doing |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"Not cheating, my partner would love me to do this too, however I have reservations as for me swinging is something we do together, I have no desire to fuck a random bloke on my own without D.
So I would say, if you're happy, go for it, if you're not, dont! "
Probably the best advice and very well put... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Great thread 
Definitely not cheating as you are both fully aware of the situation
We have a slightly similar scenario where we have met the same guy on 3 separate occasions and all at hotel rooms
Myself and the guy would like my wife to meet him alone but she feels it's cheating
Personally I think it's due to them having a Dom/Sub relationship and she may be worried that boundaries will be pushed if she meets him alone
It is hugely exciting to think about but I'd never push my wife in that direction as I get more excited when she comes to me and asks if she can do something 
Maybe you need to meet a guy a few times with all present and have some fun
Then things could move towards a one to one meet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My husband asked me to go out meet a guy if I fancy him take him to hotel and fuck him.then when he has gone husband will return to room then I have to tell him all the details. I have had sex with other guys while husband is there watching and or joining in .but I feel I would be cheating on him if he wasn't there but it is his wish and I would love to do it for him.cheating or not what do you think?????"
I wouldn't feel comfortable with it and wouldn't do it. I don't see the point if Mr isn't there x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My husband asked me to go out meet a guy if I fancy him take him to hotel and fuck him.then when he has gone husband will return to room then I have to tell him all the details. I have had sex with other guys while husband is there watching and or joining in .but I feel I would be cheating on him if he wasn't there but it is his wish and I would love to do it for him.cheating or not what do you think?????
I wouldn't feel comfortable with it and wouldn't do it. I don't see the point if Mr isn't there x"
Mr is there... if not in body but in spirit. Meeting separately as a couple is completely different from meeting separately as singles because there's a whole world of mis-en-scene (people waiting off stage) that adds enormously to the kink. It just wouldn't be the same if they weren't there |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My husband asked me to go out meet a guy if I fancy him take him to hotel and fuck him.then when he has gone husband will return to room then I have to tell him all the details. I have had sex with other guys while husband is there watching and or joining in .but I feel I would be cheating on him if he wasn't there but it is his wish and I would love to do it for him.cheating or not what do you think?????
I wouldn't feel comfortable with it and wouldn't do it. I don't see the point if Mr isn't there x
Mr is there... if not in body but in spirit. Meeting separately as a couple is completely different from meeting separately as singles because there's a whole world of mis-en-scene (people waiting off stage) that adds enormously to the kink. It just wouldn't be the same if they weren't there "
That's great that it works for you but it would do absolutely nothing for me. Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We'd love to meet couples were we have the option of playing as a four on one occasion and then playing separately as any other combination of 2/3/4 at other times. As a fwb couple though need to be very very aware of a 'real' couples emotional needs as well though. |
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"I think you should do it if you both want to but I don't think you should do it if you're not comfortable with it. We all want to please our partners but our opinion isn't worth a light its what the two of you agree on that counts."
Totally agree here. If it feels like cheating to you, even with his express permission then maybe right now isnt the right time? As for our definition, provided all are in the know then it's fair game |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We'd love to meet couples were we have the option of playing as a four on one occasion and then playing separately as any other combination of 2/3/4 at other times. As a fwb couple though need to be very very aware of a 'real' couples emotional needs as well though."
Us too. We love the idea of fluid relaxed sexual friendships |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I arranged for a guy we had played with before to visit her while I as away great fun was had by all, will do it again if opportunity arises"
How did you have great fun if you were away?
Where were you - Disneyland??? |
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"No, I personally wouldn't see that scenario as cheating.
However, I'm sure he wouldn't wish you to do anything you weren't 100% comfortable with, regardless of consent. "
Exactly what miss heels said.
You have to be 100% on board first.
Jools love's it she even has her own profile to meet guy's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I arranged for a guy we had played with before to visit her while I as away great fun was had by all, will do it again if opportunity arises
How did you have great fun if you were away?
Where were you - Disneyland???"
comedian oh well we were on the phone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on how you both view the matter. If you both see this as nothing other than sex in order to spice things up between you, then it's not cheating, then it's just you and him getting off on a phantasy.
I have been in a similar situation, where my (ex) husband wanted the same. He however didn't love me. He saw me as commodity and as such wanted nothing more than share a bird with other guys. I on the other hand did it to please him, so it wasn't an equal playing field. I would tell him what was going on, as he seemed to get off on it, that was until I met a guy who turned out to be the love of my life on here. Then I stopped sharing what went on, making up the stories based on what I knew got his rocks off. It was so easy as he was so predictable.
My point is, you have to be able to trust one another 100%. As long as you both know that your hearts belong to each other, it won't feel like cheating, believe me, but I would advise, if there's a tiny doubt in either of your minds, don't do it as it will ultimately break you.
Still, it's about you BOTH having fun, so be open with each other; talk about your worries about this, but most importantly, have fun as that is what it's meant to be for all involved.
Good luck xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I do enjoy playing but only have orgasms with my hubby he think it is the pressure of him been there so if I was to play with a guy without him I might let go and have more fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to play with a married man whose wife knew we were meeting... she initiated the first meet. What I didn't know is that their rules were he could only ever meet each other people once to stop there being an attraction or connection.
We met several times over 3 months until he confessed that he shouldn't have been meeting with me.
They eventually split as she was bending that one meet rule herself. He found out they split and he came back to me for a few more meets. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Meeting the same guy would definitely feel like I was cheating that sounds more like a open relationship gone wrong.a 1off chance meeting I would consider not someone we know and I would not have contact with him again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My husband asked me to go out meet a guy if I fancy him take him to hotel and fuck him.then when he has gone husband will return to room then I have to tell him all the details. I have had sex with other guys while husband is there watching and or joining in .but I feel I would be cheating on him if he wasn't there but it is his wish and I would love to do it for him.cheating or not what do you think?????"
technically not cheating but for me somewhere in my head it wouldn't be right... I know some couples do.. infact we used to but now it doesnt sit right... ( although ive never been into meeting 121) to me thats personal
If you dont feel right then don't do it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have done this twice with a guy G used to work with, was so horny the after sex hearing all about what they did to each other still makes us horny now lol this is what got us into the scene and would love to do it again but maybe with a couple as most of the guys we've arranged meets with do no shows !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have done this twice with a guy G used to work with, was so horny the after sex hearing all about what they did to each other still makes us horny now lol this is what got us into the scene and would love to do it again but maybe with a couple as most of the guys we've arranged meets with do no shows !!! "
Hmmmm well that's thier loss, I definitely would show if a meet was organised G is very sexy |
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By *jr123Man
over a year ago
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"I think that you've answered your own question -
Regardless of anything else, if somewhere inside you instinctively feel that it's cheating - then it is, and you are knowingly taking a step that could eventually break your marriage.
Don't let sex rule your heart - stick to your standards and don't do it unless or until you are sure in your own mind that it is something that you really want to do for your own reasons.
Experience talking......!
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By *jr123Man
over a year ago
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"it wouldnt be considered cheating in the main by the community here but our opinion doesnt matter. If you don't feel you want to do something, and are doing something to please someone else that is going to make you uncomfortable, then you really need to have further discussion. I've seen too many couples in this game where one is being pressured into doing something by their partner. It's an unhappy scenario..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not cheating, my partner would love me to do this too, however I have reservations as for me swinging is something we do together, I have no desire to fuck a random bloke on my own without D.
So I would say, if you're happy, go for it, if you're not, dont! Probably the best advice and very well put... "
Agreed!
This is not cheating. |
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By *jr123Man
over a year ago
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"I think that you've answered your own question -
Regardless of anything else, if somewhere inside you instinctively feel that it's cheating - then it is, and you are knowingly taking a step that could eventually break your marriage.
Don't let sex rule your heart - stick to your standards and don't do it unless or until you are sure in your own mind that it is something that you really want to do for your own reasons.
Experience talking......!
The most sensible post in this thread in my view. When we're horny all of these ideas can seem exciting, but everyone should think about this carefully"
If it's what you BOTH want to. Go for it. If you have any doubts at all just stay as you are.
Maybe try it with your other half in the same building but not too close and see how that feels.
Stay safe |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it wouldnt be considered cheating in the main by the community here but our opinion doesnt matter. If you don't feel you want to do something, and are doing something to please someone else that is going to make you uncomfortable, then you really need to have further discussion. I've seen too many couples in this game where one is being pressured into doing something by their partner. It's an unhappy scenario..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you want to cheat which this clearly is, it's up to you it's your choice not his. Looks like there is no love or respect for one another here. If he doesn't satisfy you find somebody else and stop playing mind fuck games. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you want to cheat which this clearly is, it's up to you it's your choice not his. Looks like there is no love or respect for one another here. If he doesn't satisfy you find somebody else and stop playing mind fuck games. "
erm... where did you get the idea that a) its cheating.. b) no respect and c) mind games
Oh and why does wanting sex with others mean our own partners dont satisfy us.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you want to cheat which this clearly is, it's up to you it's your choice not his. Looks like there is no love or respect for one another here. If he doesn't satisfy you find somebody else and stop playing mind fuck games. "
which thread have you been reading? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you want to cheat which this clearly is, it's up to you it's your choice not his. Looks like there is no love or respect for one another here. If he doesn't satisfy you find somebody else and stop playing mind fuck games. "
Been on for two weeks and all of a sudden you know it all 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've often played with Couples in cuckhold scenarios with or without the husband present if applicable agree there is nothing wrong in fucking someone else one on one or in separate rooms it's fucking horny big turn on!!
I love fucking Guys wives and Fems whileat work or working away and doing pics and videos for his a!usrment or acting out afantadu for the own fun!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think that you've answered your own question -
Regardless of anything else, if somewhere inside you instinctively feel that it's cheating - then it is, and you are knowingly taking a step that could eventually break your marriage.
Don't let sex rule your heart - stick to your standards and don't do it unless or until you are sure in your own mind that it is something that you really want to do for your own reasons.
Experience talking......!
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Not cheating at all to the OP.
As Long as everything is out in the open and you're both open to the idea then you should go for it.
At least try it once, discuss what happened and decide if you want to do it again.
Me and partner decided that I should meet ladies/couples on my own as it's something she loves me to do so that's why I've got a singles account.
I tell what happens during the meet and take pics and vids too so we look back on the action.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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very erotic definitely not cheating . Why not just go to a club and go in a room while your guys waits at the bar ? You might be more comfortable with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"very erotic definitely not cheating . Why not just go to a club and go in a room while your guys waits at the bar ? You might be more comfortable with that "
I have done this a few times with couples, althogh not at a club, at a Hotel. I meet them both in the hotel bar, we have a drink, chat and flirt. The wife and I will then go upstairs to the room while hubby waits at the bar. The thrill for both husband and wife being there and for hubby knowing his wife is in the room at that moment is huge!
The sex after is electric for the couple too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would be more than happy for the wife to do this, in fact I encourage it. The only condition is that she brings back some photos/video and tells me all about it. Such a turn on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My Mrs loves doing it. I love hearing about it too. She even sends me videos and photos. It ain't cheating if you both consent. To me cheating implies sneaking around behind the others back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not entirely sure if one could call it cheating if it's consensual by all parties but..
The bottom line is, if it doesn't feel right, then it's not right.
Good luck x |
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