TBH until you meet them in the flesh there's so many things that can be fake or misleading
Social meeting is great first I find at a club then if there's no chemistry both still able to have a good night and possibly fun  |
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over a year ago
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Online it's tricky. Realistically someone could lie as much as he/she wants and not get caught (in the short term at least).
In person I trust my gut feeling, so far so good. At any sign that someone might be putting up a show, I move on. |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
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"What's your criteria for a couple or single to be classed as genuine?"
I suppose it's not until you meet with someone that you know for sure. People will generally drop themselves in it by forgetting what they have said. For me I try to trust my instinct. |
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For us, it's more than just if they match their profile (a couple or bloke or a woman).
If you can maintain communication even after inital messageing, meeting or accepting a friend request sometime after the initial event, then you're genuine.
We set a high bench mark but to us, it's a standard 'genuine' criteria.
Here's an exame, we spoke to a couple down South and were keen on keeping in touch, wanting to meet and accepted on friends list. A few months later, we suggested a date via message, they've read it and......silence. They've been online umpteen times since.
Not genuine for us; messages and friendship deleted and block button hit. We expect to speak to and meet genuine swingers, if you don't want to, genuine swingers will say so. |
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"For us, it's more than just if they match their profile (a couple or bloke or a woman).
If you can maintain communication even after inital messageing, meeting or accepting a friend request sometime after the initial event, then you're genuine.
We set a high bench mark but to us, it's a standard 'genuine' criteria.
Here's an exame, we spoke to a couple down South and were keen on keeping in touch, wanting to meet and accepted on friends list. A few months later, we suggested a date via message, they've read it and......silence. They've been online umpteen times since.
Not genuine for us; messages and friendship deleted and block button hit. We expect to speak to and meet genuine swingers, if you don't want to, genuine swingers will say so."
What's a genuine swinger? |
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Depends on your own definition of genuine at the end of the day.
For some, genuine, open and honest are aspects that for some are vital components and are interchangeable.
If you are only after nsa sex with compatible people, you don't need their full background.
As long as I can talk to them, they don't talk about me behind my back, then they are genuine. I have no need to know anything about their personal life as it is their business, not mine. |
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For myself, it really depends on communication on-line, if it flows great, i.e. a couple of years back, had great chats, but numerous cancellations with one woman...but chats always seemed genuine, we are good friends to this day |
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"For us, it's more than just if they match their profile (a couple or bloke or a woman).
If you can maintain communication even after inital messageing, meeting or accepting a friend request sometime after the initial event, then you're genuine.
We set a high bench mark but to us, it's a standard 'genuine' criteria.
Here's an exame, we spoke to a couple down South and were keen on keeping in touch, wanting to meet and accepted on friends list. A few months later, we suggested a date via message, they've read it and......silence. They've been online umpteen times since.
Not genuine for us; messages and friendship deleted and block button hit. We expect to speak to and meet genuine swingers, if you don't want to, genuine swingers will say so.
What's a genuine swinger?"
Someone who is honest, communicates at all stages of a conversation regardless of timescale and when they commit to, say a meet, they make good on their word. |
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"For us, it's more than just if they match their profile (a couple or bloke or a woman).
If you can maintain communication even after inital messageing, meeting or accepting a friend request sometime after the initial event, then you're genuine.
We set a high bench mark but to us, it's a standard 'genuine' criteria.
Here's an exame, we spoke to a couple down South and were keen on keeping in touch, wanting to meet and accepted on friends list. A few months later, we suggested a date via message, they've read it and......silence. They've been online umpteen times since.
Not genuine for us; messages and friendship deleted and block button hit. We expect to speak to and meet genuine swingers, if you don't want to, genuine swingers will say so.
What's a genuine swinger?
Someone who is honest, communicates at all stages of a conversation regardless of timescale and when they commit to, say a meet, they make good on their word."
I find the tone of conversation a good indication too |
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"For us, it's more than just if they match their profile (a couple or bloke or a woman).
If you can maintain communication even after inital messageing, meeting or accepting a friend request sometime after the initial event, then you're genuine.
We set a high bench mark but to us, it's a standard 'genuine' criteria.
Here's an exame, we spoke to a couple down South and were keen on keeping in touch, wanting to meet and accepted on friends list. A few months later, we suggested a date via message, they've read it and......silence. They've been online umpteen times since.
Not genuine for us; messages and friendship deleted and block button hit. We expect to speak to and meet genuine swingers, if you don't want to, genuine swingers will say so.
What's a genuine swinger?
Someone who is honest, communicates at all stages of a conversation regardless of timescale and when they commit to, say a meet, they make good on their word."
That's just a decent human being. Not a Swinger.  |
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Someone that communicates and is not rude (a lot on here are rude and fake), then arranges to meet in a friendly way. The sex might not happen due to not being compatible or being a match but they still could be a swinger. Being a swinger doesn't mean you have to sleep with everybody.  |
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"Someone that communicates and is not rude (a lot on here are rude and fake), then arranges to meet in a friendly way. The sex might not happen due to not being compatible or being a match but they still could be a swinger. Being a swinger doesn't mean you have to sleep with everybody. "
What do you mean they are fake? |
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"Someone that communicates and is not rude (a lot on here are rude and fake), then arranges to meet in a friendly way. The sex might not happen due to not being compatible or being a match but they still could be a swinger. Being a swinger doesn't mean you have to sleep with everybody.
What do you mean they are fake?"
Eh, message one liners then no messages without saying goodby, blokes impersonating couples, the list goes on.  |
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"We assume nothing until we actual meet them. "
I would agree but if they had half a dozen good Verifications all talking from the same page I would tend to think they were genuine! |
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"We assume nothing until we actual meet them.
I would agree but if they had half a dozen good Verifications all talking from the same page I would tend to think they were genuine!"
Of course the verifications can help but know that some use cam shows and have never met in person.  |
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