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"No, we don't. It's a very small part of my life. It's not a lifestyle for us. It's more an occasional fun hobby. " This. It's my version of golf. | |||
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"No, us singles just shag around " | |||
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"No just a sex pest "There's a few of them around.... | |||
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"No just a sex pest
There's a few of them around....
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"How can anyone who is on a swinging site and meet other swingers say they are not swingers, there is no set amount of times a year you have to meet to be classed as swingers "cause to me a swinger is a couple who swap partners . I can't see how a single guy or lady could be classed as a swinger | |||
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"Hell yeah , we are swingers ! It's a lifestyle for us and we love it . Proud to be swingers "That's what we were trying to say.... lol | |||
"I think it's just a labelling (good or bad) and we don't like to be labelled, personally I'd prefer the word "liberated" when it comes to our naughty adventures " I see swinging as a very specific slice of the sexual exploration pie... a pie that includes a wide spectrum of other experiences from lgbt to bdsm, affairs and polyamory, naughty outdoor encounters, erotic photography and art, etc. I find "swinging" doesn't really describe where I'm coming from... I find it too specific and limiting. It's mainly about same room group play | |||
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"I think it's just a labelling (good or bad) and we don't like to be labelled, personally I'd prefer the word "liberated" when it comes to our naughty adventures
I see swinging as a very specific slice of the sexual exploration pie... a pie that includes a wide spectrum of other experiences from lgbt to bdsm, affairs and polyamory, naughty outdoor encounters, erotic photography and art, etc. I find "swinging" doesn't really describe where I'm coming from... I find it too specific and limiting. It's mainly about same room group play "Interesting that you would think this . We see swinging as an opportunity to explore all you've described , and some . Swingers as far as we are concerned are sexually liberated people who enjoy all manner of sexual fun with other open minded people . | |||
"I think it's just a labelling (good or bad) and we don't like to be labelled, personally I'd prefer the word "liberated" when it comes to our naughty adventures
I see swinging as a very specific slice of the sexual exploration pie... a pie that includes a wide spectrum of other experiences from lgbt to bdsm, affairs and polyamory, naughty outdoor encounters, erotic photography and art, etc. I find "swinging" doesn't really describe where I'm coming from... I find it too specific and limiting. It's mainly about same room group play " | |||
"We play very infrequently (once or twice a year) but do consider ourselves swingers as what other word is there for what we do? " Occasional funseekers! just like us | |||
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"I think it's just a labelling (good or bad) and we don't like to be labelled, personally I'd prefer the word "liberated" when it comes to our naughty adventures
I see swinging as a very specific slice of the sexual exploration pie... a pie that includes a wide spectrum of other experiences from lgbt to bdsm, affairs and polyamory, naughty outdoor encounters, erotic photography and art, etc. I find "swinging" doesn't really describe where I'm coming from... I find it too specific and limiting. It's mainly about same room group play
Interesting that you would think this .
We see swinging as an opportunity to explore all you've described , and some . Swingers as far as we are concerned are sexually liberated people who enjoy all manner of sexual fun with other open minded people .
"We've found swingers to be quite closed minded about things that are a bit off piste such as separate meets or socials... Or just meeting for photos or to watch... Or going on dates beforehand... Or meeting for no sex socials a few times before anything sexy happens. Indeed, we've found swingers to be a bit impatient to strip off, fuck and go and a bit paranoid about making friends, so they can be a bit of an unfriendly bunch. All this adds up to a community with a fair degree of neurosis. Quite far from the relaxed friendly free love hippy ideal we're after. Yes there are more explorative open minded free types out there who would love such ideas... But I don't think they fit in with the conventional swinging scene either | |||
"We play very infrequently (once or twice a year) but do consider ourselves swingers as what other word is there for what we do? " Extra-marital sex. | |||
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"I think it's just a labelling (good or bad) and we don't like to be labelled, personally I'd prefer the word "liberated" when it comes to our naughty adventures
I see swinging as a very specific slice of the sexual exploration pie... a pie that includes a wide spectrum of other experiences from lgbt to bdsm, affairs and polyamory, naughty outdoor encounters, erotic photography and art, etc. I find "swinging" doesn't really describe where I'm coming from... I find it too specific and limiting. It's mainly about same room group play
Interesting that you would think this .
We see swinging as an opportunity to explore all you've described , and some . Swingers as far as we are concerned are sexually liberated people who enjoy all manner of sexual fun with other open minded people .
We've found swingers to be quite closed minded about things that are a bit off piste such as separate meets or socials... Or just meeting for photos or to watch... Or going on dates beforehand... Or meeting for no sex socials a few times before anything sexy happens. Indeed, we've found swingers to be a bit impatient to strip off, fuck and go and a bit paranoid about making friends, so they can be a bit of an unfriendly bunch. All this adds up to a community with a fair degree of neurosis. Quite far from the relaxed friendly free love hippy ideal we're after. Yes there are more explorative open minded free types out there who would love such ideas... But I don't think they fit in with the conventional swinging scene either "It's your search criteria. We've been fucking the same couple for 5 years. | |||
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"How can anyone who is on a swinging site and meet other swingers say they are not swingers, there is no set amount of times a year you have to meet to be classed as swingers "Interesting | |||
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"Swinger? Well I'm known as Tarzan... lol" Me Jane!  | |||
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"No, us singles just shag around " yes im just promiscuous, debauched and not fit to take home to mother thank goodness for that | |||
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"It's your search criteria. We've been fucking the same couple for 5 years. " It's not our search criteria. We've met lots and lots of swingers under a wide variety of search criteria and circumstances. You guys just got lucky. Maybe we'll get lucky one day too. That's why we're still here | |||
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"I think it's just a labelling (good or bad) and we don't like to be labelled, personally I'd prefer the word "liberated" when it comes to our naughty adventures
I see swinging as a very specific slice of the sexual exploration pie... a pie that includes a wide spectrum of other experiences from lgbt to bdsm, affairs and polyamory, naughty outdoor encounters, erotic photography and art, etc. I find "swinging" doesn't really describe where I'm coming from... I find it too specific and limiting. It's mainly about same room group play
Interesting that you would think this .
We see swinging as an opportunity to explore all you've described , and some . Swingers as far as we are concerned are sexually liberated people who enjoy all manner of sexual fun with other open minded people .
We've found swingers to be quite closed minded about things that are a bit off piste such as separate meets or socials... Or just meeting for photos or to watch... Or going on dates beforehand... Or meeting for no sex socials a few times before anything sexy happens. Indeed, we've found swingers to be a bit impatient to strip off, fuck and go and a bit paranoid about making friends, so they can be a bit of an unfriendly bunch. All this adds up to a community with a fair degree of neurosis. Quite far from the relaxed friendly free love hippy ideal we're after. Yes there are more explorative open minded free types out there who would love such ideas... But I don't think they fit in with the conventional swinging scene either "Mmmmm.... some food for thought there . Swingers don't like socials Swingers don't like to meet for photos or to watch Swingers don't want to go on dates beforehand Swingers don't want a bunch of no sex socials before playing Swingers are impatient to strip off and guck and go Swingers are far from being free loving hippies Yep , you got us there with all of the above . However .... Swingers are paranoid about making friends Swingers are an unfriendly bunch with neurosis That's absolute nonsense ! You couldn't wish the meet a more friendly and neurosis free couple than we are , so whilst much if your list is factual , the last two points aren't in our case . | |||
"I think it's just a labelling (good or bad) and we don't like to be labelled, personally I'd prefer the word "liberated" when it comes to our naughty adventures
I see swinging as a very specific slice of the sexual exploration pie... a pie that includes a wide spectrum of other experiences from lgbt to bdsm, affairs and polyamory, naughty outdoor encounters, erotic photography and art, etc. I find "swinging" doesn't really describe where I'm coming from... I find it too specific and limiting. It's mainly about same room group play
Interesting that you would think this .
We see swinging as an opportunity to explore all you've described , and some . Swingers as far as we are concerned are sexually liberated people who enjoy all manner of sexual fun with other open minded people .
We've found swingers to be quite closed minded about things that are a bit off piste such as separate meets or socials... Or just meeting for photos or to watch... Or going on dates beforehand... Or meeting for no sex socials a few times before anything sexy happens. Indeed, we've found swingers to be a bit impatient to strip off, fuck and go and a bit paranoid about making friends, so they can be a bit of an unfriendly bunch. All this adds up to a community with a fair degree of neurosis. Quite far from the relaxed friendly free love hippy ideal we're after. Yes there are more explorative open minded free types out there who would love such ideas... But I don't think they fit in with the conventional swinging scene either
Mmmmm.... some food for thought there .
Swingers don't like socials
Swingers don't like to meet for photos or to watch
Swingers don't want to go on dates beforehand
Swingers don't want a bunch of no sex socials before playing
Swingers are impatient to strip off and guck and go
Swingers are far from being free loving hippies
Yep , you got us there with all of the above .
However ....
Swingers are paranoid about making friends
Swingers are an unfriendly bunch with neurosis
That's absolute nonsense !
You couldn't wish the meet a more friendly and neurosis free couple than we are , so whilst much if your list is factual , the last two points aren't in our case .
"its the lovelies..hello, so good to see you again give em hell...lolol xxxx loves you muchly s xx | |||
"Swingers are paranoid about making friends Swingers are an unfriendly bunch with neurosis That's absolute nonsense ! You couldn't wish the meet a more friendly and neurosis free couple than we are , so whilst much if your list is factual , the last two points aren't in our case" Of course I was just generalising gratuitously... you two strike me as very friendly and neurosis free In case people misconstrue that I was just hurling baseless insults, I should explain what I meant. In our experience most swingers separate their swinging life from their vanilla life. As such, they essentially have two lives that aren't very integrated. This means, though they're happy to be friends on a meet or at a club... they don't want to become "real" friends.
We've also found the majority of swinging couples stick to each other like glue. We've had several swinging couples blow a huffy when we suggested socials were more sexy and fun if we split up into two couples. In short, most couples simply don't want anyone coming between them. Rightly or wrongly, they are a bit paranoid of feelings forming so their approach to swinging has a subtle neurosis underneath it.
Watch last tango in paris and you'll see a whole slice of eroticism that's almost entirely absent from swinging. That's real full blooded raw knuckle sexual exploration imo. Profound and meaningful. Compared to that swinging is a quite sanitised hobby... Definitely just a small slice of the sexual exploration pie imo | |||
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"Swinger? Well I'm known as Tarzan... lol Me Jane! "I'll have to swing by Plymouth | |||
"Hi Guys Just wondered if you class yourselves as swingers or just see yourselves having a little fun now and again ? Myself and my wife were having a chat and we don't see ourselves in that light at all, we have no problem at all with the meaning of the word but think that's not us . Were not huge players (3/4 times a year with black guys) so I guess that's one reason and like most no one would ever dream we'd be doing what we do occasionally lol . So it may seem a silly question but are we swingers ? " You are not swingers. You are a cuckold couple. Though looking at your profile you will like that. | |||
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"I think it's just a labelling (good or bad) and we don't like to be labelled, personally I'd prefer the word "liberated" when it comes to our naughty adventures
I see swinging as a very specific slice of the sexual exploration pie... a pie that includes a wide spectrum of other experiences from lgbt to bdsm, affairs and polyamory, naughty outdoor encounters, erotic photography and art, etc. I find "swinging" doesn't really describe where I'm coming from... I find it too specific and limiting. It's mainly about same room group play
Interesting that you would think this .
We see swinging as an opportunity to explore all you've described , and some . Swingers as far as we are concerned are sexually liberated people who enjoy all manner of sexual fun with other open minded people .
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"Hi Guys Just wondered if you class yourselves as swingers or just see yourselves having a little fun now and again ? Myself and my wife were having a chat and we don't see ourselves in that light at all, we have no problem at all with the meaning of the word but think that's not us . Were not huge players (3/4 times a year with black guys) so I guess that's one reason and like most no one would ever dream we'd be doing what we do occasionally lol . So it may seem a silly question but are we swingers ? You are not swingers. You are a cuckold couple. Though looking at your profile you will like that. " Yes Jizzabelle we certainly are . | |||
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"Swingers are paranoid about making friends Swingers are an unfriendly bunch with neurosis That's absolute nonsense ! You couldn't wish the meet a more friendly and neurosis free couple than we are , so whilst much if your list is factual , the last two points aren't in our case Of course I was just generalising gratuitously... you two strike me as very friendly and neurosis free In case people misconstrue that I was just hurling baseless insults, I should explain what I meant. In our experience most swingers separate their swinging life from their vanilla life. As such, they essentially have two lives that aren't very integrated. This means, though they're happy to be friends on a meet or at a club... they don't want to become "real" friends.
We've also found the majority of swinging couples stick to each other like glue. We've had several swinging couples blow a huffy when we suggested socials were more sexy and fun if we split up into two couples. In short, most couples simply don't want anyone coming between them. Rightly or wrongly, they are a bit paranoid of feelings forming so their approach to swinging has a subtle neurosis underneath it.
Watch last tango in paris and you'll see a whole slice of eroticism that's almost entirely absent from swinging. That's real full blooded raw knuckle sexual exploration imo. Profound and meaningful. Compared to that swinging is a quite sanitised hobby... Definitely just a small slice of the sexual exploration pie imo"Again, it's your selection process that's at fault. Your experience is not representative. | |||
"No-one can agree on what Swinging is so it doesn't exist. " So there are also no true scotsmen? | |||
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"No-one can agree on what Swinging is so it doesn't exist. So there are also no true scotsmen? " Yep. | |||
"If I could get the regular action then yes a swinger, but seems this site produces near to no results then a wannabe for most of the time. "How many times a week do people have to shag around for them to be called a swinger? | |||
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"Again, it's your selection process that's at fault. Your experience is not representative. " Again, we've met loads of swingers and tried numerous different selection processes. We're quite confident, from the through flow of people who try swinging then leave, that our experience is representative. It's great that you guys fit the scene better and have struck lucky. We're still here because we hope one day we'll get lucky too | |||
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"We put the grrrrr in swingerrrr baby yeeeeeahhhhh!!!! " was waiting for an Austin Powers quote! | |||
"Complete self denial .Remember what this site is all about. This is not a dating website. As the name imply . Swinging is no longer a taboo subject. If you are not comfortable with the word swinger.is better you join a dating site. Once you register and create a profile here on fab you are a swinger " Disagree. The site is for people to use as they please. | |||
"Swingers are paranoid about making friends Swingers are an unfriendly bunch with neurosis That's absolute nonsense ! You couldn't wish the meet a more friendly and neurosis free couple than we are , so whilst much if your list is factual , the last two points aren't in our case Of course I was just generalising gratuitously... you two strike me as very friendly and neurosis free In case people misconstrue that I was just hurling baseless insults, I should explain what I meant. In our experience most swingers separate their swinging life from their vanilla life. As such, they essentially have two lives that aren't very integrated. This means, though they're happy to be friends on a meet or at a club... they don't want to become "real" friends.
We've also found the majority of swinging couples stick to each other like glue. We've had several swinging couples blow a huffy when we suggested socials were more sexy and fun if we split up into two couples. In short, most couples simply don't want anyone coming between them. Rightly or wrongly, they are a bit paranoid of feelings forming so their approach to swinging has a subtle neurosis underneath it.
Watch last tango in paris and you'll see a whole slice of eroticism that's almost entirely absent from swinging. That's real full blooded raw knuckle sexual exploration imo. Profound and meaningful. Compared to that swinging is a quite sanitised hobby... Definitely just a small slice of the sexual exploration pie imo"I can totally see where you are coming from . That which you seek is 'different' , and using examples such as Last tango in Paris , and separate socials , aren't traditional swinging . Which is cool , we all seek what may work for us and it's certainly not the same for any of us . Reading between the lines , I'm guessing you guys are after so much more than we are . You seek the ultimate thrill of sheer erotically charged passionate exploration with people on the same level as yourselves . To get this , you figure you need to get into their heads , and form a relationship of sorts with them first . Whether this be together as a couple , or separately first . This is fine , and may possibly work , but do you ever worry that this kind of approach may be fraught with danger ? My wife and I were discussing swinging , how we swing , what fun we have , and the fact that we can fulfill every desire together the other day . We epitomise the liberating freedom of the swinging lifestyle . The only ' buzz ' we don't have is that thrill one gets when meeting someone new and a relationship may be on the cards . A bit like when you are single and seek a lover , you meet someone and fall in love with them . And for us , we don't want that , as tempting as it may be . Is it this that you seek ? That feeling that only this can give ? If it is , then surely you are aware of the risks it may entail ? What you seem to seek is risky to say the least , especially when it involves a long term couple engaging in feelings which are normally reserved for each other . The adrenaline and the thrill of this new and exciting adventure can easily leave you feeling that what you have is a poor substitute of what may be out there . The saying ' be careful what you wish for ' comes to mind . | |||
"Swingers are paranoid about making friends Swingers are an unfriendly bunch with neurosis That's absolute nonsense ! You couldn't wish the meet a more friendly and neurosis free couple than we are , so whilst much if your list is factual , the last two points aren't in our case Of course I was just generalising gratuitously... you two strike me as very friendly and neurosis free In case people misconstrue that I was just hurling baseless insults, I should explain what I meant. In our experience most swingers separate their swinging life from their vanilla life. As such, they essentially have two lives that aren't very integrated. This means, though they're happy to be friends on a meet or at a club... they don't want to become "real" friends.
We've also found the majority of swinging couples stick to each other like glue. We've had several swinging couples blow a huffy when we suggested socials were more sexy and fun if we split up into two couples. In short, most couples simply don't want anyone coming between them. Rightly or wrongly, they are a bit paranoid of feelings forming so their approach to swinging has a subtle neurosis underneath it.
Watch last tango in paris and you'll see a whole slice of eroticism that's almost entirely absent from swinging. That's real full blooded raw knuckle sexual exploration imo. Profound and meaningful. Compared to that swinging is a quite sanitised hobby... Definitely just a small slice of the sexual exploration pie imo
I can totally see where you are coming from . That which you seek is 'different' , and using examples such as Last tango in Paris , and separate socials , aren't traditional swinging . Which is cool , we all seek what may work for us and it's certainly not the same for any of us .
Reading between the lines , I'm guessing you guys are after so much more than we are . You seek the ultimate thrill of sheer erotically charged passionate exploration with people on the same level as yourselves . To get this , you figure you need to get into their heads , and form a relationship of sorts with them first . Whether this be together as a couple , or separately first .
This is fine , and may possibly work , but do you ever worry that this kind of approach may be fraught with danger ?
My wife and I were discussing swinging , how we swing , what fun we have , and the fact that we can fulfill every desire together the other day . We epitomise the liberating freedom of the swinging lifestyle . The only ' buzz ' we don't have is that thrill one gets when meeting someone new and a relationship may be on the cards . A bit like when you are single and seek a lover , you meet someone and fall in love with them . And for us , we don't want that , as tempting as it may be . Is it this that you seek ? That feeling that only this can give ?
If it is , then surely you are aware of the risks it may entail ? What you seem to seek is risky to say the least , especially when it involves a long term couple engaging in feelings which are normally reserved for each other . The adrenaline and the thrill of this new and exciting adventure can easily leave you feeling that what you have is a poor substitute of what may be out there .
The saying ' be careful what you wish for ' comes to mind ."Is that why you avoid socials and friendships? Are you wary of falling in love? | |||
"Again, it's your selection process that's at fault. Your experience is not representative. Again, we've met loads of swingers and tried numerous different selection processes. We're quite confident, from the through flow of people who try swinging then leave, that our experience is representative. It's great that you guys fit the scene better and have struck lucky. We're still here because we hope one day we'll get lucky too "I don't know what you have or haven't tried so i can't comment. But for some reason you aren't finding the people we are... | |||
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"Swingers are paranoid about making friends Swingers are an unfriendly bunch with neurosis That's absolute nonsense ! You couldn't wish the meet a more friendly and neurosis free couple than we are , so whilst much if your list is factual , the last two points aren't in our case Of course I was just generalising gratuitously... you two strike me as very friendly and neurosis free In case people misconstrue that I was just hurling baseless insults, I should explain what I meant. In our experience most swingers separate their swinging life from their vanilla life. As such, they essentially have two lives that aren't very integrated. This means, though they're happy to be friends on a meet or at a club... they don't want to become "real" friends.
We've also found the majority of swinging couples stick to each other like glue. We've had several swinging couples blow a huffy when we suggested socials were more sexy and fun if we split up into two couples. In short, most couples simply don't want anyone coming between them. Rightly or wrongly, they are a bit paranoid of feelings forming so their approach to swinging has a subtle neurosis underneath it.
Watch last tango in paris and you'll see a whole slice of eroticism that's almost entirely absent from swinging. That's real full blooded raw knuckle sexual exploration imo. Profound and meaningful. Compared to that swinging is a quite sanitised hobby... Definitely just a small slice of the sexual exploration pie imo
I can totally see where you are coming from . That which you seek is 'different' , and using examples such as Last tango in Paris , and separate socials , aren't traditional swinging . Which is cool , we all seek what may work for us and it's certainly not the same for any of us .
Reading between the lines , I'm guessing you guys are after so much more than we are . You seek the ultimate thrill of sheer erotically charged passionate exploration with people on the same level as yourselves . To get this , you figure you need to get into their heads , and form a relationship of sorts with them first . Whether this be together as a couple , or separately first .
This is fine , and may possibly work , but do you ever worry that this kind of approach may be fraught with danger ?
My wife and I were discussing swinging , how we swing , what fun we have , and the fact that we can fulfill every desire together the other day . We epitomise the liberating freedom of the swinging lifestyle . The only ' buzz ' we don't have is that thrill one gets when meeting someone new and a relationship may be on the cards . A bit like when you are single and seek a lover , you meet someone and fall in love with them . And for us , we don't want that , as tempting as it may be . Is it this that you seek ? That feeling that only this can give ?
If it is , then surely you are aware of the risks it may entail ? What you seem to seek is risky to say the least , especially when it involves a long term couple engaging in feelings which are normally reserved for each other . The adrenaline and the thrill of this new and exciting adventure can easily leave you feeling that what you have is a poor substitute of what may be out there .
The saying ' be careful what you wish for ' comes to mind .
Is that why you avoid socials and friendships? Are you wary of falling in love?"As strange as this may seem , that's far from the truth . We do attend socials , and we have a fair few friends in the scene now . But we separate the swinging from our other life . We celebrate our fifth wedding anniversary next week , and are madly in love . We don't worry about falling in love with anyone else at all , love is something which we don't seek at all - we have that already . What I was saying is that if you go on a path looking for something such as they are , you may find it is a dangerous venture . | |||
"Swingers are paranoid about making friends Swingers are an unfriendly bunch with neurosis That's absolute nonsense ! You couldn't wish the meet a more friendly and neurosis free couple than we are , so whilst much if your list is factual , the last two points aren't in our case Of course I was just generalising gratuitously... you two strike me as very friendly and neurosis free In case people misconstrue that I was just hurling baseless insults, I should explain what I meant. In our experience most swingers separate their swinging life from their vanilla life. As such, they essentially have two lives that aren't very integrated. This means, though they're happy to be friends on a meet or at a club... they don't want to become "real" friends.
We've also found the majority of swinging couples stick to each other like glue. We've had several swinging couples blow a huffy when we suggested socials were more sexy and fun if we split up into two couples. In short, most couples simply don't want anyone coming between them. Rightly or wrongly, they are a bit paranoid of feelings forming so their approach to swinging has a subtle neurosis underneath it.
Watch last tango in paris and you'll see a whole slice of eroticism that's almost entirely absent from swinging. That's real full blooded raw knuckle sexual exploration imo. Profound and meaningful. Compared to that swinging is a quite sanitised hobby... Definitely just a small slice of the sexual exploration pie imo
I can totally see where you are coming from . That which you seek is 'different' , and using examples such as Last tango in Paris , and separate socials , aren't traditional swinging . Which is cool , we all seek what may work for us and it's certainly not the same for any of us .
Reading between the lines , I'm guessing you guys are after so much more than we are . You seek the ultimate thrill of sheer erotically charged passionate exploration with people on the same level as yourselves . To get this , you figure you need to get into their heads , and form a relationship of sorts with them first . Whether this be together as a couple , or separately first .
This is fine , and may possibly work , but do you ever worry that this kind of approach may be fraught with danger ?
My wife and I were discussing swinging , how we swing , what fun we have , and the fact that we can fulfill every desire together the other day . We epitomise the liberating freedom of the swinging lifestyle . The only ' buzz ' we don't have is that thrill one gets when meeting someone new and a relationship may be on the cards . A bit like when you are single and seek a lover , you meet someone and fall in love with them . And for us , we don't want that , as tempting as it may be . Is it this that you seek ? That feeling that only this can give ?
If it is , then surely you are aware of the risks it may entail ? What you seem to seek is risky to say the least , especially when it involves a long term couple engaging in feelings which are normally reserved for each other . The adrenaline and the thrill of this new and exciting adventure can easily leave you feeling that what you have is a poor substitute of what may be out there .
The saying ' be careful what you wish for ' comes to mind .
Is that why you avoid socials and friendships? Are you wary of falling in love?
As strange as this may seem , that's far from the truth . We do attend socials , and we have a fair few friends in the scene now . But we separate the swinging from our other life .
We celebrate our fifth wedding anniversary next week , and are madly in love . We don't worry about falling in love with anyone else at all , love is something which we don't seek at all - we have that already . What I was saying is that if you go on a path looking for something such as they are , you may find it is a dangerous venture ."I don't find it strange. Just wondering.
It's a fair point. I think some people do underestimate the power of sex and emotions. And they don't realise until their partner has found someone else. | |||
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"Yup! The low key kind" Yeah that me to... defo see myself as a swinger but it's something that I chose to do in my spare time much prefer the odd regular and club meets
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"Most days I have trouble classing myself as human. Why the need to label everything?" Most of language is labels. You're basically asking why we have to have language. | |||
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"Complete self denial .Remember what this site is all about. This is not a dating website. As the name imply . Swinging is no longer a taboo subject. If you are not comfortable with the word swinger.is better you join a dating site. Once you register and create a profile here on fab you are a swinger Disagree. The site is for people to use as they please." people to use. As what? Game of throne or Ashley madison lol. Sorry.this is fabswinger. Proud to be here as swinger. | |||
"Reading between the lines , I'm guessing you guys are after so much more than we are . You seek the ultimate thrill of sheer erotically charged passionate exploration with people on the same level as yourselves . To get this , you figure you need to get into their heads , and form a relationship of sorts with them first . Whether this be together as a couple , or separately first" Great reply guys What you describe is certainly closer to where we're coming from. But I don't think things necessarily need to be as extreme as you describe. Based on past threads, I'd say we've got more in common with classy swingers than gary247. Gary are "proper" swingers from the sounds of things. But classy enjoy separate lovers etc so are slightly more off piste from most of the swinging couples we've met. We like the idea of being quite fluid. Maybe starting as just friends for a while, then maybe one of us starts having sexual encounters with one of them, then maybe all four of us have some fun, then maybe friendship again for a while, then maybe the other two start having some fun. For something like this there really needs to be zero neurosis... totally chilled and happy to have fluid sexual encounters with friends.
I did want to add that I don't mean to be negative about swinging. It has its place and we actually enjoy clubs etc from time to time. The original point I was making was that swinging is really just a rather small and somewhat tame slice of the sexual exploration pie. It's mainly centered around safe fun and games with partners present. I only say this because that's what the vast majority of swinging couples do. This, of course, can be fun... but it doesn't describe the scope of where we're coming from. There are definitely fringe activities that some swingers do, like hotwifing or cuckolding or bdsm etc. I guess we're somewhere off in that fringe and a bit iconoclastic and anarchic about what we're "supposed to do" as swingers | |||
"It seems that “new people” on the swinging scene want to control what swinging is and what is not swinging. Garry was swapping partners in the late 60s (yes with hippies and others) and 70s whilst B started swapping in the late 70s. We have been swinging as a couple since 1980 but don’t do socials as we find them boring. That is nothing to do with being frightened of forming relationships but simply because we swing to have sex with others. We always swing together but that does not mean we always stay in the same room when having sex with others. We might have meets everyday of the week some weeks and not have a meet for a few months at other times, it all depends what else is happening in our lives at the time. We have a family and sex like holidays fit in around our family plans. We do not discuss swinging with our family and friends just like we do not discuss the sex between ourselves with our family and friends, that is a private part of our lives between us and any partners we have. We don’t swing to make friends but we do have friends who we have met while swinging and we don’t go on dates. In other words we swing the way people used to swing before all the rules the new generation tried to invent. " What rules? | |||
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"It seems that “new people” on the swinging scene want to control what swinging is and what is not swinging. Garry was swapping partners in the late 60s (yes with hippies and others) and 70s whilst B started swapping in the late 70s. We have been swinging as a couple since 1980 but don’t do socials as we find them boring. That is nothing to do with being frightened of forming relationships but simply because we swing to have sex with others. We always swing together but that does not mean we always stay in the same room when having sex with others. We might have meets everyday of the week some weeks and not have a meet for a few months at other times, it all depends what else is happening in our lives at the time. We have a family and sex like holidays fit in around our family plans. We do not discuss swinging with our family and friends just like we do not discuss the sex between ourselves with our family and friends, that is a private part of our lives between us and any partners we have. We don’t swing to make friends but we do have friends who we have met while swinging and we don’t go on dates. In other words we swing the way people used to swing before all the rules the new generation tried to invent. " I can not quote from experience here, but pre-internet, I can only imagine that swinging was a very different world, not a closed shop but....yet today with the internet, well basically anyone can join Fab, so surely boundaries have become more blurred, one plus point being giving women more voice/choice re their sexual wants/needs | |||
