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By *antsbelle OP Woman
over a year ago
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Just curious as to why people swing? Is it because we are bored in our marriage? Or that a single girl can get a good time, or that a girl who wouldn't normally attract someone gets attention? I think mostly married men trying to spice things up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's different things for different people.
Some people can't have vanilla sex. Some can and want a bit more excitement.
For some people its boredom, for others its like "why go for a walk on the beach", just cause they can and want to and enjoy it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just curious as to why people swing? Is it because we are bored in our marriage? Or that a single girl can get a good time, or that a girl who wouldn't normally attract someone gets attention? I think mostly married men trying to spice things up"
We started swinging very early in our relationship because I am Bisexual and I enjoy seeing my partner with other women too and I told him that, he said he was unsure about the idea of me with another guy but was willing to give it a try and absolutely loved it.. so we kept swinging.. we don't do it to spice things up and it certainly wasn't his idea ROFL! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do it because I love sex, experiencing new things with new people, and it's damn good filthy fun.
I do feel some couples do it to spice up their sex life, some do it because their partners would cheat if they didn't, some do it because they are pressurised into it by their partner and some do it for the same reason I do.
I feel a lot of men are on here thinking it's an easy way to get sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me its fun..meeting new people..No drama..No relationship..and it suits my life style..and you do get to meet some lovely people..Strangers are strangers until they become friends  Some of the nicest people i have ever met have been off fab and have become friends.And they never judge you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've been together 30 years, then friends started dieing and it became very apparent that we only have one go at life, so cramming as much as possible in to it should be high on the agenda. And what a pleasant hobby it is too. |
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By *4tCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm certainly not bored in my relationship and it wasn't my fellas idea to swing it was a mutual decision to join up and see what happens! I am bisexual so it works really well for us. Neither of us want to cheat or feel like something is missing. We have complete trust and both have the same attitude towards sex. I guess the reason people swing is because we want to !  "
same here xxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being able to do sexual things you can't do as a couple! Spit roast, 2 girls on one cock, girl on girl play, licking pussy while being fucked, etc etc etc etc shall we go on? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love the look in a hubbys eyes as my cock slips in his wife. The feeling of power is amazing best is hubby laying under wife her pussy inches away from his face as I stretch her pussy wide then watch my spunk run out onto her hubbys face |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do it to experience another side of life. I am bi so enjoy women and men. Get off on playing with couples. Love the club scene. As for the friends I've made....I have found some of the greatest people I know on fab and they're a big part of my life |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then? |
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"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then? "
Then they shouldn't do it  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it "
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen? |
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"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen?
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Absolutely! How could one possibly enjoy doing it knowing that the one they love is not comfortable or happy with doing it? Sometimes fantasies are best left at that if the price is too high. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen?
Absolutely! How could one possibly enjoy doing it knowing that the one they love is not comfortable or happy with doing it? Sometimes fantasies are best left at that if the price is too high."
You could also ask how the one who's not keen would be happy if he/she knew the other one was thinking about these things but had to suppress these feelings. No? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's nothing to do with being bored....far from it. For us it adds another dimension to an already fantastic relationship "
This! And we always hope to learn more ways to pleasure each from others |
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"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen?
Absolutely! How could one possibly enjoy doing it knowing that the one they love is not comfortable or happy with doing it? Sometimes fantasies are best left at that if the price is too high.
You could also ask how the one who's not keen would be happy if he/she knew the other one was thinking about these things but had to suppress these feelings. No?"
Paul was on the scene for years before meeting me. But I know that without a doubt had I decided not to try it or if I ever wanted to stop he would not see it as a sacrifice or something that would be intolerable. My happiness is not something that should be compromised by doing something I'm not comfortable with and vice versa. Swinging for us is about doing it together and not actually about having sex with other people. To us, they are our sex toys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me: I believe I have a biological need to have multiple partners. All men are different and I like to experience that variety.
Him: he has a kinky and filthy mind which required the addition of others into our sex life. |
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When scientific studies have repeatedly shown the majority of people are non-monogamous by nature then i think you should start by asking why more people don't choose enthical non-monogamy over cheating, which by the way a majority of married men and women do. Therein would be the answer to your question. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen?
Absolutely! How could one possibly enjoy doing it knowing that the one they love is not comfortable or happy with doing it? Sometimes fantasies are best left at that if the price is too high.
You could also ask how the one who's not keen would be happy if he/she knew the other one was thinking about these things but had to suppress these feelings. No?
Paul was on the scene for years before meeting me. But I know that without a doubt had I decided not to try it or if I ever wanted to stop he would not see it as a sacrifice or something that would be intolerable. My happiness is not something that should be compromised by doing something I'm not comfortable with and vice versa. Swinging for us is about doing it together and not actually about having sex with other people. To us, they are our sex toys. "
So Paul had been there, seen it and done it, introduced you to it and you liked it. Lucky you!!!
Some really interesting views in this thread |
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"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen?
Absolutely! How could one possibly enjoy doing it knowing that the one they love is not comfortable or happy with doing it? Sometimes fantasies are best left at that if the price is too high.
You could also ask how the one who's not keen would be happy if he/she knew the other one was thinking about these things but had to suppress these feelings. No?
Paul was on the scene for years before meeting me. But I know that without a doubt had I decided not to try it or if I ever wanted to stop he would not see it as a sacrifice or something that would be intolerable. My happiness is not something that should be compromised by doing something I'm not comfortable with and vice versa. Swinging for us is about doing it together and not actually about having sex with other people. To us, they are our sex toys.
So Paul had been there, seen it and done it, introduced you to it and you liked it. Lucky you!!!
Some really interesting views in this thread"
He was totally honest about it when we met. He never asked if it was something I wanted to do but it was something that intrigued me. We spent months talking it through before I dipped my toes in the water. And even now he checks with me that it's still something that I want to do and I know that if I were ever to say I wanted to stop we both would stop. He would have no interest in doing it without me x |
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"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen?
Absolutely! How could one possibly enjoy doing it knowing that the one they love is not comfortable or happy with doing it? Sometimes fantasies are best left at that if the price is too high.
You could also ask how the one who's not keen would be happy if he/she knew the other one was thinking about these things but had to suppress these feelings. No?
Paul was on the scene for years before meeting me. But I know that without a doubt had I decided not to try it or if I ever wanted to stop he would not see it as a sacrifice or something that would be intolerable. My happiness is not something that should be compromised by doing something I'm not comfortable with and vice versa. Swinging for us is about doing it together and not actually about having sex with other people. To us, they are our sex toys.
You use people as sex toys ??!!! "
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"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen?
Absolutely! How could one possibly enjoy doing it knowing that the one they love is not comfortable or happy with doing it? Sometimes fantasies are best left at that if the price is too high.
You could also ask how the one who's not keen would be happy if he/she knew the other one was thinking about these things but had to suppress these feelings. No?
Paul was on the scene for years before meeting me. But I know that without a doubt had I decided not to try it or if I ever wanted to stop he would not see it as a sacrifice or something that would be intolerable. My happiness is not something that should be compromised by doing something I'm not comfortable with and vice versa. Swinging for us is about doing it together and not actually about having sex with other people. To us, they are our sex toys. "
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen?
Absolutely! How could one possibly enjoy doing it knowing that the one they love is not comfortable or happy with doing it? Sometimes fantasies are best left at that if the price is too high.
You could also ask how the one who's not keen would be happy if he/she knew the other one was thinking about these things but had to suppress these feelings. No?
Paul was on the scene for years before meeting me. But I know that without a doubt had I decided not to try it or if I ever wanted to stop he would not see it as a sacrifice or something that would be intolerable. My happiness is not something that should be compromised by doing something I'm not comfortable with and vice versa. Swinging for us is about doing it together and not actually about having sex with other people. To us, they are our sex toys.
You use people as sex toys ??!!! "
Shhhhhh....I didn't want to mention that bit  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen?
Absolutely! How could one possibly enjoy doing it knowing that the one they love is not comfortable or happy with doing it? Sometimes fantasies are best left at that if the price is too high.
You could also ask how the one who's not keen would be happy if he/she knew the other one was thinking about these things but had to suppress these feelings. No?
Paul was on the scene for years before meeting me. But I know that without a doubt had I decided not to try it or if I ever wanted to stop he would not see it as a sacrifice or something that would be intolerable. My happiness is not something that should be compromised by doing something I'm not comfortable with and vice versa. Swinging for us is about doing it together and not actually about having sex with other people. To us, they are our sex toys.
You use people as sex toys ??!!!
Shhhhhh....I didn't want to mention that bit "
Oh dear, sorry  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen?
Absolutely! How could one possibly enjoy doing it knowing that the one they love is not comfortable or happy with doing it? Sometimes fantasies are best left at that if the price is too high.
You could also ask how the one who's not keen would be happy if he/she knew the other one was thinking about these things but had to suppress these feelings. No?
Paul was on the scene for years before meeting me. But I know that without a doubt had I decided not to try it or if I ever wanted to stop he would not see it as a sacrifice or something that would be intolerable. My happiness is not something that should be compromised by doing something I'm not comfortable with and vice versa. Swinging for us is about doing it together and not actually about having sex with other people. To us, they are our sex toys.
You use people as sex toys ??!!!
Shhhhhh....I didn't want to mention that bit
Oh dear, sorry "
Oh dear, you'll have a flood of single ladies saying "this is why I don't meet couples" blah blah blah..... don't think you meant it in a derogatory way and that you are going to use them for your own pleasure..... |
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"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen?
Absolutely! How could one possibly enjoy doing it knowing that the one they love is not comfortable or happy with doing it? Sometimes fantasies are best left at that if the price is too high.
You could also ask how the one who's not keen would be happy if he/she knew the other one was thinking about these things but had to suppress these feelings. No?
Paul was on the scene for years before meeting me. But I know that without a doubt had I decided not to try it or if I ever wanted to stop he would not see it as a sacrifice or something that would be intolerable. My happiness is not something that should be compromised by doing something I'm not comfortable with and vice versa. Swinging for us is about doing it together and not actually about having sex with other people. To us, they are our sex toys.
You use people as sex toys ??!!!
Shhhhhh....I didn't want to mention that bit
Oh dear, sorry
Oh dear, you'll have a flood of single ladies saying "this is why I don't meet couples" blah blah blah..... don't think you meant it in a derogatory way and that you are going to use them for your own pleasure....."
Certainly not meant in any derogatory way and we've certainly never had any complaints. Everyone we play with is treated with absolute respect
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just curious as to why people swing? Is it because we are bored in our marriage? Or that a single girl can get a good time, or that a girl who wouldn't normally attract someone gets attention? I think mostly married men trying to spice things up"
Because we enjoy it, nothing more or less really |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I initially joined the site, I suppose to meet (doesn't have too be sexual) different people from the norm I would interact with."
Me too but also to hopefully bust one or two nuts, mission accomplished
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"Just curious as to why people swing? Is it because we are bored in our marriage? Or that a single girl can get a good time, or that a girl who wouldn't normally attract someone gets attention? I think mostly married men trying to spice things up"
We do it for an occasional naughty laugh - we're very cool with that.
I don't subscribe to your assertion that it's the married men making all the running.
Your profile however suggests you do it for a free night out .....it's a short hop from "likes to be spoilt outside the bedroom" to, well I'll leave it at that.....
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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We have a fantastic sex life that doesn't need spicing up, but we also have mutual and individual fantasies that swinging allows us to fulfill, with the added bonus that we really love to see each other enjoying themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a fantastic sex life that doesn't need spicing up, but we also have mutual and individual fantasies that swinging allows us to fulfill, with the added bonus that we really love to see each other enjoying themselves. "
you would have the good sex you have the special ass
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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago
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"Just curious as to why people swing? Is it because we are bored in our marriage? Or that a single girl can get a good time, or that a girl who wouldn't normally attract someone gets attention? I think mostly married men trying to spice things up"
becouse we like sex. That's it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. of reasons why I (Mr N do it)
Boredom.
My job is just so tedious and boring.
I need excitement in my life.
It's something that's fun to do.
It's better than making war which is what half the population seem to think is a good way to go.
I like that throbbing feeling so much when I orgasm.
I love boobs and bums.
I love stockings and suspenders on women or men for that matter LOL.
I love watching Mrs N's seduction and her eventual succumbing to her bodies arousal and then orgasming. I could go on and on and on.
It's just one of the great pleasures in life.
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We met on here as singles,took some time out to get to know each other and decided to give it a go as a couple.
We enjoy the social side and friendship and its just an extension of the fun we already have.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shame about the woman who do it because he would leave etc etc you can tell straight away by chatting to the lady's if they are pressured into it and of putting too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do it because I love sex, experiencing new things with new people, and it's damn good filthy fun.
I do feel some couples do it to spice up their sex life, some do it because their partners would cheat if they didn't, some do it because they are pressurised into it by their partner and some do it for the same reason I do.
I feel a lot of men are on here thinking it's an easy way to get sex."
I think 'thinking' is the key word! It's far easier to pick up in a bar than on fab as a single guy!
For me, I've enjoyed meeting a different type than I normally would, different experiences and it's a far more open and honest way of having recreational sex than dating/picking up in bars. |
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"We've been together 30 years, then friends started dieing and it became very apparent that we only have one go at life, so cramming as much as possible in to it should be high on the agenda. And what a pleasant hobby it is too. "
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"I've always wondered about couples who get onto swinging. Most will say it's to spice up their sex lives right? But does that mean they have done everything together so feel like they need to 'take to another level', ie bring others into it?
And what about if one doesn't feel like they can, what then?
Then they shouldn't do it
And just be happy with each other? Even if one has fantasies they know will never happen?
Absolutely! How could one possibly enjoy doing it knowing that the one they love is not comfortable or happy with doing it? Sometimes fantasies are best left at that if the price is too high.
You could also ask how the one who's not keen would be happy if he/she knew the other one was thinking about these things but had to suppress these feelings. No?
Paul was on the scene for years before meeting me. But I know that without a doubt had I decided not to try it or if I ever wanted to stop he would not see it as a sacrifice or something that would be intolerable. My happiness is not something that should be compromised by doing something I'm not comfortable with and vice versa. Swinging for us is about doing it together and not actually about having sex with other people. To us, they are our sex toys. "
We don't see others as sex toys , but I get what you mean. It's having access to a wider variety of position , sensations and very, very horny. It's just like people who go out for a lovely meal and enjoy a wide variety of cuisine together but still end the night in each other's arms .Everyone sated tastebuds titilated and more ideas for the menu next time. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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'Tis juxtaposition, why drive a sports car with theses national limits, why put up with a questionable tax system,
Sometimes you need to break away, leve the system and be on here...Please send all donations to....
A charity that has fun.
Boy I'm I bogged off with things that didn't work.
There is souch fun to be had.
Sorry to spoil your eveniing
Fun feeds fun, nisery feeds..... ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have everything I want in life, except regular sex. I do not want to become a 'couple' again, to achieve regular sex.
If I browse pubs and clubs, I would soon gain a reputation I would never lose. The fact that I only seek one man at a time, for some months at a time, would be lost in the whispers 'she meets men for sex'.
Fab gives me some discretion in the search. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I can certainly get the attention elsewhere however I like the scene. Generally the participants know what they want as well as what they don't want and are adult enough to discuss this.
Out of the scene I've had more than my share of bad experiences. This is the more fun option and a bloody good reason to swing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it exciting. Love when Mr has picked a meet and I have no clue who is coming. Love the look on Mr's face on a meet. The best sex is after the meet and it's just the 2 of us. So intense x |
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