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How would singles like to be treated by couples?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It get says quite a lot on the forums that couples treat singles like 'performing seals'. There's a thread going at the moment suggesting that couples are even driving singles away. We pride ourselves in treating our single men like friends. However, a lot of men wouldn't want our friendship, and if we were to invite them round to our house for dinner followed by some fun, many would run mile.
So my question is how do single people want to be treated by a couple. What are couples doing that make their playmate feel like a 'performing seal'? Would single prefer a more 'friendship' style approach, or is that too 'relationshippy'?
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We're definitely not looking for 'relationsippy' style play. Also, we're not looking for single guys who feel they have to beg to get between my legs either.
We want; dominant, happy, chatty, social men who can make us laugh as well as give a toe curling orgasm  We're not cuck and instantly delete any messages from guys that have that preference in their profile. We DO want guys who aren't afraid to take what they want, in any way they want it  |
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By *kultraCouple
over a year ago
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We treat singles as though they're a couple too. Being polite, considerate and respectful should surely be the way forward with anyone you talk to. We always tell them what we would like from our playmate but also ask them what they would like from us. It works both ways so we would never just make demands and bend anyone to our will. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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i think it can literaly be as simple as "treat someone the way you would want to be treated".......
its more of a respect thing that anything else and the "proforming seal" sctick doesn't do anything for me......
i would say you would want as much as other party out of the experience.... so i would expect the effort not be going "one way"......... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Like a fucking Princess LMAO 
Nah .... not gonna happen . We aren't performing seals  "
How has that got anything at all to do with performing seals?
My reply may have been a little tongue in cheek but I'm sure the question was how do singles expect to be treated... It was supposed to be a lighthearted reply...
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"Like a fucking Princess LMAO
Nah .... not gonna happen . We aren't performing seals
How has that got anything at all to do with performing seals?
My reply may have been a little tongue in cheek but I'm sure the question was how do singles expect to be treated... It was supposed to be a lighthearted reply...
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So was ours hence the
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It get says quite a lot on the forums that couples treat singles like 'performing seals'. There's a thread going at the moment suggesting that couples are even driving singles away. We pride ourselves in treating our single men like friends. However, a lot of men wouldn't want our friendship, and if we were to invite them round to our house for dinner followed by some fun, many would run mile.
So my question is how do single people want to be treated by a couple. What are couples doing that make their playmate feel like a 'performing seal'? Would single prefer a more 'friendship' style approach, or is that too 'relationshippy'?
Discuss
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Dinner with fun to finish the night.. Wow you both very nice people, never heard that some one would do that. Obviously that shows you guys putting lot of effort for that meet and genuine. I would really appreciate that, but the problem is I will start to expect the same on my next meet too..haha.
I am just one click away guys, I would love to be your guest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It get says quite a lot on the forums that couples treat singles like 'performing seals'. There's a thread going at the moment suggesting that couples are even driving singles away. We pride ourselves in treating our single men like friends. However, a lot of men wouldn't want our friendship, and if we were to invite them round to our house for dinner followed by some fun, many would run mile.
So my question is how do single people want to be treated by a couple. What are couples doing that make their playmate feel like a 'performing seal'? Would single prefer a more 'friendship' style approach, or is that too 'relationshippy'?
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I've never had that experience.
A couple is made up of two people, so I always assume it's basically three people wanting to get on and enjoy each other. So a two-way street but with three people 
I assume everything is equal with anyone I meet. With noone having the upper hand or being more desirable than another. It's about us all pleasing each other in my book - whatever that entails.
Maybe I'm simple but it's worked for me and the couples I've met have always been  |
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"It get says quite a lot on the forums that couples treat singles like 'performing seals'. There's a thread going at the moment suggesting that couples are even driving singles away. We pride ourselves in treating our single men like friends. However, a lot of men wouldn't want our friendship, and if we were to invite them round to our house for dinner followed by some fun, many would run mile.
So my question is how do single people want to be treated by a couple. What are couples doing that make their playmate feel like a 'performing seal'? Would single prefer a more 'friendship' style approach, or is that too 'relationshippy'?
Discuss
Mrs
I've never had that experience.
A couple is made up of two people, so I always assume it's basically three people wanting to get on and enjoy each other. So a two-way street but with three people
I assume everything is equal with anyone I meet. With noone having the upper hand or being more desirable than another. It's about us all pleasing each other in my book - whatever that entails.
Maybe I'm simple but it's worked for me and the couples I've met have always been "
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"It get says quite a lot on the forums that couples treat singles like 'performing seals'. There's a thread going at the moment suggesting that couples are even driving singles away. We pride ourselves in treating our single men like friends. However, a lot of men wouldn't want our friendship, and if we were to invite them round to our house for dinner followed by some fun, many would run mile.
So my question is how do single people want to be treated by a couple. What are couples doing that make their playmate feel like a 'performing seal'? Would single prefer a more 'friendship' style approach, or is that too 'relationshippy'?
Discuss
Mrs"
I definitely prefer the friendships relationship with a couple - as that makes the logistics of meeting up (and the logistics of sex) much much easier
Sometimes - as single guy - have felt bit like a seal as in being expected to drop everything to meet a couple. I do have a life as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It get says quite a lot on the forums that couples treat singles like 'performing seals'. There's a thread going at the moment suggesting that couples are even driving singles away. We pride ourselves in treating our single men like friends. However, a lot of men wouldn't want our friendship, and if we were to invite them round to our house for dinner followed by some fun, many would run mile.
So my question is how do single people want to be treated by a couple. What are couples doing that make their playmate feel like a 'performing seal'? Would single prefer a more 'friendship' style approach, or is that too 'relationshippy'?
Discuss
Mrs
I've never had that experience.
A couple is made up of two people, so I always assume it's basically three people wanting to get on and enjoy each other. So a two-way street but with three people
I assume everything is equal with anyone I meet. With noone having the upper hand or being more desirable than another. It's about us all pleasing each other in my book - whatever that entails.
Maybe I'm simple but it's worked for me and the couples I've met have always been "
Exactly how we see it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a local couple messages me at 8am asking if I could get to their house in half an hour because she wanted dp. When I said I was unable to make I was blocked. I still don't understand it haha |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I had a local couple messages me at 8am asking if I could get to their house in half an hour because she wanted dp. When I said I was unable to make I was blocked. I still don't understand it haha"
their loss, hope you blocked back, that's what I do and they stay blocked
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I definitely need that friendship feeling otherwuse i just feel lije a sex toy that's just put away after use. I have done that and in some ways quite happy at times, however it's so much better to have a drink chat and sex and to have that friends vibe.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a local couple messages me at 8am asking if I could get to their house in half an hour because she wanted dp. When I said I was unable to make I was blocked. I still don't understand it hahatheir loss, hope you blocked back, that's what I do and they stay blocked"
Just because the aforementioned couple were idiots doesn't mean we all are, otherwise the idiot single ladies & couples we've interacted with in here would mean taking that route we'd never meet anyone x |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I had a local couple messages me at 8am asking if I could get to their house in half an hour because she wanted dp. When I said I was unable to make I was blocked. I still don't understand it hahatheir loss, hope you blocked back, that's what I do and they stay blocked
Just because the aforementioned couple were idiots doesn't mean we all are, otherwise the idiot single ladies & couples we've interacted with in here would mean taking that route we'd never meet anyone x"
I don't think it was implied that he was tarring all couples with the same brush, just referring to one bad experience |
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By *ackey102Man
over a year ago
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"It get says quite a lot on the forums that couples treat singles like 'performing seals'. There's a thread going at the moment suggesting that couples are even driving singles away. We pride ourselves in treating our single men like friends. However, a lot of men wouldn't want our friendship, and if we were to invite them round to our house for dinner followed by some fun, many would run mile.
So my question is how do single people want to be treated by a couple. What are couples doing that make their playmate feel like a 'performing seal'? Would single prefer a more 'friendship' style approach, or is that too 'relationshippy'?
Discuss
Mrs"
Personally I would like to be treated as a equal, if dinner was in the table then fun so be it, night in the tiles followed by fun then cool. In the flip side, if the man wanted to watch and tell me what he would like to see me doing to his wife then fair play. Horses for courses as they say. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can't be doing with all that messing about.... I want hot horny sex, not sitting down with a cup of tea with small talk with couples... My opinion..."
It's more likely to be messing about with a glass of bubbly instead of a cup of tea, and sex talk as opposed to small talk. Either way sex is always hot and horny. But hey ho, I guess we're not the couple for you  
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok so singles want to be treated like an equal and with respect. To us that goes without saying, but I guess other couples aren't like this? So what is it the couples do that give couples such a bad reputation? Rules? demands? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It get says quite a lot on the forums that couples treat singles like 'performing seals'. There's a thread going at the moment suggesting that couples are even driving singles away. We pride ourselves in treating our single men like friends. However, a lot of men wouldn't want our friendship, and if we were to invite them round to our house for dinner followed by some fun, many would run mile.
So my question is how do single people want to be treated by a couple. What are couples doing that make their playmate feel like a 'performing seal'? Would single prefer a more 'friendship' style approach, or is that too 'relationshippy'?
Discuss
Mrs
Personally I would like to be treated as a equal, if dinner was in the table then fun so be it, night in the tiles followed by fun then cool. In the flip side, if the man wanted to watch and tell me what he would like to see me doing to his wife then fair play. Horses for courses as they say."
Yes I would have thought that horses for courses. We will say what we like, but equally and single man will say what he likes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We always treat singles the same as cples. We are not rude and do not expect them to bow to us.
We reply to all messages even if its just a no thanks "
You are a welcome rarity .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like a friend they have sex with. Both of them. I'm ok with no kissing (man and woman) or anal. I'd like to converse with them both, and for them to let me know who is messaging me. I don't take orders; if we met it would be go with the flow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so singles want to be treated like an equal and with respect. To us that goes without saying, but I guess other couples aren't like this? So what is it the couples do that give couples such a bad reputation? Rules? demands?"
Rules are fine; we all have them (as per my profile text). If the rules make everything in the couple's favour it will be a polite no thank you from me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It get says quite a lot on the forums that couples treat singles like 'performing seals'. There's a thread going at the moment suggesting that couples are even driving singles away. We pride ourselves in treating our single men like friends. However, a lot of men wouldn't want our friendship, and if we were to invite them round to our house for dinner followed by some fun, many would run mile.
So my question is how do single people want to be treated by a couple. What are couples doing that make their playmate feel like a 'performing seal'? Would single prefer a more 'friendship' style approach, or is that too 'relationshippy'?
Discuss
Mrs
Dinner with fun to finish the night.. Wow you both very nice people, never heard that some one would do that. Obviously that shows you guys putting lot of effort for that meet and genuine. I would really appreciate that, but the problem is I will start to expect the same on my next meet too..haha.
I am just one click away guys, I would love to be your guest. "
Is what we do really that unusual? We would do that for any guest. |
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I've met some couples where it became apparent that it was all about them rather than a messy tangle of bodies. One couple declared at a social that it was going to make their life MUCH easier once they'd been verified by me as a single fem - I declined to write one... on the flip side, I meet regularly with a couple of couples where we start with coffee then take the cake to the bedroom to get messy... huge fun. Relaxed, no agenda other than leaving everyone sated and happy. Profiles are massively important to gauge how things may or may not develop. Great thread - thought provoking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok so singles want to be treated like an equal and with respect. To us that goes without saying, but I guess other couples aren't like this? So what is it the couples do that give couples such a bad reputation? Rules? demands?
Rules are fine; we all have them (as per my profile text). If the rules make everything in the couple's favour it will be a polite no thank you from me. "
That's alright then, we don't have any rules that require verbalising in the early stages. The only thing we get twitchy about is Mr being marginalised by single guys in the communication. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't be doing with all that messing about.... I want hot horny sex, not sitting down with a cup of tea with small talk with couples... My opinion...
It's more likely to be messing about with a glass of bubbly instead of a cup of tea, and sex talk as opposed to small talk. Either way sex is always hot and horny. But hey ho, I guess we're not the couple for you
Mrs"
Indeed I'm very particular. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"It get says quite a lot on the forums that couples treat singles like 'performing seals'. There's a thread going at the moment suggesting that couples are even driving singles away. We pride ourselves in treating our single men like friends. However, a lot of men wouldn't want our friendship, and if we were to invite them round to our house for dinner followed by some fun, many would run mile.
So my question is how do single people want to be treated by a couple. What are couples doing that make their playmate feel like a 'performing seal'? Would single prefer a more 'friendship' style approach, or is that too 'relationshippy'?
Discuss
Mrs"
Performing seals that's the first time I heard that
IMHO every has preferences and everyone gives as good as they get. If you are not what they want then doing message and or respect their decision. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"We're definitely not looking for 'relationsippy' style play. Also, we're not looking for single guys who feel they have to beg to get between my legs either.
We want; dominant, happy, chatty, social men who can make us laugh as well as give a toe curling orgasm We're not cuck and instantly delete any messages from guys that have that preference in their profile. We DO want guys who aren't afraid to take what they want, in any way they want it "
That's a shame I am currently changing my profile to be that soppy Chuck/bull basted that you dislike, and you guys are on my hot list |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When couples message me, ( and occasionally they do ), It's usually a one word or one sentence message.
They don't really feel they have to make an effort.
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"I can't be doing with all that messing about.... I want hot horny sex, not sitting down with a cup of tea with small talk with couples... My opinion...
It's more likely to be messing about with a glass of bubbly instead of a cup of tea, and sex talk as opposed to small talk. Either way sex is always hot and horny. But hey ho, I guess we're not the couple for you
Mrs
Indeed I'm very particular. "
That's not being particular. That's being impatient |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"All us men just like women and couples want to be treated with afordiant respect, unfortunately their are certain mainly male disrespectful men out there that ruin it for us."
not only men it extends to couples and women too
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"I can't be doing with all that messing about.... I want hot horny sex, not sitting down with a cup of tea with small talk with couples... My opinion...
It's more likely to be messing about with a glass of bubbly instead of a cup of tea, and sex talk as opposed to small talk. Either way sex is always hot and horny. But hey ho, I guess we're not the couple for you
Mrs
Indeed I'm very particular.
That's not being particular. That's being impatient "
Really ?
I do not concur... I like what I like... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can't be doing with all that messing about.... I want hot horny sex, not sitting down with a cup of tea with small talk with couples... My opinion...
It's more likely to be messing about with a glass of bubbly instead of a cup of tea, and sex talk as opposed to small talk. Either way sex is always hot and horny. But hey ho, I guess we're not the couple for you
Mrs
Indeed I'm very particular.
That's not being particular. That's being impatient
Really ?
I do not concur... I like what I like... "
Rejecting someone because you don't fancy them is being particular. Rejecting someone you like because you don't like a build-up before sex is being impatient. I suspect you wouldn't though. I'm pretty damn sure that when you have a sexy lady who you really like promising you fantastic sex, you're hardly going to say 'sorry love, you have to fuck me right now, or I'm out of here'. |
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On more than one occasion I've had dialogue with couples who after chatting a while told me I would be invited round as a birthday gift for husband, to please him but not to expect anything in return, the husband would only have sex with his wife - told them I'm not a performing seal, this surprised them! Then the other couple wanted me to go to a hotel, spend time with the wife in the room whilst hubby drank and waited in the bar and if I was attractive enough and I had done enough to satisfy the wife he would be invited up to film us and if he liked the look of me he would have sex with me - told them I'm not a performing seal.
Respect is important to me and for me to be given what I want.
Obviously I'm no longer interested in having dialogue with couples.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"On more than one occasion I've had dialogue with couples who after chatting a while told me I would be invited round as a birthday gift for husband, to please him but not to expect anything in return, the husband would only have sex with his wife - told them I'm not a performing seal, this surprised them! Then the other couple wanted me to go to a hotel, spend time with the wife in the room whilst hubby drank and waited in the bar and if I was attractive enough and I had done enough to satisfy the wife he would be invited up to film us and if he liked the look of me he would have sex with me - told them I'm not a performing seal.
Respect is important to me and for me to be given what I want.
Obviously I'm no longer interested in having dialogue with couples.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't be doing with all that messing about.... I want hot horny sex, not sitting down with a cup of tea with small talk with couples... My opinion...
It's more likely to be messing about with a glass of bubbly instead of a cup of tea, and sex talk as opposed to small talk. Either way sex is always hot and horny. But hey ho, I guess we're not the couple for you
Mrs
Indeed I'm very particular.
That's not being particular. That's being impatient
Really ?
I do not concur... I like what I like...
Rejecting someone because you don't fancy them is being particular. Rejecting someone you like because you don't like a build-up before sex is being impatient. I suspect you wouldn't though. I'm pretty damn sure that when you have a sexy lady who you really like promising you fantastic sex, you're hardly going to say 'sorry love, you have to fuck me right now, or I'm out of here'. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We always treat singles the same as cples. We are not rude and do not expect them to bow to us.
We reply to all messages even if its just a no thanks "
Same as us. See no point in being rude or treating anyone differently.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can't be doing with all that messing about.... I want hot horny sex, not sitting down with a cup of tea with small talk with couples... My opinion...
It's more likely to be messing about with a glass of bubbly instead of a cup of tea, and sex talk as opposed to small talk. Either way sex is always hot and horny. But hey ho, I guess we're not the couple for you
Mrs
Indeed I'm very particular.
That's not being particular. That's being impatient
Really ?
I do not concur... I like what I like...
Rejecting someone because you don't fancy them is being particular. Rejecting someone you like because you don't like a build-up before sex is being impatient. I suspect you wouldn't though. I'm pretty damn sure that when you have a sexy lady who you really like promising you fantastic sex, you're hardly going to say 'sorry love, you have to fuck me right now, or I'm out of here'.
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You implied that you didn't like chit chat and drink prior to sex. I said this was being impatient. You said it was being particular. Well I thought that's what you meant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"With interest and respect and as an equal. I'm not sure what I'd be expected to do as a 'performing seal'. "
Balance a ball on your nose as you spit roast the Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Couples seem to want to call all the shots which is not good for the single lady.
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Definately not us. Never been lucky enough to meet a single lady in that capacity, but with the single guys we meet, we know if we don't treat them well and ensure their needs are met just as much as ours, then they won't come back for more. Cos a good playmate (whether male or female) is hard to find - we dont take it for granted.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, it's all about being treated as a friend. The idea of dinner and then fun sounds perfect to me.
Unfortunately, some couples can be a little over-enthusiastic on the messaging-front, which puts me off.
I think it's very much about communicating and all being aware of what you'd like to happen.
Saying that, I've been incredibly lucky with the couples I've met. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A few months ago I had a few couples message me who came across as extremely predatory and I did have the distinct impression they were seeking a free sex toy so I declined both offers. |
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