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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I have just received a polite message from a young woman on WhatsApp asking what is my number doing in her boyfriends phone?
Caught red handed!
Very awkward situation as I don't meet Attached men at all! For this reason and my principals.
But I felt the need to be honest with her woman to woman I felt sad for her finding out her boyfriend is cheating.
Luckily I hadn't met him in person only exchanged a few messages.
I can't help feeling bad but I have done nothing wrong in my book.
What would you do in this situation?? |
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Being a male once on receiving end of boyfriend texting me.. (I didnt know she had a bf) ceased all contact full stop. She tried to come out with the usual "we live seperate lives" nonsense.. but couldnt care less. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it was a girlfriend texting me I would apologise and explain that I'd exchanged numbers with him from this site and that he had told me he was single (I wouldn't knowingly meet an attached guy) I'd assure her that now I'm aware he has a girlfriend I would block him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This happened to me some years back.
One of the most awkward moments of my life. Wanted the ground to open up and swallow me.
I had no idea that there was a girlfriend on the scene. I used to see him a lot, he would come to stay as lived more than a hundred miles away. I had also known him from work before that.
Had to accept that none of it was my fault. He was the one cheating. I was just stupid to not realise.
Not your fault. The one to sort the mess out is him because let's face it he ate the cake he can have the indigestion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would have ignored it, not your problem, and frequently the third party gets blamed because people haven't the spine to take responsibility for their own actions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a phone call from a woman claiming first that I had met her husband, then saying her boyfriend. I asked her to describe him as the name wasn't familiar to me. The description fitted a few people but the location didn't. I said I had no idea who she was talking about and she hung up. All very strange as their were people having a conversation next to her, as if they were in a room together. Still no clue as to who she was talking about. I blocked the number. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tell her the truth... Whether she believes you or not is her problem. If she becomes abusive block but if she's genuinely asking then be open... You have nothing to hide and it's his fault....
Though if she checks his phone she's likely to be a nut job  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"try not to get in that situation in the first place. knowing I've helped cause someone else's misery would be too much to bear."
It's not always apparent that someone is attached. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell her the truth... Whether she believes you or not is her problem. If she becomes abusive block but if she's genuinely asking then be open... You have nothing to hide and it's his fault....
Though if she checks his phone she's likely to be a nut job "
Or he's been acting in a way that aroused her suspicion. |
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Agree with the above - you can't even be sure who this woman is or whether she's telling the truth
Either way if whoever they are has got your number from him he clearly is a waste of space as well and a double block is indicated - problem solved as you'll never hear from them again |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If it was a girlfriend texting me I would apologise and explain that I'd exchanged numbers with him from this site and that he had told me he was single (I wouldn't knowingly meet an attached guy) I'd assure her that now I'm aware he has a girlfriend I would block him. "
I did exactly this!
Thanks for your message |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks guys,
I was honest, I told her I was sorry she found out but similarly told her I didn't know he was attached.
Luckily I didn't meet him in person just a few messages exchanged!
She's vanilla, he's on fab to cheat!
It's a shame and I feel sorry for her  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"He had only exchanged messages so you don't know if he was ever going to meet but either way his other half would need to know he was at least flirting behind her back. Quite a dirty thing to do. "
True |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks guys,
I was honest, I told her I was sorry she found out but similarly told her I didn't know he was attached.
Luckily I didn't meet him in person just a few messages exchanged!
She's vanilla, he's on fab to cheat!
It's a shame and I feel sorry for her "
I wouldn't worry about it.
That's could of been the guy himself off another number |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i'd send a link to the profile who's number it was and that'd be it. block them as well, don't need their shit."
Ain't there laws about that?
I know there is passing on pictures etc without consent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I have just received a polite message from a young woman on WhatsApp asking what is my number doing in her boyfriends phone?
Caught red handed!
Very awkward situation as I don't meet Attached men at all! For this reason and my principals.
But I felt the need to be honest with her woman to woman I felt sad for her finding out her boyfriend is cheating.
Luckily I hadn't met him in person only exchanged a few messages.
I can't help feeling bad but I have done nothing wrong in my book.
What would you do in this situation??"
I had this about 3 weeks ago! I hadn't met any attached men as it's not my thing but it turns out I'd been chatting to one 
The gf is pregnant ........... it's put me off meeting now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If it was a girlfriend texting me I would apologise and explain that I'd exchanged numbers with him from this site and that he had told me he was single (I wouldn't knowingly meet an attached guy) I'd assure her that now I'm aware he has a girlfriend I would block him. "
I've done exactly this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it was a girlfriend texting me I would apologise and explain that I'd exchanged numbers with him from this site and that he had told me he was single (I wouldn't knowingly meet an attached guy) I'd assure her that now I'm aware he has a girlfriend I would block him.
I've done exactly this "
There's nothing more you can do. You've been honest. You aren't the one that's done anything wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If he'd pretended to be single as you said that was an issue, then scew him, text her back with a link to his fab profile.
If it hadn't been mentioned just don't reply. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"If it was a girlfriend texting me I would apologise and explain that I'd exchanged numbers with him from this site and that he had told me he was single (I wouldn't knowingly meet an attached guy) I'd assure her that now I'm aware he has a girlfriend I would block him.
I've done exactly this
There's nothing more you can do. You've been honest. You aren't the one that's done anything wrong. "
If she was looking through his phone, she probably knew and just wanted some kind of confirmation. Though it's a bit sad if you can't figure out what random texting/flirtation is with a woman you don't know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you have done something wrong. You've tried to justify it to yourself but you know nothing about their situation, who "she" really is. You've got involved where really You shouldn't have. You should just block and move on.
Bit vindictive I feel.
How would you feel if he divulged that you meet people on fab? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you have done something wrong. You've tried to justify it to yourself but you know nothing about their situation, who "she" really is. You've got involved where really You shouldn't have. You should just block and move on.
Bit vindictive I feel.
How would you feel if he divulged that you meet people on fab?"
I don't think the OP has done anything wrong, I would share his profile with his gf! He shouldn't be making out he is single ....... he should've been honest that he's attached and then the OP could have decided whether she chatted to him, if she did then she takes some of the blame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the Bible infidelity is the only sin that's listed twice in the ten commandments... once for doing it and another for just thinking about it. Shame the op destroyed this guys relationship because his mind was wandering. I would've stayed out of it. After all it was only a few messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah well, its his loss, not yours. I'm sure there's a nice single man out there to make you happy. If his missus has any sense she'll find herself one too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the Bible infidelity is the only sin that's listed twice in the ten commandments... once for doing it and another for just thinking about it. Shame the op destroyed this guys relationship because his mind was wandering. I would've stayed out of it. After all it was only a few messages "
I'm pretty sure if his relationship is destroyed it's all of his own doing and not the ops fault |
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"In the Bible infidelity is the only sin that's listed twice in the ten commandments... once for doing it and another for just thinking about it. Shame the op destroyed this guys relationship because his mind was wandering. I would've stayed out of it. After all it was only a few messages "
The OP didn't destroy his relationship, utter tripe to even suggest that..
You don't even know what the context of the messages where so maybe according to your book the guy was guilty of thinking about it, in fact given he had joined the site he's bang to rights..
what does your book say about throwing stones by the way..?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the Bible infidelity is the only sin that's listed twice in the ten commandments... once for doing it and another for just thinking about it. Shame the op destroyed this guys relationship because his mind was wandering. I would've stayed out of it. After all it was only a few messages
I'm pretty sure if his relationship is destroyed it's all of his own doing and not the ops fault "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been in this situation too, did the same as u, personally I think you did the right thing!
The man is an idiot!
His relationship was screwed already, she just didn't know it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the Bible infidelity is the only sin that's listed twice in the ten commandments... once for doing it and another for just thinking about it. Shame the op destroyed this guys relationship because his mind was wandering. I would've stayed out of it. After all it was only a few messages
I'm pretty sure if his relationship is destroyed it's all of his own doing and not the ops fault "
I don't know... what's worse? Finding out your partner has been messaging complete strangers about sex or finding out your partner has been phoning people on your phone and interrogating them. |
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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago
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Text messages once sent, stay on the other person's phone. Phone calls can be recorded.
Replying to an accussing partner's messages or call and then blocking the number very likely means you've involved yourself for far longer than you think you have because you're very likely leaving your fingerprints all over a problem you definitely don't need.
Besides you haven't got a clue who this person is. Someone contacting you out of the blue claiming to be whoever doesn't necessarily mean they are who they claim to be.
I like and live a drama free life. So faced with the same situation, I'd Ignore, Block & Delete.
I've got my own headaches and have no interest in getting involved in somebody else's. |
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"If it was a girlfriend texting me I would apologise and explain that I'd exchanged numbers with him from this site and that he had told me he was single (I wouldn't knowingly meet an attached guy) I'd assure her that now I'm aware he has a girlfriend I would block him. "
This |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I would of stayed well out of it and just blocked her number. I really don't think you should get involved in other people's relationships. It's hardly 'cheating' when you've just exchanged a few messages.
Or you could of said 'I've been chatting to him about painting my hall/redoing my bathroom/mowing my lawn' (delete as appropriate)  |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"I would of stayed well out of it and just blocked her number. I really don't think you should get involved in other people's relationships. It's hardly 'cheating' when you've just exchanged a few messages.
Or you could of said 'I've been chatting to him about painting my hall/redoing my bathroom/mowing my lawn' (delete as appropriate) "
Unfortunately she found herself involved in someone else's relationship, through no fault of her own. First the boyfriend involved her, and then the girlfriend involved her!
At that point, if seemed she extricated herself with the minimum of fuss and deception. Hard to see what else she could have done really, it wasn't her place to need to start constructing a fabrication. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been there and in an effort to minimise the drama in my life I didn't reply and blocked both numbers. It really isn't something I need in my life. Not my problem. Harsh but it's best for me. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
I'd ignore/block it - if it's a number you dont have, how do you know it's actually this fellers girlfreind at all?
If its from the guys number - how do you know it isn't his mates being dicks?
Erase them all from your life and move on. Ain't nobody got time for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it was a girlfriend texting me I would apologise and explain that I'd exchanged numbers with him from this site and that he had told me he was single (I wouldn't knowingly meet an attached guy) I'd assure her that now I'm aware he has a girlfriend I would block him. "
This. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I have just received a polite message from a young woman on WhatsApp asking what is my number doing in her boyfriends phone?
Caught red handed!
Very awkward situation as I don't meet Attached men at all! For this reason and my principals.
But I felt the need to be honest with her woman to woman I felt sad for her finding out her boyfriend is cheating.
Luckily I hadn't met him in person only exchanged a few messages.
I can't help feeling bad but I have done nothing wrong in my book.
What would you do in this situation??"
How do you even know that was his gf? It would be still him what to know how you react.. he would be from that famous university doing some sort of experiment... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it was a girlfriend texting me I would apologise and explain that I'd exchanged numbers with him from this site and that he had told me he was single (I wouldn't knowingly meet an attached guy) I'd assure her that now I'm aware he has a girlfriend I would block him. "
Stitch .
You ladies never reply to the men's email here in fab, why bother replying the text from stranger... 
Keep your ass tight and don't fart... Just don't reply.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it was a girlfriend texting me I would apologise and explain that I'd exchanged numbers with him from this site and that he had told me he was single (I wouldn't knowingly meet an attached guy) I'd assure her that now I'm aware he has a girlfriend I would block him. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you have done something wrong. You've tried to justify it to yourself but you know nothing about their situation, who "she" really is. You've got involved where really You shouldn't have. You should just block and move on.
Bit vindictive I feel.
How would you feel if he divulged that you meet people on fab?"
I agree with this. There was no need to reply to the girlfriends text. You should have ignored and blocked both numbers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I would have not engaged and blocked the number. Some will say a lot to worm their way out of bad situations. The third party tends to be labelled as the whore, because it's easier to believe that, than the truth. If I didn't knowingly meet/chat to a married man, their situation is not my fault, and be damned if I'm going to get called names for doing something with someone I believed was single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I have just received a polite message from a young woman on WhatsApp asking what is my number doing in her boyfriends phone?
Caught red handed!
Very awkward situation as I don't meet Attached men at all! For this reason and my principals.
But I felt the need to be honest with her woman to woman I felt sad for her finding out her boyfriend is cheating.
Luckily I hadn't met him in person only exchanged a few messages.
I can't help feeling bad but I have done nothing wrong in my book.
What would you do in this situation??"
Can I have your number in my phone lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just wondering what the responses would be if a guy posted this. "
Mine would be exactly the same. I don't understand why anyone would bother to reply. It helps no one. |
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"If it was a girlfriend texting me I would apologise and explain that I'd exchanged numbers with him from this site and that he had told me he was single (I wouldn't knowingly meet an attached guy) I'd assure her that now I'm aware he has a girlfriend I would block him.
I've done exactly this "
I've read this whole thread and I'm real pleased you did that. Lots of people saying don't get involved in the drama but I would do the same as you and I have done.
If she chooses to stay with him that's her choice but at least she is aware of the type of person he is and if he goes on to break her heart she had a warning previously
I would want to know myself. Well done  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm surprised nobody has mentioned the fact she obviously doesn't trust him and she's got doubts over his relationship with her anyway as she's going thru his phone "
That has been mentioned |
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"I'm surprised nobody has mentioned the fact she obviously doesn't trust him and she's got doubts over his relationship with her anyway as she's going thru his phone "
Bit of an assumption there.
My wife has full access to my phone and she does with me. To us they are just practical devices, we often check messages for each other if one is driving or not able to answer etc.
We also open each others mail.
Its not a lack of trust it is complete trust. I'm more than happy for her to pick up messages if I'm busy. They may also have the same arrangement, he may simply have left a message unopened.
Also you don't always have to open a phone now as lots of people let there standby screen display messages.
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"I'm just wondering what the responses would be if a guy posted this.
Mine would be exactly the same. I don't understand why anyone would bother to reply. It helps no one. "
Why do some think that everyone else has to chip in to cover up for the cheater?
If I was in a bar and got chatted up by a guy whose gf then came over why should I lie to save his ass? I fail to see the difference if someone does that face to face, via text or a phonecall.
At that point it is down to the individual to decide their own approach. My approach is he lied to me and I have no loyalty to him, so if someone asks me a question I have no reason to lie/ withhold the truth. |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
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You did the right thing. Two women here are being deceived by one man. One he should respect as his parter enough not to fuck around, and one who trusted he was what he said he was.
Women don't generally go snooping on their guys phone without good reason...either their behaviour has aroused suspicion or they have cheated before and given that person an insecurity that can't be reversed.
Either way the man is a cheating cunt and deserves everything coming his way.
I defintily advocate carving the word Cunt on his forehead GOT or Inglorious Basterds' style  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it was a girlfriend texting me I would apologise and explain that I'd exchanged numbers with him from this site and that he had told me he was single (I wouldn't knowingly meet an attached guy) I'd assure her that now I'm aware he has a girlfriend I would block him.
I've done exactly this
I've read this whole thread and I'm real pleased you did that. Lots of people saying don't get involved in the drama but I would do the same as you and I have done.
If she chooses to stay with him that's her choice but at least she is aware of the type of person he is and if he goes on to break her heart she had a warning previously
I would want to know myself. Well done "
But if she's seen the messages then she already knows what he's up to. There's no reason, as the innocent party, that I'd want to get sucked into someone else's relationship dramas or feel like I have to explain my actions to a stranger. You aren't lying or helping the cheater by saying nothing as they've already been caught. |
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"If it was a girlfriend texting me I would apologise and explain that I'd exchanged numbers with him from this site and that he had told me he was single (I wouldn't knowingly meet an attached guy) I'd assure her that now I'm aware he has a girlfriend I would block him.
I've done exactly this
I've read this whole thread and I'm real pleased you did that. Lots of people saying don't get involved in the drama but I would do the same as you and I have done.
If she chooses to stay with him that's her choice but at least she is aware of the type of person he is and if he goes on to break her heart she had a warning previously
I would want to know myself. Well done
But if she's seen the messages then she already knows what he's up to. There's no reason, as the innocent party, that I'd want to get sucked into someone else's relationship dramas or feel like I have to explain my actions to a stranger. You aren't lying or helping the cheater by saying nothing as they've already been caught. "
I agree but myself I don't tell lies and if someone asks me a question then I feel it's always better to tell the truth
Who is to say what the outcome may be ? I had a friend who's husband cheated after 5 years of marriage and after she found out it was explosive but they did stay together and have actually been really happy for the last 15 years. But she will always say that she is glad she knew about it and he says the same
He says he would have always had that guilt at the back of his head and that in itself would have probably destroyed them
The truth is always best |
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"So I have just received a polite message from a young woman on WhatsApp asking what is my number doing in her boyfriends phone?
Caught red handed!
Very awkward situation as I don't meet Attached men at all! For this reason and my principals.
But I felt the need to be honest with her woman to woman I felt sad for her finding out her boyfriend is cheating.
Luckily I hadn't met him in person only exchanged a few messages.
I can't help feeling bad but I have done nothing wrong in my book.
What would you do in this situation??"
You'd be ok with it if you was in the girls shoes wouldn't you?
Only a bit of harmless fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd ignore the message then block his number and profile. Don't involve yourself in their drama "
Absolutely agree with this /\
You don't know their situation and shouldn't engage in conversation whatsoever.
Block both and forget.
It's happened to me and that's exactly what I did. I had a phone call from a guys wife asking why her husband had me stored in his phone as 'sexy big dick'!
I just said I'd no idea who she was or he was and then blocked!
I must admit my stomach did summersaults at first! |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
Ramsgate |
"I'd ignore the message then block his number and profile. Don't involve yourself in their drama
Absolutely agree with this /\
You don't know their situation and shouldn't engage in conversation whatsoever.
Block both and forget.
It's happened to me and that's exactly what I did. I had a phone call from a guys wife asking why her husband had me stored in his phone as 'sexy big dick'!
I just said I'd no idea who she was or he was and then blocked!
I must admit my stomach did summersaults at first! "
Had a similar thing - a guy I was seeing left his phone laying around and wife discovered horny texts. She went nuts apparently, but it's his fault for not deleting, leaving his phone about and not having any security on it. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
When I got a similar message I ignored it. Not my fault the guy lied (although I should have suspected from his behaviour when we did meet).
Is it still infidelity if no meet has taken place? Or is it a case of no smoke without fire? |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
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Is it still infidelity if no meet has taken place? "
I don't think so and that's one reason I would of ignored her message. The gf obviously has her suspicions but I still wouldn't of said anything, it's no ones business but their own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm surprised nobody has mentioned the fact she obviously doesn't trust him and she's got doubts over his relationship with her anyway as she's going thru his phone "
I think given the fact he was chatting with someone from fab with the potential to meet those doubts turned out to be justified did they not?
I always find it strange that the person who is pushed to the point of checking a phone etc because of a deceptive partner gets tarred as being as bad as the cheat ... do you expect them just to obliviously go about their lives when they have an overwhelming feeing they are being lied to? ... and asking outright often just leads to more lies to the point you think you are going mad ... if you had ever been cheated on or loved with a liar yourself you would know |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Stick to your own morale code, don't ask anyone else for advice as most people are hypocrites and what they say they'd do in public isn't actually what they'd do in private. If someone's lied to you and involved you in something you don't want to be involved in then honour yourself and speak up... Or use it as an opportunity to speak up next time something similar happens.
Social mores are totally f'ed up and based upon social conformity and herd mentality. Make your own decisions about things or ask people who actually have a provable track record of integrity x |
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over a year ago
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let him deal with the fallout of being found out - he told the fib - he got found out - not your problem even if you had met - as others have said just block the numbers x |
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over a year ago
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Is it still infidelity if no meet has taken place?
I don't think so and that's one reason I would of ignored her message. The gf obviously has her suspicions but I still wouldn't of said anything, it's no ones business but their own. "
It might not be infedelity but it is a massive break of trust and that alone can be enough to destroy the partners confidence and the relationship |
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over a year ago
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"If I was in a bar and got chatted up by a guy whose gf then came over why should I lie to save his ass? I fail to see the difference if someone does that face to face, via text or a phonecall."
So if you were in a bar and got approached by a bi sexual woman who started to talk about sex with you. Then afterwards a bloke walks up to you and starts aggressively interrogating you about what you were talking with his woman about you'd confess all and tell him she was a dirty cheat who was talking about sex with you? Or would sisters stick together? |
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over a year ago
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"In the Bible infidelity is the only sin that's listed twice in the ten commandments... once for doing it and another for just thinking about it. Shame the op destroyed this guys relationship because his mind was wandering. I would've stayed out of it. After all it was only a few messages "
OP didn't destroy the guys relationship !!
The guy destroyed his own relationship !!
OP merely got caught up in the crossfire
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"In the Bible infidelity is the only sin that's listed twice in the ten commandments... once for doing it and another for just thinking about it. Shame the op destroyed this guys relationship because his mind was wandering. I would've stayed out of it. After all it was only a few messages
OP didn't destroy the guys relationship !!
The guy destroyed his own relationship !!
OP merely got caught up in the crossfire
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Oh btw it's abit hypocritical quoting from the bible whilst sitting on fab !! |
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"In the Bible infidelity is the only sin that's listed twice in the ten commandments... once for doing it and another for just thinking about it. Shame the op destroyed this guys relationship because his mind was wandering. I would've stayed out of it. After all it was only a few messages
OP didn't destroy the guys relationship !!
The guy destroyed his own relationship !!
OP merely got caught up in the crossfire
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Oh btw it's abit hypocritical quoting from the bible whilst sitting on fab !!"
You're the ones who are saying it was a sin that this guy merely chatted to a stranger about sex. I don't believe in the Bible... but many of you appear to |
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I think that sometimes people want to be found out and leave clues or make it easy. How did the guy's girlfriend know the number belonged to a woman, wouldn't someone who didn't want to be caught use a man's name? Rookie error.
Half of me thinks just respond with the facts, half of me thinks block...who needs other people's drama. |
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I've had far too many conversations with wives and girlfriends over the years, and I do openly talk about anything they want to. My profile is clear, I don't do marrieds/attached playing without their partners consent. It's the sole reason I will only meet guys who can accommodate - and if the story changes part way through chatting it's an instant block. I'm here for fun, not for drama, but if someone does insist on dragging me into his drama then I'll stick to my morals - and will give the partner complete honesty. Some asshole who has lied to me about this shit certainly doesn't get any kind of loyalty from me. |
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I'd like to say I would take the call and spill the beans. But I wouldn't.
What's between them, is between them.
When I'm intimate with someone, that is between me, her and no one else. That's a given, even before anything happens. Single, married, whatever. The interaction is between us two, as people.
It might gratify my own self serving moral code perhaps, to tell him everything, and be open, and straight up, but, that doesn't fulfill my part of the deal.
It I had sex with her, even if she lied, it was an experience between two people. Not three. I never discuss my partner's. Ever. That would be the betrayal. Not just of her, but of me too.
But really, I would just not take the call, block the user and, move on. |
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"If I was in a bar and got chatted up by a guy whose gf then came over why should I lie to save his ass? I fail to see the difference if someone does that face to face, via text or a phonecall.
So if you were in a bar and got approached by a bi sexual woman who started to talk about sex with you. Then afterwards a bloke walks up to you and starts aggressively interrogating you about what you were talking with his woman about you'd confess all and tell him she was a dirty cheat who was talking about sex with you? Or would sisters stick together? "
The gender is irrelevant, having a pair of breast does not change the intent. |
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As a man who has twice been subject to anonymous texts allegedly about me once to a girlfriends and once to a female friend it is not always so cut and dried.
I was living and working away from home and used to visit my parents every other weekend to see them and check on my house. I was single and started seeing someone near where I was working. After a couple of months she received a text message from someone claiming to have been my girlfriend for three years and when I was supposed to be at my parents I was with her. The only saving point was that my name is spelt differently from how it is pronounced and she kept misspelling my name.
The second time was even more complicated but to cut a long story my friend who had been called a skank and stealer of boyfriends challenged the woman for a description of the boyfriend who turned out to be white. In my time I have had third parties, normally women, telling women that I have been interested in or involved with that I am married (never) or I have children (none).
There are vindictive and or mistaken people out there. |
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"In the Bible infidelity is the only sin that's listed twice in the ten commandments... once for doing it and another for just thinking about it. Shame the op destroyed this guys relationship because his mind was wandering. I would've stayed out of it. After all it was only a few messages
OP didn't destroy the guys relationship !!
The guy destroyed his own relationship !!
OP merely got caught up in the crossfire
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Oh btw it's abit hypocritical quoting from the bible whilst sitting on fab !!
You're the ones who are saying it was a sin that this guy merely chatted to a stranger about sex. I don't believe in the Bible... but many of you appear to "
Your the one who said the OP destroyed
the guys relationship
Firstly she was unaware he was in a relationship
Then she is informed by the guys partner he is in a relationship
So clearly the guy destroyed his own relationship as he is the one making plans to cheat
The OP wasn't cheating on a partner
So therefore the guy destroyed his own relationship not the OP as you stated ....
Maybe your comment stems from being someone who maybe doing exactly the same as the guy in OP post .....
Is it possible you have a partner but are on fab without her knowledge, and that's why you have a certain commeradery with the guy in OP post |
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"Maybe your comment stems from being someone who maybe doing exactly the same as the guy in OP post .....
Is it possible you have a partner but are on fab without her knowledge, and that's why you have a certain commeradery with the guy in OP post"
Lol look to the right of the green arrow and you'll see we're a couple... and if that doesn't do it for you try visiting our profile and reading our veris.
The guy was just messaging a stranger (who could've been a dude for all he knew) on the web about sex. The op treated it as if he was genuinely looking to cheat when he may well (knowing how often it comes up) have been a time waster just exploring the fantasy. In the end it was a combination of him doing that, a paranoid girlfriend, and the op acting as if he'd cheated which ruined his relationship. My point was that the op really didn't need to be a part of that triangle |
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"Maybe your comment stems from being someone who maybe doing exactly the same as the guy in OP post .....
Is it possible you have a partner but are on fab without her knowledge, and that's why you have a certain commeradery with the guy in OP post
Lol look to the right of the green arrow and you'll see we're a couple... and if that doesn't do it for you try visiting our profile and reading our veris.
The guy was just messaging a stranger (who could've been a dude for all he knew) on the web about sex. The op treated it as if he was genuinely looking to cheat when he may well (knowing how often it comes up) have been a time waster just exploring the fantasy. In the end it was a combination of him doing that, a paranoid girlfriend, and the op acting as if he'd cheated which ruined his relationship. My point was that the op really didn't need to be a part of that triangle "
Oh I did look at your profile and can see your a couple
Just because your a couple on fab, does not mean your having a rendezvous without partners knowledge
So back to my point
You accused OP of destroying someone's relationship
She didn't knowingly go behind a partners back to engage in a possible meet ....
So again I'm asking you how is OP to blame for destroying a relationship ? |
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"Maybe your comment stems from being someone who maybe doing exactly the same as the guy in OP post .....
Is it possible you have a partner but are on fab without her knowledge, and that's why you have a certain commeradery with the guy in OP post
Lol look to the right of the green arrow and you'll see we're a couple... and if that doesn't do it for you try visiting our profile and reading our veris.
The guy was just messaging a stranger (who could've been a dude for all he knew) on the web about sex. The op treated it as if he was genuinely looking to cheat when he may well (knowing how often it comes up) have been a time waster just exploring the fantasy. In the end it was a combination of him doing that, a paranoid girlfriend, and the op acting as if he'd cheated which ruined his relationship. My point was that the op really didn't need to be a part of that triangle "
The OP was made part of the "triangle" by both the man and then his girlfriend ..and how has she acted like he was cheating and not just contemplating the fantasy ? ... she only disclosed the facts that he has a profile and they have been messaging for the girlfriend to make her own mind up about
He has no one to blame for his situation but himself
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"Maybe your comment stems from being someone who maybe doing exactly the same as the guy in OP post .....
Is it possible you have a partner but are on fab without her knowledge, and that's why you have a certain commeradery with the guy in OP post
Lol look to the right of the green arrow and you'll see we're a couple... and if that doesn't do it for you try visiting our profile and reading our veris.
The guy was just messaging a stranger (who could've been a dude for all he knew) on the web about sex. The op treated it as if he was genuinely looking to cheat when he may well (knowing how often it comes up) have been a time waster just exploring the fantasy. In the end it was a combination of him doing that, a paranoid girlfriend, and the op acting as if he'd cheated which ruined his relationship. My point was that the op really didn't need to be a part of that triangle "
Oh I did look at your profile and can see your a couple
Just because your a couple on fab, does not mean your having a rendezvous without partners knowledge
So back to my point
You accused OP of destroying someone's relationship
She didn't knowingly go behind a partners back to engage in a possible meet ....
So again I'm asking you how is OP to blame for destroying a relationship ? |
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"You did the right thing. Two women here are being deceived by one man. One he should respect as his parter enough not to fuck around, and one who trusted he was what he said he was.
Women don't generally go snooping on their guys phone without good reason...either their behaviour has aroused suspicion or they have cheated before and given that person an insecurity that can't be reversed.
Either way the man is a cheating cunt and deserves everything coming his way.
I defintily advocate carving the word Cunt on his forehead GOT or Inglorious Basterds' style "
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