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over a year ago
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I'm in an interesting situation with an MMF relationship where the F of the couple now really wants discreet 121 sex with me without her partner knowing. Has anyone else come across this? She and I really hit it off sexually, and I'm reluctant to walk away. At the same time, her partner is a really nice guy. Things have suddenly become very awkward. |
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"I'm in an interesting situation with an MMF relationship where the F of the couple now really wants discreet 121 sex with me without her partner knowing. Has anyone else come across this? She and I really hit it off sexually, and I'm reluctant to walk away. At the same time, her partner is a really nice guy. Things have suddenly become very awkward."
Don't do it. |
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Don't do it.....it's totally wrong and breaks bonds of trust. If you want to have 1-2-1 with her then fine but isn't she discusses with her partner and if he says it ok it's happy days but don't go behind his back.
It might be him testing you btw.... |
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Many thanks. I'm terminating the relationship, largely because the guy is a really nice guy and also because he was key in arranging the MMF relationship. It would be untrustworthy to continue now. Thanks again for all the help. |
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Is a polyamorous relationship a possibility? If it was then it wouldn't be unusual for the female to rotate between you, no pun intended |
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Show the guy some respect and walk away. |
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"I'm in an interesting situation with an MMF relationship where the F of the couple now really wants discreet 121 sex with me without her partner knowing. Has anyone else come across this? She and I really hit it off sexually, and I'm reluctant to walk away. At the same time, her partner is a really nice guy. Things have suddenly become very awkward.
Hope it's not the couple in your verification, Bill won't be happy!    "
I did wonder the same thing!! |
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Fuck all the do gooders, fuck her senseless in their marital bed whilst he is at work and take his last can out the fridge on your way out ! |
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"I'm in an interesting situation with an MMF relationship where the F of the couple now really wants discreet 121 sex with me without her partner knowing. Has anyone else come across this? She and I really hit it off sexually, and I'm reluctant to walk away. At the same time, her partner is a really nice guy. Things have suddenly become very awkward.
Hope it's not the couple in your verification, Bill won't be happy! "
No, it isn't ..... |
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"I'm in an interesting situation with an MMF relationship where the F of the couple now really wants discreet 121 sex with me without her partner knowing. Has anyone else come across this? She and I really hit it off sexually, and I'm reluctant to walk away. At the same time, her partner is a really nice guy. Things have suddenly become very awkward.
Fuck all the do gooders, fuck her senseless in their marital bed whilst he is at work and take his last can out the fridge on your way out !"
Haha! Brilliant. If she wants to cheat that's her business, I say enjoy your can on the way out too. It would lessen my opinion of her though. If she gets found out it serves her right. |
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
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"I'm in an interesting situation with an MMF relationship where the F of the couple now really wants discreet 121 sex with me without her partner knowing. Has anyone else come across this? She and I really hit it off sexually, and I'm reluctant to walk away. At the same time, her partner is a really nice guy. Things have suddenly become very awkward."
I've been in an identical senario as well with a couple. What I did: walked away and never went back.
That's the best action I'll recommend you take.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would say the same as most here drop them.and don't do it...if you get known as a relationship breaker then your swinging days would probably be numbered no couples would trust you or know you.... |
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By *r.ringMan
over a year ago
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Yea yea lots of walk advice but how many people have had a similar situation?? Not many I would think. I get lots of unhelpful comments about my home situation. But until you live in a mans shoes you can't fully comment. So here is my thoughts. You say he is a nice guy. He will proberbly know she likes you more than just a swing person. As most people aren't that blind. I think you should just ask him if he would be ok with a 121 meet?? Possibly try and find a time when he can't be there due to work or something ??? That would make it easier for him to justify in his own mind. It's close to impossible to find good people to meet on here or any other site. It would be a shame to just walk. If the guy says no then you can go from there. She might be on the point of leaving him anyway. It would be sad to throw away a good friendship. |
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"We would say the same as most here drop them.and don't do it...if you get known as a relationship breaker then your swinging days would probably be numbered no couples would trust you or know you...."
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Hi Jan, I've already talked with her and said that 121 with her without his approval is a no. She wants us to continue the MMF relationship as before, meets always as a threesome. So, its a desire that came up ... and rightly has come to nothing. On the plus side, the three of us as a threesome are very strong. She and I are polyamorous, but not in the context of this MMF. Complicated, but not insurmountable. Its turned out ok. Thanks for helping out. Cheers, Mike |
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Don't go there that would be the ultimate betrayal of trust! |
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"Yea yea lots of walk advice but how many people have had a similar situation?? Not many I would think. I get lots of unhelpful comments about my home situation. But until you live in a mans shoes you can't fully comment. So here is my thoughts. You say he is a nice guy. He will proberbly know she likes you more than just a swing person. As most people aren't that blind. I think you should just ask him if he would be ok with a 121 meet?? Possibly try and find a time when he can't be there due to work or something ??? That would make it easier for him to justify in his own mind. It's close to impossible to find good people to meet on here or any other site. It would be a shame to just walk. If the guy says no then you can go from there. She might be on the point of leaving him anyway. It would be sad to throw away a good friendship. "
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Interesting thought. It hadn't occurred to me because it was his wife who initiated the 121 interest on her part with me directly. On the other hand, yes ... I'd love to have her 121. Her interest mirrors my intensity for her. I'll give it a shot and just ask the question " would it be ok with you if your wife and I met 121" not replacing our MMF relationship but additional to it. He and I do get on very well socially and to be honest in our MMF meets he never participates sexually, just likes to watch and often leaves us alone anyway. Mmmm .... I'll give your advice some real consideration. Thanks, mate. |
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"I'm in an interesting situation with an MMF relationship where the F of the couple now really wants discreet 121 sex with me without her partner knowing. Has anyone else come across this? She and I really hit it off sexually, and I'm reluctant to walk away. At the same time, her partner is a really nice guy. Things have suddenly become very awkward.
Is a polyamorous relationship a possibility? If it was then it wouldn't be unusual for the female to rotate between you, no pun intended"
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She and I are polyamorous, but he doesn't know that she is polyamorous, so the situation is very complicated. MMF is terrific, but she's very keen on 121 as well (in addition to continuing MMF). A potentially very fraught situation. During sex he watches and she gets very carried away and is liable to cry out the wrong thing. Mmmm... too much flirting on her part before, during and after sex. Its getting obvious now. |
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She needs to talk it through with him. If he agrees to her doing it but not telling him when, you can bang as often as you like without him knowing, and still have a clear conscience. Maybe she can offer him a similar arrangement with someone else.
It's still dangerous territory. You need to be sure that she isn't forming an inappropriate emotional connection to you. You don't want her turning up at your front door with a suitcase. |
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"I'm in an interesting situation with an MMF relationship where the F of the couple now really wants discreet 121 sex with me without her partner knowing. Has anyone else come across this? She and I really hit it off sexually, and I'm reluctant to walk away. At the same time, her partner is a really nice guy.
Things have suddenly become very awkward."
get her banged lad. |
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Quick update for everyone on my MMF situation. Had a chat with her husband this morning asking whether he'd be ok with her and I having 121 meets. I was amazed at his reaction. He's all for it. Said that he'd known that she was getting really keen on me and it just added to his pleasure. He still wants the three of us to continue our MMF meets, but has no objections at all to hot-wifing her with me when she wants 121 meets. I couldn't believe it ... every single guy's dream. Just two conditions. No-one else .... just her and me. And, our 121 meets to be in their bedroom only and video'd for him. She's over the moon ... and I'm resigned to many many hours of video recording. Turned out ok for the three of us !!!!! |
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By *r.ringMan
over a year ago
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I'm really pleased for you. I didn't say earlier as I didn't want to confuse things further. But I have a fuck buddy. I see her quit often she has a boyfriend that is cool with us having fun. Just as long as he knows im there. He has a very low sex drive and is happy she is getting what he can't give her. We have played as a mmf and it's not uncommon for him to get in from work when I'm there in the throws of fun. It was odd to start with but great for all in the end. The key here is to talk I think. I'm really pleased for you. |
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Mmm, is he aware that she had asked to meet you without his knowledge?
Her having an affair he doesn't know about is betrayal but her having an affair with someone he has happily invited into their bedroom is a much worse betrayal. |
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