We get a fair amount of winks and completely understand the use to show an interest in ones profile and to view theirs to see if it's a mutual interest.
However, i'd say it's safe to say that 90% of winkers don't have much on their profile to warrant winking in the first place as either they have no profile text or very minimal giving no information at all or no public photos (sometimes not even a profile pic).
We often delete these winks but can almost guarantee the winker will return with a follow up wink.
What do these winkers expect will happen? or do many send a message thanking such winkers for their wink to see where it leads??  |
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"we check their profiles and if we're interested we send them a mail thanking them for their wink  "
I think that's the perfect response, I often wink as I know ladies and couples are often drowning in messages so feel a wink is less intrusive, obviously I know winks are easier to miss though.
But hope most see and as you say have a quick look at my profile and send a message if they like what they see.
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"we check their profiles and if we're interested we send them a mail thanking them for their wink "
Yeah we do that
was more curious to what others do with the vast amount of profiles with nothing on them to warrant a response and what the winkers expect will happen |
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"we check their profiles and if we're interested we send them a mail thanking them for their wink
We do the same! Out of 100 winks we may reply one of them.. no profiles no pics and only been a member for small amount of time..  don't hold your breath for a reply  "
Ditto - we're not alone then |
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"we check their profiles and if we're interested we send them a mail thanking them for their wink
I think that's the perfect response, I often wink as I know ladies and couples are often drowning in messages so feel a wink is less intrusive, obviously I know winks are easier to miss though.
But hope most see and as you say have a quick look at my profile and send a message if they like what they see.
HG
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We always message instead of winking as you say, winks can easily be missed. |
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The ones who wink when their profiles are hidden make me feel confused. Especially when I (used to) message pointing out that fact, as realise they may have forgotten. Only for them to reply they are aware their profile is hidden and I'm unable to see it!  |
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"The ones who wink when their profiles are hidden make me feel confused. Especially when I (used to) message pointing out that fact, as realise they may have forgotten. Only for them to reply they are aware their profile is hidden and I'm unable to see it! "
haha - frequent occurrence on here as we've experienced this many times.
We've also had messages from hidden profiles and when we ask to see their profile they ask why the need and if we need to know something just ask in a message.  |
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"we check their profiles and if we're interested we send them a mail thanking them for their wink
Yeah we do that
was more curious to what others do with the vast amount of profiles with nothing on them to warrant a response and what the winkers expect will happen"
I guess they are just 'trying their luck', mass winking at profiles and seeing who responds!! The wonders of fab huh!!? |
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"The ones who wink when their profiles are hidden make me feel confused. Especially when I (used to) message pointing out that fact, as realise they may have forgotten. Only for them to reply they are aware their profile is hidden and I'm unable to see it! "
Very odd!! Playing away maybe?? |
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I guess they are just 'trying their luck', mass winking at profiles and seeing who responds!! The wonders of fab huh!!?"
Indeed - I guess we just keep ignoring them is the best plan until they make the effort to complete their profile/make it more appealing. |
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I guess they are just 'trying their luck', mass winking at profiles and seeing who responds!! The wonders of fab huh!!?
Indeed - I guess we just keep ignoring them is the best plan until they make the effort to complete their profile/make it more appealing."
Yes I guess so, but don't hold your breath, maybe hidden for a reason... i.e. Fallen out of the ugly tree and hit a few branches on the way down!! |
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Indeed - I guess we just keep ignoring them is the best plan until they make the effort to complete their profile/make it more appealing.
Yes I guess so, but don't hold your breath, maybe hidden for a reason... i.e. Fallen out of the ugly tree and hit a few branches on the way down!!"
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Indeed - I guess we just keep ignoring them is the best plan until they make the effort to complete their profile/make it more appealing.
Yes I guess so, but don't hold your breath, maybe hidden for a reason... i.e. Fallen out of the ugly tree and hit a few branches on the way down!!
Good point. We'll block them instead "
Haha I'm going to be very unpopular !! |
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I get a fair amount of winks and yes, the majority are from fairly baron profiles... However, I am also aware that some people can be a little shy at first.
I always send a message thanking them for the wink and just indicate that if they want to know more drop me a message.
You can't do much more really. For me, I find the wink function mostly redundant. However I think it would work well as a "fab the profile" option rather than individual pics.... So if you think someone has made a good effort with the profile you can fab them...Just a thought. |
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"we check their profiles and if we're interested we send them a mail thanking them for their wink
I think that's the perfect response, I often wink as I know ladies and couples are often drowning in messages so feel a wink is less intrusive, obviously I know winks are easier to miss though.
But hope most see and as you say have a quick look at my profile and send a message if they like what they see.
HG
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I have to be honest I don't ever look at a profile of someone I get a wink from, but I do state that in my profile that I won't response to winks.
I kind of feel like if the person can't be bothered to send a message then they can't be that interested but this comment above might make reconsider that because I get what you are saying about it being less intrusive then the 100s of messages some people get.
(Re the hidden profile thing I know it's frustrating, but I use it quite a bit when I just need a bit of breathing space from getting so many messages, because I like to try and reply to all even if it's to say no thank you. Or I hid it when I really like someone I'm chatting too, again to reduce the other messages I receive.) |
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"I usually wink to show appreciation of a great profile or nice pics. Even if we're never going to meet, its just nice to appreciate people."
Probably safe to say, winking means different things for different people then.
But I guess the winkee won't know what the winkers intentions are.
Messaging surely is the best option, even if just to say you appreciate their profile.
Fabbing pics is a show of appreciation so i'm guessing winking a profile is the fabbing a photo version. |
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(Re the hidden profile thing I know it's frustrating, but I use it quite a bit when I just need a bit of breathing space from getting so many messages, because I like to try and reply to all even if it's to say no thank you. Or I hid it when I really like someone I'm chatting too, again to reduce the other messages I receive.)"
When we used to get snowed under with messages (which isn't often these days) we went into message filters and turned off messaging until we caught up with those in the inbox already. |
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"we check their profiles and if we're interested we send them a mail thanking them for their wink
I think that's the perfect response, I often wink as I know ladies and couples are often drowning in messages so feel a wink is less intrusive, obviously I know winks are easier to miss though.
But hope most see and as you say have a quick look at my profile and send a message if they like what they see.
HG
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I have to be honest I don't ever look at a profile of someone I get a wink from, but I do state that in my profile that I won't response to winks.
I kind of feel like if the person can't be bothered to send a message then they can't be that interested but this comment above might make reconsider that because I get what you are saying about it being less intrusive then the 100s of messages some people get.
(Re the hidden profile thing I know it's frustrating, but I use it quite a bit when I just need a bit of breathing space from getting so many messages, because I like to try and reply to all even if it's to say no thank you. Or I hid it when I really like someone I'm chatting too, again to reduce the other messages I receive.)"
Glad you may reconsider, some of us guys aren't all that pushy and aren't comfortable messaging ladies and couples as we know they can get hundreds!! But judge each one individually I guess. I'm more than happy to message when I feel it would be appreciated, even if it's a no thank you. |
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"I usually wink to show appreciation of a great profile or nice pics. Even if we're never going to meet, its just nice to appreciate people.
Probably safe to say, winking means different things for different people then.
But I guess the winkee won't know what the winkers intentions are.
Messaging surely is the best option, even if just to say you appreciate their profile.
Fabbing pics is a show of appreciation so i'm guessing winking a profile is the fabbing a photo version. "
Think you're right
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We like to send a wink now and then, we fell out of the ugly tree, more than once to be fair. So we see it as an opening for somebody of superior looks
However, reading responses I don't think we will bother now! Go straight for the jugular and send a message! |
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"We like to send a wink now and then, we fell out of the ugly tree, more than once to be fair. So we see it as an opening for somebody of superior looks
However, reading responses I don't think we will bother now! Go straight for the jugular and send a message!"
We're far from superior looks ourselves, just your Average Joe's gym members (Dodgeball reference ) so we don't wink, we message, make a quick note on the profile that we did, and then delete the sent message, if they reply great, if they don't so be it. |
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"The ones who wink when their profiles are hidden make me feel confused. Especially when I (used to) message pointing out that fact, as realise they may have forgotten. Only for them to reply they are aware their profile is hidden and I'm unable to see it!
haha - frequent occurrence on here as we've experienced this many times.
We've also had messages from hidden profiles and when we ask to see their profile they ask why the need and if we need to know something just ask in a message. "
Their logic works "well". When you consider they wouldn't have been able to view your profile to message you So pointless!
I actually think winks are a good way of registering interest  - IF there is something on the profile to read and see that is. |
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