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By * starr - OP Woman
over a year ago
Burton on Trent. |
i would like to know how people first got into bondage and how (if anyone does or is) becomes a master/mistress.i would like to have a master but dont know if i could submit myself to someone like that.any suggestions or tips? |
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"i would like to know how people first got into bondage and how (if anyone does or is) becomes a master/mistress.i would like to have a master but dont know if i could submit myself to someone like that.any suggestions or tips?"
Hi hun...where to start 
Many fet events have demoes where you cud give being tied a go ,without having to submit ,just to see if you enjoy the sensaation.
My advice wud be to join the big 2 fet sites(pm me ) and get into the social side.Most areas have monthly socials and muches and it is a very welcoming community.
Of course it needs to be...there are a lot of wasters,nutters and frankly dangerous men out there who must be avoided.
Getting to know the scene will allow u to learn, meet and develop at your own speed.
I am worried by what u think a Master is ,"someone like that". A good Master is someone you willingly give yourself too,body and soul,they care for and nurture their sub.A bully is not a Master.My relatioship is one of absolute trust for a man i respect,and like.If he wasn't my Master he wud still be one of my best friends.
However many people explore their sub side without having a Master, its a broad spectrum...have fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wrote a post on this subject a while back..and the best thing that I can suggest to you is to sign up to one of the bdsm specific places..
But be careful.. its a mindfield.. I found a fantastic site recently... but I cant send it over here.
As for me.. well we found each other by accident. And I laughed at the idea of being submissive.. Now we have total power exchange..
Happy hunting
Cali |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i would like to know how people first got into bondage and how (if anyone does or is) becomes a master/mistress.i would like to have a master but dont know if i could submit myself to someone like that.any suggestions or tips?
Hi hun...where to start
Many fet events have demoes where you cud give being tied a go ,without having to submit ,just to see if you enjoy the sensaation.
My advice wud be to join the big 2 fet sites(pm me ) and get into the social side.Most areas have monthly socials and muches and it is a very welcoming community.
Of course it needs to be...there are a lot of wasters,nutters and frankly dangerous men out there who must be avoided.
Getting to know the scene will allow u to learn, meet and develop at your own speed.
I am worried by what u think a Master is ,"someone like that". A good Master is someone you willingly give yourself too,body and soul,they care for and nurture their sub.A bully is not a Master.My relatioship is one of absolute trust for a man i respect,and like.If he wasn't my Master he wud still be one of my best friends.
However many people explore their sub side without having a Master, its a broad spectrum...have fun "
awww damn it.. Miss Puddle beat me to it... she does like to beat me to things.. 
cali |
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By *isub69Man
over a year ago
Epsom |
It is difficult to say I have just always had fantasies about restraint and blindfolds. This then developed further with a bit of internet research and a gay website of all places (I have a big fetish for female feet and there are a lot of gay foot lovers out there who introduced me to further aspects of bondage and submission). |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
dirtybigbadsgirlville |
"jem
i do like the feeling of being tied up and teased, just not found anyone on here who i can trust to do it with yet."
In my opinion its not something that you can just go out and get, a friendship that evolves is usually how you find the trust thing, as with the rest of the stuff you are looking for, some guys think of themselves as a dominant male but arent,some just want role play in the bedroom, some like the lifestyle, think carefully about your dos and donts and stick with it , good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I honestly couldn't say when I first got into it...it feels like I have always been aroused by being controlled, restrained &/or switching roles.
I know I was having fantasies about it before I lost my virginity....but when I first thinking about it? I couldn't say.
As for getting into it, I was honest with my partners. I'd tell them bit by bit what turned me on & if I was lucky they'd be into it.
As for Tod, I know he's not really into the scene but he loves to turn me on, so goes with it.
So you don't need to be with someone who sees themselves as a dom/sub to experience the scene with them. Just someone that is willing to give it a go & loves to turn you on. Of course it's not going to be as intense or full on as it would be if they were a dom/sub, but so far I can say it's a pretty good compromise. I can happily live with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I for one am very interested in it. Would love to know more about it. I think the last relationship I was in was not dom/sub in the bedroom but more about the other person being in control and what he wanted. Which I assume is totally a different thing |
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"jem
i do like the feeling of being tied up and teased, just not found anyone on here who i can trust to do it with yet."
Trust in any situation takes time, between my Master first making me laugh in a chat room( and be v filthy with various fruit and veg  ) and our first meeting to play was about 6 months.
You stick to your guns and wait for the right person! |
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