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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've just read the first thread on this, interesting. I thought for the purposes of debate I'd put up an alternative _iewpoint. Not saying ones right or wrong, you decide, it's just good to see alternate _iews..........
It amazes me how some guys still underestimate women. Even more surprising is the women who seem comfortable underestimating themselves.
I personally don't believe in the concept of 'good girl, bad girl'.
For me the idea is based on judging someones past or attempting to judge someones future. It ignores the most important time window 'the NOW'. What do you choose to be right now.
I believe everybody has a choice of what they choose to do and how they portray themselves at that specific moment.
Are we to believe that if a man finds a women very attractive and likes her then she cannot be 'bad' for want of a better term? I think it is secondary what a guys preconcieved ideas are, he may think he's just met the virgin Mary with looks right out of his league, but if she chooses to immediately act or portray a very naughty attitude, most men would take their lead from that. Given the chance, hard naughty sex will probably be the order of the day. Does this mean he doesn't like her?
Equally if the same women opts for a 'butter doesn't melt' approach, he's probably gonna treat her like a princess.
My point is SHE sets the agenda in her first moments with him, and if she is skilled, she can adapt that agenda to suit her needs (goddess in the living room, Emmanuel in the bedroom). Her agenda is the key and where her head is in the moment.
There is a suggestion that hard naughty sex is easier when you don't like someone, if you don't like someone you probably have negative thoughts about them, does that mean everytime someone has hard naughty sex they have negative thoughts about the women? How does that make women feel? Question to women, the next time a guy is having that type of sex with you would it bother you to think his thoughts about you are negative and that's the only reason he can treat you that way? Do you believe the more negative his thoughts the more.......er, of a 'sorting' your gonna get?
I understand the argument, I just choose not to fully accept it. This is because I know I have had crazy passionate wild hard sex with women I have loved as well as tender, sensuous, mellow intimate sex with a one night stand.
I believe women are well past being fixed with a label of 'good girl, bad girl' unless they play to that label. They can opt in the specific moment to be good or bad, just like guys.
I think that guys who label women as only being one or the other maybe should question their sexual maturity.
Sorry it's a bit of a read but I've been on the red wine!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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enjoyed reading this post. As a female i very much adapt to who i'm around. To continue using the terms good and bad (as im sure we all know what we mean by them) If im meeting a gent in the vanilla world then of course im not going to make myself out to be the 'bad' girl as he would think i could be like that all the time and infact im not, it depends on my mood
However sometimes when im just being myself the 'bad' side isn't exposed straight away and in day to day life i am very much the 'good' girl.. sometimes because of this it makes it hard to expose the other side to me. The guy might like me because i am a respectable young lady.
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I think that guys who label women as only being one or the other maybe should question their sexual maturity.
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Indeed..... along with the women who feel they need to play at being someone they are not just to bag him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could'nt respond to the first thread on this subject as it wound me up so much,to the point that everytime I thought id post something words failed me
So for this response I can just smile  x |
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over a year ago
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For me, it depends what mood I'm in as to whether I want a nice gentle sensual session or something a wilder and rougher or doing something a bit different eg blindfolds etc. Ms |
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over a year ago
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I keep telling peeps I am a good girl with a very naughty streak! 
To some, I would be considered as promiscuous for the number of gents I have played with since Aug 2009 (less than 20).
However, to others, I would be considered as having a liberated _iew on sex with not a lot of hang ups.
I am not hurting anyone in my pursuit for sexual gratifications, and am a woman of a certain age with no ties and fancy free.
Therefore, I shall continue to have fun the way I see fit.
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I think a little flag should pop up when black spice posts as i almost missed this thread.
Respect, im treated with total respect well actually im treated like a queen by jay. Does that mean we dont/cant have hardcore sex. Of cause it doesnt. My gentleman friends will message me between meets just to see how i am and we will chat generally without talking about sex, they know i dont do phone sex or cyber sex and wouldnt dream of asking me. Im not one to wear low cut tops and i love country music, does that make me a good girl? What it does is make me me. I dont think about sex constantly and if i was on a "date" with a guy and we were not discussing sex i dont think he would have any idea what i was like in the bedroom.
Im neither good or bad, i lead an everyday life and i lead a sex life. To me they are totally different. I dont play act what im like in the bedroom out of it, im the worlds worst flirt. But thats just me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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at work and to family and friends im a respectable well spoken educated lady
BUT
in the comfort of my own home im the filthiest mouthed submissive slut youll ever meet |
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