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Herpes

By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

Medical information says by the age of 25 60% of people have the herpes virus in them. So how many of you on here know you have herpes and don't admit it, or think that wearing a condom protects you or the person you are having sex with from the virus?

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By *weeSeekoeieCouple over a year ago

Richmond

"Medical information says by the age of 25 60% of people have the herpes virus in them. So how many of you on here know you have herpes and don't admit it, or think that wearing a condom protects you or the person you are having sex with from the virus?"

LOL no one on here willing to admit they have herpes? Can't imagine why not!

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

Your absolutely correct.

We found a profile where the couple both said they had herpes. Not sure if they are still on here as we are fairly sure no would play with them, but if the medical facts are to believed at least 60% of the people on here have the herpes virus, using a condom is no defence as it can be transmitted orally. But it is quite telling that there is lot of chat on her from single men about the size of their cocks,but only you have responded to the post we put up.

We have been berated because we play bareback but condoms do not stop herpes or HPV or !!!

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By *orkie321bWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

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By *orkie321bWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

OP there are different strains of herpes.

Anyone who has ever had a cold sore has herpes.

Have you had chicken pox? It is caused by the varicella zoster virus which is a species of herpes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have herpes I come out with cold sores when I'm run down!! As for the genital ones I don't think I have!! But some don't come out in warts and are hidden. So you can never be sure if you have or haven't. So I suggest to join a Nunnery and never have sexual contact again ever!! Problem solved!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i do not think a sex forum site is a place to admit what you have had or may have , that should be for those arranging meets to check with each other.

i myself are clean regulary checked and get update txt from virging group, i would not meet without the other parties showing proof too

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

"OP there are different strains of herpes.

Anyone who has ever had a cold sore has herpes.

Have you had chicken pox? It is caused by the varicella zoster virus which is a species of herpes."

We are absolutely correct and shingles is herpes Zoster and glandular fever is also one. We were just seeing who would actually engage in a discussion about things that affect swingers as compared to the normal purple rubbish put on here by all the single men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

did you know that asthma users of the brown ventolin were given herpes in mild form as cold sores as it was linked to it from medical research but the deemed the risk of infection too low to stop/ remove the medication as the benefits outwayed the virus

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

according to users of fab 100% are disease free in all aspects of life and according to the forums no one gets a meet

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

"i do not think a sex forum site is a place to admit what you have had or may have , that should be for those arranging meets to check with each other.

i myself are clean regulary checked and get update txt from virging group, i would not meet without the other parties showing proof too"

But this is a forum to discuss things that affect swingers and transmitted infections affect swingers, it is more important that what bloody cake you have bought from Greg's today.

We would agree that it's a discussion that should take place prior to a meet, but disagree that it shouldn't be discussed on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Herpes can be transmitted via oral sex with someone who has a cold sore apparently. Doesn't even need to be a visible sore on the mouth. Think it's a subject that has crossed the.mind of many - particularly with media reports at times

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

60% of people do not have genital herpes that make your cock look like a finished dot to dot colouring book

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i do not think a sex forum site is a place to admit what you have had or may have , that should be for those arranging meets to check with each other.

i myself are clean regulary checked and get update txt from virging group, i would not meet without the other parties showing proof too

But this is a forum to discuss things that affect swingers and transmitted infections affect swingers, it is more important that what bloody cake you have bought from Greg's today.

We would agree that it's a discussion that should take place prior to a meet, but disagree that it shouldn't be discussed on here"
its fine to discuss indeed it should, but not a sort of ask who has what in forums thaT PART IS PERSONAL BETWEEN THOSE MEETING

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

APOLOGIES FOR Caps

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"i do not think a sex forum site is a place to admit what you have had or may have , that should be for those arranging meets to check with each other.

i myself are clean regulary checked and get update txt from virging group, i would not meet without the other parties showing proof too

But this is a forum to discuss things that affect swingers and transmitted infections affect swingers, it is more important that what bloody cake you have bought from Greg's today.

We would agree that it's a discussion that should take place prior to a meet, but disagree that it shouldn't be discussed on here"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP there are different strains of herpes.

Anyone who has ever had a cold sore has herpes.

Have you had chicken pox? It is caused by the varicella zoster virus which is a species of herpes.

What's with bashing single men out of the blue OP? You've made quote a generalisation there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP there are different strains of herpes.

Anyone who has ever had a cold sore has herpes.

Have you had chicken pox? It is caused by the varicella zoster virus which is a species of herpes.

What's with bashing single men out of the blue OP? You've made quote a generalisation there. "
yes thats true always discuss here, the op has asked who has it and wont admit to it, a think its fine to openly discuss all aspects of sexual health but not ask who has what thats for personal messages i think anways

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

"i do not think a sex forum site is a place to admit what you have had or may have , that should be for those arranging meets to check with each other.

i myself are clean regulary checked and get update txt from virging group, i would not meet without the other parties showing proof too

But this is a forum to discuss things that affect swingers and transmitted infections affect swingers, it is more important that what bloody cake you have bought from Greg's today.

We would agree that it's a discussion that should take place prior to a meet, but disagree that it shouldn't be discussed on here its fine to discuss indeed it should, but not a sort of ask who has what in forums thaT PART IS PERSONAL BETWEEN THOSE MEETING"

You can shout all you like, but that doesn't change the fact that potentially 60% of all the people on here are infected with herpes virus. We have however only seen one profile stating that the couple had it. We all on this site ( except the pic collectors) engage in casual sex. But how many on here believe that wearing a condom protects them from a virus that can and is often transmitted orally, and then berate people who play bareback as irresponsible .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

silly me i forgot .. couples where never single and played about only do thaat as couples, i am just saying admitting who has what and what is a private matter, but feel free to discuss any aspect of sexual health in the forums, i encourage that

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"LOL no one on here willing to admit they have herpes? Can't imagine why not!"

they don't test for it and many don't even get symptoms, i'm guessing most who have it won't even know but that 60% will be an estimate also so it's possibly not even right.

so far as i know i've never had herpes symtpoms, def never had a cold sore on my face either. and i bb before fab with everyone, and some since i joined the site.

i think most people will be the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op, you should do a little more research on Herpes... As there's different strains.

A baby being kissed by their granny could catch it.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"Herpes can be transmitted via oral sex with someone who has a cold sore apparently. Doesn't even need to be a visible sore on the mouth. Think it's a subject that has crossed the.mind of many - particularly with media reports at times"

yes. the virus is the same, the name given to it applies to where it is on the body.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"LOL no one on here willing to admit they have herpes? Can't imagine why not!

they don't test for it and many don't even get symptoms, i'm guessing most who have it won't even know but that 60% will be an estimate also so it's possibly not even right.

so far as i know i've never had herpes symtpoms, def never had a cold sore on my face either. and i bb before fab with everyone, and some since i joined the site.

i think most people will be the same."

summed up perfect

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op, you should do a little more research on Herpes... As there's different strains.

A baby being kissed by their granny could catch it. "

stop kissing your granny then

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

"silly me i forgot .. couples where never single and played about only do thaat as couples, i am just saying admitting who has what and what is a private matter, but feel free to discuss any aspect of sexual health in the forums, i encourage that"

We agree and we are not saying that in a forum people should disclose if they have or not ever had a cold sore. We agree all couple have at some point been single, and the figures we stated at the beginning was 60% of all people by the age of 25. We would also agree that it is a discussion to be had by people prior to a meet, however it is quite telling how many people are prepared to engage in this discussion compared to how many are happy to talk about what cake they have bought today ( also listed under swinger chat room)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lots will discuss sexual health, not many will admit privately they may have had something

and herpes depending what strain it is you have, is not classed as a sexual disease

yes some parts are, all depends what strain you have

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Op, you should do a little more research on Herpes... As there's different strains.

A baby being kissed by their granny could catch it. "

Yes they can there there are two main types 1 and 2 but you can have each type orally or genitally. Think you ought to take your own advice and do a little bit of research

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

"lots will discuss sexual health, not many will admit privately they may have had something

and herpes depending what strain it is you have, is not classed as a sexual disease

yes some parts are, all depends what strain you have"

Wrong type 1and 2 can both be contracted genitally and therefore are both are only distinguished by where the infection is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op, you should do a little more research on Herpes... As there's different strains.

A baby being kissed by their granny could catch it.

Yes they can there there are two main types 1 and 2 but you can have each type orally or genitally. Think you ought to take your own advice and do a little bit of research"

I don't need to, I ain't the one with the problem.

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Op, you should do a little more research on Herpes... As there's different strains.

A baby being kissed by their granny could catch it.

stop kissing your granny then

Can't argue with that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op, you should do a little more research on Herpes... As there's different strains.

A baby being kissed by their granny could catch it.

stop kissing your granny then

I can't help it. She's so hot!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

maybe OP just as a suggestion if you post in future to ask about generalisation and open, rather than add stats

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Op, you should do a little more research on Herpes... As there's different strains.

A baby being kissed by their granny could catch it.

Yes they can there there are two main types 1 and 2 but you can have each type orally or genitally. Think you ought to take your own advice and do a little bit of research

I don't need to, I ain't the one with the problems with. "

Can you be sure of that ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Reminds me of Bowie when I get a cold sore...

We can have herpes....just for five days....

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

"maybe OP just as a suggestion if you post in future to ask about generalisation and open, rather than add stats"

Ok we can see where you are coming from with that, but if this discussion has made one person think about sexual health then it has been worth it. we will admit that there are a lot of scarry stats out there and are sure most people never look for them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Reminds me of Bowie when I get a cold sore...

We can have herpes....just for five days....

You win

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op, you should do a little more research on Herpes... As there's different strains.

A baby being kissed by their granny could catch it.

Yes they can there there are two main types 1 and 2 but you can have each type orally or genitally. Think you ought to take your own advice and do a little bit of research

I don't need to, I ain't the one with the problems with.

Can you be sure of that ?"

Well op, to use your passive aggressive approach....it's estimated that it's actually 80% of the population that has type 1,so the 25 yr old state is really mute. (I can Google too)

Think about that for a second... 80%.

Sunk in yet?

So, yep I'm sure I don't have an issue with this topic... And why is that OP? Because the majority of people I interact with, from friends, family, fuck buddies, work colleagues to my reception at gum Clinic may just have Herpes...

News flash. Who cares. Unless I shine a torch in their mouth before they give head I may just have to take a leap of faith. Chances are I have it anyway... Oh and here is the kick in the teeth OP.....

So. Do you! (insert dramatic eastenders music here)

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

Why do people conflate things on purpose? You can't get fecking genital herpes from kissing your grandma. You can if you're kissing her fanny, is that why people are getting confused?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why do people conflate things on purpose? You can't get fecking genital herpes from kissing your grandma. You can if you're kissing her fanny, is that why people are getting confused?

If I kiss her fanny, do I get genital Herpes on my face or on my pee pee? Now I'm confused...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Reminds me of Bowie when I get a cold sore...

We can have herpes....just for five days....

i got told if you fuck a cd or ts it gets rid of everything

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"lots will discuss sexual health, not many will admit privately they may have had something

and herpes depending what strain it is you have, is not classed as a sexual disease

yes some parts are, all depends what strain you have

Wrong type 1and 2 can both be contracted genitally and therefore are both are only distinguished by where the infection is"

i'm only just learning about viruses and my memory is shit tbh. could have sworn i read that though, that where the virus is applies to what name it has.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Why do people conflate things on purpose? You can't get fecking genital herpes from kissing your grandma. You can if you're kissing her fanny, is that why people are getting confused?

If I kiss her fanny, do I get genital Herpes on my face or on my pee pee? Now I'm confused... "

If your granny has herpes and you lick her fanny then you can get herpes around your mouth. Always check your grannies sexual health status before going down on her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why do people conflate things on purpose? You can't get fecking genital herpes from kissing your grandma. You can if you're kissing her fanny, is that why people are getting confused?

If I kiss her fanny, do I get genital Herpes on my face or on my pee pee? Now I'm confused...

If your granny has herpes and you lick her fanny then you can get herpes around your mouth. Always check your grannies sexual health status before going down on her."

Too late!

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Op, you should do a little more research on Herpes... As there's different strains.

A baby being kissed by their granny could catch it.

Yes they can there there are two main types 1 and 2 but you can have each type orally or genitally. Think you ought to take your own advice and do a little bit of research

I don't need to, I ain't the one with the problems with.

Can you be sure of that ?

Well op, to use your passive aggressive approach....it's estimated that it's actually 80% of the population that has type 1,so the 25 yr old state is really mute. (I can Google too)

Think about that for a second... 80%.

Sunk in yet?

So. Do you! (insert dramatic eastenders music here)

If you ask Google the correct questions you will find that the US figures are 80% , NHS are 60% and the WHO 67%. In answer to your question I don't know my mother had coldsores so I have to assume that I am infected. Where the bit about who cares comes into it is if you have oral sex. With a woman who develops herpes how is she going to feel? Upset? Dirty? Angry?

We all have to take responsibility for our actions by your answer you appear not to care.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

60% of people don't have GENITAL herpes by the age of 25 OP, you have taken the figure and twisted it to mean what you want to make it.

Everyone knows that cold sore herpes are very common and that's probably what the research refers to.

And what is has to do with single guys posting, I do not know. I guess you are just feeling grumpy tonight.

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

"60% of people don't have GENITAL herpes by the age of 25 OP, you have taken the figure and twisted it to mean what you want to make it.

Everyone knows that cold sore herpes are very common and that's probably what the research refers to.

And what is has to do with single guys posting, I do not know. I guess you are just feeling grumpy tonight."

Didn't say genital herpes said herpes type 1or 2.

Not feeling grumpy feeling happy actually

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP there are different strains of herpes.

Anyone who has ever had a cold sore has herpes.

Have you had chicken pox? It is caused by the varicella zoster virus which is a species of herpes.

You still haven't answered anyone's questions around your issue with single men... But hey ho, it's your thread after all.

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By *artLon OP Couple over a year ago

Portsmouth

"OP there are different strains of herpes.

Anyone who has ever had a cold sore has herpes.

Have you had chicken pox? It is caused by the varicella zoster virus which is a species of herpes.

You still haven't answered anyone's questions around your issue with single men... But hey ho, it's your thread after all. "

It's a swinger forum so what has "what has cakes they have bought at Greg's " or possible chance of winning the lottery got to do with swinging? There is a general chat room for such topics which is why I believe a lot of things posted by single men are off topic and purile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP there are different strains of herpes.

Anyone who has ever had a cold sore has herpes.

Have you had chicken pox? It is caused by the varicella zoster virus which is a species of herpes.

You still haven't answered anyone's questions around your issue with single men... But hey ho, it's your thread after all.

The irony

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP there are different strains of herpes.

Anyone who has ever had a cold sore has herpes.

Have you had chicken pox? It is caused by the varicella zoster virus which is a species of herpes.

You still haven't answered anyone's questions around your issue with single men... But hey ho, it's your thread after all.

I'm pretty sure it's not single men posting about cakes, cats and what did you last buy.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

My GUM clinic appointments and results tell me I don't have it

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"My GUM clinic appointments and results tell me I don't have it

Really? It's not one of the standard tests at our GUM clinic...

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"My GUM clinic appointments and results tell me I don't have it

Really? It's not one of the standard tests at our GUM clinic..."

they test round here but only if you have symptoms. might be the same there?

my sis-in-law had an affair with a guy who has herpes and they tested her despite her not having symptoms at all.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"My GUM clinic appointments and results tell me I don't have it

Really? It's not one of the standard tests at our GUM clinic..."

I ask for everything, including HIV

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My GUM clinic appointments and results tell me I don't have it

Really? It's not one of the standard tests at our GUM clinic..."

That's what it is round here. They only test IF you have symptoms. So many people don't. So no one can be sure they don't. Only that they do.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"My GUM clinic appointments and results tell me I don't have it

Really? It's not one of the standard tests at our GUM clinic...

I ask for everything, including HIV

Me too but it isn't offered unless you have symptoms and even then im not sure it's a test as such, perhaps just a visual inspection

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"My GUM clinic appointments and results tell me I don't have it

Really? It's not one of the standard tests at our GUM clinic...

That's what it is round here. They only test IF you have symptoms. So many people don't. So no one can be sure they don't. Only that they do.

I think this is standard, HPV/ genital warts don't have a test, they will just look at them if you have them. I was pretty sure herpes is the same.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"My GUM clinic appointments and results tell me I don't have it

Really? It's not one of the standard tests at our GUM clinic...

they test round here but only if you have symptoms. might be the same there?

my sis-in-law had an affair with a guy who has herpes and they tested her despite her not having symptoms at all."

Herpes can be particularly nasty. I read about a guy who collapsed because it attacked something in his ear and he lost all sense of balance and can no longer walk properly. I think that's an especially bad strain but still...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My GUM clinic appointments and results tell me I don't have it

Really? It's not one of the standard tests at our GUM clinic...

That's what it is round here. They only test IF you have symptoms. So many people don't. So no one can be sure they don't. Only that they do.

I think this is standard, HPV/ genital warts don't have a test, they will just look at them if you have them. I was pretty sure herpes is the same."

Yep. I just assume that most that I meet have herpes and that I probably have it myself. I don't see it as something to get my knickers in a twist about. If someone has symptoms I'd not do anything with them but other than that there's no guarantee.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"My GUM clinic appointments and results tell me I don't have it

Really? It's not one of the standard tests at our GUM clinic...

they test round here but only if you have symptoms. might be the same there?

my sis-in-law had an affair with a guy who has herpes and they tested her despite her not having symptoms at all.

might just be his immune system couldn't cope with it or something spread it to his ear, maybe scratching down there then got into a cut around his ear?

i have diabetes so have to be especially careful with having lower immunity, still not died of anything yet though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had 4 bouts of cold sores over the past 12 weeks; that's a lot, even for me. My folates are low, so I'm thinking it could be why I'm getting outbreaks so often. Once I've had my course of folic acid I'm hoping I get less. I usually get them when I've been in the hot sun and when I'm run down. They aren't too much of a problem, just means cancellation of liaisons until I'm healed.

I've been kissing my long term partner for over 7 years and he's not had one. Mine have stayed up top

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

60% of the population might have herpes,most if which have no idea as you cannot be tested for it unless you have an open sore/wound or broken skin in the area to be tested. I know this as have been tested due to eczema in my pubic region. The nurses there told me that you may always carry it but never have a break out, which is when it is at it's most contagious, but is (although barely n rarely) still passable even when not having a break out, regardless of protection. But that it is not, or shouldn't be, the massive deal people make of it just because it is genital. Ya wouldn't not meet someone just because they happen to get a coldsore every christmas...unless it was christmas! And this came from a sexual health nurse...have had some very interesting conversations with the ones where I go lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"60% of the population might have herpes,most if which have no idea as you cannot be tested for it unless you have an open sore/wound or broken skin in the area to be tested. I know this as have been tested due to eczema in my pubic region. The nurses there told me that you may always carry it but never have a break out, which is when it is at it's most contagious, but is (although barely n rarely) still passable even when not having a break out, regardless of protection. But that it is not, or shouldn't be, the massive deal people make of it just because it is genital. Ya wouldn't not meet someone just because they happen to get a coldsore every christmas...unless it was christmas! And this came from a sexual health nurse...have had some very interesting conversations with the ones where I go lol

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spot on there, people of all ages come into contact, especially those who have long tern illnesses for example asthma as during their low period the immune system becomes lower and opwn to infection

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thats why depending on the strain its not looked on in most cases as a form of sexual infection.... can see why the OP may want to discuss it openly in a forum but i would of thought the more dangerous std would be a topic and not a simple cold sore

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By *ohnaronMan over a year ago

london

Once we all got it no one will give a shit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not that is probably relevant per se but being originally from Wales we thought this information may be worthwhile sharing. We are unsure about the rest of Wales as a whole but can confirm that the Betsi Cadwalder university health board that operate most of the medical facilities and clinics in North Wales do not offer a full screening anymore unless you have symptoms or request by specifics. They also do not test for HPV either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not that is probably relevant per se but being originally from Wales we thought this information may be worthwhile sharing. We are unsure about the rest of Wales as a whole but can confirm that the Betsi Cadwalder university health board that operate most of the medical facilities and clinics in North Wales do not offer a full screening anymore unless you have symptoms or request by specifics. They also do not test for HPV either. "
yes you are correct one of the main reasons for this is cross termination and the unorthodox of being in love and pre marital nuptials with sheep

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

It does beg the question how 31,154 people a year don't notice painful looking red blisters around the cock or fanny that infects them. Perhaps good lighting is a better protection than condoms

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By *icplshropsCouple over a year ago

Rock

"i do not think a sex forum site is a place to admit what you have had or may have , that should be for those arranging meets to check with each other.

i myself are clean regulary checked and get update txt from virging group, i would not meet without the other parties showing proof too

But this is a forum to discuss things that affect swingers and transmitted infections affect swingers, it is more important that what bloody cake you have bought from Greg's today.

I guessed your post was alluding to that argument.

You're correct that condoms don't give 100% protection against stis/stds, but the difference between the 2 viruses you've suggested is that they're not life threatening. Although there's a link between cervical cancer and some strains of hpv, this can be treated and potentially cured - unlike hiv/aides.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i do not think a sex forum site is a place to admit what you have had or may have , that should be for those arranging meets to check with each other.

i myself are clean regulary checked and get update txt from virging group, i would not meet without the other parties showing proof too

But this is a forum to discuss things that affect swingers and transmitted infections affect swingers, it is more important that what bloody cake you have bought from Greg's today.

I guessed your post was alluding to that argument.

Yeah it's an argument I don't get. 'It doesn't stop everything, so don't bother using it'

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"i do not think a sex forum site is a place to admit what you have had or may have , that should be for those arranging meets to check with each other.

i myself are clean regulary checked and get update txt from virging group, i would not meet without the other parties showing proof too

But this is a forum to discuss things that affect swingers and transmitted infections affect swingers, it is more important that what bloody cake you have bought from Greg's today.

I guessed your post was alluding to that argument.

Yeah it's an argument I don't get. 'It doesn't stop everything, so don't bother using it' "

Years of experience has shown most people can't think in terms of probability

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It does beg the question how 31,154 people a year don't notice painful looking red blisters around the cock or fanny that infects them. Perhaps good lighting is a better protection than condoms

I've often wondered why swingers clubs are so dark....

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

I developed my first cold sore at 18 had chicken pox at 14. My cold sores are definitely stress related. I would never kiss when I had an active sore.

I dont, however, have genital herpes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd say type 1 herpes is the most likely std any swinger will catch.

Type 1 herpes = coldsores

Now how many people use protection for oral? Every thread I've seen on the subject the majority response is, it's a risk I'm willing to take.

So if you've ever had a cold sore and you give unprotected oral, you run the chance of passing the type 1 virus onto your partner. Regardless of wether the virus is currently active.

So your oral herpes becomes someone's genital herpes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Similar to the chicken pox/shingles virus..Most of is will have this in our system. It will remain dormant but may well display symptoms if you are run down or your immune system is compromised in any way.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

Has anyone admitted to having genital herpes yet?

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

Sorry I thought this was about the sh*t parcel delivery company

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Has anyone admitted to having genital herpes yet? "

If I get it I'll let you know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Undoubtedly the most frightening fact we discovered when we had our most recent check (yes we play safe and still get checked regularly) was that DNA contains both Herpes simplex and HPV (Genital warts) virus.

90% of people will never have an outbreak but unprotected sex is what transmits the reaction to both parties and causes the infection.

It's actually possible for just 1 of the 2 people to show symptoms even if both people have unprotected sex.

Obviously if both people have the infection then that's a different story.......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have been very open on my profile about carrying herpes so people can make an educated decision. I find it hard to believe that there aren't more people on here who are aware they carry it, given how common it is.

If only more people were more open about it, it would make things a lot easier, even some kind of site feature to indicate whether you are looking for people who carry the virus would be helpful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fyi.

Herpes comes under a few heading

Simplex 1 or 2.

Part of Shingles / Chicken pox family.

All to be treated with causion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you mean HPV or HSV-1 (oral Herpes)? Because that is not genital Herpes (HSV-2). Hpv may cause genital warts but Herpes (HSV-2) is a whole different animal. 60% of people carry the oral form of Herpes by 25 but that is not at all the same as genital Herpes. If someone knows that they have genital Herpes HSV-2 and they're not telling people, that is criminal and disgusting!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just to add and clarify to everyone, genital Herpes (type HSV-2), which is the one that is only passed through sexual contact has NOTHING to do with cold sores whatsoever although HSV-1 can be a genital infection as well. Do not minimise genital herpes HSV-2 as though it's a common virus. It is not. Although according to the World Health Organisation 11% of the global population of people aged 15-45 have HSV-2. HSV-2 is the severe painful Herpes that you are afraid of! If you have it and don't tell people you should be arrested and imprisoned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My GUM clinic appointments and results tell me I don't have it

Really? It's not one of the standard tests at our GUM clinic...

That's what it is round here. They only test IF you have symptoms. So many people don't. So no one can be sure they don't. Only that they do.

I think this is standard, HPV/ genital warts don't have a test, they will just look at them if you have them. I was pretty sure herpes is the same."

NO...NO.. NOO, my friend! Genital Herpes HSV-2 is tested for by blood test whether you have symptoms or not. Guys, this is not like HPV at all and it's nothing like cold sores. HPV and HSV-1 are lizards... HSV-2 is a DRAGON!!

Don't let people with this infection convince you that it's so common or that everyone has it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Genital herpes is only tested for if you have syptoms OR a break in the skin, as I have had (and actually the only person I know to have been tested) because I get eczema in that area. I go to my local GUM clinic regularly and talk to the nurses there alot, they inform me that, yes if you get herpes it can get very painful, if left, but the massive stigma about it is pointless, it can be treated easily and controlled and that is even if you get the symptoms at all let alone more than once, the same goes for genital warts too, just because they are passed through genital contact does not make them worse. It is an outdated view that is meant to get you to keep it in your pants. We are on a swingers website, we are obviously over that view somewhat, or should be at least, surely! If it is not a risk you are willing to take then I guess you should refrain from sex as it is the only sure way of ever preventing you getting it, if ya haven't got it already!

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By *randMrsGrey51Couple over a year ago

Ramsgate

"Op, you should do a little more research on Herpes... As there's different strains.

A baby being kissed by their granny could catch it.

stop kissing your granny then

Im a Granny of 8 and happy to be kissed lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd say herpes is the least of our worries on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Genital herpes is only tested for if you have syptoms OR a break in the skin, as I have had (and actually the only person I know to have been tested) because I get eczema in that area. I go to my local GUM clinic regularly and talk to the nurses there alot, they inform me that, yes if you get herpes it can get very painful, if left, but the massive stigma about it is pointless, it can be treated easily and controlled and that is even if you get the symptoms at all let alone more than once, the same goes for genital warts too, just because they are passed through genital contact does not make them worse. It is an outdated view that is meant to get you to keep it in your pants. We are on a swingers website, we are obviously over that view somewhat, or should be at least, surely! If it is not a risk you are willing to take then I guess you should refrain from sex as it is the only sure way of ever preventing you getting it, if ya haven't got it already!"

HIV is treatable too. So is Gonorrhoea and Chlamydia and many other's which are even curable. That doesn't give you the right to pass it around making the assumption that "everybody has it" or making that decision for someone without their consent just because YOU think it's no big deal!

If you go to the GUM clinic with sores they will do a Herpes viral culture on the fluid from a fresh sore, yes, true. But that does not mean that it's the only way to test for the virus. Sometimes the culture often fails to find the virus even when it is present (false-negative results). There is the polymerase chain reaction (PCR) test. A PCR test can be done on cells or blood or on other fluid, such as spinal fluid (when the herpes infects the brain). Blood tests can also find antibodies of the virus. Some blood tests can tell the difference between HSV-1 and HSV-2.

It does not matter how many people have HIV. You do not have the right to pass it around making the decision for people just because it's treatable or no big deal to you. Herpes effects people differently and for many the sores and outbreaks are perpetual and lifechanging. There's also a risk of getting HIV while swinging. So using your logic nobody should have sex at all unless they're willing to get HIV. I'm absolutely gutted by some of these opinions on STDS here and I had no idea so many people thought this way. You've really made me terrified of meeting some people now if people think this way. SCARY!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you KNOW that you have it. You're SCUM if you don't inform people you're having sex with. You're the reason why it's spreading yet you're using the fact that it's spreading as proof that spreading it is no big deal... WTF??

What a crock of mindfuckery! If you know you have a disease like herpes all in saying is you should let people know that. Herpes also makes HIV transmission more likely. You are playing with fire. You've actually made me think of leaving this scene for good. Unbelievable!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To quote a doctor

"While you can certainly get herpes 2 on your lips and herpes 1 on your labia or penis, this is mostly likely going to be a one shot deal. This is because herpes 1 prefers to be “above the belt” and herpes 2 “below the belt.” In a nut shell, herpes 1 on the genitals is far less likely to shed sporadically or give you recurrent cold sores and the same goes for herpes 2 in the mouth. They thrive best in their native habitat.

That’s one of the reasons to get a lesion swabbed on your genitals, to get it typed to see if it is herpes 1 or 2. If it is herpes 1, you are FAR LESS LIKELY to shed the virus and have recurrent outbreaks and are also less likely to transmit it to your partner. That information may just give you some piece of mind."

Perhaps that's the missing piece of information we need? I don't know, just assuming most of us don't know that. Anyways be as safe as you can folks. There IS a difference between the two. We do NOT want HSV-2 I.E. Genital warts and we do not all have it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I didn't say it was the only way to test but it is the only way they will test at the clinic..as told to me by my GUM nurse...and I never said don't bother with protection nor pass around infections just because people might have them either!! Jesus dude! Was just saying what the GUM nurse said..am sure she would still say to protect yourself against the things you can..as would anybody...I protect myself against the things I can but as you cannot protect against herpes then it is a risk I take...the only way I will never get it is if I abstain from sex...that is just the way it is unfortunately!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I didn't say it was the only way to test but it is the only way they will test at the clinic..as told to me by my GUM nurse...and I never said don't bother with protection nor pass around infections just because people might have them either!! Jesus dude! Was just saying what the GUM nurse said..am sure she would still say to protect yourself against the things you can..as would anybody...I protect myself against the things I can but as you cannot protect against herpes then it is a risk I take...the only way I will never get it is if I abstain from sex...that is just the way it is unfortunately!"

I feel you. I thought you were saying that "it's widespread so no point making a big deal about it or demanding that people who know they have it tell people they have sex with". But to restate my point, you can still do what you can to avoid herpes. You can meet with people who get tested, you can ask people if they stay clean, you can tell people if you know you have it, and you can not have sex with people you know have it or wear clothes and protection. I get your point though, none of that ensures that you won't get it, but it's still worth taking precautions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you KNOW that you have it. You're SCUM if you don't inform people you're having sex with. You're the reason why it's spreading yet you're using the fact that it's spreading as proof that spreading it is no big deal... WTF??

I've seen this topic come up plenty of times, would you say if someone has oral type 1 (coldsores) they should inform everyone the play with?

The answers I've seen before are pretty much always no and when people are asked about protection for oral. Most say they don't want covered oral.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a crock of mindfuckery! If you know you have a disease like herpes all I'm saying is you should let people know that. Herpes also makes HIV transmission more likely. You are playing with fire. You've actually made me think of leaving this scene for good. Unbelievable!

I've seen this topic come up plenty of times, would you say if someone has oral type 1 (coldsores) they should inform everyone they play with?

The answers I've seen before are pretty much always no and when people are asked about protection for oral. Most say they don't want covered oral. "

Yes they should in my opinion, just like they should if they had a cold but on this thread I'm mainly addressing genital herpes (HSV-2) as it is sexually transmitted and far less common. HSV-1 is far less likely to be transmitted to genitals through oral and even less likely from sex but it does happen. But it is not going to cause outbreaks anywhere near HSV-2 in the genitals since that's its preferred habitat.

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By *unishguyMan over a year ago

Motherwell

Should we or Shouldn't we tell ?,

Sorry to be all mr negativity but :

The answer is very simple. We are all responsible for our own health so take the appropriate steps to protect it if you value it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've seen this topic come up plenty of times, would you say if someone has oral type 1 (coldsores) they should inform everyone the play with?

The answers I've seen before are pretty much always no and when people are asked about protection for oral. Most say they don't want covered oral. "

Great profile BTW

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've seen this topic come up plenty of times, would you say if someone has oral type 1 (coldsores) they should inform everyone they play with?

The answers I've seen before are pretty much always no and when people are asked about protection for oral. Most say they don't want covered oral.

I know someone with type 2 genital herpes which she caught from a one night stand, it's very active and has numerous outbreaks, not nice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've seen this topic come up plenty of times, would you say if someone has oral type 1 (coldsores) they should inform everyone they play with?

The answers I've seen before are pretty much always no and when people are asked about protection for oral. Most say they don't want covered oral.

I know someone with type 2 genital herpes which she caught from a one night stand, it's very active and has numerous outbreaks, not nice

I'm so sorry to hear that

See that's what I'm terrified of, even though earlier comments are correct that we can't be 100% protected from it, but I would be demonically F.U.R.I.O.U.S. if the person knew they had it. Yes, it's a very active strain and outbreaks come often and are lasting for many. It's not true that's its just like a cold sore.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've seen this topic come up plenty of times, would you say if someone has oral type 1 (coldsores) they should inform everyone they play with?

The answers I've seen before are pretty much always no and when people are asked about protection for oral. Most say they don't want covered oral.

I know someone with type 2 genital herpes which she caught from a one night stand, it's very active and has numerous outbreaks, not nice

I'm so sorry to hear that

But it is not always multiple horrific outbreaks, you may only ever have one, you may never have an outbreak at all but may still have it or carry it. This is where the problem lies as most people, even ones that get regular testing, will not know they have it, therefore they cannot warn their sexual partners and so it spreads

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've seen this topic come up plenty of times, would you say if someone has oral type 1 (coldsores) they should inform everyone they play with?

The answers I've seen before are pretty much always no and when people are asked about protection for oral. Most say they don't want covered oral.

I know someone with type 2 genital herpes which she caught from a one night stand, it's very active and has numerous outbreaks, not nice

I'm so sorry to hear that

That's true, we could be carrying and not even know.

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By *ndy pandy and looby looCouple over a year ago

YORK/LEEDS/HARROGATE/EAST COAST/NORTH WALES

Bareback couple who state condoms won't stop herpes... oh my goodness its the epidemic of other diseases especially life threatening or life shortening ones. A bi friend who contracted HIV, in turn AIDS would swop right now for Herpes!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

type 1 or 2?

for type 1 those numbers seem staggeringly low i thought it was closer to 90%+ (type 1 is cold sores)

for type 2 the numbers seem far too high as iirc its more like 20%.

pretty much everyone on here will have type 1 herpies.

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By *hocolate_HeavenMan over a year ago

Birmingham and Dubai

"i do not think a sex forum site is a place to admit what you have had or may have , that should be for those arranging meets to check with each other.

i myself are clean regulary checked and get update txt from virging group, i would not meet without the other parties showing proof too

But this is a forum to discuss things that affect swingers and transmitted infections affect swingers, it is more important that what bloody cake you have bought from Greg's today.

No judgement from me OP. My test this week was all clear and I use condoms. Though yes a condom is no protection from HPV. Though those who were vaccinated at a young age can still get some form. So by the very definition would I be better off having sex with a woman in her early 20's?

The point of condoms it to stop all those other viruses and infections getting to you. I carry non allergenic condoms for those women who are allergic; so there's no awkward moments.

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By *hocolate_HeavenMan over a year ago

Birmingham and Dubai

"I'd say herpes is the least of our worries on here

Here here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd say herpes is the least of our worries on here

Here here"

really?

it's day my top 3 concerns are

HIV,

hep B,

Herpes,

HPV/warts

in that order.

anything else can be treated fairly simply and I'm vaccinated for hep b

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"OP there are different strains of herpes.

Anyone who has ever had a cold sore has herpes.

Have you had chicken pox? It is caused by the varicella zoster virus which is a species of herpes.

What's with bashing single men out of the blue OP? You've made quote a generalisation there. "
yes I just picked up on that, irrelevant to the original post

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By *hocolate_HeavenMan over a year ago

Birmingham and Dubai

"I'd say herpes is the least of our worries on here

Here here

really?

it's day my top 3 concerns are

HIV,

hep B,

Herpes,

HPV/warts

in that order.