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By *iss A xx OP Woman
over a year ago
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Well I have just had the biggest argument with a guy from this sight  claiming that guys dont give a s**t about how attractive a girl is on here as any hole is a goal sort of thing... is this true???
I understand that men really outweigh women on here so is it true that men are really that desperate that they will message and meet and even play with any girl whether they find them attractive or not???
I mean one thing that gets me is I do not display a photo usually... I get guys messaging me and once I send a photo I normally get a reply saying... "wow your gorgeous" ( )Im thinking now... do all guys say that to all girls despite what they look like... because I think as a general rule us girls like to be attracted to the guy (well i do) is it not the same for men... or is this bloke talking out his arse?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think for alot it is the case. i think they fuck anything to get the ver`s out the way but when they try and step up their game they get frustrated cuz it isnt as easy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get messages like that.
And when I do, it is unlikely I would meet the person who penned it, as I would consider that person too crude, crass and shallow for my liking.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a load of bull, i'ts the same with anybody male or female, if you don't fancy them its just a no no, i think yr just better of having a wank as where would the fun! be if they didntt do it for you,
for me it's a case of no fancy no play! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone is different... some men and women won't give a flying hoot what a sexual partner looks like... some are a little fussy... some are extremely fussy.
I do get a little 'annoyed' when someone tries to spout out how 'it is' or 'should be' for everybody (meaning the guy you had a spat with in this case). |
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ive had message from some guys just asking to meet straight off.no conversation , not seen a face pic of me ..... now does that seem like theyd just meet anyone or that they are more choosey about meets ?
no not every guy will go with anything with a pulse but im afraid some will ! not just reserved to here though happens in normal life too lol! i always take anything a guy says compliment wise with a huge pintch of salt till i know them awfully well .
i had one guy message with the normal "charm" saying i had the loveiest eyes hed ever seen ..... amazing really when ive no face pic on public profile ...... lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't believe you're asking this question 
Some guys will shag anyone, just as some girls will let anyone shag them
Some will say they wont just shag anyone, because they have standards, it's just that some guys standards are higher than others  |
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By *isub69Man
over a year ago
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For me there has to be some attraction there, which is generally why I like to meet for a chat first.
While it may not take much to make me horny, it is not the same as actually being attracted to someone. lol
This is also why I never pester people to respond to my messages, I always attach a face pic and figure if I don't get a reply then I am not their cup of tea and it is time to move on .
P.s
where is the attic and do they have a website? (I ask as I am moving back up Notts way soon) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"whore!  cookie for me I was really struggling with that.... of course well done"
i struggled with it myself. the op messaged me what it was aswell but i got it before then so i still get a cookie  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"whore! cookie for me I was really struggling with that.... of course well done
i struggled with it myself. the op messaged me what it was aswell but i got it before then so i still get a cookie "
I wouldn't have slept if we hadn't of got that tonight. Well done that man.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interestingly enough I have had this conversation a few times. Lets face it, if you are a single woman on here you are going to get bombarded with messages.
Don't believe me, set up a single female profile and see.
As to the any holes a goal, depends on the guy. There are some women I look at and say no thank you, not attractive. Interestingly I also see attractive women I say no thank you too as I find them too blatant. I prefer a modicum of class.
My FB always comments that she can get any bloke she wants without trying and she has had ridiculously fit ones asking for meets.
Problem is, everyone is picky to a certain extent, but women can be more so |
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"Well I have just had the biggest argument with a guy from this sight claiming that guys dont give a s**t about how attractive a girl is on here as any hole is a goal sort of thing... is this true???
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As with everything there are degrees of difference. Even within men we are not all uniform. If any hole is a goal, I think I could find limits for even these guys.
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I understand that men really outweigh women on here so is it true that men are really that desperate that they will message and meet and even play with any girl whether they find them attractive or not???
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As with anything, were supply is less than demand then you have to adjust your price according to what you can afford. Anyone who argues that it's not a market or a competition, well sorry life is a market and a competition and as much as we don't like it everything has a price. In this market that price can be looks, availability, (some element of money) ie people who put professionals on profile looking for 'similar people'. Money is only 1 measure of price.
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I mean one thing that gets me is I do not display a photo usually... I get guys messaging me and once I send a photo I normally get a reply saying... "wow your gorgeous" ( )Im thinking now... do all guys say that to all girls despite what they look like... because I think as a general rule us girls like to be attracted to the guy (well i do) is it not the same for men... or is this bloke talking out his arse?
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You are gorgeous would be something of a standard responce to someone who shows interest. But we all do it, to a more or lesser extent, I can't honestly say I've ever responded, you have a great ass, but your teeth need some work to match my ideal.
Or well on a rating of 1-100 you come in at the 75th percentile.
It does not elicit the same response that say you look lovely would get.
Just out of sheer social politeness, even if you have no intention of playing with them, there is no need to send a message to say hey fatty come back when you have lost 10 stone and then you may stand a chance.
If you want brutal honesty post your picture on a rating site somewhere, where there is no meeting added to it, then you can get an judgement on your picture from the general population and how you compare to the rest of the population.
ps I've not checked your profile but I'm sure you look lovely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I have just had the biggest argument with a guy from this sight claiming that guys dont give a s**t about how attractive a girl is on here as any hole is a goal sort of thing... is this true???
I understand that men really outweigh women on here so is it true that men are really that desperate that they will message and meet and even play with any girl whether they find them attractive or not???
I mean one thing that gets me is I do not display a photo usually... I get guys messaging me and once I send a photo I normally get a reply saying... "wow your gorgeous" ( )Im thinking now... do all guys say that to all girls despite what they look like... because I think as a general rule us girls like to be attracted to the guy (well i do) is it not the same for men... or is this bloke talking out his arse?
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you cant really answer that question with a simple yes or no can you?
of course some men will shag anything but not all, ive had a few guys ive messaged replying saying im not their type so not all men will meet anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I care too much probably!
I certainly only want to play with people I fancy the pants off, hopefully those that fancy the pants off me, and I like to get to know and like at least their online personality for a while before crossing swords.
I feel it makes the meeting proper, better, sexier. Some things are worth the wait. |
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Oh, and as a bloke I'd just like to say that personally I couldn't just shag anything, anytime, anywhere. There has to be some attraction, physical and/or psychological, otherwise I ain't gonna be able to perform. And no matter how much I try, if my Johnson don't wanna play then all bets are off.
When I was a teenager then things were different cause my hormones went through the roof and I found any female who was a) warm, and b) breathing to be attractive... I had lots of fantasies about one of my neighbours just because she used to wear low cut t-shirts and didn't shave her armpits - quite why that turned me on as a teenager is beyond me. Similarly, a lot of the female teachers when I was still at school had starring roles in the porn films I'd picture in my head... if only they knew what I'd imagined us getting up together in the stationery cupboard!
I've not been a teenager for a helluva long time, however, and my hormones have well and truly settled down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have to say that when I first registered, I had guys chatting me up and I didn't have a photograph so obviously the avatar is the sexiest picture they have ever seen
On the other hand, I was chatting to a guy and we arranged a meet, he didn't want to travel 100 miles for a coffee and expected something whether there was an attraction or not so I blew him away with some very stern words |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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Some consider me harsh and up my own arse cause I refuse to meet without seeing a photo, my response to them is I don't do blind dates - a certain level of phyiscal attraction is required.
To those that believe in "any hole is a goal" and not needing a picture or physical attraction,.. good luck to them I say, just doesn't work for me. |
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come back cilla ...all is forgiven lol..
to the original question.. a lot of guys will shag anything with a pulse as u can tell by their profiles, however for some there has to be an attraction, as with most things in life, if u dont like it ya dont do it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know he was so rude even called me not nice word beginning with W ending in E... uh needless to say hes on my block list  "
Starts with W ends with E????
Give us a clue? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know why this is just aimed at men as I've read countless posts on here from women who've slept with men they don't fancy because they felt "obliged" to.
The "meet today" to me is also for people not fussed: both sexes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know why this is just aimed at men as I've read countless posts on here from women who've slept with men they don't fancy because they felt "obliged" to.
The "meet today" to me is also for people not fussed: both sexes!"
"Meet Today" is not really a badge that says - "don't have any standards or morals...." This site is for meeting people, is it not???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate the term 'any hole is a goal'.
For me the hole has to be attractive.
i have a very pretty pussy
Can we just accept sweeping generalizations are never true for all?"
That talk can kill a forum!!
Long live sweeping generalisations!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I for one definately has to have an attraction to the fem I am with. If I would not like to wake up in the morning with her beside me then i would not contemplate fucking her in the first place. Nor would not be able to keep it up anyway. Some guys will shag anything that moves b ut not for me tks |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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Some guys and ladies will shag anyone, others are more picky and some are very very picky.....
Doesn't mean that anyone is right or wrong....just go about things differently.
Have to admit I do tend to take compliments with a pinch of salt, find some will use the same lines on all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dear OP
If you really want to find the answer to your question..... head off into chat and just have a look at the cams of the women which men are calling "gorgeous"."
Lol that says it all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I don't think this is just limited to single guys, we have had plenty of couples contact us saying did we want to meet and play that night, and that was without seeing any face pic's or anything.
We find there has to be some attraction, so would never meet without seeing pictures and chatting to make sure we click.
But I suppose the saying each to their own is very prominant here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was told some woman will open there legs to everyone too ...... its not just men ....For some sex is like a drug thay just dont care ..... I am picky have to like person as well as how thay look .... as cant lay back think of England . So yes some will fuck all holes and all cocks .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry but can only speak on a pewrsoanl level, to meet one on one there has to be an attraction from me. At a party or GB then would be rude not to participate with all, whatever looks size etc...
Only my little view for what its worth - but know there are some knob heads out there! |
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"I hate the term 'any hole is a goal'.
For me the hole has to be attractive.
i have a very pretty pussy
Enough with the pets, what's your hole like?
very strokable "
Enough with the holes, what's your pets like? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You only have to spend 10 mins in tbe chatrooms to see what a significant number of blokes are like. They treat women with disdain at best - despite instructions not to direct they persist with get yer tits out and fancy a fuck - a newer one is anyone want to watch me cumming - what happened to the humour and banter in the rooms - there is still dome but it seems to be getting more scarce. There are blokes on here that will literally shag a hole in a tree trunk so I think yes certain members on here will meet znd shag a woman they don't fancy.
I got blocked by a woman for saying she wasn't my type and I didnt want to meet and i was really nice about it - were told that it's part and parcel of swinging and move on. Seems not to cut both ways sometimes.
I definitely have standards - completely unrealistic given that I have a face that most would call ' tbe worlds best contraceptive' but I'm sticking to them in the hope I meet a mental blowjob addicted supermodel with a fetish for tbe elephant man.
Now all I have to do is wait..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know why this is just aimed at men as I've read countless posts on here from women who've slept with men they don't fancy because they felt "obliged" to.
The "meet today" to me is also for people not fussed: both sexes!
"Meet Today" is not really a badge that says - "don't have any standards or morals...." This site is for meeting people, is it not???
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The operative words: "to me". Putting up "meet at mine in half an hour" doesn't say discerning "to me". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The sad thing is that manners are in short supply these days... I always talk to prospective meets first and do a social to see if theres an attraction there before anything else.... luckily i've run into some amazing girls
Now I just stick to clubs with my partner in crime but we only play if we like who it is. Makes life a lot nicer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dear OP
If you really want to find the answer to your question..... head off into chat and just have a look at the cams of the women which men are calling "gorgeous"."
Polo! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I have just had the biggest argument with a guy from this sight claiming that guys dont give a s**t about how attractive a girl is on here as any hole is a goal sort of thing... is this true???
I understand that men really outweigh women on here so is it true that men are really that desperate that they will message and meet and even play with any girl whether they find them attractive or not???
I mean one thing that gets me is I do not display a photo usually... I get guys messaging me and once I send a photo I normally get a reply saying... "wow your gorgeous" ( )Im thinking now... do all guys say that to all girls despite what they look like... because I think as a general rule us girls like to be attracted to the guy (well i do) is it not the same for men... or is this bloke talking out his arse?
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Some do, some don't. Simples!
It all depends on what the individual feels is important. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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one reason could be is that some single guys is they have a "Yes, I'm worthy!" attitude when browsing profiles. Very exicted that they maybe suitable to that person but not thinking if this person matches their own desires. Trouble is they're not as specific in their profiles as woman/couples are in what they want. In summary: lower standards catering for people with new found egos.
Be selfish and go and seek out what you want too. It makes for a better match overall for everyone involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the best bet is just judge from yourself from their profile, their message and what they want.
If you just want a quick fuck yourself then obviously the world is your oyster if you've got a full inbox but whether the guy finds you attractive or not might not be the issue but rather your own insecurities about if they find you attractive or not. I know some guys couldn't do the job if they didn't find the person in the least bit attractive so i'd take it as a good sign unless they seem really disinterested in the thought of sex.
And guys message regardless of a picture being there because the woman might not want to have a picture up for personal reasons due to job/privacy etc and figure that if she's interested she'll send one anyway so that they know they are talking to a female and not a guy pretending. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mean one thing that gets me is I do not display a photo usually... I get guys messaging me and once I send a photo I normally get a reply saying... "wow your gorgeous" ( )Im thinking now... do all guys say that to all girls despite what they look like...
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We have been it the chats a few times and when you see single ladies on cam - most of the men tell them they are looking great - when they are not so great - well that's what we think....
lol
And we also do think that a lot of men on here would shag anyone. But we also know that there are some really great guys on here who are very very choosy!
Just have to pick the right one! lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mean one thing that gets me is I do not display a photo usually... I get guys messaging me and once I send a photo I normally get a reply saying... "wow your gorgeous" ( )Im thinking now... do all guys say that to all girls despite what they look like...
We have been it the chats a few times and when you see single ladies on cam - most of the men tell them they are looking great - when they are not so great - well that's what we think....
lol
And we also do think that a lot of men on here would shag anyone. But we also know that there are some really great guys on here who are very very choosy!
Just have to pick the right one! lol "
im a very very choosey manwhore for fannies |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dear OP
If you really want to find the answer to your question..... head off into chat and just have a look at the cams of the women which men are calling "gorgeous"."
haha its true tho
mind you i think the standard of women men will wank over are not the same as those they'd meet
i mean lets be honest in the chat room the type of women men are after is whatever the type of women on the cam at the time is, if shes a big gal they all like big uns, if shes got small boobs they all like small boobs etc till the next woman comes along then shes everyones type and the last one they was all bigging up is forgot about, till next time shes got her tits out on cam |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well as a married couple we find it very hard to meet a couple we are both attracted . We joke from time to time about taking one for the team but in truth and as the man of the couple I could never go with anybody for the ride so to speak . My wife also has a single profile & from some of the messages she gets I don't no where they get off . Worst one so far was would she go to his place if he paid her ffs |
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"I hate the term 'any hole is a goal'.
For me the hole has to be attractive.
i have a very pretty pussy
Enough with the pets, what's your hole like?
very strokable
Enough with the holes, what's your pets like?"
Black furry and plays with feet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cant believe women are bein made to be paragons of virtue on here by some of you.They are as bad as men, chat rooms prove that. End of the day it;s all sex, for gods sake live with it or go and do some knitting!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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personally i have to find them attractive,but also people can become more attractive and appealing once you have met and spoken to them and dispelled any preconceived opinions you may have given yourself about them , i sure some people just want to fuck anything and thats it ,but some are looking for a little more like the social side of things also.
im sure folk could fit into lots of categories as to what they are actually looking for , thats why some we meet some we dont . simples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not read the everyones reply, so if this has already been said than i'll say sorry now..
both on here, and on anthoer chat site i use, you do constantly see blokes going "great cam, i would love to fuck you" but the only part of the person you can see is her tits.. now for me i need to see a little bit more of a person before wanting to go and fuck her brians out .
but then for me, i go for personality over looks, i always have done. more to a person that just nice boobs and a great bum
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having thought about it more it's maybe just a case of women listening to their own advice to men. Now women tell men they don't just want to see a cock pic and nothing else.
Now if a guy sees a nice ass, nice tits, a pussy etc. And that's ALL he sees...that's ALL he's going to comment on.
Maybe a few of the women should have normal face pics as their main display instead of other shots(which can be exchanged later if need be). Though I guess that brings us full circle to that 'your stunning' thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cant believe women are bein made to be paragons of virtue on here by some of you.They are as bad as men, chat rooms prove that. End of the day it;s all sex, for gods sake live with it or go and do some knitting!!!"
Love it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, m or f, in my opinion pics don't really do the person in question justice as a general rule of thumb so I don't base my 'attraction' simply on a 2D representation of what someone may or may not look like when snapped for a 20th of a second on a particular day.
You can get a very general idea sure but at the end of the day, isnt personality far more important than looks?
As long as I find someone intelligent, articulate and funny with a personality I can relate to then I'm more than happy to meet and probably more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not when they are needing their balls emptied they only care about that!!"
By the very word "men", we are actually real, and mature things that for some reason in one vital message/exchange we are judged to be this or that or ohhh, whatever.
How do we seem to meet others equally into swinging and manage to both get along just fine and indeed become fun swinging friends?
A con? is that it, we all are so terrible, but we manage to behave just untill we finish having sex?
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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I've never understood men that say things like "Oh, you're the best thing on Fabs!" in reference t a female cam where, you guessed it, has only boobs on display... make same think 2 things:
1) She is probably shallow enough and needs that kinda validation (usually said females according to their profiles don't meet so its merely an ego boost)
2) Said men will wank over anything (but then again, I'm probably judging too harshly as I don't see the point of cybersex or wanking (to someone) on cam.
As for "meet today" being desperate,.. sometimes you realise there's not much merit in the strategy of asking (a certain number of) your contacts who's free on a certain day given so much (days/weeks) notice and still comign up empty. Saying that, if I had ever received a response to a meet today, then I'd still consider if it was someone I wanted to meet.
...well, other than the one random response from a bi-guy on a single male profile swearing he had a gorgeous female partner not on fabs (so no picture) and if they could come to mine. That was straight "no thanks!". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some consider me harsh and up my own arse cause I refuse to meet without seeing a photo, my response to them is I don't do blind dates - a certain level of phyiscal attraction is required.
To those that believe in "any hole is a goal" and not needing a picture or physical attraction,.. good luck to them I say, just doesn't work for me."
If a couple/woman has a profile with pics and they/she is still getting, "need to see another pic", then it quickly seems like they are being either scrutinised or got a pic collector at them. Level playing field,keeps everyone happy,if it starts feeling one sided. People soon tire of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To repeat what others have said, this is a swinging site
Would you really travel over a hundred miles for a coffee and a chat?
I wouldn't "
yep... well kinda.. normally a bit more than coffee, like an evening meal, or something like that. the world is too small to limit yourself to people with in a short distance. sometimes you have to venture out that little furhter to find that person, thats ticks all of your boxes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I believe I have been shagged by a couple of men who didn't find me attractive. I know I have shagged a couple of men I didn't find attractive either. Result. Not very satisfying sex. Conclusion. Don't do it again. It's all a learning curve isn't it? |
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