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Gift etiquette.

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi all

I was just wondering what people's opinions were on giving/receiving gifts on a first playdate with someone.

The gentleman in me feels that it's right to give the lady some type of gift but wondered if it could be perceived as "payment"?

I was thinking particularly of a small bunch of flowers (not roses) but would appreciate people's input.

Thanks.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

For fab meets I don't like it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No need for gifts, just be polite and respectful

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Depends on where you are meeting, if meeting at mine for example, I think a nice bottle of wine would be nice, after all I am entertaining and also supplying drinks etc, just my opinion of course

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope n tbh I wouldn't even suggest it or the fleecebags will be out.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you. A mixed response.

I guess there is no right or wrong answer. Though a dildo may make a nice gift.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surely turning up is a gift according to some other threads

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't like receiving gifts off of sexual partners. If you give once, they may expect every time and more expensive gifts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Booze and nibbles are not normally conceived as payment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd find flowers a bit weird but if they're hosting wouldn't be unreasonable to take a bottle of wine or something.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Surely turning up is a gift according to some other threads

Lol

yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depends on where you are meeting, if meeting at mine for example, I think a nice bottle of wine would be nice, after all I am entertaining and also supplying drinks etc, just my opinion of course

Something to share, like wine, would be acceptable.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I had a guy used to bring wine. That's fine by me as we're going to share it. Anything more would make me uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

*cringe*

That's my feeling on it. Wine is fine if we're going to share but no to gifts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being given a gift on a first fab date would make me feel uncomfortable. If it was an ongoing thing that would be different.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Depends on where you are meeting, if meeting at mine for example, I think a nice bottle of wine would be nice, after all I am entertaining and also supplying drinks etc, just my opinion of course

Something to share, like wine, would be acceptable."

Totally! Anything else is a no no unless it is regular and it's either Bday or Xmas, as I have had a few gifts from someone I was meeting for over 3 years.

Plus I always ask what someone drinks and make sure I buy it in for them, so it is a two way thing for me.

If anyone asks for any kind of gift, then that is out of order

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you all.

Really good to hear other people's opinions.

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By *ofia2014Woman over a year ago

Galashiels

A meet turned up at my door for an initial coffee with a bunch of beautiful flowers.... just the type of person he is... thought it was very thoughtful... I don't expect anything tho...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely turning up is a gift according to some other threads

I would agree with that!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If its a meet at someones. If bring a bottle or two and would expect the same in return.

Manners doesnt have to cost.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont think it's weird.

I think the majority of people on here are though

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By *mojeeCouple over a year ago

Dunfermline

If we had an evening meet and someone brought a bottle of wine we wouldn't think it was weird. It probably shows that the guy has actually thought about being decent and polite etc rather than just turn up expecting results.

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By *appy squirrelWoman over a year ago

Norwich

I guess you could just bring something that you might use together? wine, cream whatever you guys fancy... that way you could bring a gift without the other person feeling awkward!

I have once given someone a chocolate egg as we had talked about it before and given someone a birthday massage... but never proper gifts tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find it unnessesary. Just be good company x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Interesting discussion guys. Thank you. I guess if you turn up with flowers and say "please love me" the response will be different from "thanks for the fuck".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't like any kind of gift from a meet, it's just weird. Like payment.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont mind flowers or alcohol. If im hosting. I wouldnt want a large gift and i wouldnt expect a gift

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

God no, not on a first play meet unless it was a bottle of wine as a thanks for cooking for me kind of thing.

Come to think of it even from a regular fb a gift would feel wrong for me!

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