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By *ools and the brain OP Couple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I know I know, timewasters...

Mrs has single profile and is hounded daily by guy's wanting meets as are probably every woman on here.

Yet when they actually get a chance it's always one excuse or another.

We have been swinging long enough to realise that there are lots of fantasists and timewasters.

Something that is near on impossible to get rid of.

But I just can't get my head round what's actually in it for them?

Our time is very precious and free time is limited.

So when she plan's a meet and goes to alot of effort to get ready for said meet, to get let down Again.

A tad peeved off.

So my question is this,I am not going to ask why it happens and how to stop it but.

To those that are on here and plan meets or pretend that you are single etc..

What exactly do you get out of it and do you realise the hassle you cause?

Is it a game to you?

Please explain why you do it, in private if you want.

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By *aralewisCouple over a year ago

South Yorkshire

We've had same problem

We even changed our profile stating only msg if can meet

Arranged the meet only to be let down minutes before we set off..others said fell asleep one arranged day then last min said to late

Think they get turned on by msg

Coz if we arrange we wud always turn up..now we try do last min ones rather than table tennis msg

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think we should have a meet request that can be sent between 2 profiles that can be officially accepted. That way it can be confirmed if people turned up or not. If that information could be summarised and displayed I think it would out a lot of the time wasters.'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This situation is really irritating, as for myself I'm genuine and not a "time waster" but it's really difficult to get the

and these others tend to spoil it!

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By *londieddWoman over a year ago

fife

I think some people just like to know that they can get meet, must make them feel good

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By *orwich danMan over a year ago

Norwich

"I think we should have a meet request that can be sent between 2 profiles that can be officially accepted. That way it can be confirmed if people turned up or not. If that information could be summarised and displayed I think it would out a lot of the time wasters.' "

Definitely! Great idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We filtered out single men from contacting us

We meet couples and single women in clubs and if I want to meet with a single man, then there is plenty to choose from in a club where there are atleast twice as many as the women there and sometimes, three times as many

- Mrs. J -

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By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

Pick ugly fat men they are grateful and turn up

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By *icelymarkedplusoneCouple over a year ago

cardiff

We are fed up with this situation too!

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By *ertsguy2000Man over a year ago

hertford

Just the chance to meet would be amazing, must be fools to then not to turn up!!

Don't think you'll ever understand some people on here!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, are you saying that you've arranged a meet and then they pull out last minute; or that you want a meet but cannot arrange anyone suitable to meet you at the time you desire?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think half the single guys on here are married and play fantasy or can't get away from the Mrs. ..like other people have said we only now meet at clubs we do post which club and when we are attending so single guys can notify us and we can all look out for each other...but if no mutual attraction at a club chances both could meet someone else there so not a wasted evening

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think half the single guys on here are married and play fantasy or can't get away from the Mrs. ..like other people have said we only now meet at clubs we do post which club and when we are attending so single guys can notify us and we can all look out for each other...but if no mutual attraction at a club chances both could meet someone else there so not a wasted evening "

Agree with this... It's a fantasy for a lot of people (not just single men can I add). Some members on fab love the thought of swinging, will chat, exchange pictures.. And even arrange a date and time... Then when it comes to it they bottle it and go back to square one of their fantasy. Rinse and repeat.

I've had the same with women and couples so although I appreciate your frustration, can we not turn this into "it's a single men thing".

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman over a year ago

Hampshire

"OP, are you saying that you've arranged a meet and then they pull out last minute; or that you want a meet but cannot arrange anyone suitable to meet you at the time you desire?"

Hi it's said Mrs here.

Meets arranged and guy's pull out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I sometimes worry i look like a timewaster, i havent ever arranged a time and not turned up but, initially i find it hard to find the time off work so working out a suitable date usually takes planning

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By *inaryGuyMan over a year ago

Near the River

"OP, are you saying that you've arranged a meet and then they pull out last minute; or that you want a meet but cannot arrange anyone suitable to meet you at the time you desire?

Hi it's said Mrs here.

Meets arranged and guy's pull out.

That is frustrating for you. You get jaded, cynical plus having to sift through the hundreds of messages in your inbox - no wonder genuine and reliable guys don't get noticed

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By *oghunter33Woman over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I'd say there are probably as many reasons for not turning up as there are time wasters.

By the end of the day it all boils down to choose carefully and wisely.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd say there are probably as many reasons for not turning up as there are time wasters.

By the end of the day it all boils down to choose carefully and wisely. "

So true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just hiding in the man cave...

But I always turn up...

Seems more than a bit rude not to if we have all gone to the trouble to arrange something...

But it's not unknown for us single guys to suffer from the no shows and timewasters too..

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

Sadly its the internet so people can hife behind their screens.

I think you can generally tell the people who will meet,if they go dtraight for dirty talk or ask for pics,they are not realistically gonna meet.

There are men,women and couples who are like this sadly .

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I don't think the filters/criteria for signing up are strict enough. (Maybe require card details etc?)

It scares me that someone who isn't the required age could easily set up a profile here for the purposes of Previn/getting kicks etc. Obviously they won't actually meet.... could some of these "time wasters" fit into this category?

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By *inaryGuyMan over a year ago

Near the River

"Sadly its the internet so people can hife behind their screens.

I think you can generally tell the people who will meet,if they go dtraight for dirty talk or ask for pics,they are not realistically gonna meet.

There are men,women and couples who are like this sadly .

Miss"

Agree that the internet makes you more anonymous, people are not taking enough personal responsibility for their actions

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By *irldnCouple over a year ago

Brighton

The single biggest problem is that Fab is free or cheap compared to some of the other swinger websites. That in itself filters out some of the time wasters and dreamers.

Some people have nothing better to do than sit at home perving and dreaming and certainly get a kick out of pic collecting and "speaking" to real people even though they have no actual intention to meet.

Also many of the "single guys" tend to be married men who can't/won't meet anyway!

It is just another flavour of porn for them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's because this site is full of dreamers and timewasters...

the only people you can rely on as being real and genuine are those you have met already, the rest are a bunch of HPWs sat at home having a wank at your profile...why would they want to leave the comfort of their armchair for a foray into the real world

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The single biggest problem is that Fab is free or cheap compared to some of the other swinger websites. That in itself filters out some of the time wasters and dreamers.

Also many of the "single guys" tend to be married men who can't/won't meet anyway!

It is just another flavour of porn for them!"

Agreed... A credit or debit card verification system would be ideal but I know that it's not what the majority of members want, even genuine seasoned ones...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The single biggest problem is that Fab is free or cheap compared to some of the other swinger websites. That in itself filters out some of the time wasters and dreamers.

Also many of the "single guys" tend to be married men who can't/won't meet anyway!

It is just another flavour of porn for them!

Agreed... A credit or debit card verification system would be ideal but I know that it's not what the majority of members want, even genuine seasoned ones... "

A credit or debit verification would only confirm a members identify, they could still be married, attached and waste people's time XXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The single biggest problem is that Fab is free or cheap compared to some of the other swinger websites. That in itself filters out some of the time wasters and dreamers.

Also many of the "single guys" tend to be married men who can't/won't meet anyway!

It is just another flavour of porn for them!

Agreed... A credit or debit card verification system would be ideal but I know that it's not what the majority of members want, even genuine seasoned ones...

A credit or debit verification would only confirm a members identify, they could still be married, attached and waste people's time XXX"

Yes true but what I meant was that it would reduce the amount of fake profiles... Highlighting your point around it being free etc..

Fakers think twice before inputing stuff from their reality as its easier to be caught.. So yes, not a solution but definitely would help the cause.

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By *rGenuineMan over a year ago

Purley

"I know I know, timewasters...

Mrs has single profile and is hounded daily by guy's wanting meets as are probably every woman on here.

Yet when they actually get a chance it's always one excuse or another.

We have been swinging long enough to realise that there are lots of fantasists and timewasters.

Something that is near on impossible to get rid of.

But I just can't get my head round what's actually in it for them?

Our time is very precious and free time is limited.

So when she plan's a meet and goes to alot of effort to get ready for said meet, to get let down Again.

A tad peeved off.

So my question is this,I am not going to ask why it happens and how to stop it but.

To those that are on here and plan meets or pretend that you are single etc..

What exactly do you get out of it and do you realise the hassle you cause?

Is it a game to you?

Please explain why you do it, in private if you want.

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By *rGenuineMan over a year ago

Purley

"I know I know, timewasters...

Mrs has single profile and is hounded daily by guy's wanting meets as are probably every woman on here.

Yet when they actually get a chance it's always one excuse or another.

We have been swinging long enough to realise that there are lots of fantasists and timewasters.

Something that is near on impossible to get rid of.

But I just can't get my head round what's actually in it for them?

Our time is very precious and free time is limited.

So when she plan's a meet and goes to alot of effort to get ready for said meet, to get let down Again.

A tad peeved off.

So my question is this,I am not going to ask why it happens and how to stop it but.

To those that are on here and plan meets or pretend that you are single etc..

What exactly do you get out of it and do you realise the hassle you cause?

Is it a game to you?

Please explain why you do it, in private if you want.

God you're stunning I wouldn't waste your time!!

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By *eek12Man over a year ago

lakenheath

I've never understood this either. It's good to see people have the similar issue, but it'd be better if we didn't have to deal with it.

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By *ournemouthbusinessguyMan over a year ago

Bournemouth

for me i get the answer that as i am single i am more likely to waste time than a couple! i only meet now after some talk over a few days, feels like a small connection or trust gets built both ways. or maybe i have been lucky so far and this has worked out for me well this way?

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

We have only arranged one hotel meet.

From the outset I insisted on exchanging phone numbers & chatting. While it by no means roots out all time wasters, it does go some way to narrowing things down...

But it's a lot of hassle...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They do make the rest of us look bad. I will always meet as arranged. But very often it is the other who backs out, simply disappears. Or comes out with a lame excuse to not meet.

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By *ust Us TogetherWoman over a year ago

Newport

We booked a hotel to meet a regular friend during the day, had a great time and then found ourselves at a loose end on the Saturday evening. Spent the whole early evening arranging meets with some single guys and everyone turned out to be a timewaster.......

We had every excuse under the sun when it actually came to confirming a time or they would go off-line after exchanging upteen messages....

We stick to our circle of "friends" and ignore all the rest these days. It is sad it has got to this, as we would like to meet more people when our normal lives permit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on your definition of a time waster. A lot of people take it to mean the sort of person who chats loads, seems keen then disappears as soon as you look to arrange to meet. It wouldn't help that.

Plus what concessions do you make for genuine last minute cancellations? Or would it only be for people who don't turn up without cancelling? And what's to stop it being abused if they do meet and it doesn't go well, or one cancels but the other marks them as a no show out of spite?

You can already report no shows and I presume admin take action if a pattern emerges. But with either system you could just delete the profile and start over.

And no, I don't think charging makes a difference. We were on a pricey site and our experience was much worse there.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

So much so are we fed up with the time wasting arseholes on here that we are having a break from fab .

We have never not turned up for a meet in over six years and we have to get sitters etc.....

It's the height of bad firm to arrange a meet and simply not show , or to arrange a meet and then pull out last minute with a feeble excuse .

Way too many on here spoil it

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By *ools and the brain OP Couple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"We booked a hotel to meet a regular friend during the day, had a great time and then found ourselves at a loose end on the Saturday evening. Spent the whole early evening arranging meets with some single guys and everyone turned out to be a timewaster.......

We had every excuse under the sun when it actually came to confirming a time or they would go off-line after exchanging upteen messages....

We stick to our circle of "friends" and ignore all the rest these days. It is sad it has got to this, as we would like to meet more people when our normal lives permit.

Ditto, we have had similar experience of this.

A few times Infact.

Guy's constantly asking for meets.

So we have booked a hotel room for the night and as you say spent literally most of the evening trying to find someone who would actually meet.

We realise that we can't expect guy's to jump when we ask that would just be arrogant.

Also we understand that people have lives away from here.

What we are referring to are the guy's who have said on many occasions free to meet anytime.

When you say ok let's meet.

Q the excuses.

Or say yeah I'm free I'll be there in an hour, an hour later.

Ohhhhhhhh another 20mins....

4hrs later they say on their way.

Naaa it's ok mate we are going to bed now.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

"Pick ugly fat men they are grateful and turn up

i've had loads of hot guys turn up, no need to pick anything less than that.

OP, i think a lot of guys just aren't who they proclaim to be in the pics but still want some kind of sexual interaction and to feel sexually attractive. i think some enjoy being devious and get a thrill out of pissing people about. and i think some just like to fantasize and can't meet at all or have no intention of doing.

there are loads of guys willing to turn up if they don't have to make any effort. the more effort or time you invest in someone the less likely they are to meet i reckon, after all if they're happy enough to stay online and chat they aren't that arsed about actually fucking anyone. nothing wrong with that either, just the misleading people into thinking they want to meet isn't right.

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By *antsguy007Man over a year ago

Whiteley

Luckily not every single guy is a timewaster.

This is why I go to socials and clubs - helps to show I am genuine. Never let anyone down yet and don't plan on doing so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally I don't think the filters/criteria for signing up are strict enough. (Maybe require card details etc?)

I also think there should be stricter signing up criteria but alot of men are married and not able to share their card details in case the missus looks at the bank statement and questions it.

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By *antsguy007Man over a year ago

Whiteley

There must be a way to help stop this or to highlight those that continually do it.

Similar to the verification system possibly? You leave a comment for admin to approve and then it shows on their profile.

This would help people tell the fakes from the genuine?

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have arranged several meets this year, but only two actually happened. I've been on this site for over 6 years, and am a vocal supporter of single men (I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for them) but I am finally nearing my limit of just how flaky they are. I have never forgotten, slept through, or chickened out of a meet, and I am struggling to understand why the men who I gave every chance to meet me, short of actually dragging them there, are OK with letting me down. I can only surmise that its me, and so its not worth me bothering to arrange meets any more.

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By *antsguy007Man over a year ago

Whiteley

"I have arranged several meets this year, but only two actually happened. I've been on this site for over 6 years, and am a vocal supporter of single men (I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for them) but I am finally nearing my limit of just how flaky they are. I have never forgotten, slept through, or chickened out of a meet, and I am struggling to understand why the men who I gave every chance to meet me, short of actually dragging them there, are OK with letting me down. I can only surmise that its me, and so its not worth me bothering to arrange meets any more."

It is definetly not you - I cannot speak for those that let you down but we are not all like that.

Short of setting up a naming and shaming thread I'm not sure how you can let people know who the time wasters are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I totally agree, we were on a couple of sites that were pricey and found those alot worse for no shows and fake profiles than on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"that's because this site is full of dreamers and timewasters...

That is probably the closest (not closet) to the truth

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always turn up for meets. Ian not and never will be a time waster

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By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

"I know I know, timewasters...

Mrs has single profile and is hounded daily by guy's wanting meets as are probably every woman on here.

Yet when they actually get a chance it's always one excuse or another.

We have been swinging long enough to realise that there are lots of fantasists and timewasters.

Something that is near on impossible to get rid of.

But I just can't get my head round what's actually in it for them?

Our time is very precious and free time is limited.

So when she plan's a meet and goes to alot of effort to get ready for said meet, to get let down Again.

A tad peeved off.

So my question is this,I am not going to ask why it happens and how to stop it but.

To those that are on here and plan meets or pretend that you are single etc..

What exactly do you get out of it and do you realise the hassle you cause?

Is it a game to you?

Please explain why you do it, in private if you want.

Were they verified ? Please don't count by webcam that's a waste of time.

If males have good verifications it shows they meet and have fun, not 100% but a step in the right direction.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

I've long since advocated such a booking system. It needn't be compulsory but would add a lot of credibility to those that had used it to set up meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've long since advocated such a booking system. It needn't be compulsory but would add a lot of credibility to those that had used it to set up meets."

A great idea... So it doesn't name and shame but does show how often you turn up.. And is a mandatory field on your profile. Some people would not want to display how many meets so it could be converted into a percentage instead. "this person has shown up to x% of meets they've mutual arranged" or something like that.

However it can still be abused... For example, you do turn up but the meet doesn't go well for whatever reason. So the other party marks you as a no show out of spite...

But a step in the right direction maybe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive been lied to and messed around by a number of single women who I've arrange to meet, over the years.

As individuals, they've proven themselves no longer worthy of my time and effort.

But I don't see them as representing single women as a whole.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really can't understand it. As a 'single male' on here, it is such a privilege to actually get a meet - so why would you cancel?

Ironically, I went down with a rotten summer cold the other week and had to ask a couple if I could postpone a 'hotwife' meet. The response I got back was awful, you can imagine the abuse.

Perhaps, I should have turned up and sneezed and dribbled snot all over her - but somehow, I don't think she would have enjoyed that. Anyway, blocked now, for my honesty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Isn't that the purpose of "Verifications"?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've only had the odd let down, 1 couple & 1 single female, from memory, it's a rarity for us as we hope we know the signs of timewasters, however single guys seem to get a bad rap on this subject we don't think they are any worse or better than anyone else, is it because both single females & couples when arranging meets with single men believe they've picked the guy, the guy should be grateful and they have a sense of entitlement?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Isn't that the purpose of "Verifications"?"

No... A verification can only be one way technically and the veri does not have to reciprocated. plus you can choose to not show it if you want so if someone leaves a bad veri (not that they should) you can ignore it. It also covers a broad spectrum of meets, even webcam. A veri is a also post event, so it confirms at some point you saw this this person.

By having a two way 'agreement', you are saying that you are agreeing to meet and fully intent to. What this could potentially do is create an system in that it shows realiabilty. So if you showed up for 9 out of 10 meets you would have a 90% score.. Most people would pretty much trust that. A time waster would think twice before agreeing to a meet as it would reduce their score drastically. Also, by seeing someone with a really low score you'd have a good idea that they're probably not worth the effort.

Obviously there may need to be other formulas in place. For example if you couldn't show for your first meet, then you'd be 0% and screwed forever... So maybe the score only shows after 5 meet request etc... Or something along those lines. Prior to this you'd have a "ranking not available yet".

I see this system in the online gaming world... It gives you an idea of bad players vs good players without any bad mouthing. Like I said before, not foolproof but would help the site considerably.

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By *lackMetalMan over a year ago

Centre

"We've only had the odd let down, 1 couple & 1 single female, from memory, it's a rarity for us as we hope we know the signs of timewasters, however single guys seem to get a bad rap on this subject we don't think they are any worse or better than anyone else, is it because both single females & couples when arranging meets with single men believe they've picked the guy, the guy should be grateful and they have a sense of entitlement? "

You are right; there can be a lot of entitlement there. As a single man, I can't even begin to tell you the number of times I have been approached with a condescending and stinking attitude like I was a leper and should be grateful. The truth is I do very well in the real world so why would that work with me on Fab?

I say a lot of women and couples should show the same amount of respect they would expect when interacting with single men.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"is it because both single females & couples when arranging meets with single men believe they've picked the guy, the guy should be grateful and they have a sense of entitlement? "

No, its because I believe that when a meet is arranged, a person has the decency to turn up, or if not then cancel in plenty of time. If I arranged any other appointment, be it a plumber or a doctor, its considered polite to cancel in good time if the appointment can't be met. Why do the people I arrange to meet think my time is any less important?

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"is it because both single females & couples when arranging meets with single men believe they've picked the guy, the guy should be grateful and they have a sense of entitlement?

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The point we were making is thus....

We agree people not turning up is bad manners and inexcusable, however most of the threads about this subject seem to point at single men to be the main timewasters and we feel this is not true and every faction of Fab is guilty of this, guys get picked on because many women & couples have a sense of "the guy should be grateful..." attitude

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By *abcouple11Couple over a year ago

Truro

We think this whole behaviour, the "enthusiastic chat and then no-show", has the same fundamental origin as all the "patriarchal religion / moral highground" rubbish.

As in formulating laws to prohibit erotica ("porn"), refusing / withdrawing planning and use permissions for venues where sex is freely engaged in, sex is required to be between a man and a woman who have entered into a formal legal agreement "owned" by the State, etc.

We would say - they are a bunch of limp-dicked character-inadequate misogynistic failed would-be-males who gravitate to centres of political power to trying to obtain thrills obstructing those they would have liked to have been.

They are drawn to anonymously interact with you from a distance and imagine what they could have had and been - but have to slink-away the moment the real person responds with something by which they would have to reveal themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The point we were making is thus....

Well said

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By *ools and the brain OP Couple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Just to provide balance.

After the disappointment of being let down yesterday.

Pleased to say Mrs is currently enjoying being serviced by a reliable chap at his hotel.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know I know, timewasters...

Mrs has single profile and is hounded daily by guy's wanting meets as are probably every woman on here.

Yet when they actually get a chance it's always one excuse or another.

We have been swinging long enough to realise that there are lots of fantasists and timewasters.

Something that is near on impossible to get rid of.

But I just can't get my head round what's actually in it for them?

Our time is very precious and free time is limited.

So when she plan's a meet and goes to alot of effort to get ready for said meet, to get let down Again.

A tad peeved off.

So my question is this,I am not going to ask why it happens and how to stop it but.

To those that are on here and plan meets or pretend that you are single etc..

What exactly do you get out of it and do you realise the hassle you cause?

Is it a game to you?

Please explain why you do it, in private if you want.

"
we have had same experience , one time we tried to message the guy after he cancelled only to find he had already blocked us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think some people just like to know that they can get meet, must make them feel good"

Yes the fantasy can also be more appealing than the reality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its not just Men that are time wasters a few ladies areI had 3 meets that didn't truturn up and when I got back home I had been blocked .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In fairness though, there are some quite genuine and legitimate reasons for bailing. It's happened to me twice, and eventually we met plus on the last occasion she bailed, turned out I had a family emergency to deal with that just popped up.... so it was a godsend in the end.

It think sometimes we're quick to judge. I for one having agreed a meet will only ever cancel due to circumstances beyond my control. Having said that, reading some of the comments in the past, there are some pretty deluded fuckwits (don't ban me admin, this is a generic comment) who seem to delight in mucking people around.

I would hazard a guess that these same individuals extend there lack of integrity and personality traits in their fabless world.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman over a year ago

Hampshire

"I know I know, timewasters...

Mrs has single profile and is hounded daily by guy's wanting meets as are probably every woman on here.

Yet when they actually get a chance it's always one excuse or another.

We have been swinging long enough to realise that there are lots of fantasists and timewasters.

Something that is near on impossible to get rid of.

But I just can't get my head round what's actually in it for them?

Our time is very precious and free time is limited.

So when she plan's a meet and goes to alot of effort to get ready for said meet, to get let down Again.

A tad peeved off.

So my question is this,I am not going to ask why it happens and how to stop it but.

To those that are on here and plan meets or pretend that you are single etc..

What exactly do you get out of it and do you realise the hassle you cause?

Is it a game to you?

Please explain why you do it, in private if you want.

God you're stunning I wouldn't waste your time!!"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I no of one that does this and it's a game he's only young I've asked him why he does it just says makes him laugh at all the sad older lady's trying to get is young body never got any intension to meet keeps deleting account and sets a new one up.told him it doesn't help single guys just laughs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its not just Men that are time wasters a few ladies areI had 3 meets that didn't truturn up and when I got back home I had been blocked ."

Possibly men?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always give my mobile number

Text the couple when leaving home

When half way

When ten mins away

I dont let people dowm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This needs to happen !!

Then prolific time wasters could be identified

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We often got this. Hence now we only meet at clubs. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesnt even have to be public

The agreementcan be private but relected with simply a tick or cross if they then turned up

A profile with many crosses is an unreliable profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They give genuine guys such a bad reputation! Plus they mustn't have much of a conscience.

I'm friends with a couple on here who arranged a gangbang for the female last weekend and all 10 guys didn't turn up. Must have been so demoralising.

I think some type of rating system is needed on here to expose the timewasters

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By *antsguy007Man over a year ago

Whiteley

"It doesnt even have to be public

The agreementcan be private but relected with simply a tick or cross if they then turned up

A profile with many crosses is an unreliable profile"

This could work but even if it isnt public but is only seen by admin, they can block a profile for a week month etc depending on how often they bail

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It doesnt even have to be public

The agreementcan be private but relected with simply a tick or cross if they then turned up

A profile with many crosses is an unreliable profile"

Awful suggestion, would be open to abuse, now here is an idea, take responsibility for yourselves as adults, the odd no show is inevitable but if it happens regularly take a look at yourselves, what are you doing wrong? Blimey this site gives you ALL the tools to arrange genuine meets, bringing in a system where someone can mark a show or no show is open to abuse, admin wise a nightmare, what about disputes? Just take responsibility for yourselves! Ever seen us moaning about no shows? Why? Because we've never had any as we use the tools and our own intellect to rid ourselves from chatting to timewasters, unreliable people & dreamers.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It doesnt even have to be public

The agreementcan be private but relected with simply a tick or cross if they then turned up

A profile with many crosses is an unreliable profile

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By *ay19720Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

I normally have the couple come too mine...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know I know, timewasters...

Mrs has single profile and is hounded daily by guy's wanting meets as are probably every woman on here.

Yet when they actually get a chance it's always one excuse or another.

We have been swinging long enough to realise that there are lots of fantasists and timewasters.

Something that is near on impossible to get rid of.

But I just can't get my head round what's actually in it for them?

Our time is very precious and free time is limited.

So when she plan's a meet and goes to alot of effort to get ready for said meet, to get let down Again.

A tad peeved off.

So my question is this,I am not going to ask why it happens and how to stop it but.

To those that are on here and plan meets or pretend that you are single etc..

What exactly do you get out of it and do you realise the hassle you cause?

Is it a game to you?

Please explain why you do it, in private if you want.

Been chatting to what I thought was a half decent man for a few weeks, arranged a meet for this morning then late last night I message to check he's still meeting in morning and he cancels!

3rd person I've arranged meets with in past 4 weeks and not 1 of them has actually gone through with the meet!!! All were men, all have veries and been on site a while.... how can we tell whose genuine??

It's so frustrating and has really put me off meeting men

Rant over xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It doesnt even have to be public

The agreementcan be private but relected with simply a tick or cross if they then turned up

A profile with many crosses is an unreliable profile

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