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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why do so many guys get abusive after a lady has told them that they don't want to play? There is a huge bias in numbers of men to women, and by acting like petulant, spoilt children in need of a slap, all you are doing is making it harder for decent genuine guys to be given a chance. Whatever happened to behaving with decency to others? Whenever I have received a polite no thank you, and even when it wasn't as polite, I've always said, ok, thanks, good luck finding what you're after. It's simple, treat people nicely, and you will reap the rewards. |
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I ask myself this every day. Lol.
I reply to every message I receive, and when they come back being rude, it really puts me off wanting to meet the genuinely nice men. I just get weary, and wary.
S'why I turn off messages altogether most of the time. |
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It's frustration and entitlement that makes them do it. It doesn't make it more difficult for the genuine guys, it makes it easier. The people who want to meet single men still want to meet them and the goods ones are thrown into sharp relief by the bad. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's frustration and entitlement that makes them do it. It doesn't make it more difficult for the genuine guys, it makes it easier. The people who want to meet single men still want to meet them and the goods ones are thrown into sharp relief by the bad."
That's good to know, I only hope that's what the majority think. |
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"It's frustration and entitlement that makes them do it. It doesn't make it more difficult for the genuine guys, it makes it easier. The people who want to meet single men still want to meet them and the goods ones are thrown into sharp relief by the bad."
True, I know a few singles guys who seem to get absolutely tons of attention, and they have a great reputation. For every ten assholes, there's a diamond fella out there with tons of meets and veri's having a great time.
Guys should remember when handling rejection that for every time they act like an entitled asshole, word will travel privately, and people will avoid them. They are essentially giving the decent guys all they need to do very well on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do so many guys get abusive after a lady has told them that they don't want to play? There is a huge bias in numbers of men to women, and by acting like petulant, spoilt children in need of a slap, all you are doing is making it harder for decent genuine guys to be given a chance. Whatever happened to behaving with decency to others? Whenever I have received a polite no thank you, and even when it wasn't as polite, I've always said, ok, thanks, good luck finding what you're after. It's simple, treat people nicely, and you will reap the rewards."
why should you blame the actions of a few entitled people who cant take rejection...
no point worrying about them, just keep yourself to yourself follow your own advice and you wont go far wrong
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ah, male ego. That fragile as wafer thin porcelain membrane that is all that holds at bay the bubbling bile and toy's-out-the-pram indignation of many a man |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone who puts their profile online risks .Any things - rejection being one of them. This is the same for a conventional dating site. If you are sensitive and easily hurt then don't join fab. I am never knowingly rude to guys but I have had snide remarks if I have to say no.a sense of humour is vital on here! |
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"Ah, male ego. That fragile as wafer thin porcelain membrane that is all that holds at bay the bubbling bile and toy's-out-the-pram indignation of many a man "
I suspect of the balance of power was to be reversed we would see a lot of fragile female egos on display. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why do so many guys get abusive after a lady has told them that they don't want to play? There is a huge bias in numbers of men to women, and by acting like petulant, spoilt children in need of a slap, all you are doing is making it harder for decent genuine guys to be given a chance. Whatever happened to behaving with decency to others? Whenever I have received a polite no thank you, and even when it wasn't as polite, I've always said, ok, thanks, good luck finding what you're after. It's simple, treat people nicely, and you will reap the rewards.
why should you blame the actions of a few entitled people who cant take rejection...
no point worrying about them, just keep yourself to yourself follow your own advice and you wont go far wrong
Thanks, I hopefully come across as a nice happy fella.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ah, male ego. That fragile as wafer thin porcelain membrane that is all that holds at bay the bubbling bile and toy's-out-the-pram indignation of many a man
I suspect of the balance of power was to be reversed we would see a lot of fragile female egos on display."
Ssshhhhh!!! They'll hear you!! |
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"Ah, male ego. That fragile as wafer thin porcelain membrane that is all that holds at bay the bubbling bile and toy's-out-the-pram indignation of many a man "
I've witnessed this shit in action today. It ain't pretty |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ah, male ego. That fragile as wafer thin porcelain membrane that is all that holds at bay the bubbling bile and toy's-out-the-pram indignation of many a man
I've witnessed this shit in action today. It ain't pretty "
Like water on a hot chip pan! |
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"Ah, male ego. That fragile as wafer thin porcelain membrane that is all that holds at bay the bubbling bile and toy's-out-the-pram indignation of many a man "
Yeah there's that old saying, "hell hath no fury like a man scorned" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because ego's are precious things, and they can't handle rejection."
But a few are just regular human-beings and are cool about it. Unfortunately, it is only a few here
- Mrs. J - |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Why do so many guys get abusive after a lady has told them that they don't want to play? There is a huge bias in numbers of men to women, and by acting like petulant, spoilt children in need of a slap, all you are doing is making it harder for decent genuine guys to be given a chance. Whatever happened to behaving with decency to others? Whenever I have received a polite no thank you, and even when it wasn't as polite, I've always said, ok, thanks, good luck finding what you're after. It's simple, treat people nicely, and you will reap the rewards."
I'm not sure how guys acting like idiots stops me from meeting women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ah, male ego. That fragile as wafer thin porcelain membrane that is all that holds at bay the bubbling bile and toy's-out-the-pram indignation of many a man
Yeah there's that old saying, "hell hath no fury like a man scorned" "
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Because how dare a woman reject a man, on a site where sex is involved.
Those who are abusive do it because they believe they have a right to do whatever they want and being on here we have somehow given them automatic consent, which is why 99% of our messages are dealt by dax |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There maybe a handful of guys that act this way. And a handful of women too. Don't always point out the guys are the baddies on this site.
Ignore them op. Just like the ladies/men who get abuse should do the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Works both ways OP some the disgusting abuse i get of women because i wont sleep with them is shocking. "
We report them to Admin. Mind you, we have yet to receive abuse from a woman, only from single men
Do you report these abusive messages to Admin?
- Mrs. J - |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There maybe a handful of guys that act this way. And a handful of women too. Don't always point out the guys are the baddies on this site.
Ignore them op. Just like the ladies/men who get abuse should do the same. "
This... both have egos and a few can't manage it as it's got way out of hand. |
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"Because how dare a woman reject a man, on a site where sex is involved.
Those who are abusive do it because they believe they have a right to do whatever they want and being on here we have somehow given them automatic consent, which is why 99% of our messages are dealt by dax "
I thought the women of fab were the National Prostitution Service, free at the point of use. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Why do so many guys get abusive after a lady has told them that they don't want to play? There is a huge bias in numbers of men to women, and by acting like petulant, spoilt children in need of a slap, all you are doing is making it harder for decent genuine guys to be given a chance. Whatever happened to behaving with decency to others? Whenever I have received a polite no thank you, and even when it wasn't as polite, I've always said, ok, thanks, good luck finding what you're after. It's simple, treat people nicely, and you will reap the rewards.
I'm not sure how guys acting like idiots stops me from meeting women. "
Yes, but you're one of the nice ones! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because how dare a woman reject a man, on a site where sex is involved.
Those who are abusive do it because they believe they have a right to do whatever they want and being on here we have somehow given them automatic consent, which is why 99% of our messages are dealt by dax
I thought the women of fab were the National Prostitution Service, free at the point of use."
But taxed at the flat-rate VAT scheme, which has now come to an end
20% VAT from now on
- Mrs. J - |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Works both ways OP some the disgusting abuse i get of women because i wont sleep with them is shocking.
We report them to Admin. Mind you, we have yet to receive abuse from a woman, only from single men
Do you report these abusive messages to Admin?
- Mrs. J -"
No i'm not a grass i just block and move on, best way to deal with them its only a bit of name calling at the end of the day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Works both ways OP some the disgusting abuse i get of women because i wont sleep with them is shocking. "
Yeah why won't you fuck me for gods sake what's wrong with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Works both ways OP some the disgusting abuse i get of women because i wont sleep with them is shocking.
We report them to Admin. Mind you, we have yet to receive abuse from a woman, only from single men
Do you report these abusive messages to Admin?
- Mrs. J -
No i'm not a grass i just block and move on, best way to deal with them its only a bit of name calling at the end of the day. "
It is not 'grassing'; it is getting all these abusive women off from this site so that they don't keep on doing this to other men
- Mrs. J - |
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"Because how dare a woman reject a man, on a site where sex is involved.
Those who are abusive do it because they believe they have a right to do whatever they want and being on here we have somehow given them automatic consent, which is why 99% of our messages are dealt by dax
I thought the women of fab were the National Prostitution Service, free at the point of use.
But taxed at the flat-rate VAT scheme, which has now come to an end
20% VAT from now on
- Mrs. J -"
Does that mean i can claim tax back on condoms because they are a part of health and safety work kit?
Boo |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Works both ways OP some the disgusting abuse i get of women because i wont sleep with them is shocking.
Yeah why won't you fuck me for gods sake what's wrong with you. "
Your scared you're fall for me that's why you keep pushing me away WW. |
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"Because how dare a woman reject a man, on a site where sex is involved.
Those who are abusive do it because they believe they have a right to do whatever they want and being on here we have somehow given them automatic consent, which is why 99% of our messages are dealt by dax
I thought the women of fab were the National Prostitution Service, free at the point of use.
But taxed at the flat-rate VAT scheme, which has now come to an end
20% VAT from now on
- Mrs. J -
Does that mean i can claim tax back on condoms because they are a part of health and safety work kit?
Boo "
Indeed it would |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This forum thread has been done to death and I bet there's at least 5 threads on it this week
Yeah, what's your view on bareback with married men who support brexit? " depends if it's hard or soft |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Works both ways OP some the disgusting abuse i get of women because i wont sleep with them is shocking.
Yeah why won't you fuck me for gods sake what's wrong with you.
Your scared you're fall for me that's why you keep pushing me away WW. "
WW doesn't fall for people! |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Why do so many guys get abusive after a lady has told them that they don't want to play? There is a huge bias in numbers of men to women, and by acting like petulant, spoilt children in need of a slap, all you are doing is making it harder for decent genuine guys to be given a chance. Whatever happened to behaving with decency to others? Whenever I have received a polite no thank you, and even when it wasn't as polite, I've always said, ok, thanks, good luck finding what you're after. It's simple, treat people nicely, and you will reap the rewards.
I'm not sure how guys acting like idiots stops me from meeting women.
Yes, but you're one of the nice ones! "
I seem to be at a disadvantage here but have we met? You seem to know an awful lot about me...x |
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"Ah, male ego. That fragile as wafer thin porcelain membrane that is all that holds at bay the bubbling bile and toy's-out-the-pram indignation of many a man
I suspect of the balance of power was to be reversed we would see a lot of fragile female egos on display.
Ssshhhhh!!! They'll hear you!! "
I am not sure women would get so shitty. It seems the more unattractive the man the more abusive they get. |
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"Why do so many guys get abusive after a lady has told them that they don't want to play? There is a huge bias in numbers of men to women, and by acting like petulant, spoilt children in need of a slap, all you are doing is making it harder for decent genuine guys to be given a chance. Whatever happened to behaving with decency to others? Whenever I have received a polite no thank you, and even when it wasn't as polite, I've always said, ok, thanks, good luck finding what you're after. It's simple, treat people nicely, and you will reap the rewards."
I normally message back with thanks for taking the time to reply ..... Have fun .... Thats all it takes .... And have actually had friends request for the messaging that continued after . So as my learned friend above says to the single men that send abuse to the women or couples in here . Grow up . Man up and and stop beings idiots |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've found women take rejection far worse, in person and online.
Really how do they react ?"
I get aggressive then I eat, pizzas, take aways, galaxy and I drink full fat . |
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"We've found women take rejection far worse, in person and online.
Really how do they react ?
I get aggressive then I eat, pizzas, take aways, galaxy and I drink full fat . "
Ooooooo scary ....not FULL FAT COKE !!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I never understand this either. If somebody replies with a thanks but no thanks, I reply thanks for the reply and then delete and block so I can't message them again. If my message is deleted I just block for the same reason. No point in dwelling on it. I don't get upset by rejection now. I only get pissed off by time wasters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It boggles the mind, how they think in this world of so many beings there going to be liked by everyone! Face to face in a crowded room I understand being afraid of that type of rejection but your having a private coveration online, that's not even an excuse, you were brought up by women, you know better so do better........ |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Why do so many guys get abusive after a lady has told them that they don't want to play? There is a huge bias in numbers of men to women, and by acting like petulant, spoilt children in need of a slap, all you are doing is making it harder for decent genuine guys to be given a chance. Whatever happened to behaving with decency to others? Whenever I have received a polite no thank you, and even when it wasn't as polite, I've always said, ok, thanks, good luck finding what you're after. It's simple, treat people nicely, and you will reap the rewards.
I'm not sure how guys acting like idiots stops me from meeting women.
Yes, but you're one of the nice ones!
I seem to be at a disadvantage here but have we met? You seem to know an awful lot about me...x "
No we haven't met! You just come across as a nice guy. Gentlemanly and respectful. Those sorts always stand out! |
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