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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So Single guys. I'm wondering if you can relate to this. You go to clubs and people can't take their eyes off you. Multiple people wanting to play with you. Then you come on fab and it's like trying to get blood out of a stone just to get a reply from people? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I understand that single women and couples must get bombarded but it is tricky to not get fed up when people largely blank you or even worse are out and out rude to you in their response.
I'm happy to be patient, I'm not after hundreds of shags, just looking for the right couple or hotwife to come along... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Says the guy with 50+ verifications. You're obviously doing something right dude.
One thing I've learnt in my time being on here it's a numbers game. Simple law of averages. I get bearly any attention at times and post a new pic and boom. A few hundred views and some fabs. Maybe 2% will actually bother to send a message. What gets me the most is may get a few winks so I respond to the few that catch my eye. Then they block lol. Go figure   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Says the guy with 50+ verifications. You're obviously doing something right dude.
One thing I've learnt in my time being on here it's a numbers game. Simple law of averages. I get bearly any attention at times and post a new pic and boom. A few hundred views and some fabs. Maybe 2% will actually bother to send a message. What gets me the most is may get a few winks so I respond to the few that catch my eye. Then they block lol. Go figure "
All my veris are pretty much from clubs and parties tho. Not from fab meets. Haha yh random blocks. Winks but then they don't respond to a message lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think in a club it's easier to gauge straight away someone isn't a time waster or a pic collector though!
This quite simply "
Ok so why would I been seen as a time waster or pic collector with my verifications? I get u but that doesn't add up to my situation |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"in a club we look better than our profile pics"
Haha tbh I get told I look better in person all the time. Makes me wonder if I look terrible in my pics lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Showing up in person always beats just being visible as an online persona. Same reason why many on here would recommend going to clubs or socials to have fun in a much more direct manner rather than the back and forth manner you get through the rare messages on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really get Fab anymore.. I've been on longer than my profile suggests.
I feel like no matter what I do on here.. it's not what I want from a site like this.
Unfortunately there are way too many men fully aware of the sexual desires and brave enough to chase them down. Not enough couples and women to go around.
I'm single, I can accomodate or trace, I work, I'm an honest, funny person.. my verifications are genuine and I think pretty fair.
But it all feels like so much effort to simply have your profile looked at.. even if you've all I've got above.. plus looks, fitness, body, money and a massive dick you know how to use.. and have the gift of the gab.
My profile rarely ever gets seen unless I go out of my way to get it seen. Initiate the conversations, the winks and fab's. Change my photos or update my profile.. add and remove meets.
I see it in online dating.. and it makes me feel single men must out number the single women by a long way. What I see in myself in online dating is I swipe left (no thanks) way too many times to be fair.. I have a lot of choice and I'm picky. But in reality I'm probably missing out on some really nice girls. But I'm lucky there are women prepared to go out with me.. more than are prepared to sleep with me..
My problem is.. I think sex is an important part of my life.. and I'd like some answers about what they are like in bed before I start a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't really get Fab anymore.. I've been on longer than my profile suggests.
I feel like no matter what I do on here.. it's not what I want from a site like this.
Unfortunately there are way too many men fully aware of the sexual desires and brave enough to chase them down. Not enough couples and women to go around.
I'm single, I can accomodate or trace, I work, I'm an honest, funny person.. my verifications are genuine and I think pretty fair.
But it all feels like so much effort to simply have your profile looked at.. even if you've all I've got above.. plus looks, fitness, body, money and a massive dick you know how to use.. and have the gift of the gab.
My profile rarely ever gets seen unless I go out of my way to get it seen. Initiate the conversations, the winks and fab's. Change my photos or update my profile.. add and remove meets.
I see it in online dating.. and it makes me feel single men must out number the single women by a long way. What I see in myself in online dating is I swipe left (no thanks) way too many times to be fair.. I have a lot of choice and I'm picky. But in reality I'm probably missing out on some really nice girls. But I'm lucky there are women prepared to go out with me.. more than are prepared to sleep with me..
My problem is.. I think sex is an important part of my life.. and I'd like some answers about what they are like in bed before I start a relationship."
THIS. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't really get Fab anymore.. I've been on longer than my profile suggests.
I feel like no matter what I do on here.. it's not what I want from a site like this.
Unfortunately there are way too many men fully aware of the sexual desires and brave enough to chase them down. Not enough couples and women to go around.
I'm single, I can accomodate or trace, I work, I'm an honest, funny person.. my verifications are genuine and I think pretty fair.
But it all feels like so much effort to simply have your profile looked at.. even if you've all I've got above.. plus looks, fitness, body, money and a massive dick you know how to use.. and have the gift of the gab.
My profile rarely ever gets seen unless I go out of my way to get it seen. Initiate the conversations, the winks and fab's. Change my photos or update my profile.. add and remove meets.
I see it in online dating.. and it makes me feel single men must out number the single women by a long way. What I see in myself in online dating is I swipe left (no thanks) way too many times to be fair.. I have a lot of choice and I'm picky. But in reality I'm probably missing out on some really nice girls. But I'm lucky there are women prepared to go out with me.. more than are prepared to sleep with me..
My problem is.. I think sex is an important part of my life.. and I'd like some answers about what they are like in bed before I start a relationship.
THIS. "
Yh I feel this way to bud |
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I totally get this...
But just to inject a woman's pov:
So, at a club, I'm there (let's be blunt) to specifically find people t meet and fuck, right? I definitely find I have a lot more time for people there; instant chatting is just way more effective than the delayed communications that is fab messages. Also, I mention this at the start because I'm often checking Fab through my day when I'm not (again, to be blunt) primed to fuck, and so I say no to a lot of guys I probably would fuck at a club.
OK.
The other thing is, and I know guys know this, but we get A Lot of messages. Even a very mediocre profile like mine gets a message an hour on a slow day and a message a minute if I'm advertising for a meet.
And I reply to every message.
But even if I didn't, the reading of the messages itself just fucking wears us down y'know. Lol. Having to sift through 75 messages just puts me off, at the end of it, through sheer exhaustion, and I don't want to see another cock in my life. Lol.
So I really get it. Fab is fucking hard work for guys.
And I really wish I wasn't. I wish that more women were on site so everyone got to have as much sex as they want.
But y'know, if clubs work, stick to them. I prefer them for meeting men, so much less hard work than through fab. So I do that. |
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"So Single guys. I'm wondering if you can relate to this. You go to clubs and people can't take their eyes off you. Multiple people wanting to play with you. Then you come on fab and it's like trying to get blood out of a stone just to get a reply from people? "
I can relate to this.
I went to a big social when I was on here before, a while back.
I wasn't expecting much, I thought I'd probably go just as unnoticed as being on here but was intent on just going and enjoying myself and meeting a few new people.
I was very pleasantly surprised at the level of attention I got and the many compliments.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So Single guys. I'm wondering if you can relate to this. You go to clubs and people can't take their eyes off you. Multiple people wanting to play with you. Then you come on fab and it's like trying to get blood out of a stone just to get a reply from people?
I can relate to this.
I went to a big social when I was on here before, a while back.
I wasn't expecting much, I thought I'd probably go just as unnoticed as being on here but was intent on just going and enjoying myself and meeting a few new people.
I was very pleasantly surprised at the level of attention I got and the many compliments.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Right ok so one thing I learnt on fabs is alot of people are put off by other people that have verified you. So if they don't get on or don't think highly of someone who has verified you they will not be interested. So iv decided to not display mine anymore. |
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"So Single guys. I'm wondering if you can relate to this. You go to clubs and people can't take their eyes off you. Multiple people wanting to play with you. Then you come on fab and it's like trying to get blood out of a stone just to get a reply from people? "
Gonna go out on a limb here. . Maybe people appreciate your looks in the club but not your writing prowess?
I think people an get the wrong idea about people just from text chat.
No doubt in the flesh you have plenty of game sir! Anyways you have loads of veris, I'm sure you are doing just fine on fab.
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"So Single guys. I'm wondering if you can relate to this. You go to clubs and people can't take their eyes off you. Multiple people wanting to play with you. Then you come on fab and it's like trying to get blood out of a stone just to get a reply from people?
Gonna go out on a limb here. . Maybe people appreciate your looks in the club but not your writing prowess?
I think people an get the wrong idea about people just from text chat.
No doubt in the flesh you have plenty of game sir! Anyways you have loads of veris, I'm sure you are doing just fine on fab.
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I think maybe your right. I must admit I'm not the best at getting myself across in text. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People have more choice on here than in a club.
This would probably be high on the list of why it's happening I guess. "
Lot less choice at a club than on here for the ladies and maybe the other way round for us single guys. However I had two bad experiences at clubs so not going there. All my veris and meets are private on fab or another site. I've found it easier and more enjoyable that way. |
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"So Single guys. I'm wondering if you can relate to this. You go to clubs and people can't take their eyes off you. Multiple people wanting to play with you. Then you come on fab and it's like trying to get blood out of a stone just to get a reply from people? "
the cold hard truth, is that its a sad pathetic little power trip for them, makes them feel above us single guys for a little while. which they cant do in the club, dont hate them, feel for them , poor people. i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world. why ? because i dont feel the need to belittle others to make myself feel better. there loss as much as yours , judging someone on a tiny picture and a paragraph, beggars beleif but hey wont stop me from smiling  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Why waste time chasing the women on here .?
If they want it they can come to me i'm not gonna loose any sleep over it on here there 3.5 billion in the world |
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"So Single guys. I'm wondering if you can relate to this. You go to clubs and people can't take their eyes off you. Multiple people wanting to play with you. Then you come on fab and it's like trying to get blood out of a stone just to get a reply from people?
the cold hard truth, is that its a sad pathetic little power trip for them, makes them feel above us single guys for a little while. which they cant do in the club, dont hate them, feel for them , poor people. i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world. why ? because i dont feel the need to belittle others to make myself feel better. there loss as much as yours , judging someone on a tiny picture and a paragraph, beggars beleif but hey wont stop me from smiling "
Haha I like this. I must admit I feel alot of men on here lower their standards which makes even the ugliest girls on here think they deserve fitness models. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So Single guys. I'm wondering if you can relate to this. You go to clubs and people can't take their eyes off you. Multiple people wanting to play with you. Then you come on fab and it's like trying to get blood out of a stone just to get a reply from people?
the cold hard truth, is that its a sad pathetic little power trip for them, makes them feel above us single guys for a little while. which they cant do in the club, dont hate them, feel for them , poor people. i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world. why ? because i dont feel the need to belittle others to make myself feel better. there loss as much as yours , judging someone on a tiny picture and a paragraph, beggars beleif but hey wont stop me from smiling
Haha I like this. I must admit I feel alot of men on here lower their standards which makes even the ugliest girls on here think they deserve fitness models. "
Yeah deluded springs to mind mate.  |
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"Why waste time chasing the women on here .?
If they want it they can come to me i'm not gonna loose any sleep over it on here there 3.5 billion in the world"
This is literally what I tell men who can't take no for an answer.
Like.... seriously, I'm not worth getting that shitty and angry over.  |
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"So Single guys. I'm wondering if you can relate to this. You go to clubs and people can't take their eyes off you. Multiple people wanting to play with you. Then you come on fab and it's like trying to get blood out of a stone just to get a reply from people?
the cold hard truth, is that its a sad pathetic little power trip for them, makes them feel above us single guys for a little while. which they cant do in the club, dont hate them, feel for them , poor people. i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world. why ? because i dont feel the need to belittle others to make myself feel better. there loss as much as yours , judging someone on a tiny picture and a paragraph, beggars beleif but hey wont stop me from smiling
Haha I like this. I must admit I feel alot of men on here lower their standards which makes even the ugliest girls on here think they deserve fitness models.
Yeah deluded springs to mind mate. "
yes of course, they get 1000s of messages so it goes to there head. i get it , but seriously of those 1000s theres probably 5 worth having. deluded is deffinetly the right word |
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"Why waste time chasing the women on here .?
If they want it they can come to me i'm not gonna loose any sleep over it on here there 3.5 billion in the world
This is literally what I tell men who can't take no for an answer.
Like.... seriously, I'm not worth getting that shitty and angry over. "
lol dont get me wrong plenty of decent ladies like yourself also ! |
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"i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world."
Yeh but this isn't the outside world. Lol. This is fab. Where women can receive hundreds of messages every day.
Are you saying if you received hundreds of messages from women. Every. Single. Day. Without fail. That you would reply to every one of them, and ignore none of them?
Who has the time?! Lol
I don't think women care enough about the men messaging them to want to "belittle" them. Lol. It's not all about the men's poor feefees. |
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"yes of course, they get 1000s of messages so it goes to there head. i get it , but seriously of those 1000s theres probably 5 worth having. deluded is deffinetly the right word"
Wait, if even you admit there's only around a 0.5% chance of getting quality, where's the delusion coming from...? |
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"i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world.
Yeh but this isn't the outside world. Lol. This is fab. Where women can receive hundreds of messages every day.
Are you saying if you received hundreds of messages from women. Every. Single. Day. Without fail. That you would reply to every one of them, and ignore none of them?
Who has the time?! Lol
I don't think women care enough about the men messaging them to want to "belittle" them. Lol. It's not all about the men's poor feefees. "
individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not! |
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"i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world.
Yeh but this isn't the outside world. Lol. This is fab. Where women can receive hundreds of messages every day.
Are you saying if you received hundreds of messages from women. Every. Single. Day. Without fail. That you would reply to every one of them, and ignore none of them?
Who has the time?! Lol
I don't think women care enough about the men messaging them to want to "belittle" them. Lol. It's not all about the men's poor feefees.
individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!"
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models |
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"i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world.
Yeh but this isn't the outside world. Lol. This is fab. Where women can receive hundreds of messages every day.
Are you saying if you received hundreds of messages from women. Every. Single. Day. Without fail. That you would reply to every one of them, and ignore none of them?
Who has the time?! Lol
I don't think women care enough about the men messaging them to want to "belittle" them. Lol. It's not all about the men's poor feefees.
individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models "
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument! |
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"i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world.
Yeh but this isn't the outside world. Lol. This is fab. Where women can receive hundreds of messages every day.
Are you saying if you received hundreds of messages from women. Every. Single. Day. Without fail. That you would reply to every one of them, and ignore none of them?
Who has the time?! Lol
I don't think women care enough about the men messaging them to want to "belittle" them. Lol. It's not all about the men's poor feefees.
individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!"
Sometimes when your not getting any response I will message someone what I seen below my standards to see if it's me or just how girls are on the sight. To prove a point to myself. Be a lie to say fab doesn't get u down sometimes and can play mind games on u. So yh I do message people sometimes who I wouldn't go with just to see if they respond. |
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"i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world.
Yeh but this isn't the outside world. Lol. This is fab. Where women can receive hundreds of messages every day.
Are you saying if you received hundreds of messages from women. Every. Single. Day. Without fail. That you would reply to every one of them, and ignore none of them?
Who has the time?! Lol
I don't think women care enough about the men messaging them to want to "belittle" them. Lol. It's not all about the men's poor feefees.
individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!
Sometimes when your not getting any response I will message someone what I seen below my standards to see if it's me or just how girls are on the sight. To prove a point to myself. Be a lie to say fab doesn't get u down sometimes and can play mind games on u. So yh I do message people sometimes who I wouldn't go with just to see if they respond. "
You're such a timewaster. 
No seriously mate i learnt pretty quick that probably only like 5% of women on here i would bother with so i'm not gonna plough through loads of profiles and stress over the rest.
Keep the bar high fella. |
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"i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world.
Yeh but this isn't the outside world. Lol. This is fab. Where women can receive hundreds of messages every day.
Are you saying if you received hundreds of messages from women. Every. Single. Day. Without fail. That you would reply to every one of them, and ignore none of them?
Who has the time?! Lol
I don't think women care enough about the men messaging them to want to "belittle" them. Lol. It's not all about the men's poor feefees.
individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!
Sometimes when your not getting any response I will message someone what I seen below my standards to see if it's me or just how girls are on the sight. To prove a point to myself. Be a lie to say fab doesn't get u down sometimes and can play mind games on u. So yh I do message people sometimes who I wouldn't go with just to see if they respond.
You're such a timewaster.
No seriously mate i learnt pretty quick that probably only like 5% of women on here i would bother with so i'm not gonna plough through loads of profiles and stress over the rest.
Keep the bar high fella. "
Haha maybe I need to drink less at clubs so I can remember people's fab names or write them down when they tell me lol |
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"i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world.
Yeh but this isn't the outside world. Lol. This is fab. Where women can receive hundreds of messages every day.
Are you saying if you received hundreds of messages from women. Every. Single. Day. Without fail. That you would reply to every one of them, and ignore none of them?
Who has the time?! Lol
I don't think women care enough about the men messaging them to want to "belittle" them. Lol. It's not all about the men's poor feefees.
individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!
Sometimes when your not getting any response I will message someone what I seen below my standards to see if it's me or just how girls are on the sight. To prove a point to myself. Be a lie to say fab doesn't get u down sometimes and can play mind games on u. So yh I do message people sometimes who I wouldn't go with just to see if they respond. "
And if they responded what would you do since you obviously don't really fancy them?
Seems a bit of a shit thing to do for your own experiment/amusement |
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"i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world.
Yeh but this isn't the outside world. Lol. This is fab. Where women can receive hundreds of messages every day.
Are you saying if you received hundreds of messages from women. Every. Single. Day. Without fail. That you would reply to every one of them, and ignore none of them?
Who has the time?! Lol
I don't think women care enough about the men messaging them to want to "belittle" them. Lol. It's not all about the men's poor feefees.
individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!
Sometimes when your not getting any response I will message someone what I seen below my standards to see if it's me or just how girls are on the sight. To prove a point to myself. Be a lie to say fab doesn't get u down sometimes and can play mind games on u. So yh I do message people sometimes who I wouldn't go with just to see if they respond.
And if they responded what would you do since you obviously don't really fancy them?
Seems a bit of a shit thing to do for your own experiment/amusement "
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"individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!"
Yeah, this. Lol.
You keep using this word "delusion" but I don't think it means what you think it means.... lol
Like... it's kinda dangerous to assume that the reason women decline so many men is because they think they "something special" or they're trying to "belittle" men...
Like, I have to turn down hundreds of men who I would 100% bang because I don't have enough hours in my free time to meet all the men I *would* meet... but that doesn't mean I think I'm "something special"....
Imagine if you got 100 messages every day, and a third of them matched your attraction criteria, and 10 of them were top quality women - total 10s! Could you meet 30 people every single day? Could you met 10? You'd have to turn down most of them.
Does that mean you'd be deluded and thinking you're "something special"? No, it just means you're an adult who needs to manage his time.
Same with these "average birds".
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On here there is at least 100 guys to every woman and that's being conservative.
Someone people come across much better on their profiles than in person and visa versa but it's hard to tell until you've met them in person.
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"individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!
Yeah, this. Lol.
You keep using this word "delusion" but I don't think it means what you think it means.... lol
Like... it's kinda dangerous to assume that the reason women decline so many men is because they think they "something special" or they're trying to "belittle" men...
Like, I have to turn down hundreds of men who I would 100% bang because I don't have enough hours in my free time to meet all the men I *would* meet... but that doesn't mean I think I'm "something special"....
Imagine if you got 100 messages every day, and a third of them matched your attraction criteria, and 10 of them were top quality women - total 10s! Could you meet 30 people every single day? Could you met 10? You'd have to turn down most of them.
Does that mean you'd be deluded and thinking you're "something special"? No, it just means you're an adult who needs to manage his time.
Same with these "average birds".
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I can't speak for the OP but I have seen other guys on threads basically stating that if they message a woman. . The woman should cancel other meets or interest and concentrate on them.
I think some people just really do rate themselves far too highly.
Also for some ladies just because a guy goes to the gym, that doesn't make them attractive.
As a bi man I've had plenty of male meets and bi couple meets in my life. . And to be honest the more toned they are usually means the less conversation they have.
There is definitely a correlation between how much gym you go to and your level of conversation. I think a lot of guys assume that "if I go gym, all the girls will love me and I don't have to even try".
It's a warped sense of entitlement than isn't very attractive at all. |
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"individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!
Yeah, this. Lol.
You keep using this word "delusion" but I don't think it means what you think it means.... lol
Like... it's kinda dangerous to assume that the reason women decline so many men is because they think they "something special" or they're trying to "belittle" men...
Like, I have to turn down hundreds of men who I would 100% bang because I don't have enough hours in my free time to meet all the men I *would* meet... but that doesn't mean I think I'm "something special"....
Imagine if you got 100 messages every day, and a third of them matched your attraction criteria, and 10 of them were top quality women - total 10s! Could you meet 30 people every single day? Could you met 10? You'd have to turn down most of them.
Does that mean you'd be deluded and thinking you're "something special"? No, it just means you're an adult who needs to manage his time.
Same with these "average birds".
I can't speak for the OP but I have seen other guys on threads basically stating that if they message a woman. . The woman should cancel other meets or interest and concentrate on them.
I think some people just really do rate themselves far too highly.
Also for some ladies just because a guy goes to the gym, that doesn't make them attractive.
As a bi man I've had plenty of male meets and bi couple meets in my life. . And to be honest the more toned they are usually means the less conversation they have.
There is definitely a correlation between how much gym you go to and your level of conversation. I think a lot of guys assume that "if I go gym, all the girls will love me and I don't have to even try".
It's a warped sense of entitlement than isn't very attractive at all."
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"I understand that single women and couples must get bombarded but it is tricky to not get fed up when people largely blank you or even worse are out and out rude to you in their response.
I'm happy to be patient, I'm not after hundreds of shags, just looking for the right couple or hotwife to come along..."
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"individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!
Yeah, this. Lol.
You keep using this word "delusion" but I don't think it means what you think it means.... lol
Like... it's kinda dangerous to assume that the reason women decline so many men is because they think they "something special" or they're trying to "belittle" men...
Like, I have to turn down hundreds of men who I would 100% bang because I don't have enough hours in my free time to meet all the men I *would* meet... but that doesn't mean I think I'm "something special"....
Imagine if you got 100 messages every day, and a third of them matched your attraction criteria, and 10 of them were top quality women - total 10s! Could you meet 30 people every single day? Could you met 10? You'd have to turn down most of them.
Does that mean you'd be deluded and thinking you're "something special"? No, it just means you're an adult who needs to manage his time.
Same with these "average birds".
I can't speak for the OP but I have seen other guys on threads basically stating that if they message a woman. . The woman should cancel other meets or interest and concentrate on them.
I think some people just really do rate themselves far too highly.
Also for some ladies just because a guy goes to the gym, that doesn't make them attractive.
As a bi man I've had plenty of male meets and bi couple meets in my life. . And to be honest the more toned they are usually means the less conversation they have.
There is definitely a correlation between how much gym you go to and your level of conversation. I think a lot of guys assume that "if I go gym, all the girls will love me and I don't have to even try".
It's a warped sense of entitlement than isn't very attractive at all.
Ok"
But on the other hand. .
Nice pecs !
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"I can't speak for the OP but I have seen other guys on threads basically stating that if they message a woman. . The woman should cancel other meets or interest and concentrate on them.
I think some people just really do rate themselves far too highly.
Also for some ladies just because a guy goes to the gym, that doesn't make them attractive.
As a bi man I've had plenty of male meets and bi couple meets in my life. . And to be honest the more toned they are usually means the less conversation they have.
There is definitely a correlation between how much gym you go to and your level of conversation. I think a lot of guys assume that "if I go gym, all the girls will love me and I don't have to even try".
It's a warped sense of entitlement than isn't very attractive at all."
100% this.
I've been lucky enough to bang some proper fitties through this site, and you know what? The correlation between no. of abs visible and ability in bed has been generally a negative trend... lol.
So I actively turn down the really toned hot guys now. They're not who I know I have a good time in bed with. |
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"I understand that single women and couples must get bombarded but it is tricky to not get fed up when people largely blank you or even worse are out and out rude to you in their response.
I'm happy to be patient, I'm not after hundreds of shags, just looking for the right couple or hotwife to come along...
This! "
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"I can't speak for the OP but I have seen other guys on threads basically stating that if they message a woman. . The woman should cancel other meets or interest and concentrate on them.
I think some people just really do rate themselves far too highly.
Also for some ladies just because a guy goes to the gym, that doesn't make them attractive.
As a bi man I've had plenty of male meets and bi couple meets in my life. . And to be honest the more toned they are usually means the less conversation they have.
There is definitely a correlation between how much gym you go to and your level of conversation. I think a lot of guys assume that "if I go gym, all the girls will love me and I don't have to even try".
It's a warped sense of entitlement than isn't very attractive at all.
100% this.
I've been lucky enough to bang some proper fitties through this site, and you know what? The correlation between no. of abs visible and ability in bed has been generally a negative trend... lol.
So I actively turn down the really toned hot guys now. They're not who I know I have a good time in bed with. "
So nice to hear someone so down to earth! Lol
I'm always available with my lack of 6 pack! *sniggers*
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"i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world.
Yeh but this isn't the outside world. Lol. This is fab. Where women can receive hundreds of messages every day.
Are you saying if you received hundreds of messages from women. Every. Single. Day. Without fail. That you would reply to every one of them, and ignore none of them?
Who has the time?! Lol
I don't think women care enough about the men messaging them to want to "belittle" them. Lol. It's not all about the men's poor feefees.
individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!
Sometimes when your not getting any response I will message someone what I seen below my standards to see if it's me or just how girls are on the sight. To prove a point to myself. Be a lie to say fab doesn't get u down sometimes and can play mind games on u. So yh I do message people sometimes who I wouldn't go with just to see if they respond.
And if they responded what would you do since you obviously don't really fancy them?
Seems a bit of a shit thing to do for your own experiment/amusement
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"individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!
Yeah, this. Lol.
You keep using this word "delusion" but I don't think it means what you think it means.... lol
Like... it's kinda dangerous to assume that the reason women decline so many men is because they think they "something special" or they're trying to "belittle" men...
Like, I have to turn down hundreds of men who I would 100% bang because I don't have enough hours in my free time to meet all the men I *would* meet... but that doesn't mean I think I'm "something special"....
Imagine if you got 100 messages every day, and a third of them matched your attraction criteria, and 10 of them were top quality women - total 10s! Could you meet 30 people every single day? Could you met 10? You'd have to turn down most of them.
Does that mean you'd be deluded and thinking you're "something special"? No, it just means you're an adult who needs to manage his time.
Same with these "average birds".
I can't speak for the OP but I have seen other guys on threads basically stating that if they message a woman. . The woman should cancel other meets or interest and concentrate on them.
I think some people just really do rate themselves far too highly.
Also for some ladies just because a guy goes to the gym, that doesn't make them attractive.
As a bi man I've had plenty of male meets and bi couple meets in my life. . And to be honest the more toned they are usually means the less conversation they have.
There is definitely a correlation between how much gym you go to and your level of conversation. I think a lot of guys assume that "if I go gym, all the girls will love me and I don't have to even try".
It's a warped sense of entitlement than isn't very attractive at all."
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"i wouldnt dream of ignoring or being rude to anyone on here or in the outside world.
Yeh but this isn't the outside world. Lol. This is fab. Where women can receive hundreds of messages every day.
Are you saying if you received hundreds of messages from women. Every. Single. Day. Without fail. That you would reply to every one of them, and ignore none of them?
Who has the time?! Lol
I don't think women care enough about the men messaging them to want to "belittle" them. Lol. It's not all about the men's poor feefees.
individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!
Sometimes when your not getting any response I will message someone what I seen below my standards to see if it's me or just how girls are on the sight. To prove a point to myself. Be a lie to say fab doesn't get u down sometimes and can play mind games on u. So yh I do message people sometimes who I wouldn't go with just to see if they respond.
And if they responded what would you do since you obviously don't really fancy them?
Seems a bit of a shit thing to do for your own experiment/amusement
Because he can.
Doesn't mean he should "
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"individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!
Yeah, this. Lol.
You keep using this word "delusion" but I don't think it means what you think it means.... lol
Like... it's kinda dangerous to assume that the reason women decline so many men is because they think they "something special" or they're trying to "belittle" men...
Like, I have to turn down hundreds of men who I would 100% bang because I don't have enough hours in my free time to meet all the men I *would* meet... but that doesn't mean I think I'm "something special"....
Imagine if you got 100 messages every day, and a third of them matched your attraction criteria, and 10 of them were top quality women - total 10s! Could you meet 30 people every single day? Could you met 10? You'd have to turn down most of them.
Does that mean you'd be deluded and thinking you're "something special"? No, it just means you're an adult who needs to manage his time.
Same with these "average birds".
I can't speak for the OP but I have seen other guys on threads basically stating that if they message a woman. . The woman should cancel other meets or interest and concentrate on them.
I think some people just really do rate themselves far too highly.
Also for some ladies just because a guy goes to the gym, that doesn't make them attractive.
As a bi man I've had plenty of male meets and bi couple meets in my life. . And to be honest the more toned they are usually means the less conversation they have.
There is definitely a correlation between how much gym you go to and your level of conversation. I think a lot of guys assume that "if I go gym, all the girls will love me and I don't have to even try".
It's a warped sense of entitlement than isn't very attractive at all.
Generally my experience of gym for guys, with one exception "
I go gym 5 days a week and I'm a qualified electrical mechanical engineer and I got character and I'm down to earth. Just cause someone keeps fit doesn't mean their shallow or have no brain. Dam that's judgemental at its best. |
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"individually no, but collectively they most definetly do! and the delusion is being an average bird but thinking there something special because they receive so many messages from an over populated swinging site. when there just not, really really most definetly not!
Agreed. But tbh I think it's the men's fault. The girls are only the way they are on here cause of the thirsty men. If all men on here stuck strong to their standards then the girls wouldn't end up with delusional standards. Same as the real world. If so many men stopped being pussy whipped fools then real men wouldn't struggle with below average girls thinking their models
I do hear what you are saying and might not totally disagree BUT at the end of the day no matter how you look at it. . .
If you don't have any luck with a lady that you deem to be below par as it were . . . What does that say about you?
Why are you even messaging these ladies? It would appear you would be lowering Your standards, which is what you are complaining about.
Just seems like a silly argument!
Yeah, this. Lol.
You keep using this word "delusion" but I don't think it means what you think it means.... lol
Like... it's kinda dangerous to assume that the reason women decline so many men is because they think they "something special" or they're trying to "belittle" men...
Like, I have to turn down hundreds of men who I would 100% bang because I don't have enough hours in my free time to meet all the men I *would* meet... but that doesn't mean I think I'm "something special"....
Imagine if you got 100 messages every day, and a third of them matched your attraction criteria, and 10 of them were top quality women - total 10s! Could you meet 30 people every single day? Could you met 10? You'd have to turn down most of them.
Does that mean you'd be deluded and thinking you're "something special"? No, it just means you're an adult who needs to manage his time.
Same with these "average birds".
I can't speak for the OP but I have seen other guys on threads basically stating that if they message a woman. . The woman should cancel other meets or interest and concentrate on them.
I think some people just really do rate themselves far too highly.
Also for some ladies just because a guy goes to the gym, that doesn't make them attractive.
As a bi man I've had plenty of male meets and bi couple meets in my life. . And to be honest the more toned they are usually means the less conversation they have.
There is definitely a correlation between how much gym you go to and your level of conversation. I think a lot of guys assume that "if I go gym, all the girls will love me and I don't have to even try".
It's a warped sense of entitlement than isn't very attractive at all.
Generally my experience of gym for guys, with one exception
I go gym 5 days a week and I'm a qualified electrical mechanical engineer and I got character and I'm down to earth. Just cause someone keeps fit doesn't mean their shallow or have no brain. Dam that's judgemental at its best. "
Ahh now that the shoe is on the other foot. . You don't like it.
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Woah, no one is saying gym people are shallow keep calm. Lol
You're the one that's basically saying "I'm really fit irl, why don't women want to fuck me on fab?" Lol. |
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I'm lost. I was just stating s point that if u go gym it doesn't make you stupid or Bain dead like some are getting at. And iv never said I was fit and amazing. Infact there has been quite a few girls I don't bother messaging cause I know id be punching high |
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"I'm lost. I was just stating s point that if u go gym it doesn't make you stupid or Bain dead like some are getting at. And iv never said I was fit and amazing. Infact there has been quite a few girls I don't bother messaging cause I know id be punching high "
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