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i would not let my mrs do that ???
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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so people youve just had a really good meet your all lying there and the guy you've invited into your home to play say's wow fair play to you guys cause there's no way id let my wife / gf do that .... lol it cant just be us lol as its happened s a few times now over the years good job we have thick skin and think ''cheeky fucker'' but it has now happened to mrs on her single profile and that must be a put off for single women ..... why say it guys lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"so people youve just had a really good meet your all lying there and the guy you've invited into your home to play say's wow fair play to you guys cause there's no way id let my wife / gf do that .... lol it cant just be us lol as its happened s a few times now over the years good job we have thick skin and think ''cheeky fucker'' but it has now happened to mrs on her single profile and that must be a put off for single women ..... why say it guys lol "
well I could not do it either .not knocking it but I could not . But I would not come out with it on a meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The easy solution is to not meet people who cheat on their partners. It's not even the lack of morals when people say this but the sheer hypocrisy of the statement. "
why is it hypocritical ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The easy solution is to not meet people who cheat on their partners. It's not even the lack of morals when people say this but the sheer hypocrisy of the statement. "
who said anything about them being married these guys have said it as if they were married .. big difference so we dont intentionly meet married as there is no way in hell of knowing for real anyway ... most of these comments come from single guys who say if they had a wife or girlfriend they would not allow her to swing ? ... nothing to do with guys being married . |
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Tone is important too. As they could genuinely mean if they were part of a couple they could not share. It does not mean they are part of a couple.
Conversely tone could also imply a lack of respect for the woman. As in I don't have respect for those women who enjoy sex with multiple men/women and would never consider a relationship with a woman 'like that' |
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To be fair I've had girlfriends who I've swung with and enjoyed watching guys fuck Them ..
But last year I really fell in love with an amazing woman and no way would i want her going with other guys ..
That's hypocritical I know |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be fair I've had girlfriends who I've swung with and enjoyed watching guys fuck Them ..
But last year I really fell in love with an amazing woman and no way would i want her going with other guys ..
That's hypocritical I know "
us swinging couples are in love you know lol ? i love my wife more than ever we were swinging even before we got married 19 years ago |
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"To be fair I've had girlfriends who I've swung with and enjoyed watching guys fuck Them ..
But last year I really fell in love with an amazing woman and no way would i want her going with other guys ..
That's hypocritical I know "
So what you are saying is that she is happy that you swing on your own but you don't want her to swing. Bit one sided if you ask me, but if that works for both of you.
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"The easy solution is to not meet people who cheat on their partners. It's not even the lack of morals when people say this but the sheer hypocrisy of the statement. why is it hypocritical ? "
You really have to ask? The fact that he/she is happy to fuck someone elses partner but they'd never let their own do it speaks volumes to me. It implies that those with a partner who swing are somehow lesser in morals and standards and their partner would be 'too good' to experience this scene. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The easy solution is to not meet people who cheat on their partners. It's not even the lack of morals when people say this but the sheer hypocrisy of the statement. why is it hypocritical ?
You really have to ask? The fact that he/she is happy to fuck someone elses partner but they'd never let their own do it speaks volumes to me. It implies that those with a partner who swing are somehow lesser in morals and standards and their partner would be 'too good' to experience this scene."
No it doesn't |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The easy solution is to not meet people who cheat on their partners. It's not even the lack of morals when people say this but the sheer hypocrisy of the statement. why is it hypocritical ?
You really have to ask? The fact that he/she is happy to fuck someone elses partner but they'd never let their own do it speaks volumes to me. It implies that those with a partner who swing are somehow lesser in morals and standards and their partner would be 'too good' to experience this scene."
Yes I do have to ask . And no not at all do I think that they are lesser in morals at all . I would not share a partner I was with . If a couple are happy too and it's something they enjoy good on them . So I should never meet couples because I would not do it ? Is that what you are saying ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We've had it a few times, doesn't really bother us. Some people get off on their partner fucking others and some don't. We very much do so doesn't matter to us  if they're being cheeky on purpose we wouldn't invite them back |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've had it a few times, doesn't really bother us. Some people get off on their partner fucking others and some don't. We very much do so doesn't matter to us if they're being cheeky on purpose we wouldn't invite them back "
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"The easy solution is to not meet people who cheat on their partners. It's not even the lack of morals when people say this but the sheer hypocrisy of the statement. why is it hypocritical ?
You really have to ask? The fact that he/she is happy to fuck someone elses partner but they'd never let their own do it speaks volumes to me. It implies that those with a partner who swing are somehow lesser in morals and standards and their partner would be 'too good' to experience this scene."
could be a jealousy issue? i'm quite amazed (and admire) that swingers have that level of trust and are not jealous of someone else fucking their partner.
it's not something i'd participate in personally though. not sure if i would get jealous but i know if i fall for someone then i'd like to be selfish and 'keep him to myself', if he let me (and i'd only be looking for a guy like that really). |
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We prefer to play with men who, if they were in a relationship, they would still want to swing as a couple. In fact I don't think it's coincidence that all the single men who have been significant on our swinging journey, have been of a similar mindset to ourself regarding sharing partners. I suspect we subconsciously avoid those who can't relate to what we do.
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"We prefer to play with men who, if they were in a relationship, they would still want to swing as a couple. In fact I don't think it's coincidence that all the single men who have been significant on our swinging journey, have been of a similar mindset to ourself regarding sharing partners. I suspect we subconsciously avoid those who can't relate to what we do.
Mrs"
And that's your choice and guys respect that . But some couples just want to meet single guys . They don't care if they would or not . They are doing it for there own fun not the guys |
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"Tone is important too. As they could genuinely mean if they were part of a couple they could not share. It does not mean they are part of a couple.
Conversely tone could also imply a lack of respect for the woman. As in I don't have respect for those women who enjoy sex with multiple men/women and would never consider a relationship with a woman 'like that'"
I think this is the thing... Though personally I would say such comments are inappropriate.
To be fair the concept is something most non-swingers struggle with. It's hard for others to accept and understand why you enjoy the person you love have sex with another.
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"We prefer to play with men who, if they were in a relationship, they would still want to swing as a couple. In fact I don't think it's coincidence that all the single men who have been significant on our swinging journey, have been of a similar mindset to ourself regarding sharing partners. I suspect we subconsciously avoid those who can't relate to what we do.
Mrs And that's your choice and guys respect that . But some couples just want to meet single guys . They don't care if they would or not . They are doing it for there own fun not the guys "
We do it for the fun of everyone. I guess that's the difference in the mindset of swingers and swingles. |
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"We prefer to play with men who, if they were in a relationship, they would still want to swing as a couple. In fact I don't think it's coincidence that all the single men who have been significant on our swinging journey, have been of a similar mindset to ourself regarding sharing partners. I suspect we subconsciously avoid those who can't relate to what we do.
Mrs And that's your choice and guys respect that . But some couples just want to meet single guys . They don't care if they would or not . They are doing it for there own fun not the guys
We do it for the fun of everyone. I guess that's the difference in the mindset of swingers and swingles. "
Yeah maybe |
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"We prefer to play with men who, if they were in a relationship, they would still want to swing as a couple. In fact I don't think it's coincidence that all the single men who have been significant on our swinging journey, have been of a similar mindset to ourself regarding sharing partners. I suspect we subconsciously avoid those who can't relate to what we do.
Mrs And that's your choice and guys respect that . But some couples just want to meet single guys . They don't care if they would or not . They are doing it for there own fun not the guys "
I didn't say we choose to pursue men who think like us. I say it probably isn't coincidence that we end up with men who think like us. Case of like attracts like maybe? |
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"We prefer to play with men who, if they were in a relationship, they would still want to swing as a couple. In fact I don't think it's coincidence that all the single men who have been significant on our swinging journey, have been of a similar mindset to ourself regarding sharing partners. I suspect we subconsciously avoid those who can't relate to what we do.
Mrs And that's your choice and guys respect that . But some couples just want to meet single guys . They don't care if they would or not . They are doing it for there own fun not the guys
I didn't say we choose to pursue men who think like us. I say it probably isn't coincidence that we end up with men who think like us. Case of like attracts like maybe?"
In fact I'm going to have to add to that. Our experience on the swing scene, and from Hotwifing, has led me to believe that men who would do this, or have done this themselves, are much better at the threeway dynamic that we believe is necessary for a truly fulfilling threesome. I think it's because they understand what we are going through.
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"We prefer to play with men who, if they were in a relationship, they would still want to swing as a couple. In fact I don't think it's coincidence that all the single men who have been significant on our swinging journey, have been of a similar mindset to ourself regarding sharing partners. I suspect we subconsciously avoid those who can't relate to what we do.
Mrs And that's your choice and guys respect that . But some couples just want to meet single guys . They don't care if they would or not . They are doing it for there own fun not the guys
I didn't say we choose to pursue men who think like us. I say it probably isn't coincidence that we end up with men who think like us. Case of like attracts like maybe?"
It's not so much like attracts like as we've had some great meets with people we had nothing in common with apart from fancying each other. Whereas we've had the most awesome meets with people who like our music, have the same stupid sense of humour and general outlook on life and that can all be picked up through the communication. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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An ex of mine would allow me to meet other girls with him but never other guys. To me there was no difference between the two. He said it was because of his jealousy issues that he couldn't handle watching another guy fucking me.  |
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We've had it said to us loads of times .
We totally understand where they are coming from as until we got together , we wouldn't have dreamed of doing this either .
As long as we all have a good time , we don't mind guys saying this at all . And I happily explain how it turns me on , and that my wife loves to enjoy herself the way she does .
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"We've had it said to us loads of times .
We totally understand where they are coming from as until we got together , we wouldn't have dreamed of doing this either .
As long as we all have a good time , we don't mind guys saying this at all . And I happily explain how it turns me on , and that my wife loves to enjoy herself the way she does .
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I thought you were doing something extreme! 
