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Seems we have missed the boat here, so many profiles state the high end age bracket is 45 !!!!! MrsD is now 47 but does not look it!! everyone we seem to look at that we fancy the look of ends at the dreaded 45 years old. If you meet in a club and fancy someone would you ask there age to find out if they fall in your age brackets???  . We tend to go on if we fancy them!!! are they sexy!!! if they tick the box we would play sod there ages!!!!  . |
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"Seems we have missed the boat here, so many profiles state the high end age bracket is 45 !!!!! MrsD is now 47 but does not look it!! everyone we seem to look at that we fancy the look of ends at the dreaded 45 years old. If you meet in a club and fancy someone would you ask there age to find out if they fall in your age brackets??? . We tend to go on if we fancy them!!! are they sexy!!! if they tick the box we would play sod there ages!!!! . "
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Surely if you find them attractive what part does age play.The age bracket thing is useful in profiles in that we all tend to categorise what we think certain age groups may look like but its a generalisation of course.
If someone floats your boat but dont necessarily fall into that criteria folllow the current so to speak !! |
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Like anything in life, nothing is set in stone.
Do not be put off by contacting someone or couples who have set age limits. They will have the oppurtunity to 'hopefully' read you message (include face pictures to show how young looking you both are.) If they decide you are a sexy couple and would like to find out more, then they will reply, if not then.. move onto the next profile you fancy  |
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"Surely if you find them attractive what part does age play.The age bracket thing is useful in profiles in that we all tend to categorise what we think certain age groups may look like but its a generalisation of course.
If someone floats your boat but dont necessarily fall into that criteria folllow the current so to speak !!"
Agreed !!!!!!!! but we mailed someone the other day and it stated why have you mailed me have you not read the profile??? we read again and the only box that we wcould see that didn't fit was the age 45 limit grrrrrrrr  |
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"Looking at your pics, we don't think your Mrs' age would cause us any problems!"
Totally agree.. lol.. (but does everyones faces become blurry after a certain age.. giggles and runs for their lives..lol) xx |
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"Looking at your pics, we don't think your Mrs' age would cause us any problems!
Totally agree.. lol.. (but does everyones faces become blurry after a certain age.. giggles and runs for their lives..lol) xx "
BIT EARLY FOR DRINKING lolololol |
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I put 45 onwards, cos i like the older man im afraid its my thing lol. Sorry to the younger guys, but i feel older men respect women more and not there for just a quick one night stand which is not what i want, i can get that anywhere pretty much lol. |
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"Looking at your pics, we don't think your Mrs' age would cause us any problems!
Totally agree.. lol.. (but does everyones faces become blurry after a certain age.. giggles and runs for their lives..lol) xx
BIT EARLY FOR DRINKING lolololol "
Hic... Hic... ave nor idea wat u r imp...hic...lyin sir  |
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"Looking at your pics, we don't think your Mrs' age would cause us any problems!
Totally agree.. lol.. (but does everyones faces become blurry after a certain age.. giggles and runs for their lives..lol) xx
BIT EARLY FOR DRINKING lolololol
Hic... Hic... ave nor idea wat u r imp...hic...lyin sir "
LOL Nice one !!!!!!! |
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Both looking good for your age, so good one almost doesn't believe the photos are current. Am sure they are, but can imagine others having that thought and clicking on through.
I think the age selection thing is different at clubs, its very much of the moment, and how the flirting has been going for the last 30 minutes or so.
I find the people happy to natter and actually talk to clubs tend to be the older ones, younger couples tend to hide in the corner, and young blokes just stalk.
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" well i have not missed the boat in 40s as feel 20s in my head and still having loads of fun xxxx its a number and you look fab xx "
Thank you for the look fab!!! We have lots of fun BUT we wouldnt normally mail anyone we don't tick all the boxes.... that does not mean we don't like what we have seen just dont fit there profile  which like we say can be a little frustrating as if we met one to one they MIGHT feel diffrent  |
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" well i have not missed the boat in 40s as feel 20s in my head and still having loads of fun xxxx its a number and you look fab xx "
We agree you are only as old as you feel, older we get more fun we are having |
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" well i have not missed the boat in 40s as feel 20s in my head and still having loads of fun xxxx its a number and you look fab xx We agree you are only as old as you feel, older we get more fun we are having "
age thing dont come into it for me if i like the look of them ...... its fine .. younger or older i just have to like the look and how thay come across to me . |
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" well i have not missed the boat in 40s as feel 20s in my head and still having loads of fun xxxx its a number and you look fab xx We agree you are only as old as you feel, older we get more fun we are having age thing dont come into it for me if i like the look of them ...... its fine .. younger or older i just have to like the look and how thay come across to me ."
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having a look at the pics on your profile 1 or 2 things stand out for me
the male in the photo of the holiday snap of 2 people together (which i wud thought is you two together) and the male pic thats solo dont seem to match .. one is ALOT more tonned up that the other .
this is something that would put me off
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Seems we have missed the boat here, so many profiles state the high end age bracket is 45 !!!!! MrsD is now 47 but does not look it!! everyone we seem to look at that we fancy the look of ends at the dreaded 45 years old. If you meet in a club and fancy someone would you ask there age to find out if they fall in your age brackets??? . We tend to go on if we fancy them!!! are they sexy!!! if they tick the box we would play sod there ages!!!! . "
tip for you....
those who have "age ranges" of there own aren't really in a position to be complaining about someone elses... |
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"having a look at the pics on your profile 1 or 2 things stand out for me
the male in the photo of the holiday snap of 2 people together (which i wud thought is you two together) and the male pic thats solo dont seem to match .. one is ALOT more tonned up that the other .
this is something that would put me off
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Check out The TattoosSame guy i can assure you |
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"Seems we have missed the boat here, so many profiles state the high end age bracket is 45 !!!!! MrsD is now 47 but does not look it!! everyone we seem to look at that we fancy the look of ends at the dreaded 45 years old. If you meet in a club and fancy someone would you ask there age to find out if they fall in your age brackets??? . We tend to go on if we fancy them!!! are they sexy!!! if they tick the box we would play sod there ages!!!! .
tip for you....
those who have "age ranges" of there own aren't really in a position to be complaining about someone elses..."
We have put our age range after much research as to the people that like to meet our age range...... have never rejected anyone because of age i can assure you BUT you do have a valid point maybe we should change it |
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"Which fools are going to turn you two down?
You would be surprised lololol
Mind you we do smoke and fully understand people not liking that!!!!! 
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Ah well that would make me one of those fools then - I wouldnt meet smokers so its mebbes not an age thing? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I am not saying change it at all....that then wouldn't reperesent the true you..
all I would say, however, is that be aware that others may have gone thru the same original thinking as you..... and that what you have now come across is one of those consequences of those "decisions"
three words...
such..... is....... life! |
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"I am not saying change it at all....that then wouldn't reperesent the true you..
all I would say, however, is that be aware that others may have gone thru the same original thinking as you..... and that what you have now come across is one of those consequences of those "decisions"
three words...
such..... is....... life!"
This thread was started more about the age cut off of 45 and why a LOT of people pick 45 ?? |
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well you look good for a older bloke then
i put a cut off age of 38 altho if someone is 45 ish and looks in good shape and looks 35-40 and has a nice personality then i wudnt mind so much its more the big fat beer belly 40 yr olds im not keen on |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I am not saying change it at all....that then wouldn't reperesent the true you..
all I would say, however, is that be aware that others may have gone thru the same original thinking as you..... and that what you have now come across is one of those consequences of those "decisions"
three words...
such..... is....... life!
This thread was started more about the age cut off of 45 and why a LOT of people pick 45 ?? "
well you chose the age range of 35 to 55 on your profile.... so why did you "choose" that???
because the answer you give to that question is probably going to be the same answer you will recieve from a lot of people in regards to yours.... |
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body shape seems quite important to many
for me, it is all in the face
give me somebody with a nice face and a naturalbody any day over a greek god with a face like an old shopping bag |
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" well you look good for a older bloke then
i put a cut off age of 38 altho if someone is 45 ish and looks in good shape and looks 35-40 and has a nice personality then i wudnt mind so much its more the big fat beer belly 40 yr olds im not keen on "
Totally Understand !!!!!!!! |
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" well you look good for a older bloke then
i put a cut off age of 38 altho if someone is 45 ish and looks in good shape and looks 35-40 and has a nice personality then i wudnt mind so much its more the big fat beer belly 40 yr olds im not keen on "
Bloody hell !!!!!!!!! Older bloke !!! lololol OMG i am |
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"Well I think you are both gorgeous... gosh why does she want to share you I wouldnt.... Im way above most peoples age range good job im only looking .."
Thank You !!! i'll have to askher that question ??? never thought of it like that before lololol |
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These forums make me smile: honestly they do.
I've seen hapless young single men bemoaning the fact people don't want to meet them because of their age. Some people (on this thread) have ripped them a new one, telling them to get over themselves, stop bitching about other peoples preferences, no matter how hot you think you are you're not going to appeal to everone...and variations along those lines.
A couple, indignant that people don't want to meet them post a whining, ego massaging seeking thread and lo and behold the sycophants are out in force!
C'est la vie! |
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were 48 and 46 and meet lovely couples of all ages, just a matter of clicking ewith the right couple and youll be fine. my Wife Luisa is also younger looking and can stand up against many young girls and be admired shes gorgeous, great body too...Im sure with patience and politness it will happen. stick with it. |
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"Seems we have missed the boat here, so many profiles state the high end age bracket is 45 !!!!! MrsD is now 47 but does not look it!! everyone we seem to look at that we fancy the look of ends at the dreaded 45 years old. If you meet in a club and fancy someone would you ask there age to find out if they fall in your age brackets??? . We tend to go on if we fancy them!!! are they sexy!!! if they tick the box we would play sod there ages!!!! . "
I find sex with older women a big turn on anyway.
I prefer sex with a 47 year old than with a 27 year old tbh.
Especially one as sexy as MrsD.  |
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surely the age limits act only as a guideline in most cases ?
they are, in my case at least, preferences as opposed to definate constraints
if someone outside that age bracket contacted me and i fancied them then they would be in with a chance.
by the same token, if someone from within the age bracket contacted me and i didn't fancy them, then i'd tell um !
there are so many variables, age being one, on which we make the decision to meet or not |
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i love older the older ther better for me those my age dont attract me or havent done up to now , never say never but im drawn to older esp the v much older so ther are thos out there who want mature guys n gals (i wasnt saying ur very much older infact ur borderlne old enuf for me i was simply saying i LOVE alot older than u ) |
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I have been playing with the swinging/adult nsa field for most of my adult life and I agree that once you hit 40 (especially as a single male) you either become invisible or fall outside most peoples search criteria.
I neither feel my age, nor look it (I am often told this) and get frustrated by this almost invisible 40+ barrier. |
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Its down to personal choice, I have a age range and stick to it and get annoyed when someone ignores it and messages anyway, the op has choices in their profile of no ample and of a certain appearance so I wouldnt message them as I am ample
Choice is a good thing |
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Whilst I don't fall into many peoples age category any more what offers I do get tend to yield quality rather than quantity which I find far more rewarding |
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I think the problem on this forum, is that most of us are either in the 40/45+ age group.
I accept that it helps to have options to limit who can message you but it can be frustrating.
Some guys in their 30's look and act a lot older than I look or act and am sure I can still give most guys in their 20's and 30's a run for their money in the stamina stakes, not to mention equipment and experience. |
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I find the age limits frustrating too I Hit 48 on the 27th July but most people say I look younger and I am bloody fit for may age as I do workd out and do a lot of activity.
yet My age puts people off. Yes i do send a polite message to people with a 45 cut off date often to get a rude reply about my age.
So unfortunatly yes age does seem to mtter on this site. |
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By *icboyMan
over a year ago
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Don't people know that life only starts after 45.
Usually our kids are gone to live their own lives.
I am 49 in around 4 weeks, and employ 3 under 25's and I am in before them, live after they are long gone. And have the stamina for party time at night. Well mostly.
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"These forums make me smile: honestly they do.
I've seen hapless young single men bemoaning the fact people don't want to meet them because of their age. Some people (on this thread) have ripped them a new one, telling them to get over themselves, stop bitching about other peoples preferences, no matter how hot you think you are you're not going to appeal to everone...and variations along those lines.
A couple, indignant that people don't want to meet them post a whining, ego massaging seeking thread and lo and behold the sycophants are out in force!
C'est la vie!"
At the risk of being a sycophant..... (lol) I do kind of agree with most of this. People put want they want on their profiles to narrow the field and maximise their chances of finding a good match. It is reasonable and allowed that they do so. Most of the time it is just a guide but I do have to admit that I would rather give a incompatible detail on our profiles than say look I just don't fancy you...its kinder. There are usually exceptions to every rule but that is of course at the discetion of the mailee. They are afterall just stopping you from wasting your time on them if they aren't interested. Can only speak for us but we do look at people as individuals and if they dont fit one or two things we ask for but we still feel we could be good together we may meet for a social to see. Doesn't matter who you are or how attractive you are considered you just weren't a good match. Its tough for soft swap couples on here and meeting smokers isn't for everyone either. What I'm saying using far too many words is....likely it wasn't just the two year age discepancy. Its just human nature to prefer to believe it is. Clubs and parties are easier for sure. People don't need to assess whether or not arranging to meet would be a gamble too far. Maybe easier to swap numbers at parties. As for the bit about double standards sassy mentioned...well maybe that's due to the ages of the majority of posters being let's say at the more mature end of the age scale often not being prepared to meet young guys or couples. Just my opinion of course and I am generalising but its how I see it. Good luck to op anyway. Have a feeling you will find your fun one way or another!
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"Don't people know that life only starts after 45.
Usually our kids are gone to live their own lives.
I am 49 in around 4 weeks, and employ 3 under 25's and I am in before them, live after they are long gone. And have the stamina for party time at night. Well mostly.
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when we meeting , lol xxxx kisses you xx |
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"Seems we have missed the boat here, so many profiles state the high end age bracket is 45 !!!!! MrsD is now 47 but does not look it!! everyone we seem to look at that we fancy the look of ends at the dreaded 45 years old. If you meet in a club and fancy someone would you ask there age to find out if they fall in your age brackets??? . We tend to go on if we fancy them!!! are they sexy!!! if they tick the box we would play sod there ages!!!! . "
but we are all different, i have met many guys i have liked but turned down due to their age
i feel wierd playing with guys under 30 and even if i have met them in the flesh and they have been nice guys ive got on with i still wouldnt play with them based purely on their age
And i turn guys down on here on a daily basis just because of their age be them older or younger than what im looking for
its all about choice |
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We added an upper age limit as I was sick and tired of 50-60 year old guys messaging. WHY would a 30 year old (me!) want to fuck a 60 year old? Especially when that 30 year old's own mother was only 48 at the time!!! Wrong, wrong, wrong!
We have gone outside our own age limits if a message has made us smile and it's only slightly (we're seeing one such person this weekend) but it has stopped totally unsuitable ages mailing us.
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To be honest, I am not that bothered about being in the high bracket nor am I from the other angle. If I meet someone and we hit it off, then we go further but to be honest, its the younger ones I would pass by |
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"Don't people know that life only starts after 45.
Usually our kids are gone to live their own lives.
I am 49 in around 4 weeks, and employ 3 under 25's and I am in before them, live after they are long gone. And have the stamina for party time at night. Well mostly.
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I would agree with that as I, for my second job, work shifts in a pub, the young ones all drink energy drinks like its water, I rely on my own energy and stamina |
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"I find the age limits frustrating too I Hit 48 on the 27th July but most people say I look younger and I am bloody fit for may age as I do workd out and do a lot of activity.
yet My age puts people off. Yes i do send a polite message to people with a 45 cut off date often to get a rude reply about my age.
So unfortunatly yes age does seem to mtter on this site. "
I would agree with that too about age mattering. However on the other hand, those that look older than their years, have not been worth a 2nd visit, on the other hand those that don't get many more. As to your age mattering, for me it doesn't, only the distance does |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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shame they took out the age restriction they original had as that wasn't my intention in flaging that up...
the point i was trying to get across was that they had that in for a reason,and those would be genuine to them..... and to try and understand better why others had there and to be considerate of those even if they didn't agree.. just as other would have to be considerate of theirs.... hence the "such is life" comment....
now i don't it the profile truely reflect them.. as they had it in there to begin with... |
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"Seems we have missed the boat here, so many profiles state the high end age bracket is 45 !!!!! MrsD is now 47 but does not look it!! everyone we seem to look at that we fancy the look of ends at the dreaded 45 years old. If you meet in a club and fancy someone would you ask there age to find out if they fall in your age brackets??? . We tend to go on if we fancy them!!! are they sexy!!! if they tick the box we would play sod there ages!!!! .
tip for you....
those who have "age ranges" of there own aren't really in a position to be complaining about someone elses..."
Brilliant! lol  |
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"These forums make me smile: honestly they do.
I've seen hapless young single men bemoaning the fact people don't want to meet them because of their age. Some people (on this thread) have ripped them a new one, telling them to get over themselves, stop bitching about other peoples preferences, no matter how hot you think you are you're not going to appeal to everone...and variations along those lines.
A couple, indignant that people don't want to meet them post a whining, ego massaging seeking thread and lo and behold the sycophants are out in force!
C'est la vie!"
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I find the age limits frustrating too I Hit 48 on the 27th July but most people say I look younger and I am bloody fit for may age as I do workd out and do a lot of activity.
yet My age puts people off. Yes i do send a polite message to people with a 45 cut off date often to get a rude reply about my age.
So unfortunatly yes age does seem to mtter on this site. "
see the irony of that is that you have an upper age limit of 57.... so is it okay for you the have some sort of limit but not others.....
and that was the point i was trying to make to the OP and the other people in this thread who have complained...
you have your reasons for deciding age ranges... others have theirs.... respect theirs and they would respect yours
just live and let live..... |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I have been playing with the swinging/adult nsa field for most of my adult life and I agree that once you hit 40 (especially as a single male) you either become invisible or fall outside most peoples search criteria.
I neither feel my age, nor look it (I am often told this) and get frustrated by this almost invisible 40+ barrier."
and again another one who had an upper limit, this time 48 on your profile..... so again i would ask the same question... is it okay for you to have limits but not for others?????
another for the box marked irony..... |
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there are couples on this site half your age
that dnot have the bodys as yummmy!! as yous two
if you ever find yourselfs in belfast
we would play with yous anytime!!
mrs hotones1 xxx |
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"I have been playing with the swinging/adult nsa field for most of my adult life and I agree that once you hit 40 (especially as a single male) you either become invisible or fall outside most peoples search criteria.
I neither feel my age, nor look it (I am often told this) and get frustrated by this almost invisible 40+ barrier.
and again another one who had an upper limit, this time 48 on your profile..... so again i would ask the same question... is it okay for you to have limits but not for others?????
another for the box marked irony....."
Come on now Fabio: haven't you realised yet that some people are allowed preferences whilst others are...as long as it doesn't exclude them! |
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