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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's my fantasy to meet another mans wife, a slightly older women. Every time the conversation starts to flow it feels like the male of the couple puts a stop to it. Anyone got any advice or a hot wife haha? In the South East or North East. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Make sure the husband isn't marginalised. Ideally become his mate. If you and him have nothing in common it's unlikely to happen. Remember there needs to be theeeway dynamic in this arrangement and everybody is important in the trio.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Make sure the husband isn't marginalised. Ideally become his mate. If you and him have nothing in common it's unlikely to happen. Remember there needs to be theeeway dynamic in this arrangement and everybody is important in the trio.
Mrs"
Well said  |
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It's the fella who is always gonna cock block you so make sure you chat to him or he will feel like your trying to take his wife. Think of it as borrowing your mates car your gonna talk to your mate and not the car. Tell him your gonna take real good care of it and he might just let you drive it for a while |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's the fella who is always gonna cock block you so make sure you chat to him or he will feel like your trying to take his wife. Think of it as borrowing your mates car your gonna talk to your mate and not the car. Tell him your gonna take real good care of it and he might just let you drive it for a while"
That's a great analogy. Love it. |
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By *anm2009Man
over a year ago
Barrow-in-Furness |
That's exactly right we have an amazing dynamic with another man who understands our needs and we are both happy to let him dominate us in our thresome to everyone mutual satisfaction and its all about trust and how far we want to take it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Make sure the husband isn't marginalised. Ideally become his mate. If you and him have nothing in common it's unlikely to happen. Remember there needs to be theeeway dynamic in this arrangement and everybody is important in the trio.
Mrs"
This is the best advice I've seen on the forums for ages....spot on!  |
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It is a young guys fantasy,, doesn't bother me as I look for younger guys,, but they forget I'm married,, and leave my husband out the equation, even if we are arranging an mmf, I've probably had a hand full of guys ask for a pic of both of us!! |
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Like all have said as well as chatting up the wife and letting her know you want fun with her make sure you chat with husband , we bring our wife's out and want to make sure they have a good night .we like to know when a guy wants to fuck our other halfs , we also may want to give you tips on what she likes most , and most of all we want to set out the rules , and if you do get lucky with the couple don't panic when the husband wants to join in as it will be only with the wife  |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"It is a young guys fantasy,, doesn't bother me as I look for younger guys,, but they forget I'm married,, and leave my husband out the equation, even if we are arranging an mmf, I've probably had a hand full of guys ask for a pic of both of us!! "
I just don't get how guys think like this. I have spent more time chatting to the hubby's of couples than the females if I'm honest. I find it adds to the excitement and fun. Sometimes me and the hubby have hatched little plans on how to surprise her, which have been great fun for all 3 of us.
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"Make sure the husband isn't marginalised. Ideally become his mate. If you and him have nothing in common it's unlikely to happen. Remember there needs to be theeeway dynamic in this arrangement and everybody is important in the trio.
Mrs"
Spot on advice. I will stop any guy meeting my wife if I don't feel included or part of the process and in our situation I answer 90% of the messages and arrange the meets. |
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We have tried to arrange a 3some a few times now and it usually starts out well with all 3 people chatting, I the male take a slight step back in the conversation but a few times the single guy has started talking as if I won't be there (not what we look for) some guys think it's a cuckold scenario (not what we want) or even worse just totally blank me.
I need to have a good rapour with the other guy before I would want to share my partner with you.
We have decided not to look for a while no and meet couples |
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"We have tried to arrange a 3some a few times now and it usually starts out well with all 3 people chatting, I the male take a slight step back in the conversation but a few times the single guy has started talking as if I won't be there (not what we look for) some guys think it's a cuckold scenario (not what we want) or even worse just totally blank me.
I need to have a good rapour with the other guy before I would want to share my partner with you.
We have decided not to look for a while no and meet couples"
We experience this frequently also. Such as shame  |
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"We have tried to arrange a 3some a few times now and it usually starts out well with all 3 people chatting, I the male take a slight step back in the conversation but a few times the single guy has started talking as if I won't be there (not what we look for) some guys think it's a cuckold scenario (not what we want) or even worse just totally blank me.
I need to have a good rapour with the other guy before I would want to share my partner with you.
We have decided not to look for a while no and meet couples
We experience this frequently also. Such as shame "
It is a shame, Mrs is really up for a mmf 3some but are still a little nervous so need to build a relationship with the guy over chat and a social to ease the nerves. I think we are going to borrow the male of one of our regular couples or try it at a club. The bonus of borrowing a couple is that we would have to borrow the female too another night |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have tried to arrange a 3some a few times now and it usually starts out well with all 3 people chatting, I the male take a slight step back in the conversation but a few times the single guy has started talking as if I won't be there (not what we look for) some guys think it's a cuckold scenario (not what we want) or even worse just totally blank me.
I need to have a good rapour with the other guy before I would want to share my partner with you.
We have decided not to look for a while no and meet couples"
It is shame seems like most hotwifes couples experience
similar issues.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be hard for us guys as so many are very direct and assume as a couple if you are looking and you have had a few chats then its game on! In the real world its hardly likely to happen like that and to be fair having met a couple for 18 month its best to socialise with the guy more than anything, as that can open up so many doors for you and new experiences arise! Shame some couples have to talk to the prats before they find someone who respects what they want and are not trying to take what they have! Enjoy the search people... |
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"It can be hard for us guys as so many are very direct and assume as a couple if you are looking and you have had a few chats then its game on! In the real world its hardly likely to happen like that and to be fair having met a couple for 18 month its best to socialise with the guy more than anything, as that can open up so many doors for you and new experiences arise! Shame some couples have to talk to the prats before they find someone who respects what they want and are not trying to take what they have! Enjoy the search people... "
This is true we like to chat and get to know the gut and are usually looking with the intention of ongoing meets not just a 1 off |
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"It can be hard for us guys as so many are very direct and assume as a couple if you are looking and you have had a few chats then its game on! In the real world its hardly likely to happen like that and to be fair having met a couple for 18 month its best to socialise with the guy more than anything, as that can open up so many doors for you and new experiences arise! Shame some couples have to talk to the prats before they find someone who respects what they want and are not trying to take what they have! Enjoy the search people...
This is true we like to chat and get to know the gut and are usually looking with the intention of ongoing meets not just a 1 off "
Same here. We've practically given up on the idea of regular guys now as majority say they want regular but quickly vanish once they ticked us off their hotlist  and we even had one guy boast that our verification was his golden ticket and got a few from it (which is fine as that's how Fabs works) but we felt we were no good for him after that and was just used to get to meet other couples more attractive than us as he was conveniently never available to meet again 
One offs are fun though if you can find a nice gentleman |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
One piece of advice... Make sure you know what the COUPLE want and remember they are a COUPLE. Address them as a COUPLE. And like it or not remember YOU are THEIR plaything not the other way around.
It is hard to put labels on things because everyone is different but generally speaking be sure to know if they are a cuckold couple or a Hotwife couple...big difference. Be sure to know if the husband wants to be involved physically as a proper threesome of if their fantasy is that you and the wife do your thing without him there.
Finally remember that it is a priviledge to be invited by a couple to enter into their relationship, even if only for a few hours. No matter how open ,indeed and Pervy they are, it is still always a slight risk to allow others into their private space. So respect that.
If you do...you will be invited back again and again...and with familiarity and trust the naughtiness gets even better!!!!! |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
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Actually one more comment...
I think because Fab is free or cheap then it has a lot of people, particularly guys, who are just chancing their arm rather than being serious about being swingers.
Some of the more serious swinger sites tend to have guys who "get it" and because they do then they also "get it" a lot more too
The best single guys we have ever met were actually ones who entered the lifestyle originally as couples!
The guys who are smart enough to know how to play the game are the ones who will ultimately have the most fun. Too many guys are quite frankly idiots who think everyone on here is happy to fuck everyone on here! |
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"Actually one more comment...
I think because Fab is free or cheap then it has a lot of people, particularly guys, who are just chancing their arm rather than being serious about being swingers.
Some of the more serious swinger sites tend to have guys who "get it" and because they do then they also "get it" a lot more too
The best single guys we have ever met were actually ones who entered the lifestyle originally as couples!
The guys who are smart enough to know how to play the game are the ones who will ultimately have the most fun. Too many guys are quite frankly idiots who think everyone on here is happy to fuck everyone on here!"
This could be exactly it, we haven't started conversation with a guy in this situation and it could be the answer.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's the fella who is always gonna cock block you so make sure you chat to him or he will feel like your trying to take his wife. Think of it as borrowing your mates car your gonna talk to your mate and not the car. Tell him your gonna take real good care of it and he might just let you drive it for a while"
Thanks for the advice. Hey, Steve, can I take Zoe out for a spin. I promise not to ramp the guts out of her and make sure I fill her up before I bring her back and give her a good wash and wax?.. |
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