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Curious as to how many couples off fab would let there wives have a 'boyfriend' i.e a guy the wife meets both alone and as part of a couple, goes on dates, keeps in contact daily etc.
For those who would like that would you consider yourself a cuckold couple?
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Would not let wife have one as boyfriend but there are two guys I allow her to play alone with , at house or hotel , all other play with guys is at club either in group mmf or if she playing alone in club with nee guys it must be in open areas or with doors left open |
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"Isn't that incredibly dodgy ground?!
That's a bit more than swinging. "
It seems it to me,doesn't a boyfriend involve feeling and emotions. Does no-one worry those feelings may go to far and they end up leaving you for the boyfriend? |
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"Isn't that incredibly dodgy ground?!
That's a bit more than swinging.
It seems it to me,doesn't a boyfriend involve feeling and emotions. Does no-one worry those feelings may go to far and they end up leaving you for the boyfriend?"
Indeed that is the risk/danger and I am sure that may be an appeal to some |
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"Isn't that incredibly dodgy ground?!
That's a bit more than swinging.
It seems it to me,doesn't a boyfriend involve feeling and emotions. Does no-one worry those feelings may go to far and they end up leaving you for the boyfriend?"
Not if there is 100% trust.. |
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In addition to enjoying swinging, my wife and I are both polyamorous.
Currently she has one regular lover who we both count as a good friend.
I have two girlfriends.
My wife is perfectly welcome to find a boyfriend. |
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"Isn't that incredibly dodgy ground?!
That's a bit more than swinging.
It seems it to me,doesn't a boyfriend involve feeling and emotions. Does no-one worry those feelings may go to far and they end up leaving you for the boyfriend?"
Not if everyone is open and honest. It is possible to have multiple romantic relationships. |
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"Isn't that incredibly dodgy ground?!
That's a bit more than swinging.
It seems it to me,doesn't a boyfriend involve feeling and emotions. Does no-one worry those feelings may go to far and they end up leaving you for the boyfriend?
Not if there is 100% trust.."
Surely no-one is naive enough to have 100% trust in someone. I've had a 99% trust but there's alway's a small chance feelings will be completely transferred surely! |
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"Isn't that incredibly dodgy ground?!
That's a bit more than swinging.
It seems it to me,doesn't a boyfriend involve feeling and emotions. Does no-one worry those feelings may go to far and they end up leaving you for the boyfriend?
Not if everyone is open and honest. It is possible to have multiple romantic relationships. "
That sounds like a blooming minefield. I'm sure at time's jealousy must creep in a little bit,I can't believe they can't. |
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That sounds like a blooming minefield. I'm sure at time's jealousy must creep in a little bit,I can't believe they can't."
A minefield? Possibly. It is certainly not easy. But jealousy is only an issue if someone feels they are not getting what they need and doesn't talk about it.
Try googling "polyamory"
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That sounds like a blooming minefield. I'm sure at time's jealousy must creep in a little bit,I can't believe they can't.
A minefield? Possibly. It is certainly not easy. But jealousy is only an issue if someone feels they are not getting what they need and doesn't talk about it.
Try googling "polyamory"
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But surely if you're spreading yourself to thin then somewhere along the line someone isn't getting what they want.
I don't need to google it I've seen the programme's  ,unless we're not talking about a man and his six wives here  |
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That sounds like a blooming minefield. I'm sure at time's jealousy must creep in a little bit,I can't believe they can't.
A minefield? Possibly. It is certainly not easy. But jealousy is only an issue if someone feels they are not getting what they need and doesn't talk about it.
Try googling "polyamory"
But surely if you're spreading yourself to thin then somewhere along the line someone isn't getting what they want.
I don't need to google it I've seen the programme's ,unless we're not talking about a man and his six wives here "
No it is NOT like those programmes at all. That is polygamy. Polyamory is different. I do suggest you google it because even when mainstream media try a documentary or article they usually present just one relationship model and get it very wrong. |
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That sounds like a blooming minefield. I'm sure at time's jealousy must creep in a little bit,I can't believe they can't.
A minefield? Possibly. It is certainly not easy. But jealousy is only an issue if someone feels they are not getting what they need and doesn't talk about it.
Try googling "polyamory"
But surely if you're spreading yourself to thin then somewhere along the line someone isn't getting what they want.
I don't need to google it I've seen the programme's ,unless we're not talking about a man and his six wives here
No it is NOT like those programmes at all. That is polygamy. Polyamory is different. I do suggest you google it because even when mainstream media try a documentary or article they usually present just one relationship model and get it very wrong."
I never know the difference to all this poly... stuff,maybe I should but I'll never see myself in that position as I can't find myself one good man nevermind two  |
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"In addition to enjoying swinging, my wife and I are both polyamorous.
Currently she has one regular lover who we both count as a good friend.
I have two girlfriends.
My wife is perfectly welcome to find a boyfriend. "
Sounds divine  |
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I'd prefer to have a few wives I'd be happy for us all to live together wouldn't have to share a bed unless they wanted to id get them separated rooms, we'd all contribute to mortgage and bills and have a big family. Sounds great to me |
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"I'd prefer to have a few wives I'd be happy for us all to live together wouldn't have to share a bed unless they wanted to id get them separated rooms, we'd all contribute to mortgage and bills and have a big family. Sounds great to me"
But what about the ladies?
With polyamory everyone is welcome to explore multiple connections which may be emotional/ romantic/sexual. |
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I currently have 2 lovers, both of which are friends with my husband and are active swingers. We play separately and as a trio. My husband has one lover who I don't know and she's not a swinger. I've never had an extramarital relationship who I would have described as a boyfriend - we don't meet or communicate frequently enough for that. But it's not out of the question. My husband and I don't experience jealousy, because there is nothing to be jealous of. We also don't regard it as a risk to our marriage. Quite the opposite actually - before we started swinging, and in every monogamous relationship I've had, I've never stopped looking and fantasising and wondering. Those thoughts in a monogamous relationship are very risky. This way I get it out of my system. Also is no way I would run off with any of my lovers - I'm enjoying having my cake and eating great big slices of it. We also choose my lovers very carefully - as much as they are lovely men, they are not really into relationships so I don't think they would have me with all my baggage in any case.
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"I'd prefer to have a few wives I'd be happy for us all to live together wouldn't have to share a bed unless they wanted to id get them separated rooms, we'd all contribute to mortgage and bills and have a big family. Sounds great to me
But what about the ladies?
With polyamory everyone is welcome to explore multiple connections which may be emotional/ romantic/sexual. "
For me personally I wouldn't want another male in my relationship, so if they want multiple men they can go and do that without me not against it just not for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Swinging is about having sex not falling in love..we have complete trust
Well that's not a boyfriend experience then is it going on date's and stuff,it's just shagging."
It is when it turns him on knowing what im doing |
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"I'd prefer to have a few wives I'd be happy for us all to live together wouldn't have to share a bed unless they wanted to id get them separated rooms, we'd all contribute to mortgage and bills and have a big family. Sounds great to me
But what about the ladies?
With polyamory everyone is welcome to explore multiple connections which may be emotional/ romantic/sexual.
For me personally I wouldn't want another male in my relationship, so if they want multiple men they can go and do that without me not against it just not for me"
AKA "the one penis policy" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd prefer to have a few wives I'd be happy for us all to live together wouldn't have to share a bed unless they wanted to id get them separated rooms, we'd all contribute to mortgage and bills and have a big family. Sounds great to me
But what about the ladies?
With polyamory everyone is welcome to explore multiple connections which may be emotional/ romantic/sexual.
For me personally I wouldn't want another male in my relationship, so if they want multiple men they can go and do that without me not against it just not for me"
Most people, whether male or female, don't like to share their partners. That's the vanilla way of thinking. But for those who are able to get past that, can open up a whole world of freedom for themselves. Cos lets face, if a man won't share his partner sexually, he can hardly expect her to share him.
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Most people, whether male or female, don't like to share their partners. That's the vanilla way of thinking. But for those who are able to get past that, can open up a whole world of freedom for themselves. Cos lets face, if a man won't share his partner sexually, he can hardly expect her to share him.
Mrs"
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"Curious as to how many couples off fab would let there wives have a 'boyfriend' i.e a guy the wife meets both alone and as part of a couple, goes on dates, keeps in contact daily etc.
For those who would like that would you consider yourself a cuckold couple?
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What gives me the right to say what my wife is "allowed" to do?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd prefer to have a few wives I'd be happy for us all to live together wouldn't have to share a bed unless they wanted to id get them separated rooms, we'd all contribute to mortgage and bills and have a big family. Sounds great to me
But what about the ladies?
With polyamory everyone is welcome to explore multiple connections which may be emotional/ romantic/sexual.
For me personally I wouldn't want another male in my relationship, so if they want multiple men they can go and do that without me not against it just not for me
Most people, whether male or female, don't like to share their partners. That's the vanilla way of thinking. But for those who are able to get past that, can open up a whole world of freedom for themselves. Cos lets face, if a man won't share his partner sexually, he can hardly expect her to share him.
Mrs"
I beg to differ there's still many different cultures around there world where there is one male to multiple wives and it works. I don't call it sharing either as there the same as a 1-1 couple but not if that makes sense. They're not sharing per say |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What gives me the right to say what my wife is "allowed" to do?
Cal
Precisely! She isn't property."
To be fair, we regard it that we do 'allow' each to have other sexual partners. But that's because we started off as monogamous where we regarded it that it 'wasn't allowed' within our marriage. And we always ask each other first before we make arrangements with others.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd prefer to have a few wives I'd be happy for us all to live together wouldn't have to share a bed unless they wanted to id get them separated rooms, we'd all contribute to mortgage and bills and have a big family. Sounds great to me
But what about the ladies?
With polyamory everyone is welcome to explore multiple connections which may be emotional/ romantic/sexual.
For me personally I wouldn't want another male in my relationship, so if they want multiple men they can go and do that without me not against it just not for me
AKA "the one penis policy""
If that's what you want to call it..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't get one boyf let alone two
Ffs 
I find that very hard to believe, I bet you have them banging on the door  "
Aye. .to tell me to turn the music down ....
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By (user no longer on site)
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AKA "the one penis policy"
If that's what you want to call it..
That it is how it is widely known in ethical non-monogamy books and groups."
No idea as never heard of that phrase myself |
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AKA "the one penis policy"
If that's what you want to call it..
That it is how it is widely known in ethical non-monogamy books and groups.
No idea as never heard of that phrase myself "
That does not come as a surprise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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AKA "the one penis policy"
If that's what you want to call it..
That it is how it is widely known in ethical non-monogamy books and groups.
No idea as never heard of that phrase myself
That does not come as a surprise."
What's that meant to mean? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd prefer to have a few wives I'd be happy for us all to live together wouldn't have to share a bed unless they wanted to id get them separated rooms, we'd all contribute to mortgage and bills and have a big family. Sounds great to me
But what about the ladies?
With polyamory everyone is welcome to explore multiple connections which may be emotional/ romantic/sexual.
For me personally I wouldn't want another male in my relationship, so if they want multiple men they can go and do that without me not against it just not for me
Most people, whether male or female, don't like to share their partners. That's the vanilla way of thinking. But for those who are able to get past that, can open up a whole world of freedom for themselves. Cos lets face, if a man won't share his partner sexually, he can hardly expect her to share him.
Mrs
I beg to differ there's still many different cultures around there world where there is one male to multiple wives and it works. I don't call it sharing either as there the same as a 1-1 couple but not if that makes sense. They're not sharing per say"
There is no need to differ - im well aware that this arrangement works in other cultures, although by my understanding of the definition of 'sharing' I do regard is that women are sharing a husband. My understanding is that these men are wealthy and can afford more than one wife and lots of children, therefore arguably a good arrangement. I don't think many men could get away with having more than 1 partner but not giving the same freedom in return.
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"I'd prefer to have a few wives I'd be happy for us all to live together wouldn't have to share a bed unless they wanted to id get them separated rooms, we'd all contribute to mortgage and bills and have a big family. Sounds great to me
But what about the ladies?
With polyamory everyone is welcome to explore multiple connections which may be emotional/ romantic/sexual.
For me personally I wouldn't want another male in my relationship, so if they want multiple men they can go and do that without me not against it just not for me
AKA "the one penis policy""
I have a selfish one vagina policy as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd prefer to have a few wives I'd be happy for us all to live together wouldn't have to share a bed unless they wanted to id get them separated rooms, we'd all contribute to mortgage and bills and have a big family. Sounds great to me
But what about the ladies?
With polyamory everyone is welcome to explore multiple connections which may be emotional/ romantic/sexual.
For me personally I wouldn't want another male in my relationship, so if they want multiple men they can go and do that without me not against it just not for me
Most people, whether male or female, don't like to share their partners. That's the vanilla way of thinking. But for those who are able to get past that, can open up a whole world of freedom for themselves. Cos lets face, if a man won't share his partner sexually, he can hardly expect her to share him.
Mrs
I beg to differ there's still many different cultures around there world where there is one male to multiple wives and it works. I don't call it sharing either as there the same as a 1-1 couple but not if that makes sense. They're not sharing per say
There is no need to differ - im well aware that this arrangement works in other cultures, although by my understanding of the definition of 'sharing' I do regard is that women are sharing a husband. My understanding is that these men are wealthy and can afford more than one wife and lots of children, therefore arguably a good arrangement. I don't think many men could get away with having more than 1 partner but not giving the same freedom in return.
Mrs"
I wouldn't know about the freedom in return as I'm not into that, but even in regards to wealth I think a not very wealthy man can sustain the same, I think life in terms of bills, standard of living etc would be easier if the average man had multiple wives or visa versa |
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"Curious as to how many couples off fab would let there wives have a 'boyfriend' i.e a guy the wife meets both alone and as part of a couple, goes on dates, keeps in contact daily etc.
For those who would like that would you consider yourself a cuckold couple?
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A really interesting topic for once. I'm currently a single guy with several current MMF relationships. Of these, all of them involve swinging together (MMF) and also involve my having 121 sex with the girls with their partners' consents. Looking back further, most of my previous MMF relationships have also involved 121 sex with the girls, again with their partners' consents. Its actually very common and grows from the initial MMF relationships where the woman wants to move onto an intense "boyfriend" relationship with the second man ... and leads to an acceptance of the couples' 121 with each other, their MMF with me, and then the 121 "boyfriend" relationship of the woman with me, permitted with her partner's approval. Whenever this happens, these "three" relationships are incredibly strong. Thats my experience ... have others found the same too? Mike |
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"I'd prefer to have a few wives I'd be happy for us all to live together wouldn't have to share a bed unless they wanted to id get them separated rooms, we'd all contribute to mortgage and bills and have a big family. Sounds great to me
But what about the ladies?
With polyamory everyone is welcome to explore multiple connections which may be emotional/ romantic/sexual.
For me personally I wouldn't want another male in my relationship, so if they want multiple men they can go and do that without me not against it just not for me
Most people, whether male or female, don't like to share their partners. That's the vanilla way of thinking. But for those who are able to get past that, can open up a whole world of freedom for themselves. Cos lets face, if a man won't share his partner sexually, he can hardly expect her to share him.
Mrs
I beg to differ there's still many different cultures around there world where there is one male to multiple wives and it works. I don't call it sharing either as there the same as a 1-1 couple but not if that makes sense. They're not sharing per say
There is no need to differ - im well aware that this arrangement works in other cultures, although by my understanding of the definition of 'sharing' I do regard is that women are sharing a husband. My understanding is that these men are wealthy and can afford more than one wife and lots of children, therefore arguably a good arrangement. I don't think many men could get away with having more than 1 partner but not giving the same freedom in return.
Mrs
I wouldn't know about the freedom in return as I'm not into that, but even in regards to wealth I think a not very wealthy man can sustain the same, I think life in terms of bills, standard of living etc would be easier if the average man had multiple wives or visa versa "
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AKA "the one penis policy"
If that's what you want to call it..
That it is how it is widely known in ethical non-monogamy books and groups."
Or personal preference, as some other people might call it. |
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My ex wife had a boyfriend it worked great until he left his wife for mine
She moved me into the spare room and moved him in
That lasted a year and when her sister in law found out she divorced me |
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"My ex wife had a boyfriend it worked great until he left his wife for mine
She moved me into the spare room and moved him in
That lasted a year and when her sister in law found out she divorced me "
and you went along with that ?! |
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Personally I think it is good in fantasy when thinking about it but in reality I think there would be issues along the way. Think on dates etc you run the risk of falling for them. Just my opinion. |
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'HIM' wouldn't allow it and I'd be very disappointed if he even mentioned it as a fantasy. We got into this for US and I love knowing that he's there watching and joining in as that makes it hornier get me. |
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"I'm on here with boyfriends full permission to play alone and even find regular fuck buddies .i get all th fun and sex I need and it turns him on knowing what I'm upto . Works for us "
This sounds perfect to me! |
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"Curious as to how many couples off fab would let there wives have a 'boyfriend' i.e a guy the wife meets both alone and as part of a couple, goes on dates, keeps in contact daily etc.
For those who would like that would you consider yourself a cuckold couple?
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I wouldn't go as far as dates or any normal interactions - but regular 121 sex with some other men - I would enjoy my partner doing this. |
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"Curious as to how many couples off fab would let there wives have a 'boyfriend' i.e a guy the wife meets both alone and as part of a couple, goes on dates, keeps in contact daily etc.
For those who would like that would you consider yourself a cuckold couple?
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Mine lets me, been seeing him for 2 years, just have to know how to separate it from your everyday life.  |
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Some people would think going to a swinging club is mad. Some would frown on couples doing a soft swap as being cavalier with their marriage. Some would accuse people of being reckless by even thinking of trying a full swap. To the minds of those yet to take the next step it always seems like a terrible risk. We've found, however, that they were all rather benign and fun. Now we're interested in meeting separately we're hearing the same warnings from people who haven't done it and the same reassurances from those who have. As such, we're quite happy to dabble in it and make up our own mind.
As with every step into swinging and sexual exploration, we're taking it slow and talking about it alot before we do it. One of the things that has emerged from these discussions is the realisation that playing separately is only kinky to us because we're together. If we were actually single meeting lovers wouldn't be so kinky. It might even be quite unfulfilling. So, as odd as it may sound, although we're looking to play separately this only interests us because we're doing it together |
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"Some people would think going to a swinging club is mad. Some would frown on couples doing a soft swap as being cavalier with their marriage. Some would accuse people of being reckless by even thinking of trying a full swap. To the minds of those yet to take the next step it always seems like a terrible risk. We've found, however, that they were all rather benign and fun. Now we're interested in meeting separately we're hearing the same warnings from people who haven't done it and the same reassurances from those who have. As such, we're quite happy to dabble in it and make up our own mind.
As with every step into swinging and sexual exploration, we're taking it slow and talking about it alot before we do it. One of the things that has emerged from these discussions is the realisation that playing separately is only kinky to us because we're together. If we were actually single meeting lovers wouldn't be so kinky. It might even be quite unfulfilling. So, as odd as it may sound, although we're looking to play separately this only interests us because we're doing it together "
Very accurate and well presented point. - Spot on |
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My wife has a boyfriend and I have no issue with it what so ever, she's on holiday with him as I write this.
I've also had someone I met quite regularly as a grilfriend so to speak and that lasted for over a year, don't see her any more but still do speak to occasionally. |
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"My wife has a boyfriend and I have no issue with it what so ever, she's on holiday with him as I write this.
I've also had someone I met quite regularly as a grilfriend so to speak and that lasted for over a year, don't see her any more but still do speak to occasionally."
Personally this would never be for me. Swinging and enjoying things together Yh fair enough it's sexy but to have another boyfriend for dates, holidays etc it's to far it's 2 relationship completely different than the purpose of swinging in my opinion. |
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"Some people would think going to a swinging club is mad. Some would frown on couples doing a soft swap as being cavalier with their marriage. Some would accuse people of being reckless by even thinking of trying a full swap. To the minds of those yet to take the next step it always seems like a terrible risk. We've found, however, that they were all rather benign and fun. Now we're interested in meeting separately we're hearing the same warnings from people who haven't done it and the same reassurances from those who have. As such, we're quite happy to dabble in it and make up our own mind.
As with every step into swinging and sexual exploration, we're taking it slow and talking about it alot before we do it. One of the things that has emerged from these discussions is the realisation that playing separately is only kinky to us because we're together. If we were actually single meeting lovers wouldn't be so kinky. It might even be quite unfulfilling. So, as odd as it may sound, although we're looking to play separately this only interests us because we're doing it together "
In short, horses for courses.
Ive been the boyfriend before and its what some people look for and some have that level of trust or they are Polyamorous.
The ones who end up splitting up are NORMALLY (meaning this IS a generalization) couples who are on fab to "save their relationship", or relationships that where basically over anyway, ive met couples who met when they and their previous did full swap.
In short if your realtionship ends "beacause of fab" your realtionship was doomed and it was only a matter if time.
Swinging doesnt strengthen a relationship, id does the absolute opposite, it exposes all of the flaws and weakpoints of your relationship.
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"Some people would think going to a swinging club is mad. Some would frown on couples doing a soft swap as being cavalier with their marriage. Some would accuse people of being reckless by even thinking of trying a full swap. To the minds of those yet to take the next step it always seems like a terrible risk. We've found, however, that they were all rather benign and fun. Now we're interested in meeting separately we're hearing the same warnings from people who haven't done it and the same reassurances from those who have. As such, we're quite happy to dabble in it and make up our own mind.
As with every step into swinging and sexual exploration, we're taking it slow and talking about it alot before we do it. One of the things that has emerged from these discussions is the realisation that playing separately is only kinky to us because we're together. If we were actually single meeting lovers wouldn't be so kinky. It might even be quite unfulfilling. So, as odd as it may sound, although we're looking to play separately this only interests us because we're doing it together
In short, horses for courses.
Ive been the boyfriend before and its what some people look for and some have that level of trust or they are Polyamorous.
The ones who end up splitting up are NORMALLY (meaning this IS a generalization) couples who are on fab to "save their relationship", or relationships that where basically over anyway, ive met couples who met when they and their previous did full swap.
In short if your realtionship ends "beacause of fab" your realtionship was doomed and it was only a matter if time.
Swinging doesnt strengthen a relationship, id does the absolute opposite, it exposes all of the flaws and weakpoints of your relationship.
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"Personally I think it is good in fantasy when thinking about it but in reality I think there would be issues along the way. Think on dates etc you run the risk of falling for them. Just my opinion."
Only if falling for them is an issue. What if feelings weren't deemed a "risk"? |
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"Personally I think it is good in fantasy when thinking about it but in reality I think there would be issues along the way. Think on dates etc you run the risk of falling for them. Just my opinion.
Only if falling for them is an issue. What if feelings weren't deemed a "risk"? "
There could be no way to guarantee that though and with 3 people involved then I'd say high risks. And for me the thing as a couple which would then me on would be seeing my other half having sex with some one else and being pleasured not going on private dates, holidays etc but everyone has there own opionions x |
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Ginger has a regular though wouldn't say was boyfriend yet although last time they met he picked her up in tescos and they kissed in public. I trust her as it's still me she comes home too. Hope to encourage her to stay out one night at his |
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"I can't get one boyf let alone two
Ffs
My thoughts exactly! 
I'm sure would have no problem strawberry lust x
You'd be surprised xx"
Well your pics look very good to me xx |
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"My Guy lets me
Lucky you how are you finding that arrangement so far?
Great..he loves me telling him about it"
Does he meet women and tell you about it? |
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I assume you mean a boyfriend as in relationship wise. If so that sound like a poly sort of thing. Which is a perfectly valid relationship model but full of potential problems depending on the individuals involved. |
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"I can't get one boyf let alone two
Ffs
My thoughts exactly!
I'm sure would have no problem strawberry lust x
You'd be surprised xx"
I'd say it's cos u r so smoking hot most guys think they don't stand a chance so don't bother making a move as are worries will be knocked back .
I tend to have this problem a lot as I'm drawn to stunning women like yourself but just don't feel like I'm on the Same level of hotness lol |
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