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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn't arrange a private meet with a man who only wanted soft play, but we have both had soft play in the context of a group of friends all playing at a club or a party. It's probably circumstantial. And I do have a couple of male friends on the scene who I play with at parties but have never had penetrative sex with and I can't see that changing. If the chemistry is intense I don't think I would have the self control for long though.
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By *actylsMan
over a year ago
Accrington |
Soft swing has been an Integral part of our swinging journey for us over the past 10 yrs or so. Mrs D instigated the pathway, social meets, phone sex, invited watchers, 3- some straight sex and currently orally-bi with her lovers. |
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"Do we all have the same definition of 'soft'? Just wondering.."
I doubt it. Some people define it as just oral, some as everything but penetration, some has a bdsm element to it and loads of variations in between. |
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Never say never guys, me & Kim do full swing most of the time but there are occasions when we meet a couple / single lady for their preferred soft swing meet & it's always bloody good fun.
When fucking is taken out of the equation you actually spend more time exploring the other person's body & what makes them tick, we have always been left fully satisfied from soft swing so it's not as bad as some think.
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"Never say never guys, me & Kim do full swing most of the time but there are occasions when we meet a couple / single lady for their preferred soft swing meet & it's always bloody good fun.
When fucking is taken out of the equation you actually spend more time exploring the other person's body & what makes them tick, we have always been left fully satisfied from soft swing so it's not as bad as some think.
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When fucking is taken out of the equation you actually spend more time exploring the other person's body & what makes them tick.
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This exactly!  Plus the sensation of having several mouths and hands exploring your body whilst your partner fucks you is especially intense!  |
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As much as we are extremely open and liberal, having no rules or boundaries. Soft fun is ams can be amazing. It can be the naughtiest or most sensual fun you have had .
Soft when we do it is right up to the point of not fully penetrating. All cumming several times . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like both soft swing and full swap, couples that seem to think there is no point to soft swing have a very different outlook to ourselves, we like imaginative, naughty & filthy fun and this can happen without full swap, just swapping partners can be frankly pretty boring....
BTW we define soft swing as everything & anything apart from penetration x |
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I'm surprised, but pleased, to see single men expressing an interest in soft swing.
Sex is so much more than penetration.
We enjoy both soft swing and full swap. For us soft is everything except penetration.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting."
So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?
- Mrs. J - |
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"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.
So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?
- Mrs. J -"
I can't speak for this guy obviously but for many people soft swing means everything but penetration. So I'm guessing that if he's straight he would indulge in a lot of sexual activity with the lady possibly including oral, mutual masturbation etc etc. It doesn't necessarily mean no touching. |
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"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.
So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?
- Mrs. J -
I can't speak for this guy obviously but for many people soft swing means everything but penetration. So I'm guessing that if he's straight he would indulge in a lot of sexual activity with the lady possibly including oral, mutual masturbation etc etc. It doesn't necessarily mean no touching."
Oh, I see now
I thought it was all about sitting there and watching each other
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"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.
So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?
- Mrs. J -
I can't speak for this guy obviously but for many people soft swing means everything but penetration. So I'm guessing that if he's straight he would indulge in a lot of sexual activity with the lady possibly including oral, mutual masturbation etc etc. It doesn't necessarily mean no touching."
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"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.
So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?
- Mrs. J -
I can't speak for this guy obviously but for many people soft swing means everything but penetration. So I'm guessing that if he's straight he would indulge in a lot of sexual activity with the lady possibly including oral, mutual masturbation etc etc. It doesn't necessarily mean no touching.
Oh, I see now
I thought it was all about sitting there and watching each other
- Mrs. J -"
No but some guys do enjoy that too. |
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Been here just on 5 years we're soft swap (penetration to ourselves) everything else except ppp. Met/played with couples and singles never had any complaints. Those who dont have the same preferences will surely find "birds of a feather".   |
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"We like both soft swing and full swap, couples that seem to think there is no point to soft swing have a very different outlook to ourselves, we like imaginative, naughty & filthy fun and this can happen without full swap, just swapping partners can be frankly pretty boring....
BTW we define soft swing as everything & anything apart from penetration x"
Thats it in a nut shell softswing doesn't need to exclude imagination sensual naughty and the flithy in fact if anything it requires more of it. Our full swap friends have never not been satisfied at least they have never said so... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.
So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?
- Mrs. J -
I can't speak for this guy obviously but for many people soft swing means everything but penetration. So I'm guessing that if he's straight he would indulge in a lot of sexual activity with the lady possibly including oral, mutual masturbation etc etc. It doesn't necessarily mean no touching.
Oh, I see now
I thought it was all about sitting there and watching each other
- Mrs. J -
No but some guys do enjoy that too."
Each to their own, I guess
We do everything you have described as a soft swing but then penetrative sex is very important too for both of us. So we are a 'soft swing leading to full swap' couple
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People will have their reasons for soft swing only, and as I said in my earlier post there are people that we have done soft play with, either for specific reasons or circumstantial. And I do understand that sometimes not enough time is spent on foreplay, so soft swing might enocourage that. But I can't except that soft play in itself is a more satisfying experience. If people are prepared to take their time with foreplay, then surely penetrative sex to finish is a great dessert? I personally have not found the experience better with those we do soft play only with, and those we do soft play followed by penetration.
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
We don't regard couples meeting & only the ladies play with no touching from the male partners as real swinging because we think everyone should be involved in the fun otherwise it's simply not swinging, people think of that scenario as "soft swinging" which causes confusion with people avoiding quality meets simply because they don't ask people their levels.
Soft swing is non challenging giving you lots of time to get to know the person you play with creating a relaxed atmosphere, because of our day jobs people are chomping at the bit to fuck us as soon as we meet which is nice but it's also refreshing sometimes to have a no pressure softswing meet where we can take our time relax & enjoy ourselves without the usual expectations.
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"I'm a soft swing guy and had lots of fun. Much less pressure all round and very exciting.
So what do you do? Sit there by yourself and masturbate? Or have I missed something to your soft swing as a single man?
- Mrs. J -
I can't speak for this guy obviously but for many people soft swing means everything but penetration. So I'm guessing that if he's straight he would indulge in a lot of sexual activity with the lady possibly including oral, mutual masturbation etc etc. It doesn't necessarily mean no touching.
Oh, I see now
I thought it was all about sitting there and watching each other
- Mrs. J -
No but some guys do enjoy that too.
Each to their own, I guess
We do everything you have described as a soft swing but then penetrative sex is very important too for both of us. So we are a 'soft swing leading to full swap' couple
- Mrs. J -"
I think its great that everyone can play exactly how they want. |
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By *jandmcCouple
over a year ago
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This is a well responded to post. Sadly there can be a level of confusion as to your 'specific' interpretation - mainly from those relatively new to the scene.
So always best to ask for that clarification.
But to those who immediately dismiss the thought... done well it can be as fulfilling as 'penile penetration'. We've been doing this for a long time and have never had any complaints.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would love to try soft. We like to tease and play with each other and find it way more stimulating to explore each other in turn.
We hope to meet a couple with similar interest to play together. |
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By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago
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"Never say never guys, me & Kim do full swing most of the time but there are occasions when we meet a couple / single lady for their preferred soft swing meet & it's always bloody good fun.
When fucking is taken out of the equation you actually spend more time exploring the other person's body & what makes them tick, we have always been left fully satisfied from soft swing so it's not as bad as some think.
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exactly, anyone can shove a dick up and cum but does that leave BOTH parties satisfied? No I for one (should clarify male half here) enjoy the exploration and sensual side (with a bit of bondage thrown in ) I feel much more satisfied when I've found those special spots on someone and done the job right, seeing the expressions and reading them correctly is more a part of it for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There is a common theme on this thread that soft play is more fun. Its as though it's 'either or' - soft play being lengthy sensual fun foreplay, penetrative sex being just penetrative sex. How about soft play followed by penetrative sex at the end? Best of both worlds? No reason why adding penetrative sex should reduce the options available in soft play. Not knocking those who choose soft play only for specific reasons, but not sure that removing penetration from the equation automatically makes the experience more sensual or fun.
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"There is a common theme on this thread that soft play is more fun. Its as though it's 'either or' - soft play being lengthy sensual fun foreplay, penetrative sex being just penetrative sex. How about soft play followed by penetrative sex at the end? Best of both worlds? No reason why adding penetrative sex should reduce the options available in soft play. Not knocking those who choose soft play only for specific reasons, but not sure that removing penetration from the equation automatically makes the experience more sensual or fun.
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I agree.
Everyone should play the way they want but it doesn't make their choice better or mean that they enjoy themselves more than other people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is a common theme on this thread that soft play is more fun. Its as though it's 'either or' - soft play being lengthy sensual fun foreplay, penetrative sex being just penetrative sex. How about soft play followed by penetrative sex at the end? Best of both worlds? No reason why adding penetrative sex should reduce the options available in soft play. Not knocking those who choose soft play only for specific reasons, but not sure that removing penetration from the equation automatically makes the experience more sensual or fun.
Mrs"
soft play is very sensual and erotic, but that doesn't mean you cant have penetration aswell with your own partner to finnish if you want to, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is a common theme on this thread that soft play is more fun. Its as though it's 'either or' - soft play being lengthy sensual fun foreplay, penetrative sex being just penetrative sex. How about soft play followed by penetrative sex at the end? Best of both worlds? No reason why adding penetrative sex should reduce the options available in soft play. Not knocking those who choose soft play only for specific reasons, but not sure that removing penetration from the equation automatically makes the experience more sensual or fun.
Mrs
soft play is very sensual and erotic, but that doesn't mean you cant have penetration aswell with your own partner to finnish if you want to,"
That's true if my husband and I are playing together, although our playmate would have to go without penetration in that situation. But I was more questioning whether I'd find play with other men more sensual and erotic if I stopped at penetration.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How would a single person soft swing? Just watch and play with themselves?
Go back to the heavy petting days of your youth "
Hmmmm all well and good but foreplay only....and go home alone. Not for me. I want the boab!
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By (user no longer on site)
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But to those who immediately dismiss the thought... done well it can be as fulfilling as 'penile penetration'. We've been doing this for a long time and have never had any complaints...."
If it is with another couple I get that as they can still have penetrative sex with each other.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't "soft play" and we don't "full swap" we simply play.
We prefer things to develop and happen naturally however they may without expectation or limits.
We find having any kind of expectation when playing with others tends to end with dissapointment or frustration for either party.
The only expectations is that boundaries are observed, we are all respected, and that everyone is happy and comfortable with how the play goes. |
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