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Mutual attraction, do you need one to play ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi, just wondering if other people feel the same as us,
do you have to feel some sort of attraction towards the other couple to play or would you just play just for the sake of playing ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we meet another couple we always go for a social meet first, that way we can all go away and think about it. If we meet a single guy though it's totally different as the dynamics change, as long as I'm happy then it's fine. Although even this has never happened and all the single guys we've met we've both got on with. There has to be some sort of attraction if play is to go ahead. |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
Norfolk |
Attraction is very important to us and in many respects it has to be a 4-way thing as we usualy play as a couple. K wouldn't want me playing with someone she doesn't like and likewise I wouldn't want a guy shaging her is I couldn't stand him.
Maybe thats why we don't meet very often  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
If we aren't attracted to someone then simple, we don't play. But it's important to not only find them attractive but actually like their company.
Which is why finding other couples can be so hard...
When we meet single guys it's still important that Mr feels comfortable with him. If he not keen as much as I may like them....no play!
The same would apply if we met a single lady.
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
Forgot to add:
Also important that the other couple / single is attracted to us too.
Met a couple once where it was obvious that the lady was into us both, but once play started could tell that the male wasn't into me....not somethig I would like to repeat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Attraction is very important to us and in many respects it has to be a 4-way thing as we usualy play as a couple. K wouldn't want me playing with someone she doesn't like and likewise I wouldn't want a guy shaging her is I couldn't stand him.
Maybe thats why we don't meet very often "
Same for us too A 
We've turned opportunities away because I didn't like the guy and didn't want him near Kate. Likewise Kate has said "No" after meeting the other woman. It's nothing to do with looks, but loads to do with personality and demeanor.
We are a lot more selective now we've been here a little while.
I'm not saying that the "gloss has gone off it", lol, far from it, but unless we are totally happy, we don't play
We were invited to join a "party group" but when we were told we would be expected to "experience" each of the opposite sex of the group, I quickly told them where to go.
The only one who is going to say whether I can have a shag or not, besides myself, is my wife |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, just wondering if other people feel the same as us,
do you have to feel some sort of attraction towards the other couple to play or would you just play just for the sake of playing ??"
For one on one then yes... but for groups.. then I dont even bother with names... and most times could walk past the guy an hour later and no recognise him 
Katie. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We'd find it physically impossible to have sex with someone we weren't attracted to.
We just couldn't bring ourselves to do it.
Nor can we understand why anyone would force themselves to do it either. 
XXXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cant play or kiss a person i am not attracted too ....I am sure some get so d*unk thay dont care at times , I do care i have to like them as people too . |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
Norfolk |
" I cant play or kiss a person i am not attracted too ....I am sure some get so d*unk thay dont care at times , I do care i have to like them as people too ."
Damn it now I know why we haven't met other than in passing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there has to be a certain amount of attraction to play with someone else although it has to be said we are not looking to marry the couples we intend to meet so usual standards that would normally attract either of us to a partner don't really apply.
You can put up with some things for a short while that would perhaps drive you mad if you were in a long term relationship with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I cant play or kiss a person i am not attracted too ....I am sure some get so d*unk thay dont care at times , I do care i have to like them as people too .
Damn it now I know why we haven't met other than in passing "
stop that , lol your both lovely people . xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We both Definately need a Mutual attraction to play with another couple or lady. Thats why we may come across as fussy of picky at times.Together all the way, No doubts if like or not. Defo none of this "mmm, the fem or man, (whoever) is hottttt and 100% ticks the boxes in my crotch" so, take one for the cause this wk and make a munter smile.
This aint no charity of cock/fadge handouts for the attractively challenged or 1 of the 2 are ok so shall we?? Red bellend day is later in the year,xmas when we pissed to be exact wen the beer goggs on and ya may get a sniff.lol
Joking asside, so we say attraction is a must,just like another 2 of our main reasons of if we meet or not. Manners, and attitude. Cost nowt and gain all we got to give. A good, healthy balance is needed we say,we dnt want a stunner with its an all about me me me, selfcentred, head up there jacksy persona either. Sexy, sassy, friendly, polite and with some looks will do it.
We all got standards, why would anyone drop from what they have in there partner/wife etc to fuck a lesser model.
Our shallow thoughts on the post there for ya, agree or not were ok with that.
All opinions will vary on this one......
mwah.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends what sort of play.. if I were to be kissing them then yes.. I need to fancy them..
If its just a fuck or oral, then its less important..
I think it is partly why Master and I dont play with other couples.. As my taste in women and Masters differ so completely. The women I find sexy, my Master wouldnt...
Katie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Forgot to add:
Also important that the other couple / single is attracted to us too.
Met a couple once where it was obvious that the lady was into us both, but once play started could tell that the male wasn't into me....not somethig I would like to repeat."
he must have been completely cuckoo  |
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in the changing rooms of a club the other weekend. I looked at him but was too tired to even bother correcting the poor bloke he was 'bragging' too.The look I gave him said it all! Still if he approaches me again in a club I will remind him how I felt nothing last time, so wont bother again 
