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ive met with a few couples who think socials are a waste of time , they said socialising is what you do down the pub with family and "normal" friends lol They have said why sit around talking when you could be having great sex everybody to their own I suppose lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The problem we have with a social is that often the guy seems to think it will always lead to sex that meet. Even when we have told them its purely a drink and chat social. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Social aspect as must, it's ok liking someone's pics, but there has to be a mental connection, not into fuck n go x"
thats exactly the way i think but sadly theres not many of us left that actually enjoy a social anymore x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive met with a few couples who think socials are a waste of time , they said socialising is what you do down the pub with family and "normal" friends lol They have said why sit around talking when you could be having great sex everybody to their own I suppose lol"
you could also be having shit sex with people who do nothing for you...we like to those people out with a few drinks and a chat before we get down to business...lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not essential.
We would rather meet in a club at least if you don't get on then it's not a complete waste of time and energy."
We do most, if not all of our meets at parties or in clubs. we enjoy the social side to. Building a repour, chatting, joking, flirting, teasing be it at parties, clubs or socials. We even met fellow fabbers just for drinks in Dublin with no expectation to play. We just enjoy meeting new and interesting people, from all walks of life and different back rounds and occasionally fucking their brains out   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It isn't for me but I understand why it is for most. I prefer not to stall for time but get down to things but hey ho some do. Like to socialise at clubs more than anything |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
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I'm an introvert. It takes so much of my energy to get through the day at work that outside of work I need the time to recharge. I don't want to be spending that time using up more energy on total strangers just chatting about things. When I'm prepared to spend the energy on someone from this site it's to have sex. For me a social is a waste of my time and energy, I do enough chatting online before a meet anyway.
If you have the time and energy to spend on socials then go ahead. It just goes to show how different we all are and how we actually get different things from this site even though it's based on meeting to swing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind a social 1st, however it does(should I say would probably as I've not met yet) take the edge off for me.
I feel it may be a little awkward as I am a little shy at first.
A good message session that can potentially drive each other to want to just get their hands on each other would be my preference.
Love chats that turn into a "I'm on my way"  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Its become more important to me as sex becomes less important. I like to have a drink and laugh and who is to say, if we get on, sex won't be on the cards anyway? Is it too much effort for some to have a pint or two? |
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"I'm an introvert. It takes so much of my energy to get through the day at work that outside of work I need the time to recharge. I don't want to be spending that time using up more energy on total strangers just chatting about things. When I'm prepared to spend the energy on someone from this site it's to have sex. For me a social is a waste of my time and energy, I do enough chatting online before a meet anyway.
If you have the time and energy to spend on socials then go ahead. It just goes to show how different we all are and how we actually get different things from this site even though it's based on meeting to swing "
Yes! Vive la difference |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, it's important to us, good sex is in the mind as much as anything so want to meet people we're comfortable and have a connection with. Also some of the things we enjoy are a non starter with some random we've never met before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We enjoy fucking our friends, so yes socialising is part of it. And it's wonderful to have friends that we can talk so candidly about sex with. We've never been stood up and nearly all our meets from Fab have turned into sex.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering if the social side is important anymore as there seems to be a lot of statuses on here lately of people being stood up ?"
yes it is for the people here that the only way you get to meet is be smart sexy looking I would say |
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By *izadoCouple
over a year ago
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We usually insist on a social. We've met so many people individually and together that really haven't lived up to expectations, even if we've chatted for a while first.
We're both very social people as well and it's so true that a gsoh can be a major turn on! Make us laugh, turn on our minds, you'll turn on our bodies and then wow it makes for amazing mind blowing sex rather than a lukewarm shag for the sake of physical release!
It's worth the extra effort to fuck someone's mind as well as their body |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on what Im looking for at the time
Sometimes I just want cock - I want to be desired and not speak.
But most of the time I need a connection x |
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By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago
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Critical - although we have had one where it went quick pint followed by a good ol session lol but that's because we felt comfortable during the meet. There has to be some sort of connection first a picture means nothing its the actual meet that gives the best impression for us |
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Depends what you mean by social side.
We like to have a drink and a chat with people before playing. But we dont want to spend hours or whole evenings just doing that. We joined here for sexual fun, that doesn't mean we just want fuck and go. We like getting to know about what the other people like and want first.
We don't talk anout our home or work life while swinging. Socialise enough so the play is fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So for those that don't feel the need or find it important to socialise before because it's about the physical for them, do they have to conform and feel uncomfortable ? Someone posted earlier that it's a swingers site so is the social side inherently part of swinging or something that's been added?
Just playing advocate |
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I'm going to use an analogy here which pretty much sums up how we see socialising and swinging .
If we are going out to swing we may want to simply crack on and play as that's our mindset at the time , or we may want to enjoy a whole evening of chat, flirting and ultimately play at the end of the night . The one thing we wouldn't want though is to go home after feeling horny all night without playing .
So let's look at it this way . If we went out of an evening because we were hungry , we could stop off at any one of the dozens of takeaways and be happy to have enjoyed the food as that's what we fancied at the time . Or we could visit a restaraunt , have a drink , peruse the menu , chat and make an evening of it , having a starter , a main course another drink or two and a dessert . Both have their merits , but ultimately both have the same common denominator - our hunger is satisfied . Would it be satisfied if we stopped off at every takeaway we fancied , and every restaraunt , but didn't partake of any food ? I think not ......
So that's how we see it , we prefer to eat when we are hungry , to scratch that itch so to speak . Simple really isn't it ?
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We like to feel a connection with people we play with, but that doesn't necessarily mean a social meet. Last time at Chams we bumped into a lovely couple and got talking to them, had a dance and then went off to play.
We have also played with people we hadn't even spoken to. Both have their merits! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the social side is essential, I'd like to get more out of this than an impersonal fuck. Unfortunately, I'm not much good at the social side and there aren't any regular ones nearby that I can go to any more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering if the social side is important anymore as there seems to be a lot of statuses on here lately of people being stood up ?"
I enjoy a good social as much as intimate pleasure.
Socialising to mix and mingle with fellow Fabbers is important, but not essential.
Some people only meet for sex. While others only want to have socials. I enjoy a fusion
Fab is a platform that can give everyone what they want. That is why I love this site! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering if the social side is important anymore as there seems to be a lot of statuses on here lately of people being stood up ?"
Yes Definately. Have to see if you click with the person. |
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"Just wondering if the social side is important anymore as there seems to be a lot of statuses on here lately of people being stood up ?
Yes Definately. Have to see if you click with the person. "
Does that mean you have not had good sex with someone you didn't connect with or vice versa ? |
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"Just wondering if the social side is important anymore as there seems to be a lot of statuses on here lately of people being stood up ?
Yes Definately. Have to see if you click with the person.
Does that mean you have not had good sex with someone you didn't connect with or vice versa ?"
Realise the question wasn't aimed at me, but thought it was an interesting question. Thinking back over our swinging life, I don't think there's ever been an occasion when I've seen someone I think is hot and felt able to fuck him without establishing a small connection. Doesn't have to be much, but it must be something. But the better sex has always been when there has been a substantial psychological build-up. Sort of a case of I want my mind to be fucked as well as my body.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I prefer to have sex before talking. Otherwise I can't pay attention to what she's say. Big tits, big ass, juicy thighs, pretty face, any one of those is too much of a distraction. If she has more than one I become a nervous wreck. |
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"Just wondering if the social side is important anymore as there seems to be a lot of statuses on here lately of people being stood up ?
Yes Definately. Have to see if you click with the person.
Does that mean you have not had good sex with someone you didn't connect with or vice versa ?"
There has to be some sort of chemistry for the sex to be awesome. Otherwise it's just fucking.
The more of a sexual chemistry between the two people the more teasing the more the sex is amazing. That's just me.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social is important though I have on more than a couple of occasions found it not necessary as there has been a good connection through whatsapp or kick. The friendship thing always develops and have then had a social later maybe after another session or three....
P's...I never go with intention to do one off meets... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm going to use an analogy here which pretty much sums up how we see socialising and swinging .
If we are going out to swing we may want to simply crack on and play as that's our mindset at the time , or we may want to enjoy a whole evening of chat, flirting and ultimately play at the end of the night . The one thing we wouldn't want though is to go home after feeling horny all night without playing .
So let's look at it this way . If we went out of an evening because we were hungry , we could stop off at any one of the dozens of takeaways and be happy to have enjoyed the food as that's what we fancied at the time . Or we could visit a restaraunt , have a drink , peruse the menu , chat and make an evening of it , having a starter , a main course another drink or two and a dessert . Both have their merits , but ultimately both have the same common denominator - our hunger is satisfied . Would it be satisfied if we stopped off at every takeaway we fancied , and every restaraunt , but didn't partake of any food ? I think not ......
So that's how we see it , we prefer to eat when we are hungry , to scratch that itch so to speak . Simple really isn't it ?
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 a great way to put it |
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"There has to be some sort of chemistry for the sex to be awesome. Otherwise it's just fucking.
The more of a sexual chemistry between the two people the more teasing the more the sex is amazing. That's just me.."
That's not just you.
Just saying... |
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"There has to be some sort of chemistry for the sex to be awesome. Otherwise it's just fucking.
The more of a sexual chemistry between the two people the more teasing the more the sex is amazing. That's just me..
That's not just you.
Just saying... "
Not suggesting guys that you fuck and go like some head and shoulders advert I'm just saying like with the food analogy sometimes it isn't needed to keep reading the menu if you know what you want. A lot of people wanna meet for a quick min to see if they normal then it's lunch time. |
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"Just wondering if the social side is important anymore as there seems to be a lot of statuses on here lately of people being stood up ?
Yes Definately. Have to see if you click with the person.
Does that mean you have not had good sex with someone you didn't connect with or vice versa ?
There has to be some sort of chemistry for the sex to be awesome. Otherwise it's just fucking.
The more of a sexual chemistry between the two people the more teasing the more the sex is amazing. That's just me.."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm going to use an analogy here which pretty much sums up how we see socialising and swinging .
If we are going out to swing we may want to simply crack on and play as that's our mindset at the time , or we may want to enjoy a whole evening of chat, flirting and ultimately play at the end of the night . The one thing we wouldn't want though is to go home after feeling horny all night without playing .
So let's look at it this way . If we went out of an evening because we were hungry , we could stop off at any one of the dozens of takeaways and be happy to have enjoyed the food as that's what we fancied at the time . Or we could visit a restaraunt , have a drink , peruse the menu , chat and make an evening of it , having a starter , a main course another drink or two and a dessert . Both have their merits , but ultimately both have the same common denominator - our hunger is satisfied . Would it be satisfied if we stopped off at every takeaway we fancied , and every restaraunt , but didn't partake of any food ? I think not ......
So that's how we see it , we prefer to eat when we are hungry , to scratch that itch so to speak . Simple really isn't it ?
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Although we're not exactly on the same page in our viewpoint (which is fine) we love your analogy |
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