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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi people
Basically, my wife doesn't know I'm on here and that I sometimes enjoy sucking cock. Naughty, I know, but I couldn't find a way to explain it to her. To be honest, I don't really understand why I have this desire to suck cock myself, which makes it harder trying to explain to anyone. I'm very straight looking/acting and guys don't attract me at all so I guess part of me is embarrassed by the whole thing and hence I've kept it secret.
My wife and I have a great relationship and sex life. We have played with other couples before (soft swing only). Recently, she suggested we joined a website for swingers dating again. She knows I want to see her fuck another guy and she now wants to do it. In my mind, I was hoping to somehow set things up so she picks a guy whom I had met on my own before and I can trust to keep secret the fact that I helped to have her chose him. The idea being that, during the meeting, he would introduce to her the idea of how horny she might find having me under her power and making me do as she tells me, including sucking his cock dripping with her juices. If that happened, I wouldn't need to keep this secret from her anymore. Happy days!!!
The problem is that she wants to fuck a guy in front of me but she is not keen on meeting single guys. She wants it to be with the male half of another couple. That makes it twice as hard for me to try to arrange a situation where she can discover the only secret I keep from her!!
Does anyone have any advice? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi people
Basically, my wife doesn't know I'm on here and that I sometimes enjoy sucking cock. Naughty, I know, but I couldn't find a way to explain it to her. To be honest, I don't really understand why I have this desire to suck cock myself, which makes it harder trying to explain to anyone. I'm very straight looking/acting and guys don't attract me at all so I guess part of me is embarrassed by the whole thing and hence I've kept it secret.
My wife and I have a great relationship and sex life. We have played with other couples before (soft swing only). Recently, she suggested we joined a website for swingers dating again. She knows I want to see her fuck another guy and she now wants to do it. In my mind, I was hoping to somehow set things up so she picks a guy whom I had met on my own before and I can trust to keep secret the fact that I helped to have her chose him. The idea being that, during the meeting, he would introduce to her the idea of how horny she might find having me under her power and making me do as she tells me, including sucking his cock dripping with her juices. If that happened, I wouldn't need to keep this secret from her anymore. Happy days!!!
The problem is that she wants to fuck a guy in front of me but she is not keen on meeting single guys. She wants it to be with the male half of another couple. That makes it twice as hard for me to try to arrange a situation where she can discover the only secret I keep from her!!
Does anyone have any advice?"
Just tell her, she has been honest with you about swinging again, why not just say you have a new fantasy that you would like to try, with her of course, you could find a bi MF couple. |
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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago
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Right first and foremost the person you should be chatting to is your wife.. Remember this is the internet if she's savvy enough she could just happen to stumble upon your musings...
Maybe the cuckolding angle is a better option, but remember you too have a bond. Physical and emotional and a single guy she's gunna think could be a threat. A married couple, both participated is less of a threat to her and something she's only just coming to terms with..
And by the sounds of it, doing it more for you than her right now.. Just walk for a little bit and keep the fantasy in your head, slowly slowly leave little signs and suggestions.
Rome didn't happen over night!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right first and foremost the person you should be chatting to is your wife.. Remember this is the internet if she's savvy enough she could just happen to stumble upon your musings...
Maybe the cuckolding angle is a better option, but remember you too have a bond. Physical and emotional and a single guy she's gunna think could be a threat. A married couple, both participated is less of a threat to her and something she's only just coming to terms with..
And by the sounds of it, doing it more for you than her right now.. Just walk for a little bit and keep the fantasy in your head, slowly slowly leave little signs and suggestions.
Rome didn't happen over night!!"
Good answer Jammy!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've thought about doing just that. The problem being that if I simply came out with it, she would flip and immediately assume I have cheated on her sucking guys off. I know she would be right about that, of course. Knowing her, it would probably be the end of our relationship as we have always been honest and never lied to each other (apart from this secret of mine).
I am still hoping she will agree to inviting a single guy for this, as it would be easier and probably hornier too |
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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago
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I can't be any more plainer in how I say this.. by trying to control it, your tricking her, by tricking her your manipulation will damage things further in the long run..
If it's what you want then it needs to be discussed.. Maybe not the blurt it all out in one fashion.
Come on man, you know your wife better than anyone.
Role play, sexy chat during sex. You plant a seed an wait for it to grow. Everything goes in and at some point you'll have a chat about it.
Instant gratification tends to lead to regret.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can't be any more plainer in how I say this.. by trying to control it, your tricking her, by tricking her your manipulation will damage things further in the long run..
If it's what you want then it needs to be discussed.. Maybe not the blurt it all out in one fashion.
Come on man, you know your wife better than anyone.
Role play, sexy chat during sex. You plant a seed an wait for it to grow. Everything goes in and at some point you'll have a chat about it.
Instant gratification tends to lead to regret.."
You are right, bud. I'm sure it'll be worth it taking my time, planting seeds and dropping hints until the idea almost comes from her. In fact, I've known this was the way forward all along but I didn't want to acknowledge it. I was being too eager for it to happen right away!
Thanks people! |
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