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Could anyone who enjoys rope bondage please share their experiences about what they like about it and which parts / technique are most exciting?
We saw it on a TV show and both sort of went "hmmm that's interesting" but if one of us tied the other up then we wouldn't really know what to do next... any suggestions? |
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It's slow. Unhurried. No rush. A time to be utterly together.
It's technical. There's always more to do, more to learn. So much to do with the fingers. Very satisfying.
It's incredibly intimate, very close - body touching, hands reaching round, breath on the back of the neck.
It's caring, taking time to pass the rope gently, no burns, the tension just right.
It's sensuous - feeling the texture of the rope, and as one piece passes over another (especially when undoing) it sends vibrations all round that area and through the rope.
It's bonding - the giving of trust, the empowerment of submission.
It's relaxing - for both the rigger who can focus on what they're doing, and the bunny who can just settle and drift and dream.
It's beautiful - the artwork created on a canvas you already adore, is there for a moment for you both to appreciate both aesthetically and physically.
As for what you do next, after slowly and carefully taking off the ropes... is have some of the best, close, most connected love-making of your lives. |
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It's slow. Unhurried. No rush. A time to be utterly together.
It's technical. There's always more to do, more to learn. So much to do with the fingers. Very satisfying.
It's incredibly intimate, very close - body touching, hands reaching round, breath on the back of the neck.
It's caring, taking time to pass the rope gently, no burns, the tension just right.
It's sensuous - feeling the texture of the rope, and as one piece passes over another (especially when undoing) it sends vibrations all round that area and through the rope.
It's bonding - the giving of trust, the empowerment of submission.
It's relaxing - for both the rigger who can focus on what they're doing, and the bunny who can just settle and drift and dream.
It's beautiful - the artwork created on a canvas you already adore, is there for a moment for you both to appreciate both aesthetically and physically.
As for what you do next, after slowly and carefully taking off the ropes... is have some of the best, close, most connected love-making of your lives. "
Thanks for sharing that, so you're saying the process of doing the binding and undoing it is actually a big part of the sensation? That's something i hadn't considered 
I kind of presumed you'd rush to get the ropes on so you could do whatever happens once they are on! |
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It's slow. Unhurried. No rush. A time to be utterly together.
It's technical. There's always more to do, more to learn. So much to do with the fingers. Very satisfying.
It's incredibly intimate, very close - body touching, hands reaching round, breath on the back of the neck.
It's caring, taking time to pass the rope gently, no burns, the tension just right.
It's sensuous - feeling the texture of the rope, and as one piece passes over another (especially when undoing) it sends vibrations all round that area and through the rope.
It's bonding - the giving of trust, the empowerment of submission.
It's relaxing - for both the rigger who can focus on what they're doing, and the bunny who can just settle and drift and dream.
It's beautiful - the artwork created on a canvas you already adore, is there for a moment for you both to appreciate both aesthetically and physically.
As for what you do next, after slowly and carefully taking off the ropes... is have some of the best, close, most connected love-making of your lives. "
This is pretty much a perfect description!
I also find it good if I'm stressed or anxious as helps me relax completely |
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It's slow. Unhurried. No rush. A time to be utterly together.
It's technical. There's always more to do, more to learn. So much to do with the fingers. Very satisfying.
It's incredibly intimate, very close - body touching, hands reaching round, breath on the back of the neck.
It's caring, taking time to pass the rope gently, no burns, the tension just right.
It's sensuous - feeling the texture of the rope, and as one piece passes over another (especially when undoing) it sends vibrations all round that area and through the rope.
It's bonding - the giving of trust, the empowerment of submission.
It's relaxing - for both the rigger who can focus on what they're doing, and the bunny who can just settle and drift and dream.
It's beautiful - the artwork created on a canvas you already adore, is there for a moment for you both to appreciate both aesthetically and physically.
As for what you do next, after slowly and carefully taking off the ropes... is have some of the best, close, most connected love-making of your lives. "
Perfectly put xx |
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Can't speak for everyone on this, just our own experiences!
The more arty rope play of "lots of tying up" is more intimate than sexual, if you can see the subtle difference! The touching sensations during this seem really strong though, and the slightest stroke over any erogenous area is amplified. As a foreplay, indeed, it's very powerful.
The type of play where you tie to a bed (hands behind head, legs apart, that kind of thing) is definitely the sort where it's sexual.
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Sorry for the none answer but it can be whatever you want it to be.
It can be soft, slow and sensual, and to add to the other comment above, the act of putting the rope on can sometimes be more important than the finished article, slowly drawing the rope over an exposed nipple can bring so many sensations. It can be like foreplay, the warm breath on your skin, feeling their body heat, it can even become hypnotic (Trust me on this).
OR.......
It can be harsh, quick and violent, using the rope for a quick take-down, to restrain the person for whatever you want to do next.
Like with most things, you make it fit what you want. |
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"Sorry for the none answer but it can be whatever you want it to be.
It can be soft, slow and sensual, and to add to the other comment above, the act of putting the rope on can sometimes be more important than the finished article, slowly drawing the rope over an exposed nipple can bring so many sensations. It can be like foreplay, the warm breath on your skin, feeling their body heat, it can even become hypnotic (Trust me on this).
OR.......
It can be harsh, quick and violent, using the rope for a quick take-down, to restrain the person for whatever you want to do next.
Like with most things, you make it fit what you want."
But forgive my ignorance but what can one do to one that is restrained that one cannot do to one that is not?
I do get the foreplay angle but it's still willy meets fanny eventually. Not trying to be facetious but this is where we got stuck for ideas. Maybe I'm not creatively minded  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Sorry for the none answer but it can be whatever you want it to be.
It can be soft, slow and sensual, and to add to the other comment above, the act of putting the rope on can sometimes be more important than the finished article, slowly drawing the rope over an exposed nipple can bring so many sensations. It can be like foreplay, the warm breath on your skin, feeling their body heat, it can even become hypnotic (Trust me on this).
OR.......
It can be harsh, quick and violent, using the rope for a quick take-down, to restrain the person for whatever you want to do next.
Like with most things, you make it fit what you want.
But forgive my ignorance but what can one do to one that is restrained that one cannot do to one that is not?
I do get the foreplay angle but it's still willy meets fanny eventually. Not trying to be facetious but this is where we got stuck for ideas. Maybe I'm not creatively minded "
Say you are harnessed (arms behind back), or hog-tied (arms tied to ankles), the partner can then tease with toys or willies to satiate or not depending. |
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It's slow. Unhurried. No rush. A time to be utterly together.
It's technical. There's always more to do, more to learn. So much to do with the fingers. Very satisfying.
It's incredibly intimate, very close - body touching, hands reaching round, breath on the back of the neck.
It's caring, taking time to pass the rope gently, no burns, the tension just right.
It's sensuous - feeling the texture of the rope, and as one piece passes over another (especially when undoing) it sends vibrations all round that area and through the rope.
It's bonding - the giving of trust, the empowerment of submission.
It's relaxing - for both the rigger who can focus on what they're doing, and the bunny who can just settle and drift and dream.
It's beautiful - the artwork created on a canvas you already adore, is there for a moment for you both to appreciate both aesthetically and physically.
As for what you do next, after slowly and carefully taking off the ropes... is have some of the best, close, most connected love-making of your lives. "
As in our pics we love Shibari, but I can not add anything more than what's in this post other than, it's truely an honour for someone to put so much trust in me. It's like they read my mind.
AJ  |
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Watch some vids, loads on YouTube and have a go.
Rope can be as complicated as you want, or as simple. Some tie to play, other simply tie and never play, keeping both sides separate.
It's all about having fun and isn't half as complicated as it looks. |
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"Sorry for the none answer but it can be whatever you want it to be.
It can be soft, slow and sensual, and to add to the other comment above, the act of putting the rope on can sometimes be more important than the finished article, slowly drawing the rope over an exposed nipple can bring so many sensations. It can be like foreplay, the warm breath on your skin, feeling their body heat, it can even become hypnotic (Trust me on this).
OR.......
It can be harsh, quick and violent, using the rope for a quick take-down, to restrain the person for whatever you want to do next.
Like with most things, you make it fit what you want.
But forgive my ignorance but what can one do to one that is restrained that one cannot do to one that is not?
I do get the foreplay angle but it's still willy meets fanny eventually. Not trying to be facetious but this is where we got stuck for ideas. Maybe I'm not creatively minded "
I tend to do the sexual stuff with the ropes in place (dependent on access) most of the time the act of roping, as said, is the foreplay Sub likes the feeling as she says it's like an all over massage then the restriction become more a turn on. Usually I'm flaccid during the tying as im concentrating but the mental stimulation is literally mind blowing. Being so up close to erotic parts of her body but not touching in the usual ways like you would during normal foreplay. It's only when I step back when I'm done (usually taking pics) that I then get seriously turned on. It's a strange but exhilarating process.
AJ |
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"Sorry for the none answer but it can be whatever you want it to be.
It can be soft, slow and sensual, and to add to the other comment above, the act of putting the rope on can sometimes be more important than the finished article, slowly drawing the rope over an exposed nipple can bring so many sensations. It can be like foreplay, the warm breath on your skin, feeling their body heat, it can even become hypnotic (Trust me on this).
OR.......
It can be harsh, quick and violent, using the rope for a quick take-down, to restrain the person for whatever you want to do next.
Like with most things, you make it fit what you want.
But forgive my ignorance but what can one do to one that is restrained that one cannot do to one that is not?
I do get the foreplay angle but it's still willy meets fanny eventually. Not trying to be facetious but this is where we got stuck for ideas. Maybe I'm not creatively minded
I tend to do the sexual stuff with the ropes in place (dependent on access) most of the time the act of roping, as said, is the foreplay Sub likes the feeling as she says it's like an all over massage then the restriction become more a turn on. Usually I'm flaccid during the tying as im concentrating but the mental stimulation is literally mind blowing. Being so up close to erotic parts of her body but not touching in the usual ways like you would during normal foreplay. It's only when I step back when I'm done (usually taking pics) that I then get seriously turned on. It's a strange but exhilarating process.
AJ "
Do you do much different with the ropes on than if they were off? |
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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago
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We practice it once a week and go to a Meetup once a month to lean new techniques from seasoned practitioners.
Our overall experience has been great but we've not been able to meet people from this site that would be interested. |
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"We practice it once a week and go to a Meetup once a month to lean new techniques from seasoned practitioners.
Our overall experience has been great but we've not been able to meet people from this site that would be interested."
We would but you're so far away! |
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"But forgive my ignorance but what can one do to one that is restrained that one cannot do to one that is not?
I do get the foreplay angle but it's still willy meets fanny eventually. Not trying to be facetious but this is where we got stuck for ideas. Maybe I'm not creatively minded "
In answer to your first question, nothing. Restrained or not, you can fuck, play, tease to your hearts content. But if you look at it another way, what is the point of many things, lingerie, you can do the same with it on or off, the same can be said for blindfolds, baby oil, anything else you might bring to the mix. It isn’t always a ‘thing’ that the item brings to the play, it is a feeling.
What rope (and other restraints) can do is take away your freedom, you are held, unable to move,you are at the other person's mercy. They can make you feel restrained, tightly bound, a feeling of being held. It is hard to describe and I am bound to miss so many things, but like a lot in kink/swing, it is what it makes you feel that it brings to the ‘party’ not what it can do.
Rope isn’t for everyone, try not to get too worked up on the idea that you are missing something, if it works for you great, if not don’t stress it. I really don’t understand the pleasure of rubber but horses for courses as they say  |
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"But forgive my ignorance but what can one do to one that is restrained that one cannot do to one that is not?
I do get the foreplay angle but it's still willy meets fanny eventually. Not trying to be facetious but this is where we got stuck for ideas. Maybe I'm not creatively minded
In answer to your first question, nothing. Restrained or not, you can fuck, play, tease to your hearts content. But if you look at it another way, what is the point of many things, lingerie, you can do the same with it on or off, the same can be said for blindfolds, baby oil, anything else you might bring to the mix. It isn’t always a ‘thing’ that the item brings to the play, it is a feeling.
What rope (and other restraints) can do is take away your freedom, you are held, unable to move,you are at the other person's mercy. They can make you feel restrained, tightly bound, a feeling of being held. It is hard to describe and I am bound to miss so many things, but like a lot in kink/swing, it is what it makes you feel that it brings to the ‘party’ not what it can do.
Rope isn’t for everyone, try not to get too worked up on the idea that you are missing something, if it works for you great, if not don’t stress it. I really don’t understand the pleasure of rubber but horses for courses as they say "
Thanks for that, it does sound interesting although i think the wife would enjoy it more than me, but if she's happy then I'm happy. I don't get very excited by lingerie either, just like a good snog more than anything.  |
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By *eKoopleCouple
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"We practice it once a week and go to a Meetup once a month to lean new techniques from seasoned practitioners.
Our overall experience has been great but we've not been able to meet people from this site that would be interested.
We would but you're so far away! "
It's usually the case with us, I think we need to relocate! |
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"Sorry for the none answer but it can be whatever you want it to be.
It can be soft, slow and sensual, and to add to the other comment above, the act of putting the rope on can sometimes be more important than the finished article, slowly drawing the rope over an exposed nipple can bring so many sensations. It can be like foreplay, the warm breath on your skin, feeling their body heat, it can even become hypnotic (Trust me on this).
OR.......
It can be harsh, quick and violent, using the rope for a quick take-down, to restrain the person for whatever you want to do next.
Like with most things, you make it fit what you want."
The above.
It helps if you already have elements of d/s it adds another psychological layer.
If you have no d/s relationship then as others have said it is another technique that can be added to sex play either used for sensation play or mild control.
It is (in my book anyway) more sensuous than handcuffs or leather or metal restraints. It is like most kink it is either you or not, or not bothered either way. If you are curious have a look at Chantra Roses's Bondage for Sex, which is an easy way in. If not you, other restraints are easier and less time consuming. Have fun
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"It helps if you already have elements of d/s it adds another psychological layer.
If you have no d/s relationship then as others have said it is another technique that can be added to sex play either used for sensation play or mild control.
It is (in my book anyway) more sensuous than handcuffs or leather or metal restraints. It is like most kink it is either you or not, or not bothered either way. If you are curious have a look at Chantra Roses's Bondage for Sex, which is an easy way in. If not you, other restraints are easier and less time consuming. Have fun
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Agree entirely |
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"We like the idea of this, but as op said, once all the knots are tied we wouldn't know where to go. Some of the knots we see here are nothing short of artistic! Would love to know how that's done."
Once all the knots are tied then you can leave it there or do something else, sensual touching, teasing, orgasm denial, the rope is just part of your play, just like getting undressed or oral is part of it. It is as much as you want it to be.
One thing to mention, rope will not make great sex even better just for the fact it is on, it is how the rope makes you feel that alters that. Like so many things with sex, there are thousands of toys we can introduce but if they do nothing for you just leave them be. Some men love pegging, that doesn't mean all will, in the same way some people love rope, but it isn't for everyone.
If you are looking for tutorials on the artistic side just go onto YouTube and search for "shibari", there are loads. |
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This is how I see it. I break rope down into two categories. Shibari which is pretty knots for knots's sake and Kinbaku roughly translated as tight binding. These are my categorisations and not general. Shibari for me is about technique and show. The model likes to be adorned the rigger shows his or her proficiency. Kinbaku which can incorporate shibari elements is using rope skilfully to affect the model. You can use it to arouse, to stimulate, for masochists you can provide kinky pain. You can use it as foreplay for penetration. You can apply wax, electro stim, violet wand, magic wand, aflnd dildo to the restrained. You can play straight, mmf, ffm Introduce a blindfold ice, heat, edge play. I have had a playmate tied in the cage at Kestrels while other men reached through the cage and stroked her. Yes I could use handcuffs but for me rope is personal as you have to touch to bind.
I hope the above helps. |
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"We like the idea of this, but as op said, once all the knots are tied we wouldn't know where to go. Some of the knots we see here are nothing short of artistic! Would love to know how that's done.
Once all the knots are tied then you can leave it there or do something else, sensual touching, teasing, orgasm denial, the rope is just part of your play, just like getting undressed or oral is part of it. It is as much as you want it to be.
One thing to mention, rope will not make great sex even better just for the fact it is on, it is how the rope makes you feel that alters that. Like so many things with sex, there are thousands of toys we can introduce but if they do nothing for you just leave them be. Some men love pegging, that doesn't mean all will, in the same way some people love rope, but it isn't for everyone.
If you are looking for tutorials on the artistic side just go onto YouTube and search for "shibari", there are loads."
Thanks for the insight. We have played with restraints before, but with having no headboard as such, we had to be creative. N is definitely game for more tying up so I will have to look into it as a surprise. Any particular kinds of rope recommended for beginners? Can't imagine your every day garden rope being too kind lol!
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"This is how I see it. I break rope down into two categories. Shibari which is pretty knots for knots's sake and Kinbaku roughly translated as tight binding. These are my categorisations and not general. Shibari for me is about technique and show. The model likes to be adorned the rigger shows his or her proficiency. Kinbaku which can incorporate shibari elements is using rope skilfully to affect the model. You can use it to arouse, to stimulate, for masochists you can provide kinky pain. You can use it as foreplay for penetration. You can apply wax, electro stim, violet wand, magic wand, aflnd dildo to the restrained. You can play straight, mmf, ffm Introduce a blindfold ice, heat, edge play. I have had a playmate tied in the cage at Kestrels while other men reached through the cage and stroked her. Yes I could use handcuffs but for me rope is personal as you have to touch to bind.
I hope the above helps."
I didn't know if mentioning the Shibari/Kinbaku variations would be too much but you have described it well |
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For questions of what you do when the tie is complete, what do you do when using other forms of bondage. You can cuddle your partners and enjoy feeling the restraint. Or you can enjoy more sex, or break out the owies... or just admire them in their vulnerability. |
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"Any particular kinds of rope recommended for beginners? Can't imagine your every day garden rope being too kind lol!
B"
If you visit TheDuchy com they have sections on general safety and the different ropes. There is a lot of information so I don't want to flood the forum with it.
Generally you don't want anything stretchy or elastic as the knots will tighten and you won't be able to remove them, nothing too plasticy as it will cause rope burns, nothing too thin and something you can cut (I have seen people use washing line which has a metal core, try cutting that off in an emergency "
We use something called Hempex, a synthetic Hemp rope, some purists will use Hemp but we like to wash our rope regularly and Hemp can be a pain readying aftercare. |
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I echo kinky ak on safety. But if you are playing in the bedroom I would go for standard 6mm cotton rope 3 lengths of 7 to 8 metre. Cotton is not scary and is soft. You can then cut the third length in half for quick and dirty tying. I use hempex in sex clubs for ease of washing, and jute for peer rope events or non sexual tying. |
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"Any particular kinds of rope recommended for beginners? Can't imagine your every day garden rope being too kind lol!
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If you visit TheDuchy com they have sections on general safety and the different ropes. There is a lot of information so I don't want to flood the forum with it.
Generally you don't want anything stretchy or elastic as the knots will tighten and you won't be able to remove them, nothing too plasticy as it will cause rope burns, nothing too thin and something you can cut (I have seen people use washing line which has a metal core, try cutting that off in an emergency "
We use something called Hempex, a synthetic Hemp rope, some purists will use Hemp but we like to wash our rope regularly and Hemp can be a pain readying aftercare."
Excellent, thank you very much for the info everyone. Just looked up a few basic videos but figured there had to be more to it than that |
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"We like the idea of this, but as op said, once all the knots are tied we wouldn't know where to go. Some of the knots we see here are nothing short of artistic! Would love to know how that's done.
Once all the knots are tied then you can leave it there or do something else, sensual touching, teasing, orgasm denial, the rope is just part of your play, just like getting undressed or oral is part of it. It is as much as you want it to be.
One thing to mention, rope will not make great sex even better just for the fact it is on, it is how the rope makes you feel that alters that. Like so many things with sex, there are thousands of toys we can introduce but if they do nothing for you just leave them be. Some men love pegging, that doesn't mean all will, in the same way some people love rope, but it isn't for everyone.
If you are looking for tutorials on the artistic side just go onto YouTube and search for "shibari", there are loads.
Thanks for the insight. We have played with restraints before, but with having no headboard as such, we had to be creative. N is definitely game for more tying up so I will have to look into it as a surprise. Any particular kinds of rope recommended for beginners? Can't imagine your every day garden rope being too kind lol!
B"
try b&q or ebay |
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Just seen safety mentioned. For beginners you should really keep a pair of paramedics flat edge scissors on hand and don't be afraid to fuck up your lovely new rope at a moments notice if you need to. And don't worry about killing the mood with talk, it is the responsibility of the one tying to ask if all is okay and the responsibility of the one being tied to say if anything is going numb or feels odd.
You do not want to pinch nerves and blood vessels |
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"Just seen safety mentioned. For beginners you should really keep a pair of paramedics flat edge scissors on hand and don't be afraid to fuck up your lovely new rope at a moments notice if you need to. And don't worry about killing the mood with talk, it is the responsibility of the one tying to ask if all is okay and the responsibility of the one being tied to say if anything is going numb or feels odd.
You do not want to pinch nerves and blood vessels"
That's why I thought I'd ask before I surprised her with a YouTube lesson lol! I figured there had to be far more to it |
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