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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use that phrase from time to time, just to mix things up a bit I guess.
I think as a single guy, a decent one, Fab can be an uphill struggle, you know you're a nice, honest, reliable guy, but you're up against an avalanche of timewasters, one liners, and try too hards. Saying that though, if I message and you don't reply, so be it, but that's something I've had to learn to appreciate. Now I have a 24hr rule, if you've not replied by then, chances are you won't, either because it got lost amongst all the other Mail you get or because I wasn't right for you.
I think the problem is less the phrase OP, and more the ego of the person typing it out. I've found Fab and swinging in general to be a place where ego doesn't really contribute much positive and more often than not gets in the way of what could have been a great time.
I think people get nasty when their ego takes a knock.
Send a message and see it unread for days, but the recipient has been online - knock
Send a message, see it read, no reply - knock
Send a message, instant delete without reading - knock
Wink, get blocked - knock
Straight out block - knock
That when ego gets in the way and people start ranting 'what's wrong with me?' Or 'you're missing out'. It stops being about what fun you may have had and becomes all about them and how the rejection is impacting them, hence lashing out. Ego is a very delicate thing, I've been guilty of letting mine run the roost in the past, as I'm sure you have too OP and everyone else that ever walked and will walk in the future.
I think the only thing you can do is rise above it and try not to let it get you down. My belief is, be nice and nice people and things will surround you.
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but luckily the white knoights come and rescue the situation so all the females/couples know they have a saviour on here 
