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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, it has not been that long since I joined fab, let alone being on the swinger scene. I guess I could easily be consider a bit of a green horn, which is fine.
Anyway since quite a bit:
The single male: If everything and anything has an "original sin;" for swinging it would be the single male. He can't do right for doing wrong...brought down by his peers and placed and generally regarded at a place lower than most. I completely understand that there are fellas out there (not just on fab) that are hounds, but all groups (couples and females alike) have a few bad apples. So, I don't feel that justifies the extra charges and general sentiment towards single guys.
Unicorns, bulls & other 'creatures': I just thought they were something for harry potter fans, but boy was I wrong. I would shudder if anyone described me as one of those as it seems like an excuse to just treat them as sex toys but one with legs.
The things to do: As frustrating as it might of been at the start as a single male, not all hope is lost. Staying true to the following approach works wonders: no dick pic's, don't carpet bomb and relax - be yourself. Treating this place and the people on it with respect and manners as you would anywhere else will go a very long way indeed. As corny as it may sound "treat others as you, yourself would like to be treated" is the golden rule.
Clubs: I have visited a fair few clubs and had mixed experiences throughout. The extra charge for being a single male aside, I would like clubs to make things a little more 'fun' (in the general sense) specially if they know they have a fair few newcomers coming along. It can be rather intimidating at times to try an engage with so many people at one time and would be nice to have something take the edge off. That being said once you get past that initial barrier a night (or day) can be fantastic, where you all might end up doing karaoke with a wand of all things in a dungeon lol.
My own sexuality: I have done a fair few things and experienced quite a bit on and off of fab. As comfortable as I am with my body and what I do and do not like, I find that I am open or becoming more open to other things (e.g. being the subject of a mistresses attention or having a bi experience).
At the end of the day: Are there things I don't like on this site and on the swinger scene as a whole? Sure! However, I have met a fair few fantastic people who have been nothing but great to be around and that's something I am very happy to have found: I like people, I like being around them and I like making sure they have a good time regardless - it's just how I am I guess. What I am trying to say is, regardless of all the short comings this site and this scene has isn't all that bad - not really. |
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over a year ago
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From a woman's perception
When you first embark on this path it's fun, naughty, alluring and unknown. You start with so many rookie mistakes, you soon learn to check the validation of people and ensure they are who they say they are not just a 'fat old man' for example hiding behind a laptop with fake pictures pretending to be something else. Sorry people don't have anything better to do than try and get nude photos or sext chats
You push your boundaries further and further each time you play until one day you wake up and realise that your letting yourself be used just as much as your using 
Yes this can be fun and yes the excitement of it all can blind you at times but do you know what I really think about most couples on here now from experiencing a variety of encounters, once again some get so involved they loose sight of each other and end up playing sepetatly. Why is that fun
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"So, it has not been that long since I joined fab, let alone being on the swinger scene. I guess I could easily be consider a bit of a green horn, which is fine.
Anyway since quite a bit:
The single male: If everything and anything has an "original sin;" for swinging it would be the single male. He can't do right for doing wrong...brought down by his peers and placed and generally regarded at a place lower than most. I completely understand that there are fellas out there (not just on fab) that are hounds, but all groups (couples and females alike) have a few bad apples. So, I don't feel that justifies the extra charges and general sentiment towards single guys.
Unicorns, bulls & other 'creatures': I just thought they were something for harry potter fans, but boy was I wrong. I would shudder if anyone described me as one of those as it seems like an excuse to just treat them as sex toys but one with legs.
The things to do: As frustrating as it might of been at the start as a single male, not all hope is lost. Staying true to the following approach works wonders: no dick pic's, don't carpet bomb and relax - be yourself. Treating this place and the people on it with respect and manners as you would anywhere else will go a very long way indeed. As corny as it may sound "treat others as you, yourself would like to be treated" is the golden rule.
Clubs: I have visited a fair few clubs and had mixed experiences throughout. The extra charge for being a single male aside, I would like clubs to make things a little more 'fun' (in the general sense) specially if they know they have a fair few newcomers coming along. It can be rather intimidating at times to try an engage with so many people at one time and would be nice to have something take the edge off. That being said once you get past that initial barrier a night (or day) can be fantastic, where you all might end up doing karaoke with a wand of all things in a dungeon lol.
My own sexuality: I have done a fair few things and experienced quite a bit on and off of fab. As comfortable as I am with my body and what I do and do not like, I find that I am open or becoming more open to other things (e.g. being the subject of a mistresses attention or having a bi experience).
At the end of the day: Are there things I don't like on this site and on the swinger scene as a whole? Sure! However, I have met a fair few fantastic people who have been nothing but great to be around and that's something I am very happy to have found: I like people, I like being around them and I like making sure they have a good time regardless - it's just how I am I guess. What I am trying to say is, regardless of all the short comings this site and this scene has isn't all that bad - not really. "
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One thing we've learned is that single men come and go - they get busy, get girlfriends, get depressed, go abroad etc. If we treat them well (which we do) they usually come back. But there is no such thing as a loyal male unicorn who is always there. A stable of about 3 guys are needed if we are to have regular fun.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, it has not been that long since I joined fab, let alone being on the swinger scene. I guess I could easily be consider a bit of a green horn, which is fine.
Anyway since quite a bit:
The single male: If everything and anything has an "original sin;" for swinging it would be the single male. He can't do right for doing wrong...brought down by his peers and placed and generally regarded at a place lower than most. I completely understand that there are fellas out there (not just on fab) that are hounds, but all groups (couples and females alike) have a few bad apples. So, I don't feel that justifies the extra charges and general sentiment towards single guys.
Unicorns, bulls & other 'creatures': I just thought they were something for harry potter fans, but boy was I wrong. I would shudder if anyone described me as one of those as it seems like an excuse to just treat them as sex toys but one with legs.
The things to do: As frustrating as it might of been at the start as a single male, not all hope is lost. Staying true to the following approach works wonders: no dick pic's, don't carpet bomb and relax - be yourself. Treating this place and the people on it with respect and manners as you would anywhere else will go a very long way indeed. As corny as it may sound "treat others as you, yourself would like to be treated" is the golden rule.
Clubs: I have visited a fair few clubs and had mixed experiences throughout. The extra charge for being a single male aside, I would like clubs to make things a little more 'fun' (in the general sense) specially if they know they have a fair few newcomers coming along. It can be rather intimidating at times to try an engage with so many people at one time and would be nice to have something take the edge off. That being said once you get past that initial barrier a night (or day) can be fantastic, where you all might end up doing karaoke with a wand of all things in a dungeon lol.
My own sexuality: I have done a fair few things and experienced quite a bit on and off of fab. As comfortable as I am with my body and what I do and do not like, I find that I am open or becoming more open to other things (e.g. being the subject of a mistresses attention or having a bi experience).
At the end of the day: Are there things I don't like on this site and on the swinger scene as a whole? Sure! However, I have met a fair few fantastic people who have been nothing but great to be around and that's something I am very happy to have found: I like people, I like being around them and I like making sure they have a good time regardless - it's just how I am I guess. What I am trying to say is, regardless of all the short comings this site and this scene has isn't all that bad - not really.
Omg what club is that ? I need to do kareoke with a wand in a dungeon "
Yeah we were just thinking that! Spill it OP WHERE is dungeon wand karaoke held!!?? xx |
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"So, it has not been that long since I joined fab, let alone being on the swinger scene. I guess I could easily be consider a bit of a green horn, which is fine.
Anyway since quite a bit:
The single male: If everything and anything has an "original sin;" for swinging it would be the single male. He can't do right for doing wrong...brought down by his peers and placed and generally regarded at a place lower than most. I completely understand that there are fellas out there (not just on fab) that are hounds, but all groups (couples and females alike) have a few bad apples. So, I don't feel that justifies the extra charges and general sentiment towards single guys.
Unicorns, bulls & other 'creatures': I just thought they were something for harry potter fans, but boy was I wrong. I would shudder if anyone described me as one of those as it seems like an excuse to just treat them as sex toys but one with legs.
The things to do: As frustrating as it might of been at the start as a single male, not all hope is lost. Staying true to the following approach works wonders: no dick pic's, don't carpet bomb and relax - be yourself. Treating this place and the people on it with respect and manners as you would anywhere else will go a very long way indeed. As corny as it may sound "treat others as you, yourself would like to be treated" is the golden rule.
Clubs: I have visited a fair few clubs and had mixed experiences throughout. The extra charge for being a single male aside, I would like clubs to make things a little more 'fun' (in the general sense) specially if they know they have a fair few newcomers coming along. It can be rather intimidating at times to try an engage with so many people at one time and would be nice to have something take the edge off. That being said once you get past that initial barrier a night (or day) can be fantastic, where you all might end up doing karaoke with a wand of all things in a dungeon lol.
My own sexuality: I have done a fair few things and experienced quite a bit on and off of fab. As comfortable as I am with my body and what I do and do not like, I find that I am open or becoming more open to other things (e.g. being the subject of a mistresses attention or having a bi experience).
At the end of the day: Are there things I don't like on this site and on the swinger scene as a whole? Sure! However, I have met a fair few fantastic people who have been nothing but great to be around and that's something I am very happy to have found: I like people, I like being around them and I like making sure they have a good time regardless - it's just how I am I guess. What I am trying to say is, regardless of all the short comings this site and this scene has isn't all that bad - not really.
Omg what club is that ? I need to do kareoke with a wand in a dungeon "
is it bad that i thought of a wizard using his wand in some dungeons and dragons type scenario?
took me a minute to realise what this actually meant. |
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What a shame nobody is taking this thread seriously it's a great idea for once ..
I've learned allsorts especially about myself.
I've learned to leave couples well alone as had trouble on previous profiles. Either a pushy guy or the lady contacting me privately afterwards..
On the positive side it gives the ladies that perhaps don't get much attention in everyday life the attention that can boost a ladies confidence and make her happier . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One thing we've learned is that single men come and go - they get busy, get girlfriends, get depressed, go abroad etc. If we treat them well (which we do) they usually come back. But there is no such thing as a loyal male unicorn who is always there. A stable of about 3 guys are needed if we are to have regular fun.
Mrs"
I thought unicorns were just female?...so there, I have learnt something tonight too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One thing we've learned is that single men come and go - they get busy, get girlfriends, get depressed, go abroad etc. If we treat them well (which we do) they usually come back. But there is no such thing as a loyal male unicorn who is always there. A stable of about 3 guys are needed if we are to have regular fun.
Mrs"
There are loyal single male unicorns so to speak. Before they split up, there was this couple on Fab whom I was very close with. Got to the point that for the past two and a half years that I knew them we literally were a play item at every party we attended: it was either all three of us involved or none of us at all with any other couples or single females/males. Some even mistook us three for being in a polygamous relationship with each other. I was always the loyal one with them throughout and I regretted nothing.
Shame though, they're gone from the scene now. Their relationship broke down outside of Fab. But hey, just thought I'd disprove the idea that single male unicorns don't exist. Unfortunately, they seem too good to be true most of the time in the stereotypes of couples or single females on here; for single females it's "OMG I want first dibs with them!", for single males it's "Nah no way he's that good and still single/looking for meets". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not sure fab has taught me much. Although the forums have shown me that far too many naive people use the internet  "
Yep agree and tbh Fab has made me work out more and give up ciggies (maybe being in competition with others) so not getting a lot of meet requests but deffo getting fitter and maybe will have more confidence soon to embrace stuff a lot more like go to day clubs n go from there... who knows |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One thing we've learned is that single men come and go - they get busy, get girlfriends, get depressed, go abroad etc. If we treat them well (which we do) they usually come back. But there is no such thing as a loyal male unicorn who is always there. A stable of about 3 guys are needed if we are to have regular fun.
Mrs
I thought unicorns were just female?...so there, I have learnt something tonight too!"
So did I until I saw a thread a few weeks ago about male unicorns. I thought it was a much better word than 'bull' to describe the man who joins a couple to form a trio. 'Bull' tends to be associated with more with cuckoldry.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One thing we've learned is that single men come and go - they get busy, get girlfriends, get depressed, go abroad etc. If we treat them well (which we do) they usually come back. But there is no such thing as a loyal male unicorn who is always there. A stable of about 3 guys are needed if we are to have regular fun.
Mrs
There are loyal single male unicorns so to speak. Before they split up, there was this couple on Fab whom I was very close with. Got to the point that for the past two and a half years that I knew them we literally were a play item at every party we attended: it was either all three of us involved or none of us at all with any other couples or single females/males. Some even mistook us three for being in a polygamous relationship with each other. I was always the loyal one with them throughout and I regretted nothing.
Shame though, they're gone from the scene now. Their relationship broke down outside of Fab. But hey, just thought I'd disprove the idea that single male unicorns don't exist. Unfortunately, they seem too good to be true most of the time in the stereotypes of couples or single females on here; for single females it's "OMG I want first dibs with them!", for single males it's "Nah no way he's that good and still single/looking for meets". "
Well maybe the other thing we've learned is that we no longer want to be a loyal exclusive couple to a single man. A few regulars is more fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What a shame nobody is taking this thread seriously it's a great idea for once ..
I've learned allsorts especially about myself.
I've learned to leave couples well alone as had trouble on previous profiles. Either a pushy guy or the lady contacting me privately afterwards..
On the positive side it gives the ladies that perhaps don't get much attention in everyday life the attention that can boost a ladies confidence and make her happier . "
The confidence you get from the attention is a very good point, it does give you confidence, confidence in what you want and boosts your mood .
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So, it has not been that long since I joined fab, let alone being on the swinger scene. I guess I could easily be consider a bit of a green horn, which is fine.
Anyway since quite a bit:
The single male: If everything and anything has an "original sin;" for swinging it would be the single male. He can't do right for doing wrong...brought down by his peers and placed and generally regarded at a place lower than most. I completely understand that there are fellas out there (not just on fab) that are hounds, but all groups (couples and females alike) have a few bad apples. So, I don't feel that justifies the extra charges and general sentiment towards single guys.
Unicorns, bulls & other 'creatures': I just thought they were something for harry potter fans, but boy was I wrong. I would shudder if anyone described me as one of those as it seems like an excuse to just treat them as sex toys but one with legs.
The things to do: As frustrating as it might of been at the start as a single male, not all hope is lost. Staying true to the following approach works wonders: no dick pic's, don't carpet bomb and relax - be yourself. Treating this place and the people on it with respect and manners as you would anywhere else will go a very long way indeed. As corny as it may sound "treat others as you, yourself would like to be treated" is the golden rule.
Clubs: I have visited a fair few clubs and had mixed experiences throughout. The extra charge for being a single male aside, I would like clubs to make things a little more 'fun' (in the general sense) specially if they know they have a fair few newcomers coming along. It can be rather intimidating at times to try an engage with so many people at one time and would be nice to have something take the edge off. That being said once you get past that initial barrier a night (or day) can be fantastic, where you all might end up doing karaoke with a wand of all things in a dungeon lol.
My own sexuality: I have done a fair few things and experienced quite a bit on and off of fab. As comfortable as I am with my body and what I do and do not like, I find that I am open or becoming more open to other things (e.g. being the subject of a mistresses attention or having a bi experience).
At the end of the day: Are there things I don't like on this site and on the swinger scene as a whole? Sure! However, I have met a fair few fantastic people who have been nothing but great to be around and that's something I am very happy to have found: I like people, I like being around them and I like making sure they have a good time regardless - it's just how I am I guess. What I am trying to say is, regardless of all the short comings this site and this scene has isn't all that bad - not really.
Omg what club is that ? I need to do kareoke with a wand in a dungeon "
OK, it was at kestrels. Keep in mind you have to bring your own wand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've reassured myself it's ok to be a single swinger. That I'd rather live out my life with a bunch of sexy friends than settle for a relationship for the sake of it.
I've discovered that the internet is the same whatever the forum.
And most exciting of all is just how much I still have to learn! |
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"So, it has not been that long since I joined fab, let alone being on the swinger scene. I guess I could easily be consider a bit of a green horn, which is fine.
Anyway since quite a bit:
The single male: If everything and anything has an "original sin;" for swinging it would be the single male. He can't do right for doing wrong...brought down by his peers and placed and generally regarded at a place lower than most. I completely understand that there are fellas out there (not just on fab) that are hounds, but all groups (couples and females alike) have a few bad apples. So, I don't feel that justifies the extra charges and general sentiment towards single guys.
Unicorns, bulls & other 'creatures': I just thought they were something for harry potter fans, but boy was I wrong. I would shudder if anyone described me as one of those as it seems like an excuse to just treat them as sex toys but one with legs.
The things to do: As frustrating as it might of been at the start as a single male, not all hope is lost. Staying true to the following approach works wonders: no dick pic's, don't carpet bomb and relax - be yourself. Treating this place and the people on it with respect and manners as you would anywhere else will go a very long way indeed. As corny as it may sound "treat others as you, yourself would like to be treated" is the golden rule.
Clubs: I have visited a fair few clubs and had mixed experiences throughout. The extra charge for being a single male aside, I would like clubs to make things a little more 'fun' (in the general sense) specially if they know they have a fair few newcomers coming along. It can be rather intimidating at times to try an engage with so many people at one time and would be nice to have something take the edge off. That being said once you get past that initial barrier a night (or day) can be fantastic, where you all might end up doing karaoke with a wand of all things in a dungeon lol.
My own sexuality: I have done a fair few things and experienced quite a bit on and off of fab. As comfortable as I am with my body and what I do and do not like, I find that I am open or becoming more open to other things (e.g. being the subject of a mistresses attention or having a bi experience).
At the end of the day: Are there things I don't like on this site and on the swinger scene as a whole? Sure! However, I have met a fair few fantastic people who have been nothing but great to be around and that's something I am very happy to have found: I like people, I like being around them and I like making sure they have a good time regardless - it's just how I am I guess. What I am trying to say is, regardless of all the short comings this site and this scene has isn't all that bad - not really. "
Clubs - come along to Eurekacougarsandcubs because that's where the fun is at !! Icebreaker games to definately get you mingling |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So, it has not been that long since I joined fab, let alone being on the swinger scene. I guess I could easily be consider a bit of a green horn, which is fine.
Anyway since quite a bit:
The single male: If everything and anything has an "original sin;" for swinging it would be the single male. He can't do right for doing wrong...brought down by his peers and placed and generally regarded at a place lower than most. I completely understand that there are fellas out there (not just on fab) that are hounds, but all groups (couples and females alike) have a few bad apples. So, I don't feel that justifies the extra charges and general sentiment towards single guys.
Unicorns, bulls & other 'creatures': I just thought they were something for harry potter fans, but boy was I wrong. I would shudder if anyone described me as one of those as it seems like an excuse to just treat them as sex toys but one with legs.
The things to do: As frustrating as it might of been at the start as a single male, not all hope is lost. Staying true to the following approach works wonders: no dick pic's, don't carpet bomb and relax - be yourself. Treating this place and the people on it with respect and manners as you would anywhere else will go a very long way indeed. As corny as it may sound "treat others as you, yourself would like to be treated" is the golden rule.
Clubs: I have visited a fair few clubs and had mixed experiences throughout. The extra charge for being a single male aside, I would like clubs to make things a little more 'fun' (in the general sense) specially if they know they have a fair few newcomers coming along. It can be rather intimidating at times to try an engage with so many people at one time and would be nice to have something take the edge off. That being said once you get past that initial barrier a night (or day) can be fantastic, where you all might end up doing karaoke with a wand of all things in a dungeon lol.
My own sexuality: I have done a fair few things and experienced quite a bit on and off of fab. As comfortable as I am with my body and what I do and do not like, I find that I am open or becoming more open to other things (e.g. being the subject of a mistresses attention or having a bi experience).
At the end of the day: Are there things I don't like on this site and on the swinger scene as a whole? Sure! However, I have met a fair few fantastic people who have been nothing but great to be around and that's something I am very happy to have found: I like people, I like being around them and I like making sure they have a good time regardless - it's just how I am I guess. What I am trying to say is, regardless of all the short comings this site and this scene has isn't all that bad - not really.
Clubs - come along to Eurekacougarsandcubs because that's where the fun is at !! Icebreaker games to definately get you mingling "
Noted. I'll make sure to come along, as I've been meaning to go back up to Eureka's. |
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"So, it has not been that long since I joined fab, let alone being on the swinger scene. I guess I could easily be consider a bit of a green horn, which is fine.
Anyway since quite a bit:
The single male: If everything and anything has an "original sin;" for swinging it would be the single male. He can't do right for doing wrong...brought down by his peers and placed and generally regarded at a place lower than most. I completely understand that there are fellas out there (not just on fab) that are hounds, but all groups (couples and females alike) have a few bad apples. So, I don't feel that justifies the extra charges and general sentiment towards single guys.
Unicorns, bulls & other 'creatures': I just thought they were something for harry potter fans, but boy was I wrong. I would shudder if anyone described me as one of those as it seems like an excuse to just treat them as sex toys but one with legs.
The things to do: As frustrating as it might of been at the start as a single male, not all hope is lost. Staying true to the following approach works wonders: no dick pic's, don't carpet bomb and relax - be yourself. Treating this place and the people on it with respect and manners as you would anywhere else will go a very long way indeed. As corny as it may sound "treat others as you, yourself would like to be treated" is the golden rule.
Clubs: I have visited a fair few clubs and had mixed experiences throughout. The extra charge for being a single male aside, I would like clubs to make things a little more 'fun' (in the general sense) specially if they know they have a fair few newcomers coming along. It can be rather intimidating at times to try an engage with so many people at one time and would be nice to have something take the edge off. That being said once you get past that initial barrier a night (or day) can be fantastic, where you all might end up doing karaoke with a wand of all things in a dungeon lol.
My own sexuality: I have done a fair few things and experienced quite a bit on and off of fab. As comfortable as I am with my body and what I do and do not like, I find that I am open or becoming more open to other things (e.g. being the subject of a mistresses attention or having a bi experience).
At the end of the day: Are there things I don't like on this site and on the swinger scene as a whole? Sure! However, I have met a fair few fantastic people who have been nothing but great to be around and that's something I am very happy to have found: I like people, I like being around them and I like making sure they have a good time regardless - it's just how I am I guess. What I am trying to say is, regardless of all the short comings this site and this scene has isn't all that bad - not really.
Clubs - come along to Eurekacougarsandcubs because that's where the fun is at !! Icebreaker games to definately get you mingling
Noted. I'll make sure to come along, as I've been meaning to go back up to Eureka's."
Well we try to make it light hearted and fun ... obv it's a swingers event but many people come on their own and the most important thing is to feel relaxed and comfortable
No pressure but to be able to mix with friendly, sexy people |
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Be wary of what you disclose and to whom - it may very well get used against you later.
Friendship on here is fickle, tread with care.
Get used to being ignored as it is likely most of the time.
Be yourself because no one is better at being you than you.
Do things for your own enjoyment, if anyone else enjoys it too then great.
If it stops being fun, take a break.
If you find it consuming your time, take a break. |
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"Be wary of what you disclose and to whom - it may very well get used against you later.
Friendship on here is fickle, tread with care.
Get used to being ignored as it is likely most of the time.
Be yourself because no one is better at being you than you.
Do things for your own enjoyment, if anyone else enjoys it too then great.
If it stops being fun, take a break.
If you find it consuming your time, take a break."
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"So, it has not been that long since I joined fab, let alone being on the swinger scene. I guess I could easily be consider a bit of a green horn, which is fine.
Anyway since quite a bit:
The single male: If everything and anything has an "original sin;" for swinging it would be the single male. He can't do right for doing wrong...brought down by his peers and placed and generally regarded at a place lower than most. I completely understand that there are fellas out there (not just on fab) that are hounds, but all groups (couples and females alike) have a few bad apples. So, I don't feel that justifies the extra charges and general sentiment towards single guys.
Unicorns, bulls & other 'creatures': I just thought they were something for harry potter fans, but boy was I wrong. I would shudder if anyone described me as one of those as it seems like an excuse to just treat them as sex toys but one with legs.
The things to do: As frustrating as it might of been at the start as a single male, not all hope is lost. Staying true to the following approach works wonders: no dick pic's, don't carpet bomb and relax - be yourself. Treating this place and the people on it with respect and manners as you would anywhere else will go a very long way indeed. As corny as it may sound "treat others as you, yourself would like to be treated" is the golden rule.
Clubs: I have visited a fair few clubs and had mixed experiences throughout. The extra charge for being a single male aside, I would like clubs to make things a little more 'fun' (in the general sense) specially if they know they have a fair few newcomers coming along. It can be rather intimidating at times to try an engage with so many people at one time and would be nice to have something take the edge off. That being said once you get past that initial barrier a night (or day) can be fantastic, where you all might end up doing karaoke with a wand of all things in a dungeon lol.
My own sexuality: I have done a fair few things and experienced quite a bit on and off of fab. As comfortable as I am with my body and what I do and do not like, I find that I am open or becoming more open to other things (e.g. being the subject of a mistresses attention or having a bi experience).
At the end of the day: Are there things I don't like on this site and on the swinger scene as a whole? Sure! However, I have met a fair few fantastic people who have been nothing but great to be around and that's something I am very happy to have found: I like people, I like being around them and I like making sure they have a good time regardless - it's just how I am I guess. What I am trying to say is, regardless of all the short comings this site and this scene has isn't all that bad - not really.
Clubs - come along to Eurekacougarsandcubs because that's where the fun is at !! Icebreaker games to definately get you mingling "
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"Be wary of what you disclose and to whom - it may very well get used against you later.
Friendship on here is fickle, tread with care.
Get used to being ignored as it is likely most of the time.
Be yourself because no one is better at being you than you.
Do things for your own enjoyment, if anyone else enjoys it too then great.
Very true
If it stops being fun, take a break.
If you find it consuming your time, take a break."
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