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Would you be 'a first'?
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I've always been hesitant and have ultimately declined the offers I've had from guys and couples to be their 'first' . Anyone got any stories / advice on how your meets have gone with 'first timers'? |
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Of course, scared shitless , almost walked out, probably looked like a right fool but the guy was experienced . Same with all the couples I've met, they have all been experienced and so I have never had to worry about hubby suddenly realising that while the fantasy of watching his wife with another man is great, the reality of it happening right in front of you might be different.
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Yes that's what I was looking for. Had the same where I've got an uneasy feeling by the initial messages that not everyone was fully on board so to speak. But at some point you have to make the call yourself as to whether the night will go well or otherwise. Any other indicators that their 'first time' will end in smiles or with a kitchen knife stuck in your back? |
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Well we're technically looking for our first as a couple yet we both have been on the scene for years with previous partners and as singles so I would say firsts are not all they seem sometimes.
But yes would be someone's first as long as good communication is there and boundaries are set |
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"Yes that's what I was looking for. Had the same where I've got an uneasy feeling by the initial messages that not everyone was fully on board so to speak. But at some point you have to make the call yourself as to whether the night will go well or otherwise. Any other indicators that their 'first time' will end in smiles or with a kitchen knife stuck in your back?"
Meet socially first. You can often but not always pick up on any reluctance on behalf of one partner. |
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"Yes that's what I was looking for. Had the same where I've got an uneasy feeling by the initial messages that not everyone was fully on board so to speak. But at some point you have to make the call yourself as to whether the night will go well or otherwise. Any other indicators that their 'first time' will end in smiles or with a kitchen knife stuck in your back?
Meet socially first. You can often but not always pick up on any reluctance on behalf of one partner."
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Frequently get requests from "couples" where the lady half is "too shy" to converse with, asking me to be her first. I'm here for mutual fun, not to tick off other peoples' fuck it lists. Particularly when I massively suspect my FF fun will end up being one F down. |
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Yes it's bad enough when the F half of the MF Couplr suddenly disappears or has an emergency/gets taken by aliens etc etc just as I am setting off only for the M to very kindly offer to have some fun 'just the two of us' ?? |
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I arranged to meet a couple in a club years back They had veris on their summary so assumed experienced It was only when we got in the playroom they admitted I was their first 3sum
Suffice to say we all had a great time but I was far more restrained than normal being their first |
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We're happy to be some ones first time. But they've got have a bit about them and understand what they want and don't want.
We wouldn't want them to be passive and expect us to constantly take the lead. It's a recipe for disaster. |
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"We're happy to be some ones first time. But they've got have a bit about them and understand what they want and don't want.
We wouldn't want them to be passive and expect us to constantly take the lead. It's a recipe for disaster. "
Yep. I think most people with a little experience understand that everyone has to start somewhere.
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I'm more than happy to be someone's first.
I chat the same way to a newbie as I do to the more experienced so at the end of the day if I'm happy to meet then I'm happy to meet. Being a first doesn't really come into it. |
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We get asked quite a lot about this. Either to experience BDSM or bi male play.
We haven't obliged so far. Both make me feel uncomfortable really. I mean if the guy changes his mind it would be very awkward. Plus we don't get time to play much, so we don't want to chance it. |
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just for the books she was stunning unlike myself lol
same here lol x