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Is swinging really a "lifestyle" if you're not living it openly?
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Just a question of semantics, and people's opinions.
I know a couple who are openly swingers in their community/friends/family. For them, swinging is a lifestyle.
As for me, several of my friends and a family member know I've been involved in swinging and that it's how I met my BF. I wouldn't define swinging as a Lifestyle for me, simply as one choice I've made in how I live my life.
I'm simply curious as to how others perceive it, as I've neard it referred to many times here as a lifestyle. For me, being vegetarian is a lifestyle for me, not swinging. |
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We can imagine it's quite liberating to be open about it. But we could never imagine being that ourselves. Some of my wife's friends know we have an 'open relationship' but that's about it.
I think some people say lifestyle as they don't like the term swinger.
Lifestyle also seems to apply to people who love the socialising side as much as the sex, if not more so. Which doesn't really apply to us. |
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Yes, quite agree. 'Lifestyle' is a bit grand, its more on the lines of a hobby, interest, pastime or a sort of 'sport' if you will.
You wouldn't describe other leisure activities such as going to the races, cinema or having a nightout on the town as a 'lifestyle' would you?
Its all down to the way you wish to think of it I suppose. Only thing that matters is enjoying it. |
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Not so long ago it was called "Lifestyle" and the quarterly mag I still get has always used that title.
I read these forums (another great mag) regularly, and my overall opinion is that modern swingers actually think they invented it.
The only things that have changed are the ready availability of the internet, plus it was a interest conducted by writing letters, and there were a class of people who couldn't be bothered,but also people who thought writing letters normal.
Now we have a situation whereas every "Jeremy-Kyle-Style-swinger" thinks watching his wife being fucked is better than playing on his JSA financed x-box. |
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"Not so long ago it was called "Lifestyle" and the quarterly mag I still get has always used that title.
I read these forums (another great mag) regularly, and my overall opinion is that modern swingers actually think they invented it.
The only things that have changed are the ready availability of the internet, plus it was a interest conducted by writing letters, and there were a class of people who couldn't be bothered,but also people who thought writing letters normal.
Now we have a situation whereas every "Jeremy-Kyle-Style-swinger" thinks watching his wife being fucked is better than playing on his JSA financed x-box. "
Wow, harsh but fair. I like it.  |
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"Honest question....what are your thoughts?"
Is it more of a question or who you share personal information with? On a need to know basis. That doesn't mean you aren't open about it, as such.
I don't want to compare swinging with religion, but just because someone doesn't know which religion I am doesn't me an atheist. |
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i'm not sure. on the one hand sex tends to be a fairly intimate and private thing, and i know swinging isn't only about sex (for many people) so in theory the social part of swinging should possibly fit into your life.
like if you really have made swinging friends surely it's ok to have them meet your other friends who are not swingers?
i guess a lot get off on having a secret life also and that's part of the thrill, so why would they want to expose anything. |
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I'm quite open about being a swinger All my friends are aware
However, I wouldn't call it a lifestyle as such it's more what occupies a lot of my leisure time
It does get referred to as my "alternative lifestyle" on occasion by others |
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For us it's not a lifestyle anyway, it's a enhancement that we enjoy occasionally for ours and other mutual satisfaction.
I was on here with my ex and it became a lifestyle as our friends, social life was all swinging based and the only things we did i.e. Nights out etc were to do with swinging. |
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I hate the term lifestyle even more than I hate the term swinger.
I suppose the term Lifestyle does make it sound like the mythical Swingers from the olden days. Where they can't have a conversation without mentioning sex and can't be near someone without flirting and making suggestive gestures.  |
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"I hate the term lifestyle even more than I hate the term swinger.
I suppose the term Lifestyle does make it sound like the mythical Swingers from the olden days. Where they can't have a conversation without mentioning sex and can't be near someone without flirting and making suggestive gestures. "
Reading that made me giggle Not because I always flirt and talk about sex in normal company, just ever since joining fab if I spot someone in normal life I suspect might be a swinger I have this habit of using the word fab a lot in sentences to see if there's a nanosecond of registration on their faces! |
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"Is swinging really a "lifestyle" if you're not living it openly?"
What a great question! Kind of thing those scholars at Sydney University would love to answer no doubt.
Is swinging a lifestyle in the same way being a goth is a lifestyle?
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