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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hands up.. whose it happened to and what's the most bizarre excuse you've got? Apparently someone blocked her car in? Yeah.. Ok. Blocked in the whole night is it?
Just got let down last minute by a woman.
It's soooooo frustratung.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Offer to go and collect her from a location convenient to her  "
I would, if I felt she were genuine.. but the time she was supposed to arrive she was still "Bathing her nephew" Half an hour later "Someone's blocked me in". No.. she lost her chance with me.
I make an effort for people.. So it pisses me off.. also makes me wary of other women who may actually be genuine. Which isn't fair on them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Last night I was cancelled... his son was sick so I understand
Tomorrow I'm cancelled he's sick.
One time I drive an hour and not ignored when I got there. The phone was on silent. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Last night I was cancelled... his son was sick so I understand
Tomorrow I'm cancelled he's sick.
One time I drive an hour and not ignored when I got there. The phone was on silent."
Oh I understand those situations.. but you forgive those failed meets.. people give you reasonable notice and have good, understandable reasons. But driving an hour away for nothing, not even a sorry.. unforgivable and I've been there too. |
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Recent ones include "I'm full of cold i don't want to give you my germs" and " I had to call the ambulance out I've got Sepsis". I could go on with a list of other excuses linked to medical conditions lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Recent ones include "I'm full of cold i don't want to give you my germs" and " I had to call the ambulance out I've got Sepsis". I could go on with a list of other excuses linked to medical conditions lol. "
Funny how they don't mention how rough they feel earlier in the day isn't it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm like yah yah yah what ever!"
Block and move on. Now I've been on here a while I'm beginning to understand why couples and ladies profiles always seem so negative. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was supposed to have a meet this evening but got a message this afternoon to cancel.
Still, at least I got that, rather than have them just not turn up |
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"Recent ones include "I'm full of cold i don't want to give you my germs" "
I was like this this week, was supposed to have a social with someone so spoke on the phone and he could tell I was poorly.
It's rearranged  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had to cancel a social yesterday due to work. Absolutely hate letting people down, the lady in question was great about it but it didn't make me feel better. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not been let down yet but if I was and they contacted me with an explanation and an apology I would give them the benefit of doubt. "
To you and cpt oats..
Yes if you get the feeling the other person is sincere.. I've got kids and life gets in the way at times doesn't it? I've had to let people down too.. but it's always been for good reason and nearly always with plenty of notice.
Other times you can just tell when someone is lying through their teeth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a few, best one being a well verified lady whom I'd been recommended to and visa versa. Chatted for a couple weeks and a meet arranged for a Monday morning. Friday came and I messaged to confirm all still on (I'm self employed so need to tell customer if i can't be there). No reply..messaged on here and whatsapp. ..Saturday still no reply and again nothing on Sunday. I contacted client and confirmed I'd be there monday morning. Monday morning I message fabber saying not heard all weekend and left a few messages (they were clearly active on fab and whatsapp over the weekend) and i had to tell client ill be there as i hadnt heard from her. At 9 am I get a reply.... 'sorry I was on school run'. I said do your kids go to boardingschool in China. ... she replied.... uh? What you mean.
I smiled and replied nicely realising she didn't get it and said i wonder if you were driving all weekend. What you mean, she replied. At this point I was bursting lol (she I'd blonde but maybe not natural).
I then thought this is lost on her so just said sorry I didn't hear from you so I'm now working. Her reply was sorry I can't meet you either. So I wished her the best for the day. That evening...she has a new veri up from a meet that morning... its brilliant on here sometimes ...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've had a few, best one being a well verified lady whom I'd been recommended to and visa versa. Chatted for a couple weeks and a meet arranged for a Monday morning. Friday came and I messaged to confirm all still on (I'm self employed so need to tell customer if i can't be there). No reply..messaged on here and whatsapp. ..Saturday still no reply and again nothing on Sunday. I contacted client and confirmed I'd be there monday morning. Monday morning I message fabber saying not heard all weekend and left a few messages (they were clearly active on fab and whatsapp over the weekend) and i had to tell client ill be there as i hadnt heard from her. At 9 am I get a reply.... 'sorry I was on school run'. I said do your kids go to boardingschool in China. ... she replied.... uh? What you mean.
I smiled and replied nicely realising she didn't get it and said i wonder if you were driving all weekend. What you mean, she replied. At this point I was bursting lol (she I'd blonde but maybe not natural).
I then thought this is lost on her so just said sorry I didn't hear from you so I'm now working. Her reply was sorry I can't meet you either. So I wished her the best for the day. That evening...she has a new veri up from a meet that morning... its brilliant on here sometimes ... "
That's exactly the shit I mean. People are so wrapped up in their own importance.. they've stopped giving a shit about anyone else. It's not just fab either.
Yesterday (I'm a trucker btw) I was blocking the road because some other truck was blocking me.. I needed to park where he was and had to wait for him to move. Two mins later he pulls away off the curb and goes.. as I'm about to mount the curb.. a young woman with a pram walks right into the spot.. talking away on her mobile phone and just stands there. As she had a pram - I didn't toot the horn.. I leaned out the window and said " Excuse me, would you mind moving so I can park please?" She just started gobbling off at me, shouting at me, calling me a prick and that it was a pavement, not a road! I just waited quietly for her to waddle off and let the cars behind me do the horn honking.
I'm starting to see this a lot lately.. in shops, at work.. anonymous online vitriol is creeping into the real world. It's not very nice being treated like a cunt.. not when you're doing your utmost to be the good guy. |
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It is indeed properly shit. It's not as if it takes monumental effort to message someone to say sorry, can't make it. I am quite happy to accept the truth even if it were cold feet / "sorry, just realised you look a bit of a biffer so on second thoughts, not for me" / work changes / illness / whatever. Just take 30 seconds to knock off a message, in good time, and at least no one has wasted their time. Sure, it is a pisser as it probably means no time to arrange something else but at least the disappointment reduces the big let down. I certainly feel for the ladies and the TVs in particular as they are often the ones that spend more time on getting ready for the meet. [In danger here of going off on a "4 Yorkshire Men" rant  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It happens op... that's fab for you "
It's the 'bottle-factor'. Most people on here simply don't have it, and just like to talk about meeting up. Some DO have it, but finding them is a real lottery. |
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"It happens op... that's fab for you
It's the 'bottle-factor'. Most people on here simply don't have it, and just like to talk about meeting up. Some DO have it, but finding them is a real lottery."
Am I the bonus ball then?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Gone all ranty in my profile.. pretty sure that's not going to help me much with my meets from now on on.. but fuck it.. at least it'll scare off the timewasters, creeps and couples who think they're God's gift.
Luckily I've got some nice verifications from nice people to cancel out the negatives.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had a few, best one being a well verified lady whom I'd been recommended to and visa versa. Chatted for a couple weeks and a meet arranged for a Monday morning. Friday came and I messaged to confirm all still on (I'm self employed so need to tell customer if i can't be there). No reply..messaged on here and whatsapp. ..Saturday still no reply and again nothing on Sunday. I contacted client and confirmed I'd be there monday morning. Monday morning I message fabber saying not heard all weekend and left a few messages (they were clearly active on fab and whatsapp over the weekend) and i had to tell client ill be there as i hadnt heard from her. At 9 am I get a reply.... 'sorry I was on school run'. I said do your kids go to boardingschool in China. ... she replied.... uh? What you mean.
I smiled and replied nicely realising she didn't get it and said i wonder if you were driving all weekend. What you mean, she replied. At this point I was bursting lol (she I'd blonde but maybe not natural).
I then thought this is lost on her so just said sorry I didn't hear from you so I'm now working. Her reply was sorry I can't meet you either. So I wished her the best for the day. That evening...she has a new veri up from a meet that morning... its brilliant on here sometimes ...
That's exactly the shit I mean. People are so wrapped up in their own importance.. they've stopped giving a shit about anyone else. It's not just fab either.
Yesterday (I'm a trucker btw) I was blocking the road because some other truck was blocking me.. I needed to park where he was and had to wait for him to move. Two mins later he pulls away off the curb and goes.. as I'm about to mount the curb.. a young woman with a pram walks right into the spot.. talking away on her mobile phone and just stands there. As she had a pram - I didn't toot the horn.. I leaned out the window and said " Excuse me, would you mind moving so I can park please?" She just started gobbling off at me, shouting at me, calling me a prick and that it was a pavement, not a road! I just waited quietly for her to waddle off and let the cars behind me do the horn honking.
I'm starting to see this a lot lately.. in shops, at work.. anonymous online vitriol is creeping into the real world. It's not very nice being treated like a cunt.. not when you're doing your utmost to be the good guy."
Be true to yourself and others. If they treat you like shit then it kinda shows their inners elf and you probably wouldn't have really enjoyed the meet as it all comes out. Find those who respect and want to meet you because they like you. This are the people you want to meet unless it's all just about a quick fuck and on to the next fuck. Far too much of it about and takes a lot of time and energy searching....I sometimes think it be a lot easier to cut n paste to a 100 profiles...sit back and see what pops up. If nothing does what have I lost...but then if that was my aporoach what can I truely offer to a genuine interested person....not alot except a quick fuck.
Be true OP and happy shhwinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hands up.. whose it happened to and what's the most bizarre excuse you've got? Apparently someone blocked her car in? Yeah.. Ok. Blocked in the whole night is it?
Just got let down last minute by a woman.
It's soooooo frustratung.. "
I had a UNLOS last night on dating site 24 hrs before a meet, we had been talking all week. |
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"If it's any consolation guys - about 70% of my meets turn to shit! Ergo I now rarely arrange to meet people that I haven't met first at a club or social!
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Not really a consolation. Just confirms that it happens to too many people. Bewildering though. |
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By *iss ACWoman
over a year ago
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Just had a proper blow out!!
Spent the last month chatting with an old friend online, every day....not seen him for a lot of years but we were planning to see each other tonight to make up for the lost years!.... we had to cancel for a good reason but I thought it was a 'rain check'.... but not heard from him since!!!
Gutted!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it's any consolation guys - about 70% of my meets turn to shit! Ergo I now rarely arrange to meet people that I haven't met first at a club or social!
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We have only ever arranged club meets so rarely find this a problem, but appreciate that for those doing hotel meets or traveling it must be a PITA. |
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By *ik MMan
over a year ago
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There must be something in the air today. I've been chatting to a woman for months now and we were due to meet in Leeds today, hotel was booked and the plan was to hopefully go to Quest.
She hadn't been around on here for last couple of nights which raised my suspicions, anyway I logged on this morning and she's decided to go out with her friends, which is absolutely her prerogative.
Hotel now cancelled and back to the drawing board. Marvellous.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hands up.. whose it happened to and what's the most bizarre excuse you've got? Apparently someone blocked her car in? Yeah.. Ok. Blocked in the whole night is it?
Just got let down last minute by a woman.
It's soooooo frustratung.. "
just knock one out lad
onwards n forwards like
no one likes a moaner |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hands up.. whose it happened to and what's the most bizarre excuse you've got? Apparently someone blocked her car in? Yeah.. Ok. Blocked in the whole night is it?
Just got let down last minute by a woman.
It's soooooo frustratung..
just knock one out lad
onwards n forwards like
no one likes a moaner "
Nobody likes timewasters either. I did knock one out and I'm always going onwards and upwards.. but I love a good old moan.. sometimes people even agree with me.. so the occasional moan is a healthy thing to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It happens op... that's fab for you
It's the 'bottle-factor'. Most people on here simply don't have it, and just like to talk about meeting up. Some DO have it, but finding them is a real lottery.
Am I the bonus ball then? "
If you were closer, I'd say DEFINITELY...!!! Bugger it, where's my car keys... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It happens op... that's fab for you
It's the 'bottle-factor'. Most people on here simply don't have it, and just like to talk about meeting up. Some DO have it, but finding them is a real lottery.
Am I the bonus ball then?
If you were closer, I'd say DEFINITELY...!!! Bugger it, where's my car keys... "
I'm not bi.. but thanks for compliment I guess |
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By *wo-GoodCouple
over a year ago
South London |
Didn't want to start a whole new thread on let downs, this is the latest one so thought I'd post here.
Not been on the site long at all, already had a few social let downs, blatant lies about why they could not turn up. Let downs I can understand, things happen but we are all consenting adults, who know why we are here. I'm not 15 , I don't need or believe lies. I've brought up 2 boys, I can smell a lie a mile away.Sorry rant over.;)
What I was wondering from couples who have had more time on here is firstly does it stay the same? Out of 5 potential socials 1 has happened.Thats in about 3 weeks so if it carries on like this,after being here a year, that's going to be a shit load of time wasted.
Do we just carry on trying here or bite the bullet and goto a club. We have been looking around and found one that sounds good. I'm a bit shy so a club did feel daunting but if it's the way to go I'll just have to try. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It happens op... that's fab for you
It's the 'bottle-factor'. Most people on here simply don't have it, and just like to talk about meeting up. Some DO have it, but finding them is a real lottery.
Am I the bonus ball then?
If you were closer, I'd say DEFINITELY...!!! Bugger it, where's my car keys...
I'm not bi.. but thanks for compliment I guess"
Lol. My comment was meant for 'For Your Eyes Only!', the lady who posted the Bonus Ball comment...!!! I'm NOT bi...oooh no...not even the slightest bit...!!! Its pussy only for me, luuuuverly pussy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It happens op... that's fab for you
It's the 'bottle-factor'. Most people on here simply don't have it, and just like to talk about meeting up. Some DO have it, but finding them is a real lottery."
Going back to what I said earlier, I was very recently let down by a lady who messages me to say she fancied meeting...HER first approach to me, then we exchanged loads of messages over several days, plenty of photos so we both knew what to expect...she even booked the hotel room...then, at the absolute last second she backs out claiming she wasn't the sort of person she'd made herself out to be...!!! BOTTLE factor...!!! You either have it or you don't. Unfortunately, with no way of knowing beforehand that she didn't have it, and all the talk about what she wanted to do to me, and wanted me to do to her, she then says she really isn't the sort of person she'd made herself out to be...!!! I'm still actually trying to work out whether it was the bottle factor, or just another one of the many fantasist newbies we have on here these days who just like to take things 'so far' without seeing them through. She's still on here, but guess what...she blocks me afterwards...suprise suprise. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
^^^ are you sure it was a woman??
I think most people have had the last minute let downs. I find the best thing to do is not over think it and move on. The trouble is the more it happens the more you put your guard up!!!
I've seen a few posts from women who are so cynical because of how they've been treated on here. It makes me wonder why they bother... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a last minute let down by a couple
She was unwell
5 hours later they looking for a 'meet now' and verified next day
Let it go
6 months later .. they reappear asking to chat ( we had changed our name )
I was polite and pointed out they had bumped us before
So they blocked us !! |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
This year has been a total let down!
I have had 4 men I have arranged a social meet so far.
1 forgot all about it, despite just arranging it the evening before.
3 others all agreed to a meet in public, then cancelled, then came back a few days later saying they could meet if it was a meet at mine!
They can all bugger off as far as I am concerned, no second chances here that is for sure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This year has been a total let down!
I have had 4 men I have arranged a social meet so far.
1 forgot all about it, despite just arranging it the evening before.
3 others all agreed to a meet in public, then cancelled, then came back a few days later saying they could meet if it was a meet at mine!
They can all bugger off as far as I am concerned, no second chances here that is for sure "
I'm taking a hard-line policy of no second chances here too now.
The single woman who let me down most recently is absolutely bloody gorgeous, but now has no chance of me meeting her in future to enjoy what we planned together.
Enough is enough. I'd quite simply rather miss out than be messed around again. Play fair, or don't bother. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"This year has been a total let down!
I have had 4 men I have arranged a social meet so far.
1 forgot all about it, despite just arranging it the evening before.
3 others all agreed to a meet in public, then cancelled, then came back a few days later saying they could meet if it was a meet at mine!
They can all bugger off as far as I am concerned, no second chances here that is for sure
I'm taking a hard-line policy of no second chances here too now.
The single woman who let me down most recently is absolutely bloody gorgeous, but now has no chance of me meeting her in future to enjoy what we planned together.
Enough is enough. I'd quite simply rather miss out than be messed around again. Play fair, or don't bother."
^^ Exactly, dignity at all times |
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Had a meet arranged for last night they didn't show up
So fine things can go wrong any excuse will do
Looked on fab what do you know blocked
Puts you of a bit especially as there must be genuine people on here or is it just me |
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By *im_66Woman
over a year ago
Bradford |
"Hands up.. whose it happened to and what's the most bizarre excuse you've got? Apparently someone blocked her car in? Yeah.. Ok. Blocked in the whole night is it?
Just got let down last minute by a woman.
It's soooooo frustratung..
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Got his boat stuck in a lock!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I too spend weeks chatting Ladies up and we agree a meet. For some I offer a dinner, petrol expenses (return), free overnight accommodation and still the night before they cancel all messages or leave last messages as "Been Read" and it will have "Been Read" for 2 weeks before I remove it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not quite last minute, and not via here but rather OKCupid. Chatting to a nice woman, making arrangements to meet a couple of days later. And she just ghosted me. No reply to messages on OKC or kik, no idea why... |
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